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"Love being called a good girl in the bedroom but don't dare call me it in any other contexts 😂" I won't call you a god girl but can I buy a kebab.  | |||
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"Love being called a good girl in the bedroom but don't dare call me it in any other contexts 😂 I won't call you a god girl but can I buy a kebab. "Still hungry for a kebab huh? 😋 | |||
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"Love being called a good girl in the bedroom but don't dare call me it in any other contexts 😂 I won't call you a god girl but can I buy a kebab.
Still hungry for a kebab huh? 😋"Yeah I'll call a cab be over in 1 hour.
Seriously I need out of here right now.
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"What’s your thoughts on it? I seem to come across it more and more often these days " Love it in the bedroom. On the bus… not so much 👍🏻 | |||
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"This is spookily coincidental timing. Before this evening I had never heard of this, but earlier I read a profile of someone I met socially and she has it. I suddenly realised I think I do too. I don’t think it’s a kink with me because I appreciate it in day to day life as well, but I definitely like it in sex. I reckon that’s because I’ve had so little feedback and good comments in my sex life I have begun to crave it. Maybe I’m just really shit hahaha" I get that, my former partner of decsdes was silent and never spoke of sex. So I now crave that positive feedback loop | |||
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"You called" Urgh would love to have you be my good girl | |||
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"I reckon that’s because I’ve had so little feedback and good comments..." Oh, don't! 
Pretty sure mine stems from a lack of childhood praise 🤦♀️ | |||
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"You called Urgh would love to have you be my good girl " 🤣🤣 | |||
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"I reckon that’s because I’ve had so little feedback and good comments... Oh, don't!
Pretty sure mine stems from a lack of childhood praise 🤦♀️"I really liked those hand paintings you did. Good use of colour. | |||
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"You called Urgh would love to have you be my good girl 🤣🤣" Wow that's a different reaction than what I used to get! 😂😂 | |||
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"Love being called a good girl in the bedroom but don't dare call me it in any other contexts 😂 I won't call you a god girl but can I buy a kebab.
Still hungry for a kebab huh? 😋
Yeah I'll call a cab be over in 1 hour.
Seriously I need out of here right now.
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"Love being called a good girl in the bedroom but don't dare call me it in any other contexts 😂 I won't call you a god girl but can I buy a kebab.
Still hungry for a kebab huh? 😋
Yeah I'll call a cab be over in 1 hour.
Seriously I need out of here right now.
Big spender getting a cab to Manchester 😂"I wish, trust me if I had the funds right now and if this was agreed upon.. would. Would buy you Kebab but that's a big stinking dream.😩 | |||
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"It's not really about being called a good girl for me. I want all the compliments. Tell me how good I feel, how much you want me, tell me I'm sexy, call me beautiful. Thats the stuff gets me. " Yes!! This for me too (casually talking to the future Felix fuckers n fellators) | |||
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"You called Urgh would love to have you be my good girl 🤣🤣 Wow that's a different reaction than what I used to get! 😂😂" I have entered my dgaf era babes prepare to be turned off😘 | |||
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"You called Urgh would love to have you be my good girl 🤣🤣 Wow that's a different reaction than what I used to get! 😂😂 I have entered my dgaf era babes prepare to be turned off😘" Nahhh can't get away that easily from my affections ❤️😂 | |||
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"You called Urgh would love to have you be my good girl 🤣🤣 Wow that's a different reaction than what I used to get! 😂😂 I have entered my dgaf era babes prepare to be turned off😘 Nahhh can't get away that easily from my affections ❤️😂" Jesus 😩 | |||
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"Googling it 🔎🕵️♀️⌨️🔥" Quite the detective arnt we? | |||
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"Oh yes, love to be a good girl 😂😘" Come here for your reward | |||
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"Oh yes, love to be a good girl 😂😘 Come here for your reward "😍 | |||
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"You called Urgh would love to have you be my good girl 🤣🤣 Wow that's a different reaction than what I used to get! 😂😂 I have entered my dgaf era babes prepare to be turned off😘 Nahhh can't get away that easily from my affections ❤️😂 Jesus 😩" Your dgaf era Em? I just thought you were entering your good girl era. Your very, very good girl era 😘. | |||
