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"I don't think I know any narcissists. How would I identify one?" Everyone’s a narcissist now don’t you know. It’s the latest fashion darling. (Spoken in a Joanna lumley “Patsy” accent | |||
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"I read an interesting article about narcissists and it was about why silence is the best response to a narcesissts. Did you know that being silent to them is an excellent way to go if you are serious about getting rid of them? They added that the less you say to a narcissist, the stronger you will become, because they have this tendency to think of the worst things until paranoia sets in their mind. That got me thinking, it would be interesting to see your view about it, did you know the importance of being silent to them, also if you had to deal with one, have you tried this tecnique too and how did it go? "Ewoooo! Someone is always saying something, if you know what I mean. Whatever you do, there will be another side to the story or some counter-claim. I agree with this particular one though. The way forward is to completely ignore, yes, it worked for me. Although a friend of mine was talking about this last week and she said "ignoring is a narcissistic trait". You can't win whatever you do!  | |||
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"I don't think I know any narcissists. How would I identify one? Everyone’s a narcissist now don’t you know. It’s the latest fashion darling. (Spoken in a Joanna lumley “Patsy” accent "
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"I read an interesting article about narcissists and it was about why silence is the best response to a narcesissts. Did you know that being silent to them is an excellent way to go if you are serious about getting rid of them? Educate yourself on covert passive aggressive narcissists. There's other types of narcissists but COVERT is hard to recognise as they are nice to you. They added that the less you say to a narcissist, the stronger you will become, because they have this tendency to think of the worst things until paranoia sets in their mind. That got me thinking, it would be interesting to see your view about it, did you know the importance of being silent to them, also if you had to deal with one, have you tried this tecnique too and how did it go? " | |||
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"I don't think I know any narcissists. How would I identify one? Everyone’s a narcissist now don’t you know. It’s the latest fashion darling. (Spoken in a Joanna lumley “Patsy” accent
It seems that everyone is able to diagnose this condition "They make out they do but do they ? | |||
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"I don't think I know any narcissists. How would I identify one? Everyone’s a narcissist now don’t you know. It’s the latest fashion darling. (Spoken in a Joanna lumley “Patsy” accent
It seems that everyone is able to diagnose this condition They make out they do but do they ?"No idea. I suspect we could all identify narcissistic traits in other people and ourselves (if, unlike me we knew what they were) but I'd rather leave it to professionals to diagnose personality disorders or whatever narcissism is. | |||
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"I don't think I know any narcissists. How would I identify one?" Is this one of those "if you don't know who the crazy person on the bus is, then it's you" sort of thing? | |||
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"I don't think I know any narcissists. How would I identify one? Everyone’s a narcissist now don’t you know. It’s the latest fashion darling. (Spoken in a Joanna lumley “Patsy” accent
It seems that everyone is able to diagnose this condition "It does. It’s mainly nonsense though. Basically anyone who they don’t like or get on with is labelled as a narcissist. I’ve noticed that the ones doing the accusing might benefit from taking a leaf out of Narcissus’ book and take a look at their reflection. | |||
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"I don't think I know any narcissists. How would I identify one? Is this one of those "if you don't know who the crazy person on the bus is, then it's you" sort of thing? "It might be 🤔. I do like daffidils | |||
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"I read an interesting article about narcissists and it was about why silence is the best response to a narcesissts. Did you know that being silent to them is an excellent way to go if you are serious about getting rid of them? They added that the less you say to a narcissist, the stronger you will become, because they have this tendency to think of the worst things until paranoia sets in their mind. That got me thinking, it would be interesting to see your view about it, did you know the importance of being silent to them, also if you had to deal with one, have you tried this tecnique too and how did it go? "I learned this the hard way. I'm naturally a communicator. If there's a problem then I prefer to talk about it and try to reach a solution. Unfortunately that's not possible with a narcissist. You may get the chance to have that adult conversation, you may even get some acceptance that your reasoning and logic is sound but it'll be superficial and nothing meaningful will change. The narcissists behaviour will happen again as they didn't actually agree with you, just lacked the ability to argue against you. That in itself becomes it's own problem because you must have used some word-wizardry to bamboozle and confound. Big words become bemoaned and berated as weapons. Another stick to beat you with. In the end, only silence can win. My new favourite saying... The peace I feel without your presence in my life is worth being the villain in your story. | |||
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"I don't think I know any narcissists. How would I identify one?" Is this one of those awkward "if you can't see a narcissist in the room then you're it" moments? #Awkward  | |||
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"I don't think I know any narcissists. How would I identify one?" Yes, it could be difficult to identify one, they have a personality disorder and there are few signs of it, where the main one is the lack of empathy and consideration for other people. | |||
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"I don't think I know any narcissists. How would I identify one? Everyone’s a narcissist now don’t you know. It’s the latest fashion darling. (Spoken in a Joanna lumley “Patsy” accent
It seems that everyone is able to diagnose this condition They make out they do but do they ?
