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By *orthwestswinger888 OP   Man
12 weeks ago

wigan

Looking to go to a club soon for first time. Would like some advice on being a single male how to possible approach it

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Depending on the club, they might have a group chat going for the night you are going to so you can mingle there.

Make sure you have been accepted as a member if need be before you go. Take ID with you.

Make sure you have cash or a card in case phones have to be handed in or left in a locker.

Dress nice, mingle, be friendly and try to engage in conversations if you can.

Biggest rule of all is don't go expecting sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

For the first time don't pick a club that requires membership.

Go with the mine set that it's an experience not a guarantee of any action.

Also pick a club and a night that is to your taste, for example I don't like clubs that have porn on every TV or one that plays music so you can't have a decent chat.

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By *orthwestswinger888 OP   Man
12 weeks ago

wigan


"Depending on the club, they might have a group chat going for the night you are going to so you can mingle there.

Make sure you have been accepted as a member if need be before you go. Take ID with you.

Thought u had to dress down in clubs tho?

Make sure you have cash or a card in case phones have to be handed in or left in a locker.

Dress nice, mingle, be friendly and try to engage in conversations if you can.

Biggest rule of all is don't go expecting sex."

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By *orthwestswinger888 OP   Man
12 weeks ago

wigan


"For the first time don't pick a club that requires membership.

Go with the mine set that it's an experience not a guarantee of any action.

Also pick a club and a night that is to your taste, for example I don't like clubs that have porn on every TV or one that plays music so you can't have a decent chat. OK thank you

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By *uvs2watchherCouple
12 weeks ago

newcastle

Be polite. Be nice. Pay attention to the woman. We like that!!! Xx

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By *outhstaffscoupleCouple
12 weeks ago

Cannock


"Depending on the club, they might have a group chat going for the night you are going to so you can mingle there.

Make sure you have been accepted as a member if need be before you go. Take ID with you.

Make sure you have cash or a card in case phones have to be handed in or left in a locker.

Dress nice, mingle, be friendly and try to engage in conversations if you can.

Biggest rule of all is don't go expecting sex."

Great advice, same as the advice you gave us when we first joined fab. Always there to answer our questions. Nicest couple on here ❤️

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Approach it like going to any other club. Dress up. Be friendly. Don't touch.

If you are invited to participate be respectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

And always engage with the male half of the couple. They are a couple afterall.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
12 weeks ago

Norwichish

Take the tour with the staff, have a good chat with staff. They will likely introduce you to people they know to be friendly on the way round.

Listen to the staff and any rules they have in the club.

Chat to people you find attractive don’t go with the attitude that anyone will do.

If anyone is interested in you they’ll let you know. If you do pluck up courage to ask someone if they would be interested in some fun don’t be disappointed if they say no.

Go for the experience and atmosphere as much as anything else.

Also if the club you are going to is local or an hour or so down the road go to some of the local munches/socials, undoubtedly you’ll then find some familiar faces at the club.

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By *orthwestswinger888 OP   Man
12 weeks ago

wigan

Ok thanks everyone much appreciated

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
12 weeks ago

Stoke


"And always engage with the male half of the couple. They are a couple afterall."

That's more important than speaking to the female, you're not getting far if he dissaproves.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
12 weeks ago

Chester


"Looking to go to a club soon for first time. Would like some advice on being a single male how to possible approach it "

Ewooooo!

Ok, so message the representative/staff on here or their website first. Look at the events. I personally recommend the social events because they're cheaper and in my opinion, that's where a man gets to shine.

You can go to such events for around £20. Ask the staff whether it's going to be busy or not. Watch out for dead venues.

Some have member/non member bollocks. Watch out for that too.

When you get in, you'll probably be asked to dress down. You'll get a towel.

When you're in there, you'll need to be sociable.

Don't follow anyone. Don't do the "wanking dead" thing as they call it.

Try to be as cool as you can. Don't look down, try not to look like a lost lamb (even though you will be at times).

Smile and pretend that you're happy, collected and confident. Talk to anyone, even men. When you talk, try to be confident, make hand gestures and all that so that babes can look over and see how socially strong you are.

What I find is that women will notice you and glance over. They will generally wait for you to make the first move, but not always.

Be mindful that if you approach one woman, you can completely f*ck yourself over. For example, if you approach a slim woman, bigger women can get funny. If you approach a woman with big boobies, you can offend the ones with pretty little ones, etc. Women watch everything ffs.

Anyway, let any chats develop. I personally wait for the woman to make the moves or make it absolutely obvious before I do anything more.

If you go in with a mentality like "I'm going to meet new friends and I'm not having sex", you should do well.

Good luck. 🫢

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By *hundererMan
12 weeks ago

Romsey

Some really sage advice on here. I'm in a similar position so will be taking it. Thanks guys

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By *orthwestswinger888 OP   Man
12 weeks ago

wigan


"Looking to go to a club soon for first time. Would like some advice on being a single male how to possible approach it

Ewooooo!

Ok, so message the representative/staff on here or their website first. Look at the events. I personally recommend the social events because they're cheaper and in my opinion, that's where a man gets to shine.

You can go to such events for around £20. Ask the staff whether it's going to be busy or not. Watch out for dead venues.

Some have member/non member bollocks. Watch out for that too.

When you get in, you'll probably be asked to dress down. You'll get a towel.

When you're in there, you'll need to be sociable.

Don't follow anyone. Don't do the "wanking dead" thing as they call it.

Try to be as cool as you can. Don't look down, try not to look like a lost lamb (even though you will be at times).

Smile and pretend that you're happy, collected and confident. Talk to anyone, even men. When you talk, try to be confident, make hand gestures and all that so that babes can look over and see how socially strong you are.

What I find is that women will notice you and glance over. They will generally wait for you to make the first move, but not always.

Be mindful that if you approach one woman, you can completely f*ck yourself over. For example, if you approach a slim woman, bigger women can get funny. If you approach a woman with big boobies, you can offend the ones with pretty little ones, etc. Women watch everything ffs.

Anyway, let any chats develop. I personally wait for the woman to make the moves or make it absolutely obvious before I do anything more.

If you go in with a mentality like "I'm going to meet new friends and I'm not having sex", you should do well.

Brilliant thanks alot 👍

Good luck. 🫢"

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago


"Depending on the club, they might have a group chat going for the night you are going to so you can mingle there.

Make sure you have been accepted as a member if need be before you go. Take ID with you.

Make sure you have cash or a card in case phones have to be handed in or left in a locker.

Dress nice, mingle, be friendly and try to engage in conversations if you can.

Biggest rule of all is don't go expecting sex.

Great advice, same as the advice you gave us when we first joined fab. Always there to answer our questions. Nicest couple on here ❤️"

Awwr ❤️

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago


"Looking to go to a club soon for first time. Would like some advice on being a single male how to possible approach it "

I did this a few months back.

Booked onto the guest list, was very polite and respectful. Went with no expectations other than to meet some friendly people. Treated it like being invited to someone's house for a party. Got a tour then explored on my own. Everyone was super friendly and joined in some conversations.

Going for my 2nd visit this weekend.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
12 weeks ago

Norwichish

Eyes Wide Shut currently streaming on Netflix….it won’t be like that 🤣

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