FabSwingers.com forum: Do you enjoy having sex?

By *erfHerder74 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Greenock

I know it’s a stupid question to put on fab but do you?

For me I love it if there is intimacy and chemistry.

I have met men to give bjs and kisses because they wanted but they are there just to cum n go. I’ve purposely stopped meeting men for now for that reasons as I need a proper connection..

It would be nice to meet someone who texts or calls or asks how I am between meets, it’s a lot to ask for nowadays to actually be a friend in a fwb situation. I’ve chatted to some lovely bi men but as usual live hundreds of miles away.

Are you lucky to have found a fwb who actually keeps in contact between meets?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I am a big fan of having The Sex.

I do not like to engage with people who aren't into me as an entire human and act more like it's just a convenient orifice 💜

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By *weetiepie99Woman
4 weeks ago

cardiff

It's a lot of effort

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By *icecouple561Couple
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4 weeks ago

East Sussex

It's nice to feel that people are interested in you beyond sex.

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
4 weeks ago

Bristol

Hmmm now if memory serves! From what I can still just about recall, yes I believe there was an enjoyment of this thing referred to as sex

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By *.hrisMan
4 weeks ago

Bath

I'll be the minority, and say that I'm happy if they just want me for sex

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
4 weeks ago

Maidstone

From my experience most aren't interested in maintaining a connection. I've a couple of friends who do, but distance and life means meeting doesn't happen often. The site attracts all sorts of people looking for different things. Finding someone on the same level where there's also attraction is hard.

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By *ellhungvweMan
4 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I like sex. I like the physical act of exploring someone’s else’s body, having them explore mine and enjoying our time together.

I am not looking for a long term relationship - I like the people I meet and keep in touch with them. That’s why I usually meet them again and again because we get on well.

You can explore and enjoy someone else’s body without having to betroth long term love to them which is what I think some people are really looking for.

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By *JcuriousCouple
4 weeks ago

Derby

We do when it's the right person.

We have a regular lady we meet and speak too outside of sex/swinging.

It is nice to have that we think.

Miss S x

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By *imply_SensualMan
4 weeks ago

warrington

Yes to main question, but there has to be a connection with the woman involved. So being able to laugh together, talk normally rather just a 'fuck & go' is a lot more satisfying.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
4 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

It’s over-rated

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

I love having sex but can over think /get anxious about whether the other person is enjoying themselves

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By *unxxx9911Man
4 weeks ago

Redhill

"I love having sex but can over think /get anxious about whether the other person is enjoying themselves "

I am sure you have nothing to get anxious about, by the looks of it anyone would be over the moon to be lucky enough to have sex with you!!

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By *he Silver FuxMan
4 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

"I love having sex but can over think /get anxious about whether the other person is enjoying themselves

I am sure you have nothing to get anxious about, by the looks of it anyone would be over the moon to be lucky enough to have sex with you!!"

Beautiful looking women and handsome men can be shit shags.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
4 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I enjoy it. But I’ve never done the cum n go thing. I only do the FWB thing. I’ve never met anyone just once so maybe that’s why.

I wouldn’t enjoy just random sex though. Rather do without

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By *usyBusyGirlWoman
4 weeks ago

Brum

Prefer a coffee 😁

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By *ndy8440Man
4 weeks ago

Jarrow

Yeah I love it but it’s been a while lol

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By *ansoffateMan
4 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

There's a kind of fuzzy boundary between intimacy (in the sense of knowing each other) and involvement in each others lives). They are related but not the same.

For me, it's about authenticity - feigning intimacy to get in my knickers will kill it for me. On the other hand I don't need persistent contact. I'd rather have some meaningful time together, in person, than a bunch of daily check in messages. I can't abide that feeling of plate-spinning relationships by text and never really going beyond the surface with anyone.

It's not offensive to me if the other person's interest is sexual. It will become tiresome if we have to maintain a pretense that it's otherwise to facilitate that though. I enjoy authenticity in relationships.

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By *enk15Man
4 weeks ago

Evesham

I very much enjoy the sex.

I do also like the contact between it, connecting on other levels only enhances the sex for me.

Not found that elusive FWB yet, the search continues

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By *usyBusyGirlWoman
4 weeks ago

Brum

"I very much enjoy the sex.

I do also like the contact between it, connecting on other levels only enhances the sex for me.

Not found that elusive FWB yet, the search continues

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Used to enjoy sex. Can't remember the sensations anymore.

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By *tsJustKateWoman
4 weeks ago

London

I love sex. I'm not much of a talker so I'm happy with just meeting a guy for sex and leave it at that. I'm not looking for a, or need a connection. It's all just fun!

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By *ffy.Woman
4 weeks ago

Fife

I’ve been lucky enough in the past to find someone who was interested in me beyond just meeting up to have sex. It’s nice. I couldn’t do it without that kind of connection being there.

