FabSwingers.com forum: Acts of kindness in the lifestyle.

By *enk15 OP Man
13 weeks ago

Evesham

It's not always about the shagging. What memorable acts of kindness have you received on FAB or the lifestyle in general?

Earlier this year I had a shitty day, posted a thread asking for hugs and the responses I got genuinely helped at a time I didn't want to be alone.

Attending my first social, I was an anxious mess, but when I was there a more experienced swinger took me under their wing and made the whole experience much more enjoyable.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
13 weeks ago

Southampton

I've had people reach out to me when I was in a very dark place mentally... I try to do the same for others as I know how overwhelming it can be xx

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By *ir tootMan
13 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

Yes quite a few times actually, there's some nice people who dwell on the forums.

Maybe one day I can repay that in kind.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
13 weeks ago

East Sussex

One person noticed if I'm missing or not my usual self.

Another was very kind after my mum died.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
13 weeks ago

Leeds

100 fake profiles fabbed my cock pic over the toilet.

The mr

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
13 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

It’s always nice when the people you’re meeting contact you to check in more than just flirt. That’s nice. Doesn’t happen all the time though unfortunately.

Oh and someone once put my curtain pole back up after I stood on my curtain and pulled it down. Wasn’t my finest moment being attacked by my curtain while naked and trying to be sexy.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
13 weeks ago

North West

***trigger warning for self harm***

When I was in bits after finding out my son was self harming I had so much support and advice from from friends and strangers on here. ❤️

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
13 weeks ago

Southampton

"***trigger warning for self harm***

When I was in bits after finding out my son was self harming I had so much support and advice from from friends and strangers on here. ❤️"

❤️

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I have made some really wonderful and caring friends on here.

There are two who stand out and have always been there to listen and support me through what has been a tough year.

One on particular has got to know me very well and if wasn’t for her support through a difficult time it would of been tougher to get through for sure.

Some see Fab as just a sex site, i truly see it as a community and love to make bonds with those i chat too.

It doesn’t always mean i am looking to bed them.

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By *eliWoman
13 weeks ago

The person who listened, unwavering, when I was so angry at the world after one of my closest friends died.

The support animal who showed up time and time again for me when I was in a quite toxic relationship. Lost a lot of confidence. Their love and support and utter chaos and absurdity means the world to me.

The friends who check in and notice when things aren't quite right. There to celebrate the successes, to laugh and enjoy the good times, to help me voice how I'm really feeling. Say fuck no when I'm about to make a mistake or love me through it. The one who I can unmask with, the one who kept me sane during Covid, the one who always reminds me to keep finding the light.

And then there's the forums. I know, I know, it's full of faux compliments, silliness and petty bickering. Last year I was in hospital a lot. I was really scared. And I posted a daft thread, wanted to take my mind off of things. People didn't have to respond. They chose to. Showed real kindness. Messaged to check in, to offer light relief. Made me feel seen.

People can be rather disparaging about friendships from Fab. Like they're somehow lesser because of where they started. But I've found friendships that transcend Fab, kindness that makes me forget about the daft squabbles. I'll never be too cynical about Fab, the people on it because I've had too many positives experiences that remind me of the good in people.

We're all flawed and a bit fucked up but there are acts of kindness aplenty to be found when you need them most.

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By *ea monkeyMan
13 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve made some wonderful friends on here, lovers, partners and people who are like family to me.

I’ve been supported through break ups, homelessness, depression and anxiety. There are some wonderful people out there

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
13 weeks ago

Southampton

"The person who listened, unwavering, when I was so angry at the world after one of my closest friends died.

We're all flawed and a bit fucked up but there are acts of kindness aplenty to be found when you need them most."

❤️❤️

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
13 weeks ago

Southampton

"I’ve made some wonderful friends on here, lovers, partners and people who are like family to me.

I’ve been supported through break ups, homelessness, depression and anxiety. There are some wonderful people out there "

💜💜

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By *laytime_13Woman
13 weeks ago

Lincs

Pretty much this.

From people who have checked in when they’ve noticed I’ve not been about so much, to people who have (gently) questioned some of my forum interactions, to people who have picked the pieces up as I’ve had some stuff going on.

It took me a while to get my head around ‘well, they’re from fab so this can’t be genuine/ok’ to ‘ohhh, there’s just some really genuinely lovely people here’. I count myself really lucky with some of the friendships I’ve forged here.

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By *ir tootMan
13 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"I’ve made some wonderful friends on here, lovers, partners and people who are like family to me.

I’ve been supported through break ups, homelessness, depression and anxiety. There are some wonderful people out there "
.you yourself helped me tea, it was a big thing for me considering the site we are on.

And I feel abit better about myself too, I'm sure I don't need to bring it up again but thanks non the less.

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By *iss.BellaWoman
13 weeks ago

Wales

There a few friends that check on and one or two that just know when I'm not *quite myself.

I do try to pop a message over if I notice someone's down or taking a break from the place. Just in case they need an ear

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By *aizyWoman
13 weeks ago

west midlands

I have made some genuine friends on here, some I have met and some I haven't, they are all important to me and I count them as friends, it is one of the nice things about fab.

