FabSwingers.com forum: What's that all about then???

By *aldy321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huddersfield

I usually look people up who look me up. More often than not I politely reply with a "thanks for looking me up". 9 times out of 10 I am greeted with "the user has blocked all people of your sex".

Why look me up then? What's that all about then???

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By *eneralKenobiMan
3 weeks ago

North Angus

"I usually look people up who look me up. More often than not I politely reply with a "thanks for looking me up". 9 times out of 10 I am greeted with "the user has blocked all people of your sex".

Why look me up then? What's that all about then???"

Just because someone’s lactose intolerant doesn’t mean they can’t walk down the dairy isle 🤷🏻‍♂️

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By *aldy321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"I usually look people up who look me up. More often than not I politely reply with a "thanks for looking me up". 9 times out of 10 I am greeted with "the user has blocked all people of your sex".

Why look me up then? What's that all about then???

Just because someone’s lactose intolerant doesn’t mean they can’t walk down the dairy isle 🤷🏻‍♂️"

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By *enk15Man
3 weeks ago

Evesham

I look at the profiles of people who don’t match my preferences because I’m nosy as fuck.

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By *tephanie63Woman
3 weeks ago

BRIDGWATER

They might be doing their own searching, but don't want unsolicited messages...

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By *ora the explorerWoman
3 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

This is why I never come out of ninja mode. I’m a nosey cow

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By *WANDTGCouple
3 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

Example of this is now, as you've written on the forum it might have piqued someone's interest to look at you to see what type of person wrote this.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
3 weeks ago

Stoke

Why would you thank someone for looking at your profile? They've looked and gone without saying anything, they're not interested in that way surely?

This is exactly why we view in ninja mode.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"I usually look people up who look me up. More often than not I politely reply with a "thanks for looking me up". 9 times out of 10 I am greeted with "the user has blocked all people of your sex".

Why look me up then? What's that all about then???"

The easiest way to find compatible men on here is to block men from messaging and then go looking.

Looking means looking at profiles. If they like the look of them, they can message them, which means the filter no longer applies and that man can message them, because they already initiated communication.

Most of looking is not finding what you're looking for.

If I was in a shop and every item my eyes fell upon was then fully introduced to me by a salesperson, I'd be well out of there without buying anything.

If I wanted it, I'd have bought it. If I picked it up or checked out the packaging and put it back, I've already decided I don't want it 💜

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
3 weeks ago

Leeds

Do you thank everyone for looking at you in day to day life, if so it much be a fucking nightmare trying to get to work.

The mr

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By *wiss Army KnifeMan
3 weeks ago

Second star to the right…

"Do you thank everyone for looking at you in day to day life, if so it much be a fucking nightmare trying to get to work.

The mr "

I just tend to growl at people and give them a murderous look so they get out of my way.

Saves me a lot of time not having to deal out pleasantries 😂

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By *ffy.Woman
3 weeks ago

Fife

People are nosey (myself included) and this is why a lot turn off the option to be shown on the “who looked at me” page

If they have viewed you and haven’t reached out, I’d assume they weren’t interested and go about my day.

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By *Silver-Man
3 weeks ago

Mold

I look at those so they can see who's looked at them and what they are missing out on

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By *aldy321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"I look at the profiles of people who don’t match my preferences because I’m nosy as fuck."

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By *aldy321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"This is why I never come out of ninja mode. I’m a nosey cow "

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By *aldy321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"I look at those so they can see who's looked at them and what they are missing out on

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By *enfleetMaleMan
3 weeks ago

Hadleigh

"I usually look people up who look me up. More often than not I politely reply with a "thanks for looking me up". 9 times out of 10 I am greeted with "the user has blocked all people of your sex".

Why look me up then? What's that all about then???"

The amount of negativity this comment generated is unreal. This is the worst thing about forums. Rather than give a reasonable response like, "I'm just being nosey" people seem to get really defensive. Personally I don't message anyone that looks at me but have nothing against those that do. Carry on using FAB as you see fit, it's your profile and I wish you luck in getting a response. Ignore the fuck sticks that want to put you down for mentioning something you don't like.

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By *orthern_knobberMan
3 weeks ago

manchester

They’re just teasing you, maybe they want you to put the effort in and find out where they live, hang around outside their home and then jump out of a bush with a bunch of flowers.

Or, maybe they’re just nosey and selective and message people who they want, but don’t want to receive mass messages from every account they look at?

Could be either.

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By *aldy321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"Do you thank everyone for looking at you in day to day life, if so it much be a fucking nightmare trying to get to work.

The mr "

As I'm ridiculously unattractive i don't have that problem

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
3 weeks ago

Stoke

"I usually look people up who look me up. More often than not I politely reply with a "thanks for looking me up". 9 times out of 10 I am greeted with "the user has blocked all people of your sex".

