FabSwingers.com forum: Your persona

By *iker Jack OP Man
2 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Is your online persona different to your off line one?

Do you come across as

Moody

Happy

Critical

Needy

Antagonistic

Kind and caring

Or anything else

I have met a few people who are different to the persons they portray on here or anywhere else.

May come across as confident here but not so much when meeting especially when in groups

I like to think I’m consistent. A consistent twat but at least it’s consistency

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By *usyBusyGirlWoman
2 weeks ago

Brum

I think I am the same, a sarcastic twat 🤣

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By *ittleLiasonsWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

I'm very much the same sarcastic cow but in person people see how nice I actually am too

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By *eliWoman
2 weeks ago

People are multifaceted.

What you see/know of someone (and your confirmation biases) will be different to another person.

I don't think too much about how I come across on here - I don't know how I do. I do know it's just a snapshot of that particular moment in time.

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By *imply DeeWoman
2 weeks ago

Wherever

I think I am the same, not able to maintain a “persona”. I’m just me.

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By *sWyldWoman
2 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I'm much the same.

I don't have the energy for an act.

Some days happy, bouncy excitable, some days far from it.

I don't overthink what I say here or filter my thoughts in the way I sometimes might in the 'real world' however my face probably gives me away there anyway!

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By *ah HumbugMan
2 weeks ago

here and there

Don't know how I come across

Don't really care though

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
2 weeks ago

Southampton

I like to think I'm the same kind caring person in real life as I am online..you'd really have to ask people who've met me though lol

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By *imply DeeWoman
2 weeks ago

Wherever

"I like to think I'm the same kind caring person in real life as I am online..you'd really have to ask people who've met me though lol"

You are x

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By *phrodisiac2000Man
2 weeks ago

blazing Saddleworth

I’m the same all the time happy sexy thinking never too serious

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By *illy IdolMan
2 weeks ago

Midlands

"I like to think I'm the same kind caring person in real life as I am online..you'd really have to ask people who've met me though lol"

Nah

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By *inxy777Woman
2 weeks ago

essex

I’m probably more chatty, and to the point I need to shut up!

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
2 weeks ago

Southampton

"I like to think I'm the same kind caring person in real life as I am online..you'd really have to ask people who've met me though lol

Nah"

😝😘

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
2 weeks ago

Leeds

I like to think I come across as a big hearted love machine, that welcomes everyone and anyone with open arms for a massive big cuddle.

And a cheeky wank behind Nando’s if your lucky, you saucy minx

The mr

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
2 weeks ago

Southampton

"I like to think I'm the same kind caring person in real life as I am online..you'd really have to ask people who've met me though lol

You are x"

Thank you lovely 😘

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By *illy IdolMan
2 weeks ago

Midlands

"I like to think I'm the same kind caring person in real life as I am online..you'd really have to ask people who've met me though lol

Nah

😝😘"

😉😂

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

I have been told my online personality is the same as my IRL one.

I'm a menace.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
2 weeks ago

Southampton

"I like to think I'm the same kind caring person in real life as I am online..you'd really have to ask people who've met me though lol

Nah

😝😘

😉😂"

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
2 weeks ago

St Leonards

It mostly depends on the group dynamic I've walked into.

If I can sense there's no point giving them "full Nick" because they either won't get it, or it makes them uncomfortable, I'll stick with standard pleasantries.

If there's a bit more depth to the crowd, I'll let more of me out.

Online I can deliberately find convenient "Nick-shaped" spaces, so people see more Nick online than everyday life, because the canvas is there to paint Nick on.

For example - there are 30, 50, 100 maybe threads going. It takes a few minutes to find some that you like, and join in with ease (and also exit with ease)

How long would it take to find 30, 50, 100 "in the flesh" physical groups of people, introduce yourself, discover whether the group suits you, and politely extricate yourself from the host/hostess's clutches if it was a bit of a "dud" for your personality type?

So online is a quicker way of being more Nick.

Nick is the same Nick - but there's more of my preferred version of him that I can let out online than in the flesh.

However, when I'm with a group of people that I can really connect with in the flesh, that's far more rewarding than online.

But it's once or twice every few years that that level happens, whereas online is a few times every week.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
2 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

I'm EXACTLY the same. I don’t leave the house without wearing a posh frock, lingerie and heels. Makes work a little tricky, though. Especially the digging and working up ladders.

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By *ealitybitesMan
2 weeks ago

Belfast

I can't be anything else but myself.