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"Yes please " Are you a good girl Midnight? Tell me how good you've been today x | |||
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"It seems to have taken off in the wider BDSM community, and it allows members of the vanilla community to think they are kinky, either in the giving or accepting. From what I have read it is more specific and individual than most appreciate. It also relates to arousal, and I am kind of old school. People want to say they are into BDSM and D/s but they don't want the dark stuff and feel BDSM should all be fluffy and light. So they subconsciously use the blurring of BDSM/kink/arousal to claim their space in the BDSM community. The sensual dominants and subs and sexual dominants and subs are fellow travellers. " I’m sure you didn’t mean it, but your comment reads between the lines as “They’re not really in the bdsm community unless they embrace the dark side too” Kind of gatekeeping. For some people BDSM can be all light and fluffy. Power exchange does not need to include pain. Domination does not need to equal degradation. Like I say, I’m hoping I’ve misunderstood you. | |||
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"It seems to have taken off in the wider BDSM community, and it allows members of the vanilla community to think they are kinky, either in the giving or accepting. From what I have read it is more specific and individual than most appreciate. It also relates to arousal, and I am kind of old school. People want to say they are into BDSM and D/s but they don't want the dark stuff and feel BDSM should all be fluffy and light. So they subconsciously use the blurring of BDSM/kink/arousal to claim their space in the BDSM community. The sensual dominants and subs and sexual dominants and subs are fellow travellers. " God, I wish these people would fuck off back to Fet life and their endless Munches and leave us alone to enjoy actually having sex. BDSM gate-keeping nerds like this drive me up the wall. I felt the urge to buy a lace-up front blouson shirt with baggy sleeves and a leather kilt just reading this | |||
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"I'm so proud of you all for taking this sarcastic post so well." Keep going I’m gunna cum | |||
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"I'm so proud of you all for taking this sarcastic post so well. Keep going I’m gunna cum" • Good girl. | |||
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"I'm so proud of you Eva for taking my "post" so well. So, so deep inside you. You are my very, very good girl. My best girl. Keep going I’m gunna cum" Really?  | |||
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"I'm so proud of you all for taking this sarcastic post so well. Keep going I’m gunna cum • Good girl." 🫠 | |||
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"It seems to have taken off in the wider BDSM community, and it allows members of the vanilla community to think they are kinky, either in the giving or accepting. From what I have read it is more specific and individual than most appreciate. It also relates to arousal, and I am kind of old school. People want to say they are into BDSM and D/s but they don't want the dark stuff and feel BDSM should all be fluffy and light. So they subconsciously use the blurring of BDSM/kink/arousal to claim their space in the BDSM community. The sensual dominants and subs and sexual dominants and subs are fellow travellers. God, I wish these people would fuck off back to Fet life and their endless Munches and leave us alone to enjoy actually having sex. BDSM gate-keeping nerds like this drive me up the wall. I felt the urge to buy a lace-up front blouson shirt with baggy sleeves and a leather kilt just reading this" 
I was also wondering who had called the BDSM police again.
I love a ‘goodgirl’ in the bedroom.
Btw There is no such thing as the BDSM community, just like there is no such thing as the vanilla community, or the gay community or the black community ! there are just people Just because they have one small thing in common doesn’t mean they’re agree on anything else or hang out together at an annual ball | |||
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"It seems to have taken off in the wider BDSM community, and it allows members of the vanilla community to think they are kinky, either in the giving or accepting. From what I have read it is more specific and individual than most appreciate. It also relates to arousal, and I am kind of old school. People want to say they are into BDSM and D/s but they don't want the dark stuff and feel BDSM should all be fluffy and light. So they subconsciously use the blurring of BDSM/kink/arousal to claim their space in the BDSM community. The sensual dominants and subs and sexual dominants and subs are fellow travellers. I’m sure you didn’t mean it, but your comment reads between the lines as “They’re not really in the bdsm community unless they embrace the dark side too” Kind of gatekeeping. For some people BDSM can be all light and fluffy. Power exchange does not need to include pain. Domination does not need to equal degradation. Like I say, I’m hoping I’ve misunderstood you. " Light and Fluffy Sado Masochism ..... ? | |||
