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By *riendlyPhily OP Man
12 weeks ago

Bexley

Just booked a hotel and she didn’t turn up

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By *entlealanMan
12 weeks ago

Burton Joyce

Yeah, that happens, has happened to me.

Difficult to know what you can do about it.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Chichester

Did you video call her first to confirm she is real

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By *riendlyPhily OP Man
12 weeks ago

Bexley

"Did you video call her first to confirm she is real "

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
12 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Oh well. Live and learn OP 💜

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By *riendlyPhily OP Man
12 weeks ago

Bexley

Yes thanks

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By *r SmartypantsMan
12 weeks ago

London

We all been there bro, sorry for your agro. Your calmness is a testament of being a decent dude.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
12 weeks ago

Leeds

Why do we need to be aware ? I’m not the one booking hotel rooms for people I have no confirmation or idea who they are.

What do I actually need to be aware of ?

The mr

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Just an FYI OP but men on here also do this.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
12 weeks ago

The Continental

That sucks, but guess that you’ll take the experience on the chin, and learn from it.

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By *allipygousMan
12 weeks ago

Leicester

"We all been there bro, sorry for your agro. Your calmness is a testament of being a decent dude. "

No, we haven't all been there, bro. Some of us are in less of a hurry to run off to book hotel rooms without due diligence. I mean, he never even video called her. Did you even speak on the phone OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I'd would take the warning but theres no way I'd book a hotel for someone I hadn't video called or had a direct form of contact with.

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By *ityguyMan
12 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I travelled up to an hour and half for a meet only to get there and was a no show never seen her on fab since twice this has happened.

But life goes on

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By *urreyfun2008Man
12 weeks ago

East Grinstead

Hotel rule for me is only do so if planning a night away anyway.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
12 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

This is why a social is important,no financial obligations you get to meet face to face and get to know if there's chemistry.

Mrs may have a couple of socials with someone before playing usually one with myself present to make sure I don't get serial killer vibes and one alone so she can open up a bit more.

But each to their own and I guess lesson learned OP.

Hopefully it wasn't a mega expensive hotel.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
12 weeks ago

The Continental

Silver linings……..

You get to spend a night in the hotel.

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By *ildTimes.Man
12 weeks ago

Colchester/London

Put a meet up ...worth a go 🤷🏻‍♂️

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By *ad NannaWoman
12 weeks ago

East London

Did you have mutual masturbation sex chats?

I recently chatted to a man from a different place who looked too good to be true.

He was. The clue was in the 11.5 inch penis he had pics of.

I said I'm not chatting any more until we have video called. Or you can tell me that's not you in your photos.

He said, it's not me.

No money lost, no feelings hurt, just a bit of time wasted.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
12 weeks ago

barnstaple

Check to see whose near by, you may find another 😉

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By *parkle1974Woman
12 weeks ago

Leeds

This is why I take my time in getting to know someone.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
12 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

"This is why I take my time in getting to know someone."

Exactly, parties and clubs are the place for spontaneity, but for regular playmate's it takes time to culture a rapport.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
12 weeks ago

North West

"Just booked a hotel and she didn’t turn up "

Sorry to hear that I got stood up last Saturday too. Onwards and upwards though.

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By *vaRose43Woman
12 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

"We all been there bro, sorry for your agro. Your calmness is a testament of being a decent dude.

No, we haven't all been there, bro. Some of us are in less of a hurry to run off to book hotel rooms without due diligence. I mean, he never even video called her. Did you even speak on the phone OP?"

2 face to face socials and a telephone call that morning sounds like I did due diligence. Sometimes people just don’t turn up.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
12 weeks ago

wonderland.

"Just booked a hotel and she didn’t turn up "
sadly this happens ... this is one reason why I stopped many years ago meeting outside of clubs.

Not that we would right now but if we had been looking to meet anyone. We would have already have booked our hotel for us x and just enjoyed the night regardless x

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By *enelope2UWoman
12 weeks ago

Fife

Well maybe her pimp had other John's booked for her...