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By *aydar99Man
4 weeks ago

Rochester

I actually have a meet (sex) for this afternoon 4.30 , but she can only give me a hour she's married, no problem there but I'm into more than cum n go

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By *ohnjones3210Man
4 weeks ago

Chester

No, I've never enjoyed it. I think it's absolutely disgusting and should be banned. Also it should be kept for married couples only.

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By *overOfWomen91Man
4 weeks ago

Bedfordshire

I like sex but prefer foreplay and all the build up conversations leading to sex.

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By *milie1994Woman
4 weeks ago

wellingborough

if we don’t like sex why are we here

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By *he Silver FuxMan
4 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

"if we don’t like sex why are we here "

FOR THE WEIRDNESS! 🫣

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By *iker JackMan
4 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Sex as an act with someone I don’t know or have any form of connection - no

Sex with someone I like and know and it’s equally as fun in and out of the bedroom - hell yes

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By *viatrixWoman
4 weeks ago

Redhill

On my first year here I was lucky to find not one, or two, but three fwbs who werre like that- lots of intimacy, sensuality and mind-blowing sex.

It all went on for a good 4/5 years. One of them in particular, the friendship went on for nearly six, as delicious and as intense as the first day. But life happens and things fizzle out.

I now realise that I am looking for a repeat of that, a replica of *him* and it probably will never happen again. He is unique. 😔 so that frustrates me a lot. But you never know- Fab surprises you when you least expect it, so that is why I am still here

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By *ruceyyMan
4 weeks ago

London

Yeah I mean, wouldn't be here if it wasn't important to me!

Sex can have various forms though. Sometimes a hot hookup is all that's needed and I can still really enjoy those. Still fascinated by the idea of a glory hole for example. But if they're hot and awesome, yes, all the passion too please

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
4 weeks ago

Reading

Even in a club I refuse to be just a hole. No connection no sex. So then sex becomes just part of that connection be it a very enjoyable part. Otherwise I prefer my vibrator!

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By *rHotNottsMan
4 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I love having sex and it’s fine to stay in touch between meets, But I can’t be doing with constant messaging

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By *a LunaWoman
4 weeks ago

South Wales

I love sex. With the right person.

Casual sex is exceedingly overrated.

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By *phrodisiac2000Man
4 weeks ago

blazing Saddleworth

"I am a big fan of having The Sex.

I do not like to engage with people who aren't into me as an entire human and act more like it's just a convenient orifice 💜"

I can’t for the life of me imagine not being into you !! You’ve got a lot to offer

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By *mbi-SextrousMan
4 weeks ago

Eastbourne

Putting the friend back into FWB seems like a common request I see - i think a guy who doesnt mind chatting post orgasm or wants to catch up for chat between meets is somewhat rare

A good sign is if theres a lot of non sexual chat that preludes the first meet

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
4 weeks ago

Leeds

I love the sex, but with the right people, any holes a goal & sex with any randomer isn't for me.

Mrs

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By *andynecklaceWoman
4 weeks ago

West Brom

Yes with a regular partner

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By *wiss Army KnifeMan
4 weeks ago

Second star to the right…

A lot of questions there

Is sex fun well yeah it feels nice especially for a guy who is almost always guaranteed an orgasm.

When i was younger i was at it so much it was almost an addiction, some felt really good and intense a lot of it just left me feeling flat and in a way ashamed but there is a story behind that.

Nowadays i prefer to make a connection with a sexual partner, FWB whatever you want to call it.

It so much better when you click mentally and physically, i like the idea of quality time together inside and outside the bedroom.

It’s a much more satisfying and fulfilling experience all round.

I do like to spend time keeping in touch before and after meets as the friends part is as important to me as the benefits.

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By *EAT..85Woman
4 weeks ago

Nottingham

Oh boy do I love having the sex!

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By *aven.Woman
4 weeks ago

Not the North West...

The lead up, no.

Afterwards, feelings of disgust and shame.

The 10mins during, hell yeah.

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By *akedMMan
4 weeks ago

Witney

I can’t remember what it feels like to have sex . As it’s been so long since I’ve had sex

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By *8on33Man
4 weeks ago

winfrith

Of course I enjoy it why wouldn't you but I get enjoyment out of giving pleasure as well as receiving it .You talk about connecting with that person I require that to in differing amounts depending on the person .

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By *orphia2003Woman
4 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I enjoy sex with some people, that I have a connection to. That's why I fuck them.

If I didn't.enjoy it, I wouldn't do it.

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By *agnar73Man
4 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

On my own, not so much.

With others yes.

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By *tealthbomber2024Man
4 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

When engaged in single combat with "one" woman, I just take my time and tease the fuck out of her, enjoying the buffet on offer. Why not, eh? So much to roam over like the scottish dales, or whatever a hilly, moundy thing means ::D

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By *ell GwynnWoman
4 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

I'm the same as you, OP. I can't enjoy sex without mental or emotional connection of some sort. It's easier for me to find on here, being female, but then I'm also happy to travel when something worthwhile presents itself. Keep looking.