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"It seems to have taken off in the wider BDSM community, and it allows members of the vanilla community to think they are kinky, either in the giving or accepting. From what I have read it is more specific and individual than most appreciate. It also relates to arousal, and I am kind of old school. People want to say they are into BDSM and D/s but they don't want the dark stuff and feel BDSM should all be fluffy and light. So they subconsciously use the blurring of BDSM/kink/arousal to claim their space in the BDSM community. The sensual dominants and subs and sexual dominants and subs are fellow travellers. I’m sure you didn’t mean it, but your comment reads between the lines as “They’re not really in the bdsm community unless they embrace the dark side too” Kind of gatekeeping. For some people BDSM can be all light and fluffy. Power exchange does not need to include pain. Domination does not need to equal degradation. Like I say, I’m hoping I’ve misunderstood you. Light and Fluffy Sado Masochism ..... ?" This is not just BDSM, this is M&S L&FSM. | |||
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"It seems to have taken off in the wider BDSM community, and it allows members of the vanilla community to think they are kinky, either in the giving or accepting. From what I have read it is more specific and individual than most appreciate. It also relates to arousal, and I am kind of old school. People want to say they are into BDSM and D/s but they don't want the dark stuff and feel BDSM should all be fluffy and light. So they subconsciously use the blurring of BDSM/kink/arousal to claim their space in the BDSM community. The sensual dominants and subs and sexual dominants and subs are fellow travellers. " I'm going to agree with some of what you've said. Because you have a point. A praise kink is more specific than someone saying good girl in an almost clichéd way. It does relate to arousal, hence why it's called a praise *kink*. Everyone likes hearing nice things said, compliments and the such (to various levels, different types etc). But a praise kink to me is on a deeper level. I experience arousal from receiving specific compliments. That also includes it being tapped in to after a dalliance; someone saying how much they enjoyed x, y and z with me and what a x, y and z I was during it. I've been told before it's needy, like I'm seeking validation but it's not that. I actively get off on that level of communication, that desire feedback loop is magnified. At the same time... it's a kink. That doesn't mean I need to hear it from every person I have sex with. It wouldn't/doesn't work with some. When it does? It's intense and electrifying. I don't think people are trying to make claims on being part of the BDSM community or saying they're incredibly kinky because they enjoy it. Nor do I think we should gatekeep to such an extent that we pooh pooh over the notion that someone can have one without being part of the "community". I actively don't say I'm a submissive, a dominant or anything like that. You can have a praise kink without thinking you're blurring some lines or trying to say you're a kinky so and so. | |||
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"It's not really about being called a good girl for me. I want all the compliments. Tell me how good I feel, how much you want me, tell me I'm sexy, call me beautiful. Thats the stuff gets me. " This 100000% for me too. I want to know how much someone is enjoying themselves with me. Please talk to me and give me all the moans and growls 
Being told im a good girl is also a big yes, but only with certain people and depending on the dynamic between us. | |||
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"It seems to have taken off in the wider BDSM community, and it allows members of the vanilla community to think they are kinky, either in the giving or accepting. From what I have read it is more specific and individual than most appreciate. It also relates to arousal, and I am kind of old school. People want to say they are into BDSM and D/s but they don't want the dark stuff and feel BDSM should all be fluffy and light. So they subconsciously use the blurring of BDSM/kink/arousal to claim their space in the BDSM community. The sensual dominants and subs and sexual dominants and subs are fellow travellers. I’m sure you didn’t mean it, but your comment reads between the lines as “They’re not really in the bdsm community unless they embrace the dark side too” Kind of gatekeeping. For some people BDSM can be all light and fluffy. Power exchange does not need to include pain. Domination does not need to equal degradation. Like I say, I’m hoping I’ve misunderstood you. Light and Fluffy Sado Masochism ..... ? This is not just BDSM, this is M&S L&FSM." I can see the advert now. Fluffy handcuffs, a feather and someone pouring chocolate sauce | |||
