FabSwingers.com forum: Verifications

By *ittynz OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Richmond

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By *ittynz OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Richmond

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By *ittynz OP Woman
3 weeks ago

Richmond

Do they count? Do people read them? Does it bother you if there aren’t any or not recent as in over year old? And do cam verified even count ?

I personally don’t show mine but does say how recent they are and what /who they are. But I find reading some people’s very sexy , but also I’m like you’ve not meet anyone in a year why? Just wondered what other people’s thoughts are?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
3 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Verifications seem to be the be all and end all to an awful lot of people on here.

I’m not fussed about them

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By *entlemanH666Man
3 weeks ago

South West

I like to read verifications…to discover the good and the bad

A gap could be for a number of reasons….seeing one person in that time….not needing anyone new….life putting a stop to extra curricular activities….being discerning and not finding exactly what they want…

I recently switched to another platform so didn’t really use fab for a year until now.

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By *aven.Woman
3 weeks ago

Not the North West...

I've never wanted to meet someone based off a verification.

I have been put off guys because of them though.

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By *entlemanH666Man
3 weeks ago

South West

"I've never wanted to meet someone based off a verification.

I have been put off guys because of them though.

I usually only read them from a profile that has already interested me…so I wouldn’t say they are a reason but can add more supporting evidence haha.

But like you they have definitely put me off before….

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By *ealitybitesMan
3 weeks ago

Belfast

I haven't had a new verification in more than 2 years and I couldn't care less if that bothers people.

I've never once decided to meet someone based on a verification because I don't believe half of what is written in them.

I don't have any play related veries and wouldn't display them if I had because it's no one's business.

Thev content of any verification is irrelevant as far as I'm concerned. I'm only interested in who wrote them so that I can follow the verification trail and know who to avoid.

I've had people tell me all sorts of crazy tales about other fabbers and how dangerous they are, how they should have their kids taken away, how they are the scum of the earth and how horrible they have been at socials etc.

Those same people warning me have then gone on to meet and verify every one of these terrible creatures as lovely and charming and life long friends.

That's why I take them all with a shovel of salt.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

They are useful in that they show the person is real and did show up to a meet. Sometimes I look to see what age men they are meeting, if the age preference is set at 18 to 99 on the profile.

I don’t read them,

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By *ellhungvweMan
3 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I am generally sceptical of any female or couple account that doesn’t have any - especially if they have been on the site for a while. It doesn’t mean it is a hard no but I will spend more effort making sure they are who they say they and I will also generally assume that they are unlikely to meet.

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By *nthelookout99Man
3 weeks ago

Newcastle upon tyne

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By *ora the explorerWoman
3 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"I am generally sceptical of any female or couple account that doesn’t have any - especially if they have been on the site for a while. It doesn’t mean it is a hard no but I will spend more effort making sure they are who they say they and I will also generally assume that they are unlikely to meet."

Any showing or no green tick? I have loads but don’t show them. A lot of people say what you say. My loss I suppose 🤣🤷‍♀️

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By *allipygousMan
3 weeks ago

Leicester

If the woman displays a verification that brags about how he pounded her cervix and shot his load up her until it dribbled out that would put me off just for the type of braggart she would meet and her for displaying it.

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By *CExeCouple
3 weeks ago

Lincoln/Exeter

If we're looking for a solo meet for Chels, then having verifications from other single females is a reassurance. Regular, good verifications help thin out timewasters and weirdos.

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By *aven.Woman
3 weeks ago

Not the North West...

I have a guy that messages me now and again and he's convinced I'm a guy, I can't ruin that.

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan
3 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

I have a guy that messages me now and again and he's convinced I'm a guy, I can't ruin that.

I knew it!!!!

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By *eroLondonMan
3 weeks ago

Covent Garden

To some they are important. To others less so.

Women - some of them anyway - will deviate from being indifferent to being more fussed about them, or not caring about them whatsoever.

For most men - though not all - will place a greater emphasis on them because for some reason it's been indoctrinated within the corridors of Fab that if you haven't received the stamp of approval then your fate is already sealed. This applies to newbies, in particular.

Most will apply a policy of reciprocally giving and receiving to all. This is fine.

Most will apply a policy of not giving or receiving to anyone. This is also fine.

Some will display them all, some will display a curated few and some will hide theirs in totality. This is also fine.

Some will say that verifications are the root cause of Fab drama, for Fab is the world's stage for all theatrics when it comes to 'weaponising' one against the other.

