FabSwingers.com forum: D*unks

By *arrickreal OP Man
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Is there a wider issue in the fab community with alcohol?

I say that as a very picky man and it’s my experience that I’ll get talking to a girl / woman who is extremely attractive, speak for a few days / weeks and then I’ll see a trend of them getting hammered on wine regularly and sending weird texts or slurring voice notes. It puts me off personally and I end it there. I’m not talking Friday / Saturday nights I’m talking regularly.

I met one older woman last year who was very hot and pretty fab famous and I went round to her home and she answered the door (looked fucking unreal) but as soon as I went in I could see she was d*unk and struggled to walk to the kitchen. Excuses made and I left.

In a lot of the hot videos that aren’t solo the people taking part are smashed haha. See today as a POTENTIAL example (ofcourse nobody knows for sure) It’s obviously all consensual so I am not for one minute suggesting that - I just mean how much enjoyment can you get when you’re boozed up.

Harmless Dutch courage?

Are most swingers pissed?

Do people drink to numb it as they are just pleasing their other half?

Is it a culture thing?

Is there an issue?

Forum - you decide.

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By *arrickreal OP Man
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Clubs? Everyone burst on the booze?

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By *usyBusyGirlWoman
3 weeks ago

Brum

I never drink alcohol on a first meeting, well once I had one glass of wine.

I want a clear head for various reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

In the clubs we go to, the majority of swingers, note I didn't say all, will not play with someone who is d*unk and some, ourselves included, won't consider play with someone who is even tipsy.

Consent is rule number one and that can't be given by someone who is d*unk.

Your milage may vary.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I've seen plenty of profiles that are clear they enjoy being intoxicated. I've seen plenty of people at clubs happily smashed there.

But it doesn't do it for me. Consent requires a clear head. And I've met and seen plenty of people who prefer it that way too.

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
3 weeks ago

St Leonards

My Venn diagram of "people who bore the shit out of me" and "people who seem to enjoy getting d*unk frequently" shows almost complete overlap - all aspects of life, not just sex.

By the way OP - you have an outstanding cock!

Not sure if anyone's ever told you, but - you know - don't keep it quiet sunshine

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By *aomilatteCouple
3 weeks ago

Midlands

"Clubs? Everyone burst on the booze?"

Not everyone, but there is a big drinking culture amongst many at clubs, swinging hotels and holiday destinations. We avoid the big drinkers, start our night on water and only have a moderate amount of alcohol after we've played.

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By *urbo321123Man
3 weeks ago

BEWDLEY

As a guy you can actually drink loads and still get hard but before you know it you're in the recycling area alone trying to climb a wall.

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By *alkingbobMan
3 weeks ago

Hamilton

A woman who has had too much to drink very off putting for me

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By *tephanie63Woman
3 weeks ago

BRIDGWATER

I had a morning social meet arranged last year. The man called it off with an hour's notice because he had been drinking all night. He then messaged saying I could go to his for sex because he would "still be up to it". I had only agreed to a social at this point anyway.I declined and blocked him. I would not meet with anyone for sex if they had d*unk any alcohol at all.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
3 weeks ago

If profile status is anything to go by then a lot of people are on a lot harder stuff than alcohol, that I did find surprising/disappointing

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By *illingdon_ladMan
3 weeks ago

Bicester

I will only ever have a cheeky one either in a club or on a meet. I like to know what I am doing or have done and being under the influence of lots of alcohol is not for me. I get some people need Dutch courage when it comes to clubs or meets, but there's a huge difference between one or two to steel your nerves and getting steaming d*unk

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By *ealitybitesMan
3 weeks ago

Belfast

I've never tasted alcohol in my life and have zero intention of starting.

I don't have a problem with anyone else drinking but I've no interest in anyone who needs it as a crutch.

If someone needs a drink to meet me I'd prefer not to meet them at all.

I've witnessed some ridiculously unacceptable behaviour at group socials from people under the influence but for some reason there seems to be a reluctance to remove a woman who is pissed.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
3 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Cannot stand dr*nk people. I drink but never to excess.