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"It seems to have taken off in the wider BDSM community, and it allows members of the vanilla community to think they are kinky, either in the giving or accepting. From what I have read it is more specific and individual than most appreciate. It also relates to arousal, and I am kind of old school. People want to say they are into BDSM and D/s but they don't want the dark stuff and feel BDSM should all be fluffy and light. So they subconsciously use the blurring of BDSM/kink/arousal to claim their space in the BDSM community. The sensual dominants and subs and sexual dominants and subs are fellow travellers. I'm going to agree with some of what you've said. Because you have a point. A praise kink is more specific than someone saying good girl in an almost clichéd way. It does relate to arousal, hence why it's called a praise *kink*. Everyone likes hearing nice things said, compliments and the such (to various levels, different types etc). But a praise kink to me is on a deeper level. I experience arousal from receiving specific compliments. That also includes it being tapped in to after a dalliance; someone saying how much they enjoyed x, y and z with me and what a x, y and z I was during it. I've been told before it's needy, like I'm seeking validation but it's not that. I actively get off on that level of communication, that desire feedback loop is magnified. At the same time... it's a kink. That doesn't mean I need to hear it from every person I have sex with. It wouldn't/doesn't work with some. When it does? It's intense and electrifying. I don't think people are trying to make claims on being part of the BDSM community or saying they're incredibly kinky because they enjoy it. Nor do I think we should gatekeep to such an extent that we pooh pooh over the notion that someone can have one without being part of the "community". I actively don't say I'm a submissive, a dominant or anything like that. You can have a praise kink without thinking you're blurring some lines or trying to say you're a kinky so and so." Sounds complicated, whatever happend to "Nice blowie love, ta" 🤷🏻♂️ | |||
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"It seems to have taken off in the wider BDSM community, and it allows members of the vanilla community to think they are kinky, either in the giving or accepting. From what I have read it is more specific and individual than most appreciate. It also relates to arousal, and I am kind of old school. People want to say they are into BDSM and D/s but they don't want the dark stuff and feel BDSM should all be fluffy and light. So they subconsciously use the blurring of BDSM/kink/arousal to claim their space in the BDSM community. The sensual dominants and subs and sexual dominants and subs are fellow travellers. I'm going to agree with some of what you've said. Because you have a point. A praise kink is more specific than someone saying good girl in an almost clichéd way. It does relate to arousal, hence why it's called a praise *kink*. Everyone likes hearing nice things said, compliments and the such (to various levels, different types etc). But a praise kink to me is on a deeper level. I experience arousal from receiving specific compliments. That also includes it being tapped in to after a dalliance; someone saying how much they enjoyed x, y and z with me and what a x, y and z I was during it. I've been told before it's needy, like I'm seeking validation but it's not that. I actively get off on that level of communication, that desire feedback loop is magnified. At the same time... it's a kink. That doesn't mean I need to hear it from every person I have sex with. It wouldn't/doesn't work with some. When it does? It's intense and electrifying. I don't think people are trying to make claims on being part of the BDSM community or saying they're incredibly kinky because they enjoy it. Nor do I think we should gatekeep to such an extent that we pooh pooh over the notion that someone can have one without being part of the "community". I actively don't say I'm a submissive, a dominant or anything like that. You can have a praise kink without thinking you're blurring some lines or trying to say you're a kinky so and so." ^^ She's a bad girl now. | |||
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"Sounds complicated, whatever happend to "Nice blowie love, ta" 🤷🏻♂️" Nothing. Still exists. Find people on your level and I'm sure they'll say that to you.  | |||
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"Sounds complicated, whatever happend to "Nice blowie love, ta" 🤷🏻♂️ Nothing. Still exists. Find people on your level and I'm sure they'll say that to you. "😱😱😱 A very bad girl! | |||
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"Sounds complicated, whatever happend to "Nice blowie love, ta" 🤷🏻♂️ Nothing. Still exists. Find people on your level and I'm sure they'll say that to you. "Not looking for people on my level just on their knees 😏 | |||
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"Sounds complicated, whatever happend to "Nice blowie love, ta" 🤷🏻♂️ Nothing. Still exists. Find people on your level and I'm sure they'll say that to you.