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Someone didn't do his due diligence

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Chichester

"Did you video call her first to confirm she is real

No "

Always video call my man

never meet people without validating thus way is my way. Especially supposed female profiles which mostly turn out fake in my experience

Shane your hotel was wasted for you

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

My thoughts were to have a couple of socials first before shelling out for hotels and this confirms that's probably the better way.

Thanks OP, enjoy the wank or get down to the bar and see if you can rescue the evening there.

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By *allipygousMan
12 weeks ago

Leicester

"We all been there bro, sorry for your agro. Your calmness is a testament of being a decent dude.

No, we haven't all been there, bro. Some of us are in less of a hurry to run off to book hotel rooms without due diligence. I mean, he never even video called her. Did you even speak on the phone OP?

2 face to face socials and a telephone call that morning sounds like I did due diligence. Sometimes people just don’t turn up.

True, but it seems that the OP didn't even try.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
12 weeks ago

wonderland.

See all those saying video calls and socials. We would maybe do a social but very rare. We 100% wouldn't a video call or even give our numbers out x

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"See all those saying video calls and socials. We would maybe do a social but very rare. We 100% wouldn't a video call or even give our numbers out x "

I wouldn't do a social and rarely a video call.

Though I do talk to them for a fair while, never been stood up yet.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
12 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

Sorry to hear that OP. Fab is a learning curve and hopefully next time things will go better for you.

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By *ubmissiveman2uMan
12 weeks ago

Cheshire

For the 1001 time peeps ,speak on the phone ,then video call if they won't, DONT waste your money and time ......

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
12 weeks ago

wonderland.

"For the 1001 time peeps ,speak on the phone ,then video call if they won't, DONT waste your money and time ......"
but them not doing video or calls doesn't make them a waste of time.

We wouldn't and I never did as a single lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Had this before. It happens. Go out, have a nice meal, get a drink, flirt at a bar or treat yourself to some me time. As I don't have a TV or a shower I'd be making the most of those.

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By *WB85Man
12 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We always ask for a random photo of the single or couple were talking to. The genuine people amongst us won't mind doing it.

Just something totally random, like a picture holding a spoon.

It's just a step to help show they're genuine.

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By *rmrs95Couple
12 weeks ago

Chester

Main reason we stick to clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"We always ask for a random photo of the single or couple were talking to. The genuine people amongst us won't mind doing it.

Just something totally random, like a picture holding a spoon.

It's just a step to help show they're genuine. "

I wouldn't do that.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
12 weeks ago

wonderland.

"We always ask for a random photo of the single or couple were talking to. The genuine people amongst us won't mind doing it.

Just something totally random, like a picture holding a spoon.

It's just a step to help show they're genuine. "
we wouldn't do that at all

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By *tew008Man
12 weeks ago

edinburgh

"We always ask for a random photo of the single or couple were talking to. The genuine people amongst us won't mind doing it.

Just something totally random, like a picture holding a spoon.

It's just a step to help show they're genuine.

I wouldn't do that. "

doesn’t have to be a spoon, like a spork would be more interesting

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By *ffervescentMan
12 weeks ago

winfrith

"Just booked a hotel and she didn’t turn up "
So many times at the beginning this happened to me but I viewed it as an adventure, all sorts come into play not least nerves .

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12 weeks ago

"We always ask for a random photo of the single or couple were talking to. The genuine people amongst us won't mind doing it.

Just something totally random, like a picture holding a spoon.

It's just a step to help show they're genuine.

I wouldn't do that.

doesn’t have to be a spoon, like a spork would be more interesting "

I don't own a spork

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By *ot really famousMan
12 weeks ago

monaghan

"That sucks, but guess that you’ll take the experience on the chin, and learn from it. "
..meanwhile...he wanted her to take it on the chin....

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Chichester

"See all those saying video calls and socials. We would maybe do a social but very rare. We 100% wouldn't a video call or even give our numbers out x "

Then I wouldn’t be meeting the person / couple as I would just deem it unlikely they will turn up to a hotel I booked plus i like to see people before.

