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By *ornybiandhim OP   Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We have been here a while n people have said very nice profile, start chatting with us n even arrange to meet, then nothing! They just either dont reply to us or go off line for for a while . Any suggestions?

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By *ampopotwoCouple
over a year ago

southampton

Have you seen how many other couples are looking for a single fem compared to how many single fems are looking for couples?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've only been on here 9 weeks guys - you need to give it time. But you are looking to meet what is the most in-demand and rare breed on here: The single bi-fem... Just need to keep plugging away...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're only looking for females...

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

You're fishing in a very heavily fished pond, looking for a single bi fem. Also the fact you can't accommodate might be putting some ladies off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The odds are very much stacked against you, the rarest of the rare is the single bi female and there are a great many couples that want to meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a former single bi female, my advice would be to maybe add a bit more about whats on offer (can't think of a better way of putting it!) for the lady and some more pics of the male half. Not being able to accomodate will be a disadvantage as not many single ladies invite people they don't know into their homes for safety reasons. Your pics of the female half are stunning . Good luck. Ms

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By *ornybiandhim OP   Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"You're fishing in a very heavily fished pond, looking for a single bi fem. Also the fact you can't accommodate might be putting some ladies off."

We cant accomodate as av children but we can meet in hotels.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"You're fishing in a very heavily fished pond, looking for a single bi fem. Also the fact you can't accommodate might be putting some ladies off.

We cant accomodate as av children but we can meet in hotels. "

Pop that on your profile, that way any single lady reading it knows, and she doesn't think you're looking for her to accommodate. I'd be very wary of inviting a couple to my home to play.

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By *ornybiandhim OP   Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"You're fishing in a very heavily fished pond, looking for a single bi fem. Also the fact you can't accommodate might be putting some ladies off.

We cant accomodate as av children but we can meet in hotels.

Pop that on your profile, that way any single lady reading it knows, and she doesn't think you're looking for her to accommodate. I'd be very wary of inviting a couple to my home to play."

We have now added that to our profile, thank u

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

Agree you're looking for a rarity, but it seems, whatever you're looking for, there are quite a few timewasters out there.

I imagine some are fake personas which would not pass actually meeting, some are fantasising and never intending to meet, but guess it gets their rocks off.

Keep trying though.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

There isn't enough ladies for us single guys already. As a couple only looking for women, please join the queue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The odds are very much stacked against you, the rarest of the rare is the single bi female and there are a great many couples that want to meet them"

Actually there's nothing wrong with your profile, the issue is that as a singe lady meeting a couple, you need to be attracted to both of them...you then have to work out is it about the guy just wanting to ****you, whilst his missus spends the evening twiddling her thumbs...is it about her just wanting to put on a show for him...but no real interest in you....and also how solid are they as a couple, as the last thing you want is to create issues between them.....so it's not that easy for us either......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give it time. There are nice genuine people on here. Wish we had a pound for every time we were onto a "sure thing" only to have the trail go cold.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexyblackjen makes a good point so thats worth bearing in mind when approaching ladies. Thats what I meant when I said about whats on offer for the single lady but sexyblackjen put it better than me! I must admit that I stopped meeting couples as a single lady after a few episodes where I felt like a performing monkey or where the female half had a jealous bitch fit. Shame as with the right combination it's one of my faves. Ms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately we get lots of mail off couples and there isnt anything on your profile that would make you stand out so maybe make your messages stand out.

Maybe more pics of the male half as most couples profiles are aimed at the fem and when meeting a couple its about both...well for me it is...good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The odds are very much stacked against you, the rarest of the rare is the single bi female and there are a great many couples that want to meet them

Actually there's nothing wrong with your profile, the issue is that as a singe lady meeting a couple, you need to be attracted to both of them...you then have to work out is it about the guy just wanting to ****you, whilst his missus spends the evening twiddling her thumbs...is it about her just wanting to put on a show for him...but no real interest in you....and also how solid are they as a couple, as the last thing you want is to create issues between them.....so it's not that easy for us either......"

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By *lentyoffun40Couple
over a year ago

Lancashire

our advice

go to a club .. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I could pick up on what sexyblackjen said... Women pick up on nuances very quickly, and do so much better in person than via messages etc via this or other sites. You might 'help your cause' if you try going to a few clubs to try and meet bi-fems, rather than set things up here.

The fem gets the chance to meet you in safety, you can cover a lot of ground talk-wise in person that would take ages on here, and - if there is no chemistry, or the fem is not okay with YOU - it's less of a disappointment if it doesn't go as far as play.

What others have said is correct - put yourselves in the bi-fems position: she needs to FULLY understand the dynamic in YOUR relationship before committing to playing with you. If she's got it wrong as that's not come over in messages etc, then it can easily end 'badly'....

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