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"I mean people just meeting someone for the very first time, haven't spoken for 2 minutes without knowing them. All you know they could have just fucked a sex worker without condom and not have any symptoms" So according to you “All sex workers have STIs”? | |||
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"I mean people just meeting someone for the very first time, haven't spoken for 2 minutes without knowing them. All you know they could have just fucked a sex worker without condom and not have any symptoms So according to you “All sex workers have STIs”?" Okay, a street walker. Shouldn't need to be specific. I hadn't said all sex workers, but I'm assuming they will be of a higher risk. | |||
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"Why do so many people insist on bareback? I get messages saying things like "will only meet if you do bareback" " Realy? Jeez m8 your lucky ,most guys here would love a reply | |||
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"I can’t say that I’ve seen those comments on profiles, maybe it’s a Leeds thing? " Could be a Leeds thing. But it is often in messages. I've had a few messages wanting only bare but saying nothing on their profile about safe sex | |||
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"I mean people just meeting someone for the very first time, haven't spoken for 2 minutes without knowing them. All you know they could have just fucked a sex worker without condom and not have any symptoms So according to you “All sex workers have STIs”? Okay, a street walker. Shouldn't need to be specific. I hadn't said all sex workers, but I'm assuming they will be of a higher risk. " I don't think I'd want to have any kind of sex with someone taking advantage of street walkers. | |||
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"Some people really like it OP. I'm not going to pretend someone ejaculating into a condom feels anything close to how good it feels when I can feel my partner pulsing inside me. But personally I'm not willing to put mine or my partners health at unnecessary risk. That's a choice I've made. Other people are welcome to make their own, and fuck with people who are compatible 💜" Bareback sex does feel better, but only with a trusted partner. I don't mean bareback is wrong. Just is with someone you know nothing about | |||
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"I mean people just meeting someone for the very first time, haven't spoken for 2 minutes without knowing them. All you know they could have just fucked a sex worker without condom and not have any symptoms So according to you “All sex workers have STIs”? Okay, a street walker. Shouldn't need to be specific. I hadn't said all sex workers, but I'm assuming they will be of a higher risk. I don't think I'd want to have any kind of sex with someone taking advantage of street walkers." That's the point. People asking for bareback sex in a first message or without knowing anything about them, can't possibly know if someone would be taking advantage of street walkers or not. | |||
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"Why do so many people insist on bareback? I get messages saying things like "will only meet if you do bareback" or "shame you don't do bare" like shame you do. How do you just have unprotected sex with someone you've just met, or talk about bare to someone as your first message? Can only assume those demanding in for a first meet with someone they've exchanged a whole 3 messages with, has some mad STI they just wanna give to every cunt they can. Or am I just a boring bastard?" It’s just one of the sad tactics used by keyboard wankers. They are pretending to want to meet but by making some stupid demands they know very few will say yes. If you call their bluff they disappear. FAST. | |||
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"That's the point. People asking for bareback sex in a first message or without knowing anything about them, can't possibly know if someone would be taking advantage of street walkers or not. " If you specify being up for quick random anything goes spur of the moment meets, that may be somewhat encouraging to them. Anything goes could surely include bareback. I'd say less than 1% of messages I receive suggest bareback. And they just get blocked. | |||
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"I mean people just meeting someone for the very first time, haven't spoken for 2 minutes without knowing them. All you know they could have just fucked a sex worker without condom and not have any symptoms" Sex workers are usually 'cleaner'(disease free) than non sex workers tbh | |||
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"I mean people just meeting someone for the very first time, haven't spoken for 2 minutes without knowing them. All you know they could have just fucked a sex worker without condom and not have any symptoms So according to you “All sex workers have STIs”? Okay, a street walker. Shouldn't need to be specific. I hadn't said all sex workers, but I'm assuming they will be of a higher risk. I don't think I'd want to have any kind of sex with someone taking advantage of street walkers. That's the point. People asking for bareback sex in a first message or without knowing anything about them, can't possibly know if someone would be taking advantage of street walkers or not. " They are being upfront. No point in chatting and getting hopeful of a meet, then they drop the preference for bareback, or worse at the point of meeting for planned sex. | |||
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"I mean people just meeting someone for the very first time, haven't spoken for 2 minutes without knowing them. All you know they could have just fucked a sex worker without condom and not have any symptoms So according to you “All sex workers have STIs”? Okay, a street walker. Shouldn't need to be specific. I hadn't said all sex workers, but I'm assuming they will be of a higher risk. I don't think I'd want to have any kind of sex with someone taking advantage of street walkers. That's the point. People asking for bareback sex in a first message or without knowing anything about them, can't possibly know if someone would be taking advantage of street walkers or not. They are being upfront. No point in chatting and getting hopeful of a meet, then they drop the preference for bareback, or worse at the point of meeting for planned sex." You have a point, but I do state on my profile, safe sex is a must. If they'd read the profile to see that, then surely there's no need to bother messaging just to tell me it's a shame that I don't do bare. They can just move on without the message | |||