There is so many ways to video chat for a few minutes without needing mobile numbers. Though personally I have a spare phone just for sex meets .so it’s no issue to me with discretion .

I wouldn’t remotely care at binning a potential meet over this as always more people that will be compatible with this process.

We all have to function in ways that work best for us

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
12 weeks ago

Staffordshire

#Jamiehantsstrikesagain

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By *urreyphotographerMan
12 weeks ago

kt16

Sadly it happens....

I know two models in the past 3 months that had booked and paid for studios and a dungeon for photoshoots ........... photographers never turned up.

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By *amie HantsWoman
12 weeks ago

Atlantis

"#Jamiehantsstrikesagain"

She’s a menace

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
12 weeks ago

wonderland.

"See all those saying video calls and socials. We would maybe do a social but very rare. We 100% wouldn't a video call or even give our numbers out x

Then I wouldn’t be meeting the person / couple as I would just deem it unlikely they will turn up to a hotel I booked plus i like to see people before.

There is so many ways to video chat for a few minutes without needing mobile numbers. Though personally I have a spare phone just for sex meets .so it’s no issue to me with discretion .

I wouldn’t remotely care at binning a potential meet over this as always more people that will be compatible with this process.

We all have to function in ways that work best for us

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we dont need to as we tell people to meet us at a club... no calls needed

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Chichester

"See all those saying video calls and socials. We would maybe do a social but very rare. We 100% wouldn't a video call or even give our numbers out x

Then I wouldn’t be meeting the person / couple as I would just deem it unlikely they will turn up to a hotel I booked plus i like to see people before.

There is so many ways to video chat for a few minutes without needing mobile numbers. Though personally I have a spare phone just for sex meets .so it’s no issue to me with discretion .

I wouldn’t remotely care at binning a potential meet over this as always more people that will be compatible with this process.

We all have to function in ways that work best for us

we dont need to as we tell people to meet us at a club... no calls needed "

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By *igglesssMan
12 weeks ago

bradford

I feel you man. Had a couple give me a time

Today after talking who is verified.

Never answered to say exactly where I am going after getting ready getting there exct.

Very annoying.

But it happens live and learn

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

The hotel didn’t show up?

They’re usually stationary

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"Just booked a hotel and she didn’t turn up "

I allways ask for video call , plus won't meet until I'm certain they are genuine in meeting, I once waited 2 months we chatted at least 5 times aday

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By *oiluvfunMan
12 weeks ago

Penrith

You live and you learn OP!

Was this a first time meet with this woman? Had she agreed to meet you in a hotel room, with the notion that full sex was the intention for both parties?

You have had successful meets with other single ladies, what (if anything), did you/they do differently those times?

Did the hotel have a public bar area, could you have arranged to meet for a coffee/drink, but had the room booked ‘just in case’…..? She may have felt less pressure if it was primarily a social meet…..

Was she actually a woman? Don’t laugh; it’s a real problem in here……

Be disappointed someone wasted your time and money, but don’t take it to heart. There’s always tomorrow….

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By *riendlyPhily OP Man
12 weeks ago

Bexley

She sounded really keen. Hopefully it don’t happen next time I arrange a meet.

Thanks for all your kind comments and advice

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By *ools and the brainCouple
12 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

I can't understand the logic of.

Won't meet a stranger for a social but happy to meet and fuck as long as a few messages have been exchanged.

Socials out time wasters.

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By *igwilly2kMan
12 weeks ago

The Land of Kink!

"Did you video call her first to confirm she is real "

I'm still waiting to meet you

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By *eard and TattsCouple
12 weeks ago

Cwmbran

"See all those saying video calls and socials. We would maybe do a social but very rare. We 100% wouldn't a video call or even give our numbers out x

Then I wouldn’t be meeting the person / couple as I would just deem it unlikely they will turn up to a hotel I booked plus i like to see people before.

There is so many ways to video chat for a few minutes without needing mobile numbers. Though personally I have a spare phone just for sex meets .so it’s no issue to me with discretion .