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By *enk15 OP Man
13 weeks ago

Evesham

Fantastic to read about so much kindness in some dark moments

Much love to you all.

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By *ir tootMan
13 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"I have made some genuine friends on here, some I have met and some I haven't, they are all important to me and I count them as friends, it is one of the nice things about fab."

👊 bump it _aizy

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By *layfullsamMan
13 weeks ago

Solihull

Had some nice messages and boobie photos always help when the going gets tough

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By *iss.BellaWoman
13 weeks ago

Wales

"There a few friends that check on and one or two that just know when I'm not *quite myself.

I do try to pop a message over if I notice someone's down or taking a break from the place. Just in case they need an ear

Posted before I'd finished waffling

but yes I'm very fortunate to have made friends on here that can and have helped me out of some dark places. They mean a lot more to me than they realise ❤️

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By *zeroMan
13 weeks ago

Glasgow

I try my best to look in on people and I'm thankful others have done the same.

I go through little dark periods in life and although I act like I don't want or need anyone I appreciate people who'll talk and hear my shite. In some cases it's been on here and I get some catharsis from talking in the forums.

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By *aughty driverMan
13 weeks ago

Romford

This thread put me in a good mood im sure will do for others too

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By *emorefridaCouple
13 weeks ago

La la land

I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy which I nearly died of during COVID. Was one of the scariest things I've endured finding out you were pregnant by it rupturing and ending in hospital by yourself. I mentioned it on a thread and the amount of people who messaged with their stories helped me so much. I really do appreciate that anonymous shouting into the forum.

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By *ir tootMan
13 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

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By *ussle SproutMan
13 weeks ago

the middle

"Attending my first social, I was an anxious mess, but when I was there a more experienced swinger took me under their wing and made the whole experience much more enjoyable."

They sound like a great person.

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By *inkygentkentMan
13 weeks ago

Maidstone

Lost my Dad last Christmas - had so many lovely messages of support from people I didn't know

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By *xixWoman
13 weeks ago

Coventry

"It's not always about the shagging. What memorable acts of kindness have you received on FAB or the lifestyle in general?

Earlier this year I had a shitty day, posted a thread asking for hugs and the responses I got genuinely helped at a time I didn't want to be alone.

Attending my first social, I was an anxious mess, but when I was there a more experienced swinger took me under their wing and made the whole experience much more enjoyable."

The Fab friend who drove me all the way from Coventry to Manchester for hospital; and fetched me again two days later.

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By *idssissyTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Birmingham

On occasions when I have posted re mh issues or grief issues have been received many lovely messages from people here.

Some of my closest friends were made on the kink scene and often found people willing to help others learn and tried to give back myself

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By *urry BlokeMan
13 weeks ago

Stalybridge

I once rescued Lickety (RIP) when she got ridiculously lost on the M60 on her way to the MLS

Does that count?

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
13 weeks ago

Southampton

"I once rescued Lickety (RIP) when she got ridiculously lost on the M60 on her way to the MLS

Does that count?

Absolutely ❤️

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By *enk15 OP Man
13 weeks ago

Evesham

"Attending my first social, I was an anxious mess, but when I was there a more experienced swinger took me under their wing and made the whole experience much more enjoyable.

They sound like a great person. "

They’re not too bad I suppose

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By *obilebottomMan
13 weeks ago

All over

Of course. Some great people I had a lot of kindness from and also have tried to do the same myself to. Always in private and whenever needed. I am sure most decent people will try and support others when yhey need that.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
13 weeks ago

North West

The wonderful Julie, who came to visit me in hospital and brought me lots of goodies

Everyone who has sent messages and videos and voicenotes and stuff like that. All just *mwah* 😘

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By *ark742024Man
13 weeks ago

Cheshire

When such an act happens, I’ll let you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

"When such an act happens, I’ll let you know. "

Haha snap!

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By *ark742024Man
13 weeks ago

Cheshire

"When such an act happens, I’ll let you know.

Haha snap!

Kindness is not a word I associate with this site

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
13 weeks ago

North West

"The wonderful Julie, who came to visit me in hospital and brought me lots of goodies

Everyone who has sent messages and videos and voicenotes and stuff like that. All just *mwah* 😘"

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By *ceKweenWoman
13 weeks ago

Bolton

I’ve made some wonderful lifelong friends on here from when I hosted socials.

Births, deaths and marriages… we all help each other through the good and bad

As for the naughty side… we’ve all assisted each other in one way or another 😈

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By *urry BlokeMan
13 weeks ago

Stalybridge

The Forum regulars of old helped me through a tough time when my friend became terminally ill

I don't have those connections now and tbh, I miss them

Moments of tenderness and kindness which almost awe

Next thread, roaring laughing at someone's antics or a well timed, throw away comment that just floors you

We are, when it comes to it, human before we are sexual

I find it tiresome to read threads that are purely sexual

I don't know about others, but I become far more intrigued by the non-sexual than the sexual

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By *eronikapaulCouple
13 weeks ago

Reading

Some lovely people on here gave us a hedge trimmer after we met. (if you two read this and smile do say hello 😊) . We don't think it was a hint and it does a lovely job on the bits you can't reach.

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