Why look me up then? What's that all about then???

So you only like fluffy responses? Think you're misunderstanding what a forum is.

Mr F.

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By *aldy321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"I usually look people up who look me up. More often than not I politely reply with a "thanks for looking me up". 9 times out of 10 I am greeted with "the user has blocked all people of your sex".

Why look me up then? What's that all about then???

Thank you. I was just trying out some forum chatting going and agree with your comments

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"The amount of negativity this comment generated is unreal. This is the worst thing about forums. Rather than give a reasonable response like, "I'm just being nosey" people seem to get really defensive. Personally I don't message anyone that looks at me but have nothing against those that do. Carry on using FAB as you see fit, it's your profile and I wish you luck in getting a response. Ignore the fuck sticks that want to put you down for mentioning something you don't like. "

... What negativity are you speaking of?

Is it not people saying they're just being nosey or making little jokes or giving an actual answer as to OPs question?

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By *enk15Man
3 weeks ago

Evesham

"I usually look people up who look me up. More often than not I politely reply with a "thanks for looking me up". 9 times out of 10 I am greeted with "the user has blocked all people of your sex".

Why look me up then? What's that all about then???

If you think any of the above is negative you probably shouldn't look in other threads.

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By *enfleetMaleMan
3 weeks ago

Hadleigh

This used to be a nice place where people were supportive of each other, where they would advise and be welcoming. Now the forums have become more like any other social media site. Shame really because in the past someone would post something like the OP and would get back advice.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"This used to be a nice place where people were supportive of each other, where they would advise and be welcoming. Now the forums have become more like any other social media site. Shame really because in the past someone would post something like the OP and would get back advice. "

Please indicate which one was not advising the OP of "what that's about" as was asked.

It feels like standing in a queue at the spar and raving about how nobody has any manners any more while pointing fingers at the customers and staff making the usual small talk and friendly interactions as ever right now.

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By *AYENCouple
3 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

Perhaps you should suggest on your profile that if anyone looks at your profile, but doesn't find you to their taste, should block you. It would save you writing those messages. I'm not being negative, just trying to solve your problem.

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By *olinOfBathMan
3 weeks ago

Corsham

"I usually look people up who look me up. More often than not I politely reply with a "thanks for looking me up". 9 times out of 10 I am greeted with "the user has blocked all people of your sex".

Why look me up then? What's that all about then???

Wondering what I'd missed I went back to the beginning and read everything again. Negativity? Where?

I saw no negative comments, but did see some helpful stuff.

The OP now knows that his viewers could have any number of perfectly fair reasons for not wanting his messages.

The OP now realises that messaging his viewers is possibly wasting his own time and theirs.

Correction; I did see some negativity - your rant against other people posting comments.

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By *enelope2UWoman
3 weeks ago

Fife

"I usually look people up who look me up. More often than not I politely reply with a "thanks for looking me up". 9 times out of 10 I am greeted with "the user has blocked all people of your sex".

Why look me up then? What's that all about then???

Just because someone’s lactose intolerant doesn’t mean they can’t walk down the dairy isle 🤷🏻‍♂️"

Lol stealing this!!!

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By *ohnjones3210Man
3 weeks ago

Chester

"I usually look people up who look me up. More often than not I politely reply with a "thanks for looking me up". 9 times out of 10 I am greeted with "the user has blocked all people of your sex".

Why look me up then? What's that all about then???"

I've just checked now, and everyone who's looked at me, I could message without any problems if unwanted to, I'm not blocked. You're probably just going through a phase.

However, getting to the problem, people do look. I look at profiles too for no real reason. Sometimes I'm just curious.

I even look at the odd man's profile occasionally. Has this guy got game? Can I learn anything from his profile? Do I need to bump this guy off? Just because I look though doesn't mean that I'm interested in him.

The same goes for women. Sometimes I just want to have a look and nothing more. Sometimes, I just want to check her boobies out (b/c cups are a delicacy!) and that's fine.

If you think about it, messaging someone and saying "thanks for looking at me" - it's really not a good look is it?

Imagine it in real life, some woman has a glance at you in the train station, so you creep up to her and say "thanks for looking at me"... It's creepy as fuck.

It's better to confidently go up to her and say "Excuse me, when's the next train?". Maintain your dignity and pride, give her a snippet, and let her work for the attention (if she wants it).

As a side point, blocking males, it's because they can't be arsed with receiving a trillion bullshit messages a day. Thank our fellow competitors for that!

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By *eneralKenobiMan
3 weeks ago

North Angus

"Just because someone’s lactose intolerant doesn’t mean they can’t walk down the dairy isle 🤷🏻‍♂️

Lol stealing this!!!"

I’m fairly sure I stole it from a meme 😂

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By *urvyownedsubCouple
3 weeks ago

Rochdale

"Why would you thank someone for looking at your profile? They've looked and gone without saying anything, they're not interested in that way surely?

