FabSwingers.com forum: How much is intelligence and connection important.

By *apperjg OP Man
4 weeks ago

Liverpool

I love the psychology of sex.

There will be two clubs here the the one club were people can fuck anything with no attachments.

The other that needs connection shared interests and notices.

What does it for you.

How much is fantasy role play submission or control important on fabswingers.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
4 weeks ago

Leeds

Very important, any holes a goal doesn't do it for me.

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
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4 weeks ago

East Sussex

I don't need a load of shared interests but I do need a surface level of mutual friendliness. I'd be daft if I thought I could know someone well after a brief social.

As to your last paragraph I think those things hold different importance to each individual

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By *runette n JayCouple
4 weeks ago

bilston

There has to be chemistry so connection is important.

As far as intelligence goes it's not that important. Vs the masses I'm very intelligent yet have really close friends who struggled academically, 1 to the point of I was the one who taught him to read when we were in year 6. It's more about interests rather than knowledge and having the fantastic ability to talk absolute crap 💩 🤣

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
4 weeks ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

A certain level of connection with the mind be it playful or humorous is needed in my opinion. A mere slab of meat being sexy or otherwise can be a turn off to me

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
4 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Sometimes all I want is a pretty thing to play with.

Mostly I want whole people that interest and excite me on multiple levels.

Luckily I have enough of the latter that are also fucking beautiful 💜

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By *tticusukMan
4 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

"I love the psychology of sex.

There will be two clubs here the the one club were people can fuck anything with no attachments.

The other that needs connection shared interests and notices.

What does it for you.

How much is fantasy role play submission or control important on fabswingers.

The two groups you have pigeonholed everyone into are not mutually exclusive.

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
4 weeks ago

Swansea

"I love the psychology of sex.

There will be two clubs here the the one club were people can fuck anything with no attachments.

The other that needs connection shared interests and notices.

What does it for you.

How much is fantasy role play submission or control important on fabswingers.

That's a lot of different questions there OP.

Intelligence? Not really important for a fab meet beyond a certain basic level.

Connection? Absolutely, but the type can vary from meet to meet. It may be purely physical - we both fancy each other, or it may be more.

Shared interests? Not bothered in the slightest. It can certainly help but I'm not going to refuse to meet someone who likes dancing and tennis because I like running and climbing. Shared values is more important but again, this depends on the type of connection. We had a number of really fun weekends together with another couple who shared very different political views to us. Despite what many people believe, those with different opinions aren't inherently evil and lacking morals, they were lovely people and good fun

Fantasy, roleplay, submission and control have zero relevance for me, maybe more so for some of those things for my wife

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By *ansoffateMan
4 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Connection is essential.

Intelligence can be attractive, but it's more the manner in which people think rather than their processing power, when it comes to compatibility.

Too much rigidity, even if it's imaginative, stifles arousal for me. Sex by numbers, even when mutually derived, can kill the mood swiftly. I need space for spontaneity, to merge into the moment together. For me that's the essential primal aspect.

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By *sWyldWoman
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Can I have both, in the same person??

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
4 weeks ago

Reading

Easy pick for me. Intelligence and connection. On a meet ill only spend say 30% of the time fucking. If I'm bored for the rest of the time the fucking isn't worth it. Plus the sex is less likely to be good. Even in a club I tend to wait until I have met someone a couple of times before getting intimate with them. I'm a very bad swinger really.

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By *issmorganWoman
4 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I do need some form of connection and to be of a similar mindset, before I'd want to meet someone.

I don't need anyone to be super intelligent & that doesn't really attract me to someone.

If we click, we click and that's great when it happens.

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By *ongandharderMan
4 weeks ago

Rotherham

"I love the psychology of sex.

There will be two clubs here the the one club were people can fuck anything with no attachments.

The other that needs connection shared interests and notices.

What does it for you.

How much is fantasy role play submission or control important on fabswingers.

Massively appreciate the psychology and connection

A person who can stimulate my mind is really attractive/hot as it shows passion not just in sex but in life

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Covent Garden

By the very fact that I'm a slow burn on here, with my chats and dialogue taking weeks and weeks and months, intelligence and chemistry is very important to me. I'm not looking for a pantomath but someone who can delve a little more beneath the veneer of their superficialities.

I'm not looking for quick and meaningless hookups or anything shallower than a water stain.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
4 weeks ago

London

For a one night stand some connection is enough, for a long term partner intelligence is essential.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
4 weeks ago

Coventry

I think variety is a huge appeal to us when it comes to this lifestyle. So the level of connection varies depending what we're doing and we're we at. Also it's not something we over think. Something works or it doesn't. However there seems to be two questions here. One related to general connection for play and one more related to submission and role play.

Firstly connection. As a rule of thumb you have to talk us and laugh us into the bedroom. That's chemistry and feeling totally at ease with people generally works. But not always the case. Saying about variety we've been in situations in clubs where we've dragged in complete strangers into our filth without knowing them first. And one time we have this really hot couple who didn't speak English who join us mid sex and that was really hot, it just worked. So sometimes it can work in the right time and place without all the chit chat and ground work.

As to submission, roleplay, BDSM for us that is something that is very personal to us and rarely something we share with others. If we do it's something with people we have the right feel about and trust.

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
4 weeks ago

Wolvo

I like a balance of attraction and shared interests/connection. I need both. One without the other doesnt work for me.