No idea. I suspect we could all identify narcissistic traits in other people and ourselves (if, unlike me we knew what they were) but I'd rather leave it to professionals to diagnose personality disorders or whatever narcissism is."Surely they are just personalities ,people if we were all the same wouldn't it be a dull place ,just because we don't especially enjoy that trait doesn't make it wrong . | |||
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"Yeah best thing to do with these people is just to go no contact " Hi _andynecklace, yes, you are right there, having no contact with them is the best way too | |||
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"I don't think I know any narcissists. How would I identify one? Is this one of those awkward "if you can't see a narcissist in the room then you're it" moments? #Awkward "As I said above it could be but how would I know? | |||
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"Narcissists, can be the most charming of people, however that is a well oiled element of their manipulation tool box. They are devoid of empathy. The world is their stage, they are the leading star, and everyone else is an extra . These extras are there to caress and stroke the fragile ego of the Narcissist. Most have invested emotionally before they realise. The loss of breaking up with a Narcissist is complex, as the physical person is still there, but the projected persona was never real. Never feed the Narcissist with attention. Withdraw and move on. Usually with the benefit of counselling. I have clinical training, and have encountered several Narcissists, and their victims." At a rough estimate what percentage of the population would you say were genuine, clinically diagnosed narcissists? | |||
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"They aren't narcissists, just arseholes" I would agree with this. The word is thrown about willy nilly these days | |||
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"They aren't narcissists, just arseholes I would agree with this. The word is thrown about willy nilly these days " Seems the whole world and their dog can be classed as one! | |||
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"They aren't narcissists, just arseholes I would agree with this. The word is thrown about willy nilly these days Seems the whole world and their dog can be classed as one! " Everyone’s ex seems to be one! | |||
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"Narcissists, can be the most charming of people, however that is a well oiled element of their manipulation tool box. They are devoid of empathy. The world is their stage, they are the leading star, and everyone else is an extra . These extras are there to caress and stroke the fragile ego of the Narcissist. Most have invested emotionally before they realise. The loss of breaking up with a Narcissist is complex, as the physical person is still there, but the projected persona was never real. Never feed the Narcissist with attention. Withdraw and move on. Usually with the benefit of counselling. I have clinical training, and have encountered several Narcissists, and their victims. At a rough estimate what percentage of the population would you say were genuine, clinically diagnosed narcissists?" Upto 5% of the UK population is believed to have narcissistic personality disorder- NPD | |||
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"Narcissists, can be the most charming of people, however that is a well oiled element of their manipulation tool box. They are devoid of empathy. The world is their stage, they are the leading star, and everyone else is an extra . These extras are there to caress and stroke the fragile ego of the Narcissist. Most have invested emotionally before they realise. The loss of breaking up with a Narcissist is complex, as the physical person is still there, but the projected persona was never real. Never feed the Narcissist with attention. Withdraw and move on. Usually with the benefit of counselling. I have clinical training, and have encountered several Narcissists, and their victims. At a rough estimate what percentage of the population would you say were genuine, clinically diagnosed narcissists? Upto 5% of the UK population is believed to have narcissistic personality disorder- NPD" Therefore 95% or more aren't which means most of us have very little chance of meeting a narcissist would you say? | |||
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"Yep, currently working with one. I ignore him, then he asks baffling questions, so curt response of "Not sure"" That is good you are ignoring him too  | |||
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"The silent treatment or ignoring someone is a narcissistic trait. If it is known that it will push them into overthinking and paranoia and mental health then it's not a good thing to do. You post so many threads about narcissists Shag.... they seem to interest you but never lose sight that they are human and never set out to suffer from narcissism. It's quite unnerving to see them singled out as a section of society to demonise. True I don't want narcissists in my life but then at one time we were ignorant of ADHD , Aspergers, Depression Autism and conditions like Bi Polar and there would have been uncaring , ignorant , incorrect posts about those people too. Narcissism isn't a label that should be attached to someone who is just a twat you had a run in with. It's a bone fide categorisable condition. " The voice of reason again Granny. People can claim to be empathic and good all round sorts, but are happy to “not piss on people if they were on fire”. | |||
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"The silent treatment or ignoring someone is a narcissistic trait. If it is known that it will push them into overthinking and paranoia and mental health then it's not a good thing to do. You post so many threads about narcissists Shag.... they seem to interest you but never lose sight that they are human and never set out to suffer from narcissism. It's quite unnerving to see them singled out as a section of society to demonise. True I don't want narcissists in my life but then at one time we were ignorant of ADHD , Aspergers, Depression Autism and conditions like Bi Polar and there would have been uncaring , ignorant , incorrect posts about those people too. Narcissism isn't a label that should be attached to someone who is just a twat you had a run in with. It's a bone fide categorisable condition. The voice of reason again Granny. People can claim to be empathic and good all round sorts, but are happy to “not piss on people if they were on fire”. " Live and learn as you go. I tend to be wary of the all around nice people that are always ‘aww hubby’ as that seems to be a trait looking for attention or kudos. More straightforward people might seem less approachable but don’t play at that sort of thing. | |||
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"They tend to like an audience, so silence stops that happening. " Hi _arnelian, yes, you are right there, silence stops that happening too | |||
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