This is exactly why we view in ninja mode. "

What is ninja mode please and how do you apply it?

As for the OP post, I guess a lot of people like to have a nosey at profiles, whether it's the profile pic that catches initial attention or after reading a comment on a thread or a forum post

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Why would you thank someone for looking at your profile? They've looked and gone without saying anything, they're not interested in that way surely?

This is exactly why we view in ninja mode.

What is ninja mode please and how do you apply it?

As for the OP post, I guess a lot of people like to have a nosey at profiles, whether it's the profile pic that catches initial attention or after reading a comment on a thread or a forum post"

Account, privacy settings, one of the top ones is Hide on who's looked at me.

It helps escape the endless saw you looking messages if you haven't blocked single men from messaging 💜

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By *aldy321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"Why would you thank someone for looking at your profile? They've looked and gone without saying anything, they're not interested in that way surely?

This is exactly why we view in ninja mode.

It's the fact I am a single man but people who look me up don't want messages from men. So why look me up

What is ninja mode please and how do you apply it?

As for the OP post, I guess a lot of people like to have a nosey at profiles, whether it's the profile pic that catches initial attention or after reading a comment on a thread or a forum post

Account, privacy settings, one of the top ones is Hide on who's looked at me.

It helps escape the endless saw you looking messages if you haven't blocked single men from messaging 💜"

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By *indergirlWoman
3 weeks ago

somewhere, someplace

Because they can OP, looking doesn't mean interest, a tiny profile pic doesn't give much away about a profile so the only option is to look at it and then see of its of interest. Still doesn't mean they are interested because they looked

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"It's the fact I am a single man but people who look me up don't want messages from men. So why look me up "

Because when you open the floodgates and allow men to message you don't have time to actually look for someone suitable as all your fab time is taken up dealing with the constant messages from unsuitable suitors.

They're looking to see if they want to reach out to you. By leaving your page without doing so they're obviously deciding to keep looking elsewhere.

Or, just nosing. Sometimes I'll scan through local or forum user profiles just to see what people are about, without the remotest interest in ever speaking to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Because we are just having a browse. The shop window is there we may as well look in.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Central

It will only ever be a minority of people who evaluate someone, who finds they may like them. But they don't know, unless they get to look

If you're one of the minority of Fab users who uses the forum, you'll also generate viewers too, out of curiosity

Overall, it's reasonable to assume that people who view you can be relied on to make contact, if they want to

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By *aldy321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huddersfield

Absolutely!

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By *entlemanH666Man
3 weeks ago

Midlands

This was the only negative and non constructive comment I could find on this thread

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By *he Silver FuxMan
3 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

"I usually look people up who look me up. More often than not I politely reply with a "thanks for looking me up". 9 times out of 10 I am greeted with "the user has blocked all people of your sex".

Why look me up then? What's that all about then???"

They want to see how shiny your dome is, they want to check out your baggy pants… but they absolutely do not want any men to be able to message them because this place is a fucking zoo and most men on here are socially and emotionally inept and believe that ugly dick pics is what attracts women.

🙄

If they like what they see in a profile, they can get in touch.

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By *annyDanielleMan
3 weeks ago

Street, Somerset

"I usually look people up who look me up. More often than not I politely reply with a "thanks for looking me up". 9 times out of 10 I am greeted with "the user has blocked all people of your sex".

Why look me up then? What's that all about then???"

They look then they block, clearly you don't do it for them and blocking saves them from looking again. It's not rocket science.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
3 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

I usually keep ninja mode switched on, mostly because I don't want someone messaging me acknowledging the fact I looked at them, either positively or negatively.

If certain threads that get regularly made in the forums are anything to go by, some people can get really tetchy about being looked at by the "wrong type of person". As if it was your fault for seeing their freely-accessible, public internet profile, that they created off their own volition 🙄

Profile views are pretty meaningless anyway. If someone was really that interested, they'd interact with you in some way.

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By *8on33Man
3 weeks ago

winfrith

They thought you were too hot for them ,maybe .

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By *heelerMan
3 weeks ago

Northants

I look on updates and if someone catches my eye I look at their profile just to see what sort of person the age range the distance might look what they are into and 9 times out 10 I fail the tick box.

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By *aldy321 OP Man
3 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"I usually look people up who look me up. More often than not I politely reply with a "thanks for looking me up". 9 times out of 10 I am greeted with "the user has blocked all people of your sex".

Why look me up then? What's that all about then???

They look then they block, clearly you don't do it for them and blocking saves them from looking again. It's not rocket science.

It's not specifically blocking me. It's blocking all "people of my sex". So why look up people you don't have an attraction to. As an earlier post mentioned, they are probably looking through couples verifications then "happen across mine for nosiness"

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