FabSwingers.com forum: What's the secret

By *hesolution566 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Hull

So for a single guy I don't think I'm bad looking but man am I struggling to break the ice on this site. Would love some pointers on how I can get that first meet.

I'm not a huge social person especially in groups so club nights have been a bit of a miss too. Really love the idea of playing with a couple but just can't seem to crack the secret recepie.

Happy for any advice or feedback

Happy fabbing X

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By *iker JackMan
2 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

The honest truth is there is no secret.

If you are using here as your sole way of obtaining meets then you’re fishing in a very small pond.

That said there are many people on here who get meets, whether all those meets lead anywhere is another discussion

Personally I find being respectful, not too full on, being clear in what you’re looking for and treating others how you yourself would want to be treated as a great place to start

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By *hesolution566 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Hull

Thanks Jack and I hope I come across in exactly the way you describe.

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By *teelballsMan
2 weeks ago

central london

Reality is, both here and on fabguys, that the vast majority of people have absolutely no real intention of meeting anyone.

Main interest is looking at pictures and wanking.

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By *weetRollMan
2 weeks ago

Angus/Dundee/Perth

"So for a single guy I don't think I'm bad looking but man am I struggling to break the ice on this site. Would love some pointers on how I can get that first meet.

I'm not a huge social person especially in groups so club nights have been a bit of a miss too. Really love the idea of playing with a couple but just can't seem to crack the secret recepie.

Happy for any advice or feedback

Happy fabbing X "

Face your demons, improve your social skills and go to parties and clubs in person and force yourself to approach people in spite of your nerves.

As a single male you don't have the luxury to keep to yourself yet expect to be approached. You have got to take that first step. Be polite, introduce yourself, don't touch anyone without asking for permission, every - single - time, permission to do one thing is not an okay to try anything else. Take a 'no' with grace and move on to someone else.

As for on the site, I doubt I'm going to tell you anything you havent heard before.

Have a decent profile (get profile reviewed to help if your unsure)

Read a profile before you message to be sure you fit their requirements.

Do not be explicit in your opening message. Write something of substance no one word bare bones stuff.

Don't send friend requests without asking for permission first, easy way to get blocked by a lot of people.

Be polite and patient, you're not going to get responses quickly in most cases, moreover some people will never see your message at all. For those who left you on read, assume they are not interested and move on, or if you want to risk it, give a nice follow up message a week later, no sooner, and if no interest move on. For those who never saw your message again give it a week or so, if nothing then follow up.

Don't be a dick, no matter how pissed you are by someone's conduct. You may get ghosted, things might seem well but suddenly you get ignored. Someone may agree to a meet and then not follow through. You might create the best intro message, and seem to fit their needs and yet find yourself blocked by them after they read your message.

You have to learn to handle all the above and not let it affect how you interact with people on the site.

All the best.

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By *j2015Couple
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

"So for a single guy I don't think I'm bad looking but man am I struggling to break the ice on this site. Would love some pointers on how I can get that first meet.

I'm not a huge social person especially in groups so club nights have been a bit of a miss too. Really love the idea of playing with a couple but just can't seem to crack the secret recepie.

Happy for any advice or feedback

Happy fabbing X "

You come across well and answer some of your own questions, we respect how tough it is so well done for still wanting to put some effort in!!!

Cant say what will work for you as it needs to build around your personality but can say what tends to catch our eye when we talk to single males.

1. Creative pictures, try something different, go outside…? and it helps add your personally; sports, humour, sci-fi/anime whatever it may be. Just try to come across as a real person not just a Body and white pants isnt catching our eye.

2. Good opening message take some interest in an aspect of who you are messaging

Sounds simple enough but works for us.

Lastly though you have to grind it out if you want it. Be prepared for lots of rejection. Online is brutal which is why we prefer clubs!

Even as a couple we get rejected after swapping more pictures and it sucks but we are big boys and girls and if you cant take the hits dont play the game.

Wish you all the best, you do seem lovely.

Unless you have a beat face, then we will block you 🤭😉😘

Come say hi if you wanna talk more

C&J xx

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By *abbergastedMan
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

I sacrificed my first born child and then sold my soul to the devil at the crossroads.

I’ve never looked back since

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By *j2015Couple
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

"I sacrificed my first born child and then sold my soul to the devil at the crossroads.

I’ve never looked back since

That is a better option yeah ^

Forget what we said

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
2 weeks ago

Leeds

Two wrinkly ball bags

3 tea spoons of discharge from a 5 week old unwashed vagina.

A crushed wart.

