FabSwingers.com forum: No luck

By *elaxed couple 69 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Arbroath

We have been on for over a year met some nice people spoke to a lot more just never seem to get to the next step any advice

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By *arla SwingerWoman
3 weeks ago

Somewhere

Are you actively trying to make plans? It's nice to chat but if it runs on for ages then people tend to lose interest

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Same old advice. Get to the clubs.

It's easier to gauge chemistry and attraction in person. Clubs have that atmosphere that makes it easier to take it to the next steps rather than trying to work out how to broach the "we should go fuck now" moment as well as providing close by facilities to do so without hotel fees or compromising the family home or sense of security and privacy.

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By *elaxed couple 69 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Arbroath

Yes we have a few times we even like going to the socials only problem now is they seem to be every time we are both working

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
3 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Have you tried meeting men?

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By *elaxed couple 69 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Arbroath

Wouldn’t mind as part of a couple but otherwise it’s a no

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex

Are you asking to meet?

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By *arla SwingerWoman
3 weeks ago

Somewhere

"Yes we have a few times we even like going to the socials only problem now is they seem to be every time we are both working "

Post a meet for when you know you're both free.

Try a club if there is one near you.

Book a room and post a social/meet in advance - you can still use the room if you don't click with the other couple

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By *oodmessMan
3 weeks ago

yumsville

Have you considered putting a few things on your profile in regards saying what each are looking for or are into.

There's a tonne of couples out there that are looking for very different things - voyeur, same room, full swapping, poly, bondage, rough sex, sensual sex, group sex, bukakke whatever ... into one off's, spontaneous, planned, daytime.. it'll give people an idea before you start messaging. Other than that, maybe meet at a hotel, you don't have to play if you don't like them but it's neutral and is more intimate.

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By *elaxed couple 69 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Arbroath

Yes we have asked to meet in a pub or coffee place so it’s safe for all party’s

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Yes we have asked to meet in a pub or coffee place so it’s safe for all party’s "

After that are you asking to take things further?

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By *elaxed couple 69 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Arbroath

Nobody has ever turned up unfortunately

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By *educing_EmCouple
3 weeks ago

Tipperary

It's not easy trying to meet couples where there's attraction between everyone.

Ye need to put a lot of footwork in, get to clubs whenever ye both have free time.

Make the first move with messages on here if ye like a profile.

Don't spend forever chatting because things can go flat, ask to meet up either at a club or socially to keep the spark going.

Try not to have too many expectations and you don't go away from it disappointed if it's a no go.

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By *elaxed couple 69 OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Arbroath

I think you guys are right need to get to the clubs and meet more people

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By *ucka39Man
3 weeks ago

Newcastle

"I think you guys are right need to get to the clubs and meet more people "

Hiya

If you use the reply and quote per comment it makes it easier to whom you are responding to

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By *JandCMCouple
3 weeks ago

cardiff

"Nobody has ever turned up unfortunately "

Our process n has always worked for people Turning up for 1st meet n that's the one where it's the most nervous, message a few times, talk on phone, arrange to meet, we normally meet in daylight in a carpark of a Leasure centre or somewhere like that. Normally find it a bit more pressure walking in to a pub or cafe, call them just as ur leaving to meet them to ensure ur on your way.

But with us then we talk for literally 5 minutes there n if OK then back to our for some fun.

We don't really regard this as a place for making friends, we just use this for what it is, a hook up site, so the people we meet don't have to be perfect, just not too weird

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
3 weeks ago

Leeds

Maybe consider putting more on your profile, for me to respond to someone I want to see if there's an initial attraction (I can't from your pics) and that the bio suggests we'd be after the same thing.

I much prefer meeting people at social events etc face to face is just far easier for me than online.

Good luck

Mrs

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By *eyond PurityCouple
3 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We’d expect a couple who are both wanting to meet to have pics of both.

We’d also expect couples to fill in their profile so it’s clear what you are both after and what you offer.

The more effort you make on a profile the more we think you’re more serious about using this site well.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

The 2 threads before are pretty similar, you had some good advice from 5 weeks ago but haven't done anything to help yourself still

So I am out

Good luck

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By *laytonAMan
3 weeks ago

Newport

Not in a couple currently but would say it does take a while to find people, and a lot of effort. I would say make a regular slot for meeting and try not to overthink things, the .ore pressure you put on things the harder you'll find it to find people. Good luck

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By *issmorganWoman
3 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op,

You should have some pics of the male too, if you're both involved in playing.

I'm half a couple and we delete any messages from couples that only show one person.

You said in another thread people are put off when you send pics, so of you include some of you both, people can see straight away of there's any attraction.

Also you've not written anything that would make other couples or ladies be interested in meeting you.

What can you offer meets, what are your likes and interests.

It's hard for couples full stop on here, so you do need to have a decent profile.

Alternatively try going to some organised socials, we've made more connections through them, than just relying on fab.

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By *einster-CoupleCouple
3 weeks ago

Dublin

We have been here a few years now and have only met 2 couples from the site. At least 6 never showed up. I put it down to nerves but they never let us know or made contact since. Just got to go with it I suppose.

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