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4 weeks ago

100% for me

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By *uriousscouserWoman
4 weeks ago

Wirral

I don't necessarily need shared interests but I do need some sort of connection.

Likewise I'm not giving people IQ tests before I'll message them but if we can't hold a reasonable conversation then it's really unlikely we're ever going to meet.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
4 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

"I love the psychology of sex.

There will be two clubs here the the one club were people can fuck anything with no attachments.

The other that needs connection shared interests and notices.

What does it for you.

How much is fantasy role play submission or control important on fabswingers.

Both. I’m not ashamed to say that I’ve fucked at parties and clubs having no connection or emotional engagement at all - just two fucking animals.. literally.

Meets not just in the moment require communication, connection for fantasy, control etc.

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By *ixenitedWoman
4 weeks ago

Here or There abouts

Enormously important, I wouldn't shag someone I just like the look of intelligence and connection has to be their as well as many other things if I just wanted to play with a dick with no personality I've got plenty of toys for that

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By *HUSH-Man
4 weeks ago

London

I need more than just physical attraction, otherwise I’m quite easily put off.

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By *inceIlkestonMan
4 weeks ago

Ilkeston

"Very important, any holes a goal doesn't do it for me.

Mrs "

Very much this.

Kinks and fantasy are add ons and not essential for me

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By *icentiousCouple
4 weeks ago

Up on them there hills

Intelligence is imperative , sacks of sand do nothing .

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By *8on33Man
4 weeks ago

winfrith

I require a mensa IQ and viagra .

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By *aven.Woman
4 weeks ago

Not the North West...

What about the in-between club?

I don't need to know your life story or even your name, you need need a smidge of personality though.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
4 weeks ago

Chester

"I love the psychology of sex.

There will be two clubs here the the one club were people can fuck anything with no attachments.

The other that needs connection shared interests and notices.

What does it for you.

How much is fantasy role play submission or control important on fabswingers.

I'm a mix of the two clubs.

I never submit to women. It's against my religion.

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By *ohnjones3210Man
4 weeks ago

Chester

"I love the psychology of sex.

There will be two clubs here the the one club were people can fuck anything with no attachments.

The other that needs connection shared interests and notices.

What does it for you.

How much is fantasy role play submission or control important on fabswingers.

I'm a mix of the two clubs.

I never submit to women. It's against my religion."

Actually, let me correct that. If I'm being edged, I'll submit a little bit. 🙈

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By *ellinever70Woman
4 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I can have sex with someone without some kind of special connection

Surface level friendliness doesn't mean someone is a cold fish or will 'fuck anything '

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By *laytime_13Woman
4 weeks ago

Lincs

Intelligence - I mean, I’m not the sharpest tool in the shed but someone who isn’t a complete dimwit is preferable, they don’t need to be a neurosurgeon though.

Connection - depends. In a relationship, very, in fwb, fairly and in nsa, not much if they’re hot as fuck.

Like all things and preferences it’ll vary between individuals.

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By *agnar73Man
4 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"I love the psychology of sex.

There will be two clubs here the the one club were people can fuck anything with no attachments.

The other that needs connection shared interests and notices.

What does it for you.

How much is fantasy role play submission or control important on fabswingers.

A few things in there.

Having a fuck without attachments can be different for different people, it’s not just you have these bits, I have those.

Connection, shared interests and notices? Some people need bits of each, not necessarily all together.

A connection and a spark certainly help. Shared interests help as people are into different things and that’s fine too.

Not sure what you mean by notices, some of us are time restricted for different reasons and if you’re lucky enough not to be, fair enough

As for fantasy, role play, control or submission; lots of people like lots of different stuff, I tend to go with flow, I’m not heavy on making demands myself but respect that others do.

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By *aybeLadyWoman
4 weeks ago

West Dublin

Intelligence & connection for me. Such a turn on x

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By *andadbodMan
4 weeks ago

Liverpool

you’ll find most women need some sort of connection, men on the other hand just need a place 🙄😂

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By *tr8MrEMan
4 weeks ago

Shireoaks, Worksop

Both very important.... intelligence is the new sexy

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By *hrista BellendWoman
4 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Mental Intelligence is not as important to me, as emotional intelligence is. That leads to my connection with him.

However....in a club neither matter to me, as it's pure lust and attraction driving me towards sex with people, I'll probably never see again

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
4 weeks ago

Greater London

I need mental connections to play. Otherwise it's not happening. Simple as that.

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By *8on33Man
4 weeks ago

winfrith

"I need mental connections to play. Otherwise it's not happening. Simple as that.

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I'm mental does that help ?

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By *eliWoman
4 weeks ago

People can fuck without attachment but it doesn't mean they'll fuck anything - there still has to be some level of base attraction (most of the time).

I find intelligence attractive, sure. Not in a sapiosexual way because f*ck knows I dislike that term and its popularity/misuse. I like people who are passionate, love finding out/seeing how someone's mind works, mental masturbation. Intelligence can be displayed in many ways, can't it?

Connection is really important to me. And it can get stronger or fade. I don't find myself attracted to someone, wanting to have sex etc unless there's a level of friendship there. Clubs, one night stands, NSA sex, all of that leaves me painfully dry.

The great thing about here is there's space for everyone. Bar the utter twunts.

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By *igjonny090Man
4 weeks ago

blackpool and Manchester

I don’t think intelligence is necessarily the most important thing when it comes to sex, I think having a connection and so some chemistry between the participants is far more important that makes the sex much more fun for those involved

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