45 grams of anal piles.

And a pinch of salt,

Bang it in the over for 45 mins and bish bash bosh, pussy on a plate.

The mr

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By *enelope2UWoman
2 weeks ago

Fife

I agree with the other message comments.. to me your profile is bland boring.. you say fun single guy but only one unfun bathroom picture.

You can take a picture crop it out.. have more body pics love the non dick pics but maybe something a bit more teasing and "fun".

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By *ools and the brainCouple
2 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

"So for a single guy I don't think I'm bad looking but man am I struggling to break the ice on this site. Would love some pointers on how I can get that first meet.

I'm not a huge social person especially in groups so club nights have been a bit of a miss too. Really love the idea of playing with a couple but just can't seem to crack the secret recepie.

Happy for any advice or feedback

Happy fabbing X "

Tbh there's no magic formula or secret it's usually about being right place right time,but you can definitely help your cause by not being that over eager pushy person who sends ten messages when one will suffice, don't act desperate and don't promise the earth.

Just be honest and yourself and chilled.

Getting to socials and clubs even if it is alone will help massively.

Some verifications from social organisers will help you no end.

But honestly the most successful guys we have met generally don't try to hard,some people seem to reek of desperation.

Basically

Chill

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By *hat.coupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Dartford

There's no secret, it can take a few months to get off the starting block on here to be honest.

Do you look at the meets and events section at all? People post what they are looking for on there and the date, there are always couples looking for men in there. Loads of fuck and go meets posted and also gangbangs too. But, the best way to get going is clubs, so if you aren't into them when you may never get off the starting line I'm afraid.

Mrs x

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By *hesolution566 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Hull

Thanks so much for all the advice.

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By *hesolution566 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Hull

I've added a couple of photos what do you think ?

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By *hat.coupleCouple
2 weeks ago

Dartford

Pics seem OK

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By *hesolution566 OP Man
2 weeks ago

Hull

Thanks for the feedback and advice. Will have a look at the meets page. Not really a turn up and fuck kind of guy would prefer social first before any play. Have to see if there is a connection first. As I got older just fucking someone for a shag doesn't really work for me any more

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By *hesolution566 OP Man
7 days ago

Hull

Update*****

Decided to go to a local club last night got talking to a couple and boom!!! Got invited back to their hotel.

Had an amazing night. Did I break the curse. ???

Wow that was exactly as I imagined it would be. Epic.

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By *enfleetMaleMan
7 days ago

Hadleigh

"Update*****

Decided to go to a local club last night got talking to a couple and boom!!! Got invited back to their hotel.

Had an amazing night. Did I break the curse. ???

Wow that was exactly as I imagined it would be. Epic. "

And now you have started it will be easier to meet others. If possible get them to give you a veri and stay in touch. They may invite you to another party where you'll meet others. Just don't smother them with messages. They may have seen you as a one off but only you would know that. It's addictive but don't let the dopamine take over as it can bring you down in a crash afterwards when you are back to work in the vanilla world.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
7 days ago

Central

Give people what they need, in order to assess whether you are potentially a match for them. Learn and do.

But assume that it means high levels of effort and you'll have to do things that may also be uncomfortable. No pain, no gain.

And accept that you may only be a potential match with 1% or less, of the people

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By *MCMan
7 days ago

London/EA

"Update*****

Decided to go to a local club last night got talking to a couple and boom!!! Got invited back to their hotel.

Had an amazing night. Did I break the curse. ???

Wow that was exactly as I imagined it would be. Epic. "

Aye congrats OP.

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By *usyBusyGirlWoman
7 days ago

Brum

"Update*****

Decided to go to a local club last night got talking to a couple and boom!!! Got invited back to their hotel.

Had an amazing night. Did I break the curse. ???

Wow that was exactly as I imagined it would be. Epic. "

Most excellent

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
7 days ago

kent

There is no secret formula, but there are a couple of things you can do to increase your chances. All the obvious things like quality photos and an engaging profile. Things like respect and kindness ought to be a given. The really helpful thing comes down to the quality of your writing. Fab is built around a literary platform - we write our comms here. So I would suggest working on your ability to be witty and engaging with your written communication. Those who do this well have a better chance of creating connections, and thus, a greater chance of meeting. Good luck OP Xx

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By *aydar99Man
7 days ago

Rochester

You nailed it op, at the end of the day this is a swingers site ,not a dating site for us singles , if your a cpl you will meet ,if like you did go to a club you will meet , we'll played op

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By *hesolution566 OP Man
6 days ago

Hull

Even got a good veri from them 😀

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