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By *ellhungvweMan
3 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Any showing or no green tick? I have loads but don’t show them. A lot of people say what you say. My loss I suppose 🤣🤷‍♀️"

I didn’t say it was a hard no - just that I become more wary. The less that gets shown the more I am wary.

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By *sWyldWoman
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I tend not to show most of mine as I do find them a bit tacky at times.

I'm rarely interested in what verifications actually say, but more so in who is leaving them.

Sometimes it can put me off someone

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By *cotlad178Man
3 weeks ago

falkirk

"To some they are important. To others less so.

Women - some of them anyway - will deviate from being indifferent to being more fussed about them, or not caring about them whatsoever.

Most will apply a policy of reciprocally giving and receiving to all. This is fine.

Most will apply a policy of not giving or receiving to anyone. This is also fine.

Some will display them all, some will display a curated few and some will hide theirs in totality. This is also fine.

Some will say that verifications are the root cause of Fab drama, for Fab is the world's stage for all theatrics when it comes to 'weaponising' one against the other.

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I have this feeling being a newbie, I'm getting lots of views but think the lack of the green tick means I'm going nowhere, I'm focusing on getting to a club now to hopefully get one.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

I only look at if they’re photo verified as that means more to me than someone saying they saw them wanking on cam or something like that

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By *aomilatteCouple
3 weeks ago

Midlands

"Do they count? Do people read them? Does it bother you if there aren’t any or not recent as in over year old? And do cam verified even count ?

They matter to some and not to others. Personally we don't normally reply unless a profile is meet verified and there's some sort of verification trail. We also read much more into verifications than "they're real and they turned up".

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

The only reason I meet people on fab is so I can get a Veri from them.

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By *weetiepie99Woman
3 weeks ago

cardiff

I hate them. They are a waste of time. Just one will do to show you are real if need be. They mean nothing to me.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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3 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I read them.

I'm not bothered if others do or not, or feel that there's a number that's 'too many'.

Nor am I bothered if people go 'ooh, he has some from men so he's obviously meeting them on the sly'. Some people can't comprehend that two men can verify eachother just because they're nice guys that have met, chatted and had a beer together at an event.

Views on veris will never be consistent so it's really not worth worrying about. Just do you. 🤷‍♂️

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"The only reason I meet people on fab is so I can get a Veri from them. "

I feel used. 😮

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By *eroLondonMan
3 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"The only reason I meet people on fab is so I can get a Veri from them.

I feel used. 😮"

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You're lucky, he refused to accept mine.

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

"The only reason I meet people on fab is so I can get a Veri from them.

I feel used. 😮"
I haven’t used you yet, big boy.

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

"The only reason I meet people on fab is so I can get a Veri from them.

I feel used. 😮

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You're lucky, he refused to accept mine.

Did I?

Oooops

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By *ACOLCouple
3 weeks ago

limerick

We give them as a coutesy and are greatful to anyone when we get any, but we don't display them anymore, we only display the one from host.

I believe everyone must make their own mind about us and viceversa.

Lina.

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By *iscotti32Woman
3 weeks ago

gateshead

The lamppost pissing ones put me off, otherwise I quite enjoy reading them

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By *erry bull1Man
3 weeks ago

doncaster

I had some good ones from couples and ladies I’ve met since coming on here , but some left the site and and I lost my veris . To be truthful veris do not bother and I have declined them

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading

Some of mine i really like as they are quirky and remind me of some good times.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
3 weeks ago

West Suffolk

Do they count? - Yes

Do people read them? - yes

Does it bother you if there aren’t any -

Yes, we won’t meet people that are not verified

or not recent as in over year old? - yeah if someone has t met for a long time we wonder why not

And do cam verified even count ?

Yes and no. They are better than nothing but a cam session is not the same as a meet

Having one and hiding it is probably more suspicious than not having any

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By *heSwingingNerd42Man
3 weeks ago

Carlow And

I find it hard to get any. People say they won’t meet anybody that doesn’t have them but how do I get verified if nobody wants to meet unless I am.

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By *aughtyLittlePicsCouple
3 weeks ago

Belper

We were messaged by a guy the other day that one of us was very keen on and the other not so… until we read his verifications and they painted a picture of someone who was friendly, considerate and read the room well.