Not looking for people on my level just on their knees 😏"Ha brilliant. Well played. | |||
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"What’s your thoughts on it? I seem to come across it more and more often these days " Well, you learn a new thing everyday…never heard of it. Thanks!  | |||
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"It seems to have taken off in the wider BDSM community, and it allows members of the vanilla community to think they are kinky, either in the giving or accepting. From what I have read it is more specific and individual than most appreciate. It also relates to arousal, and I am kind of old school. People want to say they are into BDSM and D/s but they don't want the dark stuff and feel BDSM should all be fluffy and light. So they subconsciously use the blurring of BDSM/kink/arousal to claim their space in the BDSM community. The sensual dominants and subs and sexual dominants and subs are fellow travellers. I’m sure you didn’t mean it, but your comment reads between the lines as “They’re not really in the bdsm community unless they embrace the dark side too” Kind of gatekeeping. For some people BDSM can be all light and fluffy. Power exchange does not need to include pain. Domination does not need to equal degradation. Like I say, I’m hoping I’ve misunderstood you. Light and Fluffy Sado Masochism ..... ? This is not just BDSM, this is M&S L&FSM. I can see the advert now. Fluffy handcuffs, a feather and someone pouring chocolate sauce " Chocolate sauce? In! | |||
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"I'm barely getting my head around having sex. Just tell me it wasn't the worst you've had and I'm OK with that. " Sounds a bit Alan Partridge, definitely above average sex well done, overall 8/10 | |||
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"It seems to have taken off in the wider BDSM community, and it allows members of the vanilla community to think they are kinky, either in the giving or accepting. From what I have read it is more specific and individual than most appreciate. It also relates to arousal, and I am kind of old school. People want to say they are into BDSM and D/s but they don't want the dark stuff and feel BDSM should all be fluffy and light. So they subconsciously use the blurring of BDSM/kink/arousal to claim their space in the BDSM community. The sensual dominants and subs and sexual dominants and subs are fellow travellers. " There's a good point being made here which seems to have been missed. If you were speaking with someone and you said you had a praise kink and they approaching it from a totally different angle to you. You could end up in a load of bother as you had presumed you were on the same page. I am someone who crosses into both the swinging and BDSM communities. The blurring of vocabulary leads to confusion, which can be harmful. I think it's useful to have different perspectives, as they say knowledge is power. | |||
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"It seems to have taken off in the wider BDSM community, and it allows members of the vanilla community to think they are kinky, either in the giving or accepting. From what I have read it is more specific and individual than most appreciate. It also relates to arousal, and I am kind of old school. People want to say they are into BDSM and D/s but they don't want the dark stuff and feel BDSM should all be fluffy and light. So they subconsciously use the blurring of BDSM/kink/arousal to claim their space in the BDSM community. The sensual dominants and subs and sexual dominants and subs are fellow travellers. There's a good point being made here which seems to have been missed. If you were speaking with someone and you said you had a praise kink and they approaching it from a totally different angle to you. You could end up in a load of bother as you had presumed you were on the same page. I am someone who crosses into both the swinging and BDSM communities. The blurring of vocabulary leads to confusion, which can be harmful. I think it's useful to have different perspectives, as they say knowledge is power. " Yes and no. Even using the word kink implies a level of self awareness and understanding with a desire to communicate what's wanted. And kink in any lifestyle, community or scene needs clear communication between partners. I think if someone says 'oh I didn't realise you meant swingers praise and not BDSM praise' (not a real world example) kind just indicates poor communication regardless of identification with any particular lifestyle. Separately the BDSM gatekeeping is hilarious. | |||
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"It seems to have taken off in the wider BDSM community, and it allows members of the vanilla community to think they are kinky, either in the giving or accepting. From what I have read it is more specific and individual than most appreciate. It also relates to arousal, and I am kind of old school. People want to say they are into BDSM and D/s but they don't want the dark stuff and feel BDSM should all be fluffy and light. So they subconsciously use the blurring of BDSM/kink/arousal to claim their space in the BDSM community. The sensual dominants and subs and sexual dominants and subs are fellow travellers. There's a good point being made here which seems to have been missed. If you were speaking with someone and you said you had a praise kink and they approaching it from a totally different angle to you. You could end up in a load of bother as you had presumed you were on the same page. I am someone who crosses into both the swinging and BDSM communities. The blurring of vocabulary leads to confusion, which can be harmful. I think it's useful to have different perspectives, as they say knowledge is power. Yes and no. Even using the word kink implies a level of self awareness and understanding with a desire to communicate what's wanted. And kink in any lifestyle, community or scene needs clear communication between partners. I think if someone says 'oh I didn't realise you meant swingers praise and not BDSM praise' (not a real world example) kind just indicates poor communication regardless of identification with any particular lifestyle. Separately the BDSM gatekeeping is hilarious." I'm not totally sure I agree, the use of the word kink and fetish are used in daily life these days. So I do believe some use it without thought of it's original conitations. Loads of people are poor communicators I find. And that people tend to assume much more than they should. But that may be just me as I require details and I'm not afraid to ask for them. And it's often at that point I find people don't have a clear view of exactly what they want. Gatekeeping is not good for any community agreed. As with much in life there is a spectrum and there's room for everyone. | |||
