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By *tealthbomber2024 OP   Man
12 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

So, if you send a message to a woman and it is labelled "read" it is obviously good practice to leave it as is. (not your type etc) However, if a message is unread, nor deleted ,even after a few days or a week, what is the best practice?

Help please

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By *aybeLadyWoman
12 weeks ago

West Dublin

Its a silent response of not interested x

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

SHould you go left or go right?

You better make a forum post.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
12 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Send them a dick pic against a can of lynx.

Or a FAF, bound to get a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Sometimes I leave people unread to remind myself to go back and respond when I can. But then sometimes that list gets a bit out of control and I can’t.

So in my instance, a gentle nudge to remind me that you’re there would help as I was (at some point) going to reply and your new hilarious engaging message will push you to the top again.

My way of doing things is probably not that popular though but thought I’d share (if it makes any sense!)

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By *tealthbomber2024 OP   Man
12 weeks ago

southend-on-sea


"Sometimes I leave people unread to remind myself to go back and respond when I can. But then sometimes that list gets a bit out of control and I can’t.

So in my instance, a gentle nudge to remind me that you’re there would help as I was (at some point) going to reply and your new hilarious engaging message will push you to the top again.

My way of doing things is probably not that popular though but thought I’d share (if it makes any sense!)

"

That was a point that I was hoping would be addressed. IF you accumulate a lot of messages whilst away, how would a person know the message had even been seen... (hence your prompt)

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By *hrobbinHood87Man
12 weeks ago

norwich

I tend to send one message, read or unread if there’s no reply I doubt I’ll message them again

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By *eroLondonMan
12 weeks ago

Mayfair

If you send a message to a woman...you nonchalantly delete it from your Sent 'folder' immediately, with no cause or concern or care of its fate.

If, at some point, you receive a reply then all the better.

There is no best practice or protocol other than the aforementioned suggestion. Sending a follow up message often (but not necessarily always) leads to disappointment.

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By *vaRose43Woman
12 weeks ago

Forest of Dean


"Sometimes I leave people unread to remind myself to go back and respond when I can. But then sometimes that list gets a bit out of control and I can’t.

So in my instance, a gentle nudge to remind me that you’re there would help as I was (at some point) going to reply and your new hilarious engaging message will push you to the top again.

My way of doing things is probably not that popular though but thought I’d share (if it makes any sense!)

"

This for me

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By *eekySweetheartWoman
12 weeks ago

Hampshire


"Sometimes I leave people unread to remind myself to go back and respond when I can. But then sometimes that list gets a bit out of control and I can’t.

So in my instance, a gentle nudge to remind me that you’re there would help as I was (at some point) going to reply and your new hilarious engaging message will push you to the top again.

My way of doing things is probably not that popular though but thought I’d share (if it makes any sense!)

"

I do this too. A gently nudge by sending another (nice) message is fine. Sending ????????? Just makes me block. See also sending 10+ nudging messages.

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By *tealthbomber2024 OP   Man
12 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

Thanks for your replies.

Off to work soon grrr.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
12 weeks ago

Leeds

Sometimes I just can't be arsed to open a message especially if I've checked the profile and know we aren't compatible at all or they've not read mine.

Sometimes I'll mark it unread to go back to it later.

Mrs

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By *eliWoman
12 weeks ago

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The best approach OP? If someone wants to reply, they will. If they don't want to? They don't. There's no point giving headspace as to why that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

We get to messages in our own time.

Sending a follow up to ask about the first will just get a dude blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Follow it up with an angry rant about how it’s not hard and just basic manners to send a simple reply, that’ll get her attention and then before you know it, Robert’s your dads brother and she’s on your dick.

Bish, bish, bash.

Follow me for more helpful dating tips.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
12 weeks ago

Newcastle

I don’t like receiving repeat messages. If I’m interested, I’ll reply the first time.

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By *ryorkshirepleaserMan
12 weeks ago

Yorkshire

Most of mine are under read

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
12 weeks ago

Coventry

If unread (and maybe deleted) I think it's OK to give it a week or two to try again. Sometimes your timing could have just been bad. For example they may have just not been looking for anyone new at that time, been busy with other life stuff or simply you were lost in the sea of massages. I know from personal experience I a meet with a woman on the second attempt a few weeks later. Chatting to her she said she'd just not seen/noticed my first message (she had 100s). So you can try again a bit down the line but don't bombard people.

Mr

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By *HUSH-Man
12 weeks ago

London


"The best approach OP? If someone wants to reply, they will. If they don't want to? They don't. There's no point giving headspace as to why that is."