The guy went from being a “maybe” to a “definitely”

We always read them if they are there but sometimes they don’t always tell you a lot

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By *cotlad178Man
3 weeks ago

falkirk

"I find it hard to get any. People say they won’t meet anybody that doesn’t have them but how do I get verified if nobody wants to meet unless I am. "
exactomundo it's a very vicious cycle. Keep being told to go to clubs but what if, one you can't go to one when they have events on due to family or other commitments? And two if you need to be verified to get in?

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By *heSwingingNerd42Man
3 weeks ago

Carlow And

With clubs I’ve seen advertise they either don’t allow single guys or you need to be invited/ have verifications I’m just so lost on what I have to do

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By *bi HaiveMan
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3 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"With clubs I’ve seen advertise they either don’t allow single guys or you need to be invited/ have verifications I’m just so lost on what I have to do "

Everyone.

Every single person on Fab, that has been verified, started out with none.

It's a level playing field for all when you join the site. Clubs help, as do organised socials and events. But plenty manage without them.

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By *agnar73Man
3 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

"The only reason I meet people on fab is so I can get a Veri from them.

I feel used. 😮

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You're lucky, he refused to accept mine.

😮

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By *heSwingingNerd42Man
3 weeks ago

Carlow And

"With clubs I’ve seen advertise they either don’t allow single guys or you need to be invited/ have verifications I’m just so lost on what I have to do

Everyone.

Every single person on Fab, that has been verified, started out with none.

It's a level playing field for all when you join the site. Clubs help, as do organised socials and events. But plenty manage without them. "

I know that I’m just stating what clubs are like near me they’re very picky

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By *eroLondonMan
3 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"The lamppost pissing ones put me off, otherwise I quite enjoy reading them"

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Oh, I don't know, darling Biscotti, when I hear the term "lamppost piss" it just evokes my memory of the Lamppost in Narnia, the one that you see when you emerge from the other side of the wardrobe.

If I could make love to The White Witch I suppose I would piss upon that very lamppost as a matter of smugness and pride.

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By *art1968Man
3 weeks ago

stafford

As verifications are important to a lot and understandably so, it’s frustrating when people don’t leave you a verification and I would never push them to but without them the options seem more limited!!

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By *he Silver FuxMan
3 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

Verifications are important for me, it’s not about the content per se but the insight they provide. It’s a unique feature of Fab that other sites don’t have. For example

Couple: last meet veri 3 years ago, messaging me. Veris show activity mostly 4 or 5 years ago.. tailing off.

…it’s the husband keeping the profile going, wife not involved or even aware, she doesn’t access the account and no longer interested in swinging. He’s a fantasist and is wasting my time…

Single Lady: Loads of polite social verifications maybe one or two spurious verified meets for sex.

I’ll chat but I’m not investing time or effort in arranging meets. She’s going to bail sooner or later and that hotel room or Spa weekend is going to be going spare.

Single Lady: loads of verifications, not a problem but looking at the sort of men she meets and the badly written veris they leave (“treat this one with respect”)… not for me.

I read verifications because the interconnected network they form are a great way of meeting other genuine people, finding great parties and hosts.

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By *vaRose43Woman
3 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

"Do they count? Do people read them? Does it bother you if there aren’t any or not recent as in over year old? And do cam verified even count ?

Do they count. Nope beyond saying the person is real

So people read them: yes

Not recent/okd: don’t care

Do cam count: yes

Do I read them? Yes, does it influence who I would meet? No.

I don’t display mine because of reasons

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
3 weeks ago

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"Do they count? Do people read them? Does it bother you if there aren’t any or not recent as in over year old? And do cam verified even count ?

Do they count. Nope beyond saying the person is real

So people read them: yes

Not recent/okd: don’t care

Do cam count: yes

Do I read them? Yes, does it influence who I would meet? No.

I don’t display mine because of reasons "

I want you to display mine so everyone knows I ate you out.

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

"Do they count? Do people read them? Does it bother you if there aren’t any or not recent as in over year old? And do cam verified even count ?

Do they count. Nope beyond saying the person is real

So people read them: yes

Not recent/okd: don’t care

Do cam count: yes

Do I read them? Yes, does it influence who I would meet? No.

I don’t display mine because of reasons

I want you to display mine so everyone knows I ate you out. "

I mean ate out with you.

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By *r John WickMan
3 weeks ago

The Continental

That’s a lot of questions to answer.

So I’ll keep it short n sweet by saying verifications………meh, not fussed all round.