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"Why do so many people insist on bareback? I get messages saying things like "will only meet if you do bareback" or "shame you don't do bare" like shame you do. How do you just have unprotected sex with someone you've just met, or talk about bare to someone as your first message? Can only assume those demanding in for a first meet with someone they've exchanged a whole 3 messages with, has some mad STI they just wanna give to every cunt they can. Or am I just a boring bastard? It’s just one of the sad tactics used by keyboard wankers. They are pretending to want to meet but by making some stupid demands they know very few will say yes. If you call their bluff they disappear. FAST. " You could be right | |||
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"I prefer it as condoms are a bit faffy but only with a regular partner. Everyone else gets the latex loverod! "I have said I'm not against bareback with regular people, just bareback with new, unkown people | |||
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"That's one hell of an assumption. " It is. But demanding it from a meet and not just asking, will lead to such assumptions | |||
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"I mean people just meeting someone for the very first time, haven't spoken for 2 minutes without knowing them. All you know they could have just fucked a sex worker without condom and not have any symptoms Sex workers are usually 'cleaner'(disease free) than non sex workers tbh" Based 
Thus is backed up by data as well from most sexuality clinics that deal with sexual industry / swingers. | |||
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"It's men that are messaging you demanding this, isn't it " It's usually couples. Though it is the man saying will only meet if you fuck her without a condom. So probably is actually just the men | |||
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"I mean people just meeting someone for the very first time, haven't spoken for 2 minutes without knowing them. All you know they could have just fucked a sex worker without condom and not have any symptoms Sex workers are usually 'cleaner'(disease free) than non sex workers tbh Based
Thus is backed up by data as well from most sexuality clinics that deal with sexual industry / swingers. "My point was they're higher risk. I don't need statistics. Could be just some random, crackhead, wrong un if that helps | |||
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"Even with a regular I don't do bare now, you never know where they are putting it when you aren't seeing them "Yeah I think I'll only do bare with someone I'm more exclusive with. | |||
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"I don’t bare back at all no condoms no meet it’s as simple as that." Good. | |||
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"It's men that are messaging you demanding this, isn't it It's usually couples. Though it is the man saying will only meet if you fuck her without a condom. So probably is actually just the men" Could be a fantasy of his. | |||
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"It's men that are messaging you demanding this, isn't it It's usually couples. Though it is the man saying will only meet if you fuck her without a condom. So probably is actually just the men Could be a fantasy of his." It could be. But they should know to approach those who are into bareback. Though I realise most don't read profiles | |||
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"Even with a regular I don't do bare now, you never know where they are putting it when you aren't seeing them "Regular as long-term partner, spouse, etc. Not FB or FWB... they get latexed too. | |||
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"Even with a regular I don't do bare now, you never know where they are putting it when you aren't seeing them
Regular as long-term partner, spouse, etc. Not FB or FWB... they get latexed too." | |||
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"Even with a regular I don't do bare now, you never know where they are putting it when you aren't seeing them
Regular as long-term partner, spouse, etc. Not FB or FWB... they get latexed too."The only time I've ever had less than an all clear was a year into a supposedly monogamous relationship when I'd been testing every 3 months out of habit anyway 💜 | |||
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"I can’t say that I’ve seen those comments on profiles, maybe it’s a Leeds thing? Could be a Leeds thing. But it is often in messages. I've had a few messages wanting only bare but saying nothing on their profile about safe sex" I assure you it is not a Leeds thing. I’m extremely diligent when it comes to safe sex. Saying it’s a Leeds thing is just ridiculous. It’s a thing and geography plays no part it’s a preference. | |||
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"I can’t say that I’ve seen those comments on profiles, maybe it’s a Leeds thing? Could be a Leeds thing. But it is often in messages. I've had a few messages wanting only bare but saying nothing on their profile about safe sex I assure you it is not a Leeds thing. I’m extremely diligent when it comes to safe sex. Saying it’s a Leeds thing is just ridiculous. It’s a thing and geography plays no part it’s a preference. " It is not a Leeds thing. I just agree when I assume an insult. | |||
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"I can’t say that I’ve seen those comments on profiles, maybe it’s a Leeds thing? Could be a Leeds thing. But it is often in messages. I've had a few messages wanting only bare but saying nothing on their profile about safe sex I assure you it is not a Leeds thing. I’m extremely diligent when it comes to safe sex. Saying it’s a Leeds thing is just ridiculous. It’s a thing and geography plays no part it’s a preference. It is not a Leeds thing. I just agree when I assume an insult." • I don't think he was insulting you. I interpreted it as a pithy tongue-in-cheek quip, and nothing more. 🩶 | |||
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"I've never come across a profile or a message that discussed bareback sex. The messages that I receive mostly fall in line with my requirements / preferences, and are almost always from women who conform to my demographic. I'm not sure how you're attracting such miscreants, OP. People have their preferences and good luck to them, but they shouldn't really be 'guilt-tripping' you as a nonconformist." I get all kinds of propositions. Most of which are of no interest to me. I don't think I have any message filters, just cos I'm lonely and I like seeing a new message whether I like the content or not. Also people will never pressure me to do things I strongly object to | |||