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"It seems to have taken off in the wider BDSM community, and it allows members of the vanilla community to think they are kinky, either in the giving or accepting. From what I have read it is more specific and individual than most appreciate. It also relates to arousal, and I am kind of old school. People want to say they are into BDSM and D/s but they don't want the dark stuff and feel BDSM should all be fluffy and light. So they subconsciously use the blurring of BDSM/kink/arousal to claim their space in the BDSM community. The sensual dominants and subs and sexual dominants and subs are fellow travellers. There's a good point being made here which seems to have been missed. If you were speaking with someone and you said you had a praise kink and they approaching it from a totally different angle to you. You could end up in a load of bother as you had presumed you were on the same page. I am someone who crosses into both the swinging and BDSM communities. The blurring of vocabulary leads to confusion, which can be harmful. I think it's useful to have different perspectives, as they say knowledge is power. Yes and no. Even using the word kink implies a level of self awareness and understanding with a desire to communicate what's wanted. And kink in any lifestyle, community or scene needs clear communication between partners. I think if someone says 'oh I didn't realise you meant swingers praise and not BDSM praise' (not a real world example) kind just indicates poor communication regardless of identification with any particular lifestyle. Separately the BDSM gatekeeping is hilarious. I'm not totally sure I agree, the use of the word kink and fetish are used in daily life these days. So I do believe some use it without thought of it's original conitations. Loads of people are poor communicators I find. And that people tend to assume much more than they should. But that may be just me as I require details and I'm not afraid to ask for them. And it's often at that point I find people don't have a clear view of exactly what they want. Gatekeeping is not good for any community agreed. As with much in life there is a spectrum and there's room for everyone. " Definitely they are used in daily life and words get diluted and adopted into the mainstream all the time and I think by and large that's a good thing as it means a broader evolving experience for many people. I guess I just believe that adults should take responsibility for their own experience. If I like spanking I'm not going to assume my partner is just going to slap my ass or how hard. I'm gonna say what I like. | |||
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"It seems to have taken off in the wider BDSM community, and it allows members of the vanilla community to think they are kinky, either in the giving or accepting. From what I have read it is more specific and individual than most appreciate. It also relates to arousal, and I am kind of old school. People want to say they are into BDSM and D/s but they don't want the dark stuff and feel BDSM should all be fluffy and light. So they subconsciously use the blurring of BDSM/kink/arousal to claim their space in the BDSM community. The sensual dominants and subs and sexual dominants and subs are fellow travellers. There's a good point being made here which seems to have been missed. If you were speaking with someone and you said you had a praise kink and they approaching it from a totally different angle to you. You could end up in a load of bother as you had presumed you were on the same page. I am someone who crosses into both the swinging and BDSM communities. The blurring of vocabulary leads to confusion, which can be harmful. I think it's useful to have different perspectives, as they say knowledge is power. Yes and no. Even using the word kink implies a level of self awareness and understanding with a desire to communicate what's wanted. And kink in any lifestyle, community or scene needs clear communication between partners. I think if someone says 'oh I didn't realise you meant swingers praise and not BDSM praise' (not a real world example) kind just indicates poor communication regardless of identification with any particular lifestyle. Separately the BDSM gatekeeping is hilarious. I'm not totally sure I agree, the use of the word kink and fetish are used in daily life these days. So I do believe some use it without thought of it's original conitations. Loads of people are poor communicators I find. And that people tend to assume much more than they should. But that may be just me as I require details and I'm not afraid to ask for them. And it's often at that point I find people don't have a clear view of exactly what they want. Gatekeeping is not good for any community agreed. As with much in life there is a spectrum and there's room for everyone. Definitely they are used in daily life and words get diluted and adopted into the mainstream all the time and I think by and large that's a good thing as it means a broader evolving experience for many people. I guess I just believe that adults should take responsibility for their own experience. If I like spanking I'm not going to assume my partner is just going to slap my ass or how hard. I'm gonna say what I like. " That would suggest that you are sensible. I just find that a rare thing | |||
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"You called Urgh would love to have you be my good girl " Agreed 😂 | |||
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"It's not really about being called a good girl for me. I want all the compliments. Tell me how good I feel, how much you want me, tell me I'm sexy, call me beautiful. Thats the stuff gets me. " This is it, I can do all of the above 😂 | |||
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"I do have one a rather large one at that. But it's not about being called a good girl for me at least. It's more about a positive feedback loop, it's hearing him growl in your ear when he fucks you or that message he next day about how fucking amazing it was. I guess everyone likes hearing these things to a point, it just really intensifies the lust in me. " This for me too, please! 🤤 I can't help but giving praise/feedback to the Mr. too. | |||
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