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
3 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

I don't drink, can't stand the stuff and haven't got the patience to be around d*unk people

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Central

I've not noticed this

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By *amie HantsWoman
3 weeks ago

Atlantis

Can’t say I’ve had this experience. I’m sorry that people need to get d*unk to spend time with you, OP 😉

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By *iscotti32Woman
3 weeks ago

gateshead

I drink. I get d*unk. I have a very merry time.

I would not get d*unk or drink on a meet as I tend to drive and like to be able to escape if needed.

Clubs are a bit different and I’d enjoy a couple of drinks but nothing too extreme.

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By *ruceyyMan
3 weeks ago

London

"Is there a wider issue in the fab community with alcohol?

Harmless Dutch courage?

Are most swingers pissed?

Do people drink to numb it as they are just pleasing their other half?

Is it a culture thing?

Is there an issue?

Forum - you decide. "

I can't even get an erection if I'm smashed. Or maybe I can but I don't notice it. I dunno I'll get back to you after I've finished my cider.

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

"Clubs? Everyone burst on the booze?"

Drinking in clubs is something I just cannot back. It is so problematic.

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

You should go to socials Carrick.

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

Even a broken clock I guess. Mad times.

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By *arla SwingerWoman
3 weeks ago

Somewhere

If someone gets smashed in a club then I'd believe they'd likely get asked to leave, or no one would entertain them 🤔

A few drinks, or several as an adult is neither here nor there though. I like a drink or 12

I can take it or leave it though. If someone's not interested in that then that's cool. I wouldn't force it on anyone, just the same as I'd not be interested in someone else trying to force their being tee total on me. We're all adults at the end of the day, making our own choices.

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By *illy IdolMan
3 weeks ago

Midlands

"Cannot stand dr*nk people. I drink but never to excess. "

So that rules you out of the fab famous hook up.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I won't play with someone d*unk and have missed out on play a few times due to that.

I've also had some very promising messages on weekend evenings that have come to nothing and I think being d*unk and horny is part of that.

I'm teetotal and generally find d*unks pretty tiresome.

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By *odgerMooreMan
3 weeks ago

Fulwood

Ive walked out of a meet where the wife was obviously plastered. Shame because she was stunning and apparently just overdid the Dutch courage before I arrived - I arranged to meet again and … she wasn’t plastered

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By *arrickreal OP Man
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Interesting one

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
3 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"Can’t say I’ve had this experience. I’m sorry that people need to get d*unk to spend time with you, OP 😉 "

Meeeeeeeooowwwwww 😹

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By *laytime_13Woman
3 weeks ago

Lincs

The meet where I turned up and there was a plate of Colombias finest on the table was quite something

worse, they didn’t understand why I didn’t want to go back

A couple of drinks socially through the course of a meet I have no trouble with, but surely no one actually likes properly d*unk sex anyway?!

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By *odgerMooreMan
3 weeks ago

Fulwood

"The meet where I turned up and there was a plate of Colombias finest on the table was quite something

worse, they didn’t understand why I didn’t want to go back

A couple of drinks socially through the course of a meet I have no trouble with, but surely no one actually likes properly d*unk sex anyway?!"

Colombias finest… Cigars??

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

"The meet where I turned up and there was a plate of Colombias finest on the table was quite something

worse, they didn’t understand why I didn’t want to go back

A couple of drinks socially through the course of a meet I have no trouble with, but surely no one actually likes properly d*unk sex anyway?!"

Sniff dick is the worst. Either they can't get hard or they can't cum. I avoid anyone who's on the nose sherbet

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By *ools and the brainCouple
3 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

The first actual sensible thread I've seen by Carrick.

And I have to say I sort of agree,the amount of clubs and parties we've been to and people have been absolutely ratarsed, and I think getting d*unk in these particular settings is pretty irresponsible given the consequences of people who are d*unk having sex with a stranger is frightening.

Even a meeting in your own house d*unk meeting a stranger is poor judgement.

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By *urry BlokeMan
3 weeks ago

Stalybridge

I don't drink in company (will occasionally have a drink in the house if I fancy one - it is only ever one too)

I don't meet people who have been drinking

I wouldn't meet if I'd had a drink

The smell of alcohol on someones breath is a huge turn off

And then there's the effect it has on someone's behaviour

It's also part of the reason I don't do socials

I know, I'm a fkin delight

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
3 weeks ago

North West

I don't drink alcohol. Mr KC has the odd pint but doesn't get d*unk. We wouldn't enjoy it if people were getting pissed.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

"The meet where I turned up and there was a plate of Colombias finest on the table was quite something

worse, they didn’t understand why I didn’t want to go back

A couple of drinks socially through the course of a meet I have no trouble with, but surely no one actually likes properly d*unk sex anyway?!"