This

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By *oralltherightreasonsCouple
12 weeks ago

WELLINGBOROUGH

Personally if it's left unread we would leave it, and would hope for the same from others to us as well

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By *imply_SensualMan
12 weeks ago

Widnes

Best Practice is to not check your sent items. That way, you can concentrate on things if you get a response. If no response, assume 'not interested'

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
12 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Read or unread, the only messages worth worrying about are the ones that are replies. 🤷‍♂️

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
12 weeks ago

wonderland.


"So, if you send a message to a woman and it is labelled "read" it is obviously good practice to leave it as is. (not your type etc) However, if a message is unread, nor deleted ,even after a few days or a week, what is the best practice?

Help please "
she may have read it.. but then put it back to unread to go back to. Or maybe not interested.

Just delete sent items and you won't know x

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Sometimes it can just be missed amongst the sea of yellow

I accidentally deleted one yesterday that i didn't mean to

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
12 weeks ago

Stoke


"So, if you send a message to a woman and it is labelled "read" it is obviously good practice to leave it as is. (not your type etc) However, if a message is unread, nor deleted ,even after a few days or a week, what is the best practice?

Help please "

Delete your sent messages, job done 👍

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By *tticusukMan
12 weeks ago

Formby


"So, if you send a message to a woman and it is labelled "read" it is obviously good practice to leave it as is. (not your type etc) However, if a message is unread, nor deleted ,even after a few days or a week, what is the best practice?

Help please "

They are also uninterested.

No one likes a pest. Leave it at one message and be done with it!

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago


"Sometimes it can just be missed amongst the sea of yellow

I accidentally deleted one yesterday that i didn't mean to "

I forgive you.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
12 weeks ago

North West

Try again later, women and couples get bombarded on here. Usually if I'm interested and it is unread, I will try again. If it is still on unread second time, I usually don't bother again.

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By *ffervescentMan
12 weeks ago

winfrith


"So, if you send a message to a woman and it is labelled "read" it is obviously good practice to leave it as is. (not your type etc) However, if a message is unread, nor deleted ,even after a few days or a week, what is the best practice?

Help please "
If they haven't physically read it then yes their is a chance but how would you know they can mark the message unread and may have discounted you already .

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

If a woman wants to meet me and wants to meet me enough they'll message me or reply to a message I sent them. If they don't then at least I did what I could. I'll make myself known and take any non response as a no thank you.

I've had people message back but with just a few words, again, I'll take that as not interested and move on.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
12 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Delete from your sent messages and don't dwell on it. Everyone uses the system differently.

Deleting from your outbox doesn't delete it from their inbox.

If you forget and go to message them again, supporters have a helpful note at the top of a profile when viewing of when last messages were sent, and I believe the site pops up to tell you you've previously sent a message to no response if that's the case.

No point dwelling on it or worrying about it.

Focus on the messages that do get a positive response and work out how to make the rest more effective in future 💜

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By *tealthbomber2024 OP   Man
12 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

Thank you all for your replies which ranged from ["gently nudge with a humorous message on a 2nd go, if you didnt get a "read" or "deleted", in a couple of weeks], to ["don't bother pal, we read every message so do one, okay?"], to ["delete your sent messages and wait for replies"], to "get your crystal ball out and look for answers.

I think I'll just eat some crisps, anyone?

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By *tr8MrEMan
12 weeks ago

Shireoaks, Worksop

Delete yourself and move on. She's either unindated with message's daily or she just isn't interested. Follow the rules, don't re-message

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By *enk15Man
12 weeks ago

Evesham


"Thank you all for your replies which ranged from ["gently nudge with a humorous message on a 2nd go, if you didnt get a "read" or "deleted", in a couple of weeks], to ["don't bother pal, we read every message so do one, okay?"], to ["delete your sent messages and wait for replies"], to "get your crystal ball out and look for answers.

I think I'll just eat some crisps, anyone?

"

Good luck out there, OP, good luck

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By *tealthbomber2024 OP   Man
12 weeks ago

southend-on-sea


"Thank you all for your replies which ranged from ["gently nudge with a humorous message on a 2nd go, if you didnt get a "read" or "deleted", in a couple of weeks], to ["don't bother pal, we read every message so do one, okay?"], to ["delete your sent messages and wait for replies"], to "get your crystal ball out and look for answers.

I think I'll just eat some crisps, anyone?

Good luck out there, OP, good luck "

currently eating seriously saucy co op limited edition (very limited, soon...)

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