I wouldn’t remotely care at binning a potential meet over this as always more people that will be compatible with this process.

We all have to function in ways that work best for us

we dont need to as we tell people to meet us at a club... no calls needed "

This

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By *oiluvfunMan
12 weeks ago

Penrith

we dont need to as we tell people to meet us at a club... no calls needed "

That’s great if you have a club on your doorstep, not so great when it’s a 2 hour drive to reach one, then (as in the OP’s case), you’re restricted to when single guys are ‘allowed’ entry, plus add in gender-biased entry fees……..just for a social? So you don’t connect face to face, but there’s loads of other potentials in the club right? Not usually lol…….

We all do what works best for ourselves

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
12 weeks ago

Chichester

"I feel you man. Had a couple give me a time

Today after talking who is verified.

Never answered to say exactly where I am going after getting ready getting there exct.

Very annoying.

But it happens live and learn "

alot of verifications on single women profiles are fake , if you look at the trail on many of them ..

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By *bi HaiveMan
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12 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Personally I'd be as likely to book a hotel room for someone I'd swapped a few words with online as I would send my bank details to that Nigerian Prince that keeps emailing me. 🤷‍♂️

No matter what they looked like, what they said in messages or what they promised would happen in said hotel room.....until the point I'm 110% sure they're not Barry, 69, from Scunthorpe I wouldn't do anything that left me out of pocket or cost me time and travel.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
12 weeks ago

Chester

That's never happened to me.

The problem is on here is that some men have fake female profiles. Some gay guys get off on receiving straight-male attention. Ofcourse though, they can't follow through with it.

You should always do a social first or at the very least phone them.

Sorry though...

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By *luebell888Woman
12 weeks ago

Glasgowish

"Personally I'd be as likely to book a hotel room for someone I'd swapped a few words with online as I would send my bank details to that Nigerian Prince that keeps emailing me. 🤷‍♂️

Very wise.x

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By *nsaneronMan
12 weeks ago

Plymouth

"Just an FYI OP but men on here also do this."

I had lots do this when I used to arrange meets with my late partner

Win for me because while let down was hyper horny 🤗

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
12 weeks ago

Swansea

"Personally I'd be as likely to book a hotel room for someone I'd swapped a few words with online as I would send my bank details to that Nigerian Prince that keeps emailing me. 🤷‍♂️

Absolutely this ^^

Mrs

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By *oney HoneyWoman
12 weeks ago

York

That’s really shit, but a lesson learnt hopefully.

I was let down on a meet today too…. I hadn’t booked a hotel thankfully but had spent considerable time getting ready and planning my work to make time, only to be given a rubbish excuse last minute. Using the time for some self care. Xxx

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By *osey WalesMan
12 weeks ago

"Personally I'd be as likely to book a hotel room for someone I'd swapped a few words with online as I would send my bank details to that Nigerian Prince that keeps emailing me. 🤷‍♂️

What did 69 year old Barry from scunthorpe do to you to make you so weiry of him 🤭

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
12 weeks ago

Norwich

"Personally I'd be as likely to book a hotel room for someone I'd swapped a few words with online as I would send my bank details to that Nigerian Prince that keeps emailing me. 🤷‍♂️

What did 69 year old Barry from scunthorpe do to you to make you so weiry of him 🤭

He’s a good guy.

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By *laytime_13Woman
12 weeks ago

Lincs

I still got catfished after swapping ‘normal’ photos and doing a phone call. Video call first only for me and meeting in public, but then I don’t go to clubs. You don’t have to give your number out to call, Telegram lets you message without swapping numbers.

Sorry you got let down though OP

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By *ohnjones3210Man
12 weeks ago

Chester

"Personally I'd be as likely to book a hotel room for someone I'd swapped a few words with online as I would send my bank details to that Nigerian Prince that keeps emailing me. 🤷‍♂️

What did 69 year old Barry from scunthorpe do to you to make you so weiry of him 🤭

He’s a good guy."