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By *eliWoman
3 weeks ago

Veris matter to some. I like reading them, like displaying social ones. I wouldn't display any others because people are odd.

It maybe could affect if I'd meet somebody? Yes, actually, it would. Potentially.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Central

They're valuable to me, as a prospective partner, to help to reduce the likelihood that someone isn't reliable.

There are no guarantees! See my post on quack treatments, including the 14,000 men who had goat testicles implanted, to replace their own.

A verification generally may mean that a user is who they claim to be.

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By *revaunanceCouple
3 weeks ago

Exeter

We don't show ours as we believe discretion also involves not saying with whom we have met. But we do show the verification summary in case people feel that some sort of validation is needed.

In the past few years we have met with several first timers who have not been able to verify us, so it goes to show that despite being active, veri's (or the lack of) aren't the full story at times.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
3 weeks ago

North West

"Do they count? Do people read them? Does it bother you if there aren’t any or not recent as in over year old? And do cam verified even count ?

If I wanted to do the Sex with them, I'd at least look and see if veris suggest they're real but generally do social meet ups first and judge for my/ourself.

Most of our veris are from socials and many are frankly very silly

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By *HUSH-Man
3 weeks ago

London

I can and have been put off by verifications. Ones that include references to cheating on their partner and bragging about what they got up to. I know none of us are saints but I also know that I wouldn’t get on with someone like that.

I think they can be somewhat important. Especially for single men. It tells people that the person is real and has the confidence to show up. That does seem to be quite an issue on here with single men being no shows.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

I love them, most of mine are from socials... I love reading other people's if I'm consider meeting them it heloa me to gauge the person

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By *laytime_13Woman
3 weeks ago

Lincs

Personally I like them.

I like getting them and seeing happy memories captured in black and white for me to look back at. When my profile’s up, I only have 1 public which just shows I’m real

the rest are for me.

That said, I like seeing them on profiles as it gives a bit of an idea of what people are about.

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By *he_Mixed_GuyMan
3 weeks ago

Reading

I do read veri's helps get to know that person I bit more before meeting...

However I met my first on fab only on Sunday, and I had none before then... she Really enjoyed my visit.. so sometimes u just gotta go with gut instinct I guess

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By *NormalMan01Man
3 weeks ago

Harrogate

"Do they count? Do people read them? Does it bother you if there aren’t any or not recent as in over year old? And do cam verified even count ?

I barely look at them, all they show is that you met someone one time. To me, anyway.

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By *eroLondonMan
3 weeks ago

Covent Garden

"To some they are important. To others less so.

Women - some of them anyway - will deviate from being indifferent to being more fussed about them, or not caring about them whatsoever.

Most will apply a policy of reciprocally giving and receiving to all. This is fine.

Most will apply a policy of not giving or receiving to anyone. This is also fine.

Some will display them all, some will display a curated few and some will hide theirs in totality. This is also fine.

Some will say that verifications are the root cause of Fab drama, for Fab is the world's stage for all theatrics when it comes to 'weaponising' one against the other.

I have this feeling being a newbie, I'm getting lots of views but think the lack of the green tick means I'm going nowhere, I'm focusing on getting to a club now to hopefully get one."

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Get yourself to a club (or a social), dear fellow and you will find your Shangri-la. 🫂

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By *elchmanMan
3 weeks ago

Westcliff-on-Sea

Most verifications tend to big up the person too much when in reality it usually doesn't match

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By *allipygousMan
3 weeks ago

Leicester

"Verifications are important for me, it’s not about the content per se but the insight they provide. It’s a unique feature of Fab that other sites don’t have. For example

Couple: last meet veri 3 years ago, messaging me. Veris show activity mostly 4 or 5 years ago.. tailing off.

…it’s the husband keeping the profile going, wife not involved or even aware, she doesn’t access the account and no longer interested in swinging. He’s a fantasist and is wasting my time…

Single Lady: Loads of polite social verifications maybe one or two spurious verified meets for sex.

I’ll chat but I’m not investing time or effort in arranging meets. She’s going to bail sooner or later and that hotel room or Spa weekend is going to be going spare.

Single Lady: loads of verifications, not a problem but looking at the sort of men she meets and the badly written veris they leave (“treat this one with respect”)… not for me.

I read verifications because the interconnected network they form are a great way of meeting other genuine people, finding great parties and hosts.

This aligns with my thoughts.

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