I love Colombian coffee! It's one of my favourites!

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By *oralltherightreasonsCouple
3 weeks ago

WELLINGBOROUGH

I'm always the driver, so don't get to drink so much, wife enjoys a drink, but generally she can handle it, would never let her get black out d*unk on a meet.

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By *8on33Man
3 weeks ago

winfrith

"Is there a wider issue in the fab community with alcohol?

Harmless Dutch courage?

Are most swingers pissed?

Do people drink to numb it as they are just pleasing their other half?

Is it a culture thing?

Is there an issue?

Forum - you decide. "
I for one never get pissed and when I'm considering the sex thing I don't touch it at all ,I like to enjoy the moment.

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
3 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales

Alcohol free for sex always. Unless I know and completely trust the people and they’re staying the night.

I drink at socials and clubs but I don’t always play. If I want to play I’ll stick to water.

I just go numb and get dehydrated so there would be no point. Orgasms over hangovers

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By *tealthbomber2024Man
3 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

I read an article on some "newspaper" where a person gave up alcohol and it changed their perspective of d*unken dating/sex completely. It was such a revelation for them. (good benefits)

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

I prefer to play sober and would prefer the same for my partner. One glass of wine through the evening is ok.

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By *enelope2UWoman
3 weeks ago

Fife

"Is there a wider issue in the fab community with alcohol?

Harmless Dutch courage?

Are most swingers pissed?

Do people drink to numb it as they are just pleasing their other half?

Is it a culture thing?

Is there an issue?

Forum - you decide. "

It's a UK thing... Running from reality liquid courage to hide the bleed discouraging environment here...

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By *hristopherd999Man
3 weeks ago

Brentwood

"Is there a wider issue in the fab community with alcohol?

Harmless Dutch courage?

Are most swingers pissed?

Do people drink to numb it as they are just pleasing their other half?

Is it a culture thing?

Is there an issue?

Forum - you decide. "

I think drugs seems to be a big problem on here too

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
3 weeks ago

chichester

"Is there a wider issue in the fab community with alcohol?

Harmless Dutch courage?

Are most swingers pissed?

Do people drink to numb it as they are just pleasing their other half?

Is it a culture thing?

Is there an issue?

Forum - you decide.

I think drugs seems to be a big problem on here too"

Yeah so many druggies in here it’s bad at times with messages j find from them

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By *tealthbomber2024Man
3 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

I can't believe that d*unks is being censored :D :D

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By *electableicecreamMan
3 weeks ago

The West

I had met a woman for a coffee last week at 11am in a hotel lobby. I ordered a coffee. She ordered a pint of Guinness. Hair of the dog she said.

11.30 and I order another coffee. She ordered another pint. Doesn't matter the reasons. Two pints before midday is enough red flags for me.

I go to a few big social events every year and there is always a decent few people getting pissed. It's usually the same people, usually a bit older and usually not men. It just seems to be part and parcel of the lifestyle for a certain subset of people.

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By *umb FuckDoll Sissy AngelTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Lahore

I don’t drink but of late very curious about it

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I don't drink and won't meet d*unk people.

The bigger problem on here is drugs the amount of men offering them is unreal

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By *rs Twisted1Woman
3 weeks ago

neath

I have a drink but I make it last and we most certainly won't meet if I've had too many which is very rare

We also won't meet others if they've already been drinking a while

Drugs is a definite no no no matter how much they would love to white my ass cheeks

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By *tealthbomber2024Man
3 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

"I have a drink but I make it last and we most certainly won't meet if I've had too many which is very rare

We also won't meet others if they've already been drinking a while

Drugs is a definite no no no matter how much they would love to white my ass cheeks

they want to snort drugs off your ladygarden?

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By *sian FlowerWoman
3 weeks ago

Sin City X

It’s not just alcohol that’s abused the amount of men offering booze and other substances is unreal. I’m teetotal and don’t use substances so I find it very off putting.