Scunthorpe... Thorpe or 'þorp' means village. It will be a Norse village because the Anglo-Saxons would have called their villages 'þrop'.

'Scun' means Omen, but for whatever reason, they think it's 'Skun', some lads name who owned the village.

So it's either "Skun's village" or "Omen-village".

You're welcome!

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By *oiluvfunMan
12 weeks ago

Penrith

"Personally I'd be as likely to book a hotel room for someone I'd swapped a few words with online as I would send my bank details to that Nigerian Prince that keeps emailing me. 🤷‍♂️

What did 69 year old Barry from scunthorpe do to you to make you so weiry of him 🤭

He’s a good guy.

Scunthorpe... Thorpe or 'þorp' means village. It will be a Norse village because the Anglo-Saxons would have called their villages 'þrop'.

'Scun' means Omen, but for whatever reason, they think it's 'Skun', some lads name who owned the village.

So it's either "Skun's village" or "Omen-village".

You're welcome!"

You can pull it to pieces and explain all you like, but when I see Scunthorpe, all I see is a cunt......

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By *ohnjones3210Man
12 weeks ago

Chester

"Personally I'd be as likely to book a hotel room for someone I'd swapped a few words with online as I would send my bank details to that Nigerian Prince that keeps emailing me. 🤷‍♂️

What did 69 year old Barry from scunthorpe do to you to make you so weiry of him 🤭

He’s a good guy.

Scunthorpe... Thorpe or 'þorp' means village. It will be a Norse village because the Anglo-Saxons would have called their villages 'þrop'.

'Scun' means Omen, but for whatever reason, they think it's 'Skun', some lads name who owned the village.

So it's either "Skun's village" or "Omen-village".

You're welcome!

You can pull it to pieces and explain all you like, but when I see Scunthorpe, all I see is a cunt......

Lols

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By *riendlyPhily OP Man
12 weeks ago

Bexley

Had a great meet last night I’m totally exhausted

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By *lamdaddyMan
12 weeks ago

London

Ooh I have a solution!

Don't pay in advance.

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By *oiluvfunMan
12 weeks ago

Penrith

"Had a great meet last night I’m totally exhausted "

Result!

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By *ohnjones3210Man
12 weeks ago

Chester

"Had a great meet last night I’m totally exhausted "

Wooo! Well done!

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By *rincipessaWoman
12 weeks ago

your wildest dreams,

So pleased to hear you went onto something positive OP. These things do happen. I’d booked a hotel to meet a guy that I’d met twice previously at socials and talked to multiple times on the phone. The last time being an hour before arriving in the hotel bar. Guy went unlos. Totally disappeared off the face of the earth.

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By *lamdaddyMan
12 weeks ago

London

"So pleased to hear you went onto something positive OP. These things do happen. I’d booked a hotel to meet a guy that I’d met twice previously at socials and talked to multiple times on the phone. The last time being an hour before arriving in the hotel bar. Guy went unlos. Totally disappeared off the face of the earth. "

Only the worst people do that, I'm sorry.

By the way I've booked us a hotel this weekend, London, 11am to 5pm 😘

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By *ir tootMan
12 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

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By *rincipessaWoman
12 weeks ago

your wildest dreams,

Sorry brucey you know I only do overnighters these days.

Only the worst people do that, I'm sorry.

By the way I've booked us a hotel this weekend, London, 11am to 5pm 😘"

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By *oberto7Man
12 weeks ago

Greenock

Shit happens

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By *uckurcumMan
12 weeks ago

Bishop Auckland

That's people for you unfortunately...

Booking hotels is always risky,unless it's for a group then hopefully at least one turns up !

Brush down and carry on ...as has been said ...crap happens .

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By *eliWoman
12 weeks ago

Glad to hear things improved for you OP. I generally stay away from booking a hotel/make sure it's somewhere I cancel last minute if I don't know the person really well. Or if I'm a bit uncertain if things will go ahead, cancel and then book one on the day.

Hope that's the last time it happens for you OP.

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