I usually avoid confrontation both here and IRL but sometimes ignorance and stupidity has to be challenged.

In general I enjoy a laugh and taking the piss but am more than comfortable telling the emperor he is naked when everyone else is admiring his new clothes.

In my time on fab I have met a couple of people who are very different online than they are in person but I've met many more who are extremely different in their public and private online personas.

The characters they play in the forum bear little or no resemblance to the one sending private messages.

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By *obyn GravesTV/TS
2 weeks ago

1127 walnut avenue

I've no idea.. that's for others to tell me..to be honest I don't think a lot get my humour on line..where as if I met someone in person and told them I only have a bath once a month with a smile on my face.. they'd know for sure I was jesting.. they'd also be able to smell me as well,😹

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By *aven.Woman
2 weeks ago

Not the North West...

I haven't the energy to fake being someone else.

A lot of the times people seem to think I'm taking the piss and I'm really not.

Though there are parts of me only people that have met me/know me will know.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

East Sussex

Probably, it depends who I'm with really. I'm always recognisable as me but different people see different sides of me. Work me, social me, daughter me, mum me, fab me...we're all different sides of the same coin.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
2 weeks ago

Maidstone

I'm just as uninteresting in real life.

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By *vaRose43Woman
2 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

"I like to think I'm the same kind caring person in real life as I am online..you'd really have to ask people who've met me though lol"

You are xxx

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By *mmaleiaWoman
2 weeks ago

East Northamptonshire

"Probably, it depends who I'm with really. I'm always recognisable as me but different people see different sides of me. Work me, social me, daughter me, mum me, fab me...we're all different sides of the same coin. "

This, only my true friends see the whole me

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By *laytime_13Woman
2 weeks ago

Lincs

I think I’m the same mix of blunt ‘call a spade a spade’ and charming naivety with a hint of sauciness in reality as I am here. But maybe ask those who’ve met me, they’re probably better placed to answer

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By *tealthbomber2024Man
2 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

Like a bouncy dog I suppose, controlled by a cat on top of my back with a lead around my neck. Quiet and observational, until stirred. (shut up!)

Was worse when I was much younger.

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By *aisydooWoman
2 weeks ago

Cambridge

"I'm EXACTLY the same. I don’t leave the house without wearing a posh frock, lingerie and heels. Makes work a little tricky, though. Especially the digging and working up ladders."

Love this.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
2 weeks ago

Southampton

"I like to think I'm the same kind caring person in real life as I am online..you'd really have to ask people who've met me though lol

You are xxx"

Thank you lovely 😘

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By *ornishvikingMan
2 weeks ago

lala land

Clown 🤡 smiling on the outside crying in

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By *emorefridaCouple
2 weeks ago

La la land

I don't think being more confident online to real life is a different persona as such. People have different strengths in different situations.

I think many of us are more forthright about our sexual preferences here online compared to real life. Doesn't make it a persona I don't think. Just we're more confident that we won't get judged as harshly here.

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By *oo..Woman
2 weeks ago

Boo's World

I change for no one! 🤣🤣

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By *entleman JayMan
2 weeks ago

Wakefield

I never give it a thought. It’s bit deep for me.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
2 weeks ago

Stoke

Nope I have a dry and dark sense of humour in real life too

Mr F.

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By *vaRose43Woman
2 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

I don’t think I’m much different here than I am in real life. Those that have met me will have to answer that for me

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By *ymClassDropoutMan
2 weeks ago

Berkshire

Asking people to self assess will hardly ever lead to an objective answer.

I have liaised with some who have posted on this thread and I would just not agree with what they have said.

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
2 weeks ago

Wales

I'm the same, probably come across more confident on here than I am in person.

I'm initially quite shy and reserved, especially in group situations

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

"I'm EXACTLY the same. I don’t leave the house without wearing a posh frock, lingerie and heels. Makes work a little tricky, though. Especially the digging and working up ladders."

I'd like to be at the bottom of your ladder

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
2 weeks ago

Reading

Probably similar but my offline mood inflences my online presence far more than the opposite.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
2 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I’m an absolute fucking delight on and off line

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By *8on33Man
2 weeks ago

winfrith

I think you change your personality a bit for each situation in life,you adapt, on here you can be anything you want within reason but it's still you .

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
2 weeks ago

St Leonards

"I think you change your personality a bit for each situation in life,you adapt, on here you can be anything you want within reason but it's still you . "

He talks good sense this one

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