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By *enelope2UWoman
4 weeks ago

Fife

"I know it’s a stupid question to put on fab but do you?

For me I love it if there is intimacy and chemistry.

I have met men to give bjs and kisses because they wanted but they are there just to cum n go. I’ve purposely stopped meeting men for now for that reasons as I need a proper connection..

Are you lucky to have found a fwb who actually keeps in contact between meets?

I won't tolerate or accept anything less... Gets difficult as that's not the way it works over here..here sex is seen as a chore or a dirty secret...fab actually means friends and benefits and is an American term as is fuck buddy etc.. that's why there's so many inexperienced fantasy seekers 40+ years old but divorced with kids etc.. they didn't have a friendship trust chemistry and sexually compatibility ...

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By *riel13Woman
4 weeks ago

Northampton

I really, really do!

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
4 weeks ago

Ends

"I really, really do! "

👀

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
4 weeks ago

North West

"I know it’s a stupid question to put on fab but do you?

For me I love it if there is intimacy and chemistry.

I have met men to give bjs and kisses because they wanted but they are there just to cum n go. I’ve purposely stopped meeting men for now for that reasons as I need a proper connection..

Are you lucky to have found a fwb who actually keeps in contact between meets?

I do love having sex.

I love having sex with people who I have a connection with.

It would be nice to have ongoing contact with someone in a poly or a FWB type arrangement.

But at present, I'm not fit for action

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Stockport

I want the sex, but I'd love to have the connection as well. Something like FWB's with even closer emotional connection, but without requiring exclusivity. Tbh I hate the way that some people feel they have some kind of "ownership" of others emotions. I feel that emotion, affection, love are things that should be freely given, gracefully accepted, never taken as an expectation.

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By *tealthbomber2024Man
4 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

Part time lovers? Giving pleasure because its nice to give?

I mean, I suppose the wham bam, works well sometimes, but does it leave some people wanting just a little bit more?

This planet isn't getting better... Make the most whilst you can, I say

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By *irty_little_blondeWoman
4 weeks ago

Manchester

Yes I really really like it!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
4 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Im loving life as a greedy girl, blessed to have two very long term local fwbs and various fb dotted around the country, as with anything it will last as long as its supposed to last for

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By *ddie1966Man
4 weeks ago

Paper Town Central, Essex.

Sex is..? Well, just sex.

It kills a couple of boring hours.

However, when there's a connection... It's bloody spectacular.

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By *moothdickMan
4 weeks ago

stoke

Great with the right ppl/ person…

One nighters/shoot and scoot, can be like having a posh wank

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By *he Dark SaintMan
4 weeks ago

hitchin

Chemistry/connections always make it better

If the cum bank is full, then it's not as important fir me to have a great time

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
4 weeks ago

Sheffield

Everyone is on here for different reasons and have different fantasies.

Having now been part of a GB, it's not for me. Can absolutely understand the thrill.

But chemistry, kissing and building a connection with people makes a huge difference to the fun.

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By *eliWoman
4 weeks ago

You can enjoy sex without wanting to keep in contact between "meets".

I've had fwbs who've had more genuine, authentic interest in me than a previous partner - it doesn't mean daily messaging but it does mean that they actively ask me stuff/listen to me rather than just monologuing their world/disappearing once they've come. Until they're next horny.

I don't think it's a lot to ask for. You can find people on here who are compatible with you and want the joy of sex but also like you as a friend. I don't want to have sex, am not sexually attracted to someone without that level of connection there.

I really value intimacy and connection and I'm not settling for less than. You shouldn't either OP.

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By *andy CanesWoman
4 weeks ago

south

I love having sex with my male friend there’s a real chemistry/lust between us if we invite others to join us they just fill in the in between bits (while my friend has a little rest) & he’s ready to go again

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By *obandruthCouple
4 weeks ago

wolverhampton

If I didn't I wouldn't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Men who know how the scene and women's brains work tend to play the long game but it is always pretty obvious to me who is 'checking in' because they genuinely want to know how I am, and the ones that are just trying to keep my attention by giving bare minimum. If we connect in other ways, then sure it's a nice thing to have both ways but I'm also okay with just minimal communication to arrange meetings. It depends on the relationship you have with someone but I have no time for false connections.

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By *tealthbomber2024Man
4 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

Maybe some of them have plenty of calendar notifications to pretend they are just checking :P

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By *uzzleMan
4 weeks ago

Hastings

I think I've got to the age where it just isn't worth the effort and its overated anyway for me. I haven't dated for 20 years.

Think about how much effort, time, chatting up, wining & dining, expense, emotional investment etc you put into trying to get a meet or dating. The effort is greater than the return for me.

Whether you have sex, a wank, fuck a fleshlight etc, the end result is the same, you shoot your load as a frustration release - job done!

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By *erfHerder74 OP Man
4 weeks ago

Greenock

Some great replies

Thank you

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