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"Report the profiles that abuse. And only you can find reasons to stay. I hope you do though. "I do. Thank you so much | |||
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"Hi OP. It’s horrible in the moment but hopefully it’ll make you feel better knowing that it’s not just you. I get it too. And so do lots of my friends. Unfortunately they are among us. It’s a them issue, and they’d find a way to pick holes in anyone who rejects them. You’ve got to rise above them and don’t let them break you 😘 " Thank you so much, I just feel I'm getting ahead with things just to be knocked back again.  | |||
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"Like wise ,im finding it more difficult to find a reason to stay , this site is open to so much abuse from both sides ,not that I'm saying yours was justified because it wasn't " It's like a mine field, step one way and you're fine next step it's a boom 💥 | |||
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"Don’t let the ignorant knock your confidence. The good ones (as in what you are looking for) will get through eventually
I’m the same… I wish they would read my profile 🤷♀️"Thanks 😊 | |||
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"What is it with some me, they want to talk to you, but when they ask what you're looking for, and politely tell them if they read the profile they will see you're not looking, then reply with well what you doing here then. You effing fat pig. Can someone explain to me why I shouldn't just give this up its certainly not boosting my confidence now" Wow sorry to hear that op. Maybe report them and if you need some time away to regroup do that too. If its not fun stop | |||
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"Don't let them get you down just block and report and move on , You really have to have a thick skin on here, men and there egos don't mix , Just remember your not what they say and always know your worth, you got this gal ❤️❤️" This. Report. Block. Delete. Do those three things the second an abusive message appears. Don't reply. Most times they're just looking for a reaction and any kind of response. | |||
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"Personally if I wasn't looking to meet then I'd have my filters on, but you say you're open to friends which is your choice. But in that case I wouldn't have any sexual photos and I would state it in the first message. Anyone on here knows you can't rely on others to read profiles, they just look at photos. And I wouldn't take a blind bit of notice of anyone who gets arsed about it. " Thank you, I've sorted all my filters out and hidden pics now. I appreciate your message | |||
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"Hi op, some people just don’t understand how to respect others wishes. Seems to be to much hate going on and not enough love, they have probably got upset because they’ve not had any recently. 🤣" Very true, thank you 😊 | |||
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"unfortunately you’re always going to get this sort, my mrs was abused quite a lot when she politely turned people down, they soon turn from polite to abusive when they don’t get the answer they want. 🙄" Some men complain about not getting any replies or deleted without being read, I'm trying to be nice but not any more. Thanks 😊 | |||
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"Don't let them get you down just block and report and move on , You really have to have a thick skin on here, men and there egos don't mix , Just remember your not what they say and always know your worth, you got this gal ❤️❤️" Thank you so much 💓 💗 | |||
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"Don't let them get you down just block and report and move on , You really have to have a thick skin on here, men and there egos don't mix , Just remember your not what they say and always know your worth, you got this gal ❤️❤️ This. Report. Block. Delete. Do those three things the second an abusive message appears. Don't reply. Most times they're just looking for a reaction and any kind of response. " I did and thank you 😊 | |||
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"Sorry OP you’ve been subjected to abuse tbh most women have. It’s your prerogative why you are on here you don’t need to explain reasons to anyone. The twats that are abusive are having a toddler temper tantrum, if I were you I’d report and block let the admin deal with these babies. Good luck "Very true, I have done and thank you so much 😊 | |||
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"I wouldn’t even politely tell them op. If you’re not interested just delete and block. This is what I’ve always done and never had one bit of abuse on here. I don’t know why people open themselves to abuse when they don’t need to because it will and does happen. Just delete and block. Having said that I’m sorry you’ve experienced this but please try not to let it affect you. It’s just sad little bastard trolls with nowt better to do xxx" Keyboard warriors are the worst, well no more from now on. Thanks 😊 😊 | |||
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"We get the fat abuse when we give polite rejection. We reply that we were already fat when they messaged us. Don't pay them no mind OP, they are very very brave when sat in front of a screen but wouldn't manage to raise their voice in person ❤️ " Exactly thank you 😊 | |||
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"Sorry you have to deal with that, stupid keyboard warriers, I can't imagine they are happy in their own lifes so they like to spread misery to others Best thing is to block and ignore, just focus on the positive people as they are the ones that count"  | |||
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"Op, I'm not meeting, but I have loads of filters on so I don't get much mail. You can limit or control who messages you, I still get the odd moron, but nothing like when my filters weren't as tight. Abuse is still not right though, so block and report them." Filters are on now I'm happy to come on and read forums and chat with those I've made friends with, thank you 😊 | |||
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"Sorry that’s happened to you OP, they are people who seriously need to grow up as they clearly can’t handle rejection. We tend to block straight after we tell them they’re not for us so glad to see you’ve sorted your settings. " Thanks 😊 🫂 | |||
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Haters gonna hate, it's an issue with them, not you. Hope you are happy in yourself.
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"Hey OP I have no advice, just popping in to show some love .
Haters gonna hate, it's an issue with them, not you. Hope you are happy in yourself.