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"I can’t say that I’ve seen those comments on profiles, maybe it’s a Leeds thing? Could be a Leeds thing. But it is often in messages. I've had a few messages wanting only bare but saying nothing on their profile about safe sex I assure you it is not a Leeds thing. I’m extremely diligent when it comes to safe sex. Saying it’s a Leeds thing is just ridiculous. It’s a thing and geography plays no part it’s a preference. It is not a Leeds thing. I just agree when I assume an insult. • I don't think he was insulting you. I interpreted it as a pithy tongue-in-cheek quip, and nothing more. 🩶" Probably. But I am extremely tired, I may be reading messages in an unintended tone | |||
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"I've never come across a profile or a message that discussed bareback sex. The messages that I receive mostly fall in line with my requirements / preferences, and are almost always from women who conform to my demographic. I'm not sure how you're attracting such miscreants, OP. People have their preferences and good luck to them, but they shouldn't really be 'guilt-tripping' you as a nonconformist. I get all kinds of propositions. Most of which are of no interest to me. I don't think I have any message filters, just cos I'm lonely and I like seeing a new message whether I like the content or not. Also people will never pressure me to do things I strongly object to" • I have no message filters either. My drawbridge is lowered and my portcullis is up and yet those fåir måidens beat a path to the door of my heart. 😉 | |||
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"OP would need to ask the people he's been attracted to and communicated with, for their reasons and testing regime and results. " Too right. | |||
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"I mean people just meeting someone for the very first time, haven't spoken for 2 minutes without knowing them. All you know they could have just fucked a sex worker without condom and not have any symptoms Sex workers are usually 'cleaner'(disease free) than non sex workers tbh" There's a 2011 epidemiological study from England (Mc Grath-Lone et al) that suggests otherwise saying that female sex workers 'were twice as likely as other female attendees to be diagnosed with chlamydia and almost three times more likely to be diagnosed with gonorrhoea, but there was no significant difference in the period prevalence of HIV or syphilis.' As with all such studies there are variations across demographics but this was one of the take homes that was striking. FSWs have access to a high quality GUM clinic network but there are geographical inequalities and 10% of FSWs in the study didn't have an STI/HIV test at presentation. | |||
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"I mean people just meeting someone for the very first time, haven't spoken for 2 minutes without knowing them. All you know they could have just fucked a sex worker without condom and not have any symptoms Sex workers are usually 'cleaner'(disease free) than non sex workers tbh There's a 2011 epidemiological study from England (Mc Grath-Lone et al) that suggests otherwise saying that female sex workers 'were twice as likely as other female attendees to be diagnosed with chlamydia and almost three times more likely to be diagnosed with gonorrhoea, but there was no significant difference in the period prevalence of HIV or syphilis.' As with all such studies there are variations across demographics but this was one of the take homes that was striking. FSWs have access to a high quality GUM clinic network but there are geographical inequalities and 10% of FSWs in the study didn't have an STI/HIV test at presentation. " LOl thats from 2011 my man we are in 2024 soon to be 2025 ... get new data from all the current primary sexual clinics | |||
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"I mean people just meeting someone for the very first time, haven't spoken for 2 minutes without knowing them. All you know they could have just fucked a sex worker without condom and not have any symptoms" why would fucking a sex worker even without a condom mean they have symptoms... To be fair we won't do bare but do oral without. I'd not assume someone wanted to spread anything. More that they prefer it.. we just make it clear it's condoms or no meet x | |||
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"I'll just say this...lots of people that have safe sex only on their profiles don't practice what they preach..." This is very very true.. we practice safer sex..we are very proactive with our testing. And have things that suit us. Neither of us would risk bare back with anyone but each other though. | |||
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"Well thanks for the last few comments. I will just avoid sex. Seems only way to be safe" Living the life of celibacy eh? | |||
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"Well thanks for the last few comments. I will just avoid sex. Seems only way to be safe Living the life of celibacy eh? " Best way it seems | |||
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"Even with a regular I don't do bare now, you never know where they are putting it when you aren't seeing them "All too true, unfortunately! | |||
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"I only type on here while wearing latex gloves… just to be sure!! "Good choice. You can't be too careful | |||
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"I can’t say that I’ve seen those comments on profiles, maybe it’s a Leeds thing? " Definitely not a Leeds thing in my book. But each to their own I suppose. What right do we have to judge and criticise the choices of others... | |||
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"I only type on here while wearing latex gloves… just to be sure!! "Probably better to wear goggles too! | |||
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"I only type on here while wearing latex gloves… just to be sure!!
Probably better to wear goggles too!"There's some great suggestions on here. Think I'll wear a face mask as well | |||
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"I only type on here while wearing latex gloves… just to be sure!!
Probably better to wear goggles too!
There's some great suggestions on here. Think I'll wear a face mask as well"Im now dressed in kit approved for Chernobyl level nuclear incidents…. Ready to answer PM’s | |||
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"I'll just say this...lots of people that have safe sex only on their profiles don't practice what they preach..." lol this is most accurate statement here
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