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By *ongueFkYouMan
3 weeks ago

Bradford

"It’s not just alcohol that’s abused the amount of men offering booze and other substances is unreal. I’m teetotal and don’t use substances so I find it very off putting. "
I wouldn't need or want any drink if I was to ever meet you I'd be too busy making love to you

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By *sian FlowerWoman
3 weeks ago

Sin City X

"It’s not just alcohol that’s abused the amount of men offering booze and other substances is unreal. I’m teetotal and don’t use substances so I find it very off putting. I wouldn't need or want any drink if I was to ever meet you I'd be too busy making love to you"

Awww bless you thanks sweetie

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By *ongueFkYouMan
3 weeks ago

Bradford

Awww bless you thanks sweetie "
your welcome no need to thank me at all it's the truth you are absolutely STUNNING everything about you looks perfect I'm not even joking! X

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By *tealthbomber2024Man
3 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

Silvertongued!!

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By *andynecklaceWoman
3 weeks ago

West Brom

It's not just fab it's just drinking culture in the uk overall

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By *ongueFkYouMan
3 weeks ago

Bradford

"It's not just fab it's just drinking culture in the uk overall "
are you Pakistani?

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By *andynecklaceWoman
3 weeks ago

West Brom

"It's not just fab it's just drinking culture in the uk overall are you Pakistani?"

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By *luebell888Woman
3 weeks ago

Glasgowish

I usually drive on a first meet but do take a bottle of wine if staying overnight in a hotel with someone.

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By *ongueFkYouMan
3 weeks ago

Bradford

"I usually drive on a first meet but do take a bottle of wine if staying overnight in a hotel with someone."
would love to spend the night with you

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By *vaRose43Woman
3 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Yeah I’m not playing with someone who has been drinking heavily. Consent is non negotiable

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By *alandNitaCouple
3 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

We attend a lot of club, and generally, those who have had a "lot" to drink usually stick out like a sore thumb.

Obvously there are people who are drinking to get that "party buzz", but only a small proportion seem to get to the stage of being obviouslly unsteady on their feet or slurring their words...

I personally don't think that any clubs are making a fortune on their liquor sales.

Cal

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By *tealthbomber2024Man
3 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

Alcohol is a menace, probably one of the worst area effect drugs on planet earth.

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By *apascouseMan
3 weeks ago

Liverpool

"Alcohol is a menace, probably one of the worst area effect drugs on planet earth."

Yet it's still the one thing that's legal, which baffles me

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By *tealthbomber2024Man
3 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

Imagine a constantly kettled,gaslit, divide and ruled populace without a decent, legal outlet to vent their daily misery.

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By *alandNitaCouple
3 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

"Imagine a constantly kettled,gaslit, divide and ruled populace without a decent, legal outlet to vent their daily misery."

I always found that alchohol was a mood enhanser... if you're happy it makes you happier, but if you're sad it makes you sadder.

Cal

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By *tealthbomber2024Man
3 weeks ago

southend-on-sea

"Imagine a constantly kettled,gaslit, divide and ruled populace without a decent, legal outlet to vent their daily misery.

I always found that alchohol was a mood enhanser... if you're happy it makes you happier, but if you're sad it makes you sadder.

I don't drink so I don't have experience of that. When I tried it, it barely had any effect until the post of almost collapsing.

Cal"

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By *ilverjagMan
3 weeks ago

swansea

Different strokes for different folks, I've had some great times with people without any need for anything to relax them, and on the other extreme, I hosted a party once that resulted in two d*unk women fighting in my lounge as one of them freaked on seeing her guy with another woman for the first time. When I've invited a people to my house though and everyone is getting merry, I'm invariably sipping pomegranate juice in a wine glass. That means I look like I'm knocking them back like everyone else is, but in fact have myself and the situation well under control, and I don't have to worry about driving. I don't judge either way though.

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By *umb FuckDoll Sissy AngelTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Lahore

Just had someone ask if he could sniff a line on my ass crack

Instant block

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By *ellhungvweMan
3 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Alcohol issues have never been a problem for me. I can only think of one occasion when someone was d*unk and she was part of a group I was with in a club. People I meet might like a drink or two at the start of the night as a social ice breaker but that’s it in my experience.

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