"Thank you for that, it's much appreciated we all could do with some love now and again. I'm better now than I was a little earlier brushed it of, dusted myself down and got right back onto that horses back, can't hold me down for long anymore   | |||
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They need you to feel bad to make them feel good. The self loathing they have is real, leave it with them. | |||
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Perhaps put mail filters on OP, these disgusting creatures don't deserve to be in contact with you in any form. Have a lovely weekend . The vermin do the same to many of us | |||
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"What is it with some me, they want to talk to you, but when they ask what you're looking for, and politely tell them if they read the profile they will see you're not looking, then reply with well what you doing here then. You effing fat pig. Can someone explain to me why I shouldn't just give this up its certainly not boosting my confidence now" Some people have fragile egos and can't take rejection. At least you reply to them which is a rarity in itself. Don't let them get to you. | |||
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"Have a look at the level of support you got here! That should show you how people actually are, so fair play for reaching out. It matters, and you matter. Many friendships happen here, so have no fears. These clowns who do that to you know it bothers you, so if it does, don't let them know. Report. Block. Delete. Every single time. Don't engage. Then come back on here and have a great time.
They need you to feel bad to make them feel good. The self loathing they have is real, leave it with them. "Thank you it took courage to reach out and I really appreciate all the replies I've got it's given some sense in knowing I'm not overlooked as much as I feel I am. | |||
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"Hello Op. unfortunately some people get their kicks from being mean. Hiding behind a keyboard gives them a feeling of importance/power but it really shows their own insecurities and lack of worth. I for one have appreciated it when you’ve reached out and done something nice (the odd fab) 👍" I think they need to know what real insecurities can be like and the impact they can have.  | |||
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"Looking to talk - specifically about the things you say you have zero interest in
Perhaps put mail filters on OP, these disgusting creatures don't deserve to be in contact with you in any form. Have a lovely weekend . The vermin do the same to many of us "Thank you 😊 | |||
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"What is it with some me, they want to talk to you, but when they ask what you're looking for, and politely tell them if they read the profile they will see you're not looking, then reply with well what you doing here then. You effing fat pig. Can someone explain to me why I shouldn't just give this up its certainly not boosting my confidence now Some people have fragile egos and can't take rejection. At least you reply to them which is a rarity in itself. Don't let them get to you." They won't be anymore my humanity button towards them is switched off | |||
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"Lots of people don't read profiles. Just tsking their chances. Don't let it bother you. The nice ones you deserve pop up every now and then "And they have done thank you 😊  | |||
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"So sorry to hear you've had a bad experience OP, it sounds horrible. A while ago, I had similar and at the time got a little upset about it. I also asked the good people of the Fab forums for advice. The messages I received were honestly so lovely and really did help me to look at it in a different way. I think judging from how many people have posted on this thread shows you there are some reasons to stick around 😊 Hugs OP. J xx " Thank you, I honestly wasn't expecting the response I have received I really just wanted to get it off my chest or I'd have let it get to me more, I appreciate every response and now see a different perspective. | |||
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"So sorry to hear you've had a bad experience OP, it sounds horrible. A while ago, I had similar and at the time got a little upset about it. I also asked the good people of the Fab forums for advice. The messages I received were honestly so lovely and really did help me to look at it in a different way. I think judging from how many people have posted on this thread shows you there are some reasons to stick around 😊 Hugs OP. J xx Thank you, I honestly wasn't expecting the response I have received I really just wanted to get it off my chest or I'd have let it get to me more, I appreciate every response and now see a different perspective. "come.to realise myself alot of people on fab forums do care alot. Anyway saying that, ever need to vent spam my inbox, and I'll send cat pics or something. 🤣 | |||
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"So sorry to hear you've had a bad experience OP, it sounds horrible. A while ago, I had similar and at the time got a little upset about it. I also asked the good people of the Fab forums for advice. The messages I received were honestly so lovely and really did help me to look at it in a different way. I think judging from how many people have posted on this thread shows you there are some reasons to stick around 😊 Hugs OP. J xx Thank you, I honestly wasn't expecting the response I have received I really just wanted to get it off my chest or I'd have let it get to me more, I appreciate every response and now see a different perspective. come.to realise myself alot of people on fab forums do care alot.
Anyway saying that, ever need to vent spam my inbox, and I'll send cat pics or something. 🤣
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"So sorry to hear you've had a bad experience OP, it sounds horrible. A while ago, I had similar and at the time got a little upset about it. I also asked the good people of the Fab forums for advice. The messages I received were honestly so lovely and really did help me to look at it in a different way. I think judging from how many people have posted on this thread shows you there are some reasons to stick around 😊 Hugs OP. J xx Thank you, I honestly wasn't expecting the response I have received I really just wanted to get it off my chest or I'd have let it get to me more, I appreciate every response and now see a different perspective. come.to realise myself alot of people on fab forums do care alot.
Anyway saying that, ever need to vent spam my inbox, and I'll send cat pics or something. 🤣
I like cats 🐈 😻 🐈⬛️ 😄 ".good thing I live with 9! | |||
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"Have a look at the level of support you got here! That should show you how people actually are, so fair play for reaching out. It matters, and you matter. Many friendships happen here, so have no fears. These clowns who do that to you know it bothers you, so if it does, don't let them know. Report. Block. Delete. Every single time. Don't engage. Then come back on here and have a great time.
They need you to feel bad to make them feel good. The self loathing they have is real, leave it with them.
Thank you it took courage to reach out and I really appreciate all the replies I've got it's given some sense in knowing I'm not overlooked as much as I feel I am. "Well, you've made more friends now, and there's good people here to support you. Swinging is a community more than anything else, so we look out for each other. | |||
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