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"I do. Very very very friendly. "although we only contact each other to arrange sessions, no coffees out etc. | |||
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"If you have a "friend with benefits" How friendly are you with them??" What's one of those again? 🤔 asking for a friend 😂 | |||
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"I do. Very very very friendly. although we only contact each other to arrange sessions, no coffees out etc. "Isn't that a fuck buddy then & not a FWB | |||
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"I do. Very very very friendly. although we only contact each other to arrange sessions, no coffees out etc.
Isn't that a fuck buddy then & not a FWB"Dunno. I suppose so. I don’t stick a label on her. | |||
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Wow really thought they'd be queuing round the block "Her arse isn’t that big!  | |||
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"i don't have one
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Wow really thought they'd be queuing round the block
Her arse isn’t that big! "Reminds me of an oft quoted incident when a beneficial friend was asked by the Eureka couter staff "Why are all those men following you?" 'Amiga Beneficia' replied "They're not following me, they're following my arse!" | |||
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"I do. Very very very friendly. although we only contact each other to arrange sessions, no coffees out etc.
Isn't that a fuck buddy then & not a FWB"This. | |||
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"I do. Very very very friendly. although we only contact each other to arrange sessions, no coffees out etc.
Isn't that a fuck buddy then & not a FWB
This. "Yes, thank you. We’ve worked out what label to stick on her tits, thank you.  | |||
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"If you have a "friend with benefits" How friendly are you with them??" Good friends, have chats online most days, regular phone calls, face to face time together is sometimes for sex and sometimes not. Great arrangement. But it’s been a work in progress across three years to get to this stage. We met on fab quite soon after I first joined and he was new too. We didn’t meet in real life for 18 months due to his personal situation but we got to know each other well during that time. | |||
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"If you have a "friend with benefits" How friendly are you with them??" Very. We do the sex thing most weeks. But we also do Netflix binging, home cooked brunches, drinks out, pub quizzes and tomorrow we're going to see Venom. | |||
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"I never knew finding a genuine one was such hard work. I give up now "• There's still time, your lådyship. Seek further afield and you may find your Shangri-la...on the Dickensian cobbled streets of ye olde London Towne. 💌 | |||
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There's still time, your lådyship. Seek further afield and you may find your Shangri-la...on the Dickensian cobbled streets of ye olde London Towne. 💌"A sort of Lady and the Tramp experience? | |||
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"If you have a "friend with benefits" How friendly are you with them??" We have their names tattooed on our bum cheeks. | |||
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"If you have a "friend with benefits" How friendly are you with them?? We have their names tattooed on our bum cheeks."  | |||
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"Need some advice got an ex who is a fwb,I've had feelings for him,and he knows it,and I thought he had,he did say he didn't need another fwb,but last nite he asked me over and another fwb turns up wanting a 3sum,the 3sum doesn't bother me as I've had one in the past what bother me was that he hasn't been honest. That goes along way in my book. So how do know what to do now. Thanks" What did you do? Carry on with the threesome? Sounds like you two need a chat to make sure you are both on the same page | |||
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"Need some advice got an ex who is a fwb,I've had feelings for him,and he knows it,and I thought he had,he did say he didn't need another fwb,but last nite he asked me over and another fwb turns up wanting a 3sum,the 3sum doesn't bother me as I've had one in the past what bother me was that he hasn't been honest. That goes along way in my book. So how do know what to do now. Thanks" I think you should fuck him off. Its completely out of order that he had someone else show up for a 3sum he didn't get your prior consent for, even if you had one before, he's assuming an awful lot. He's a total user. He's not showing you even basic care and respect. Sorry you've had to experience a shit like that xx | |||
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"If you have a "friend with benefits" How friendly are you with them??" Very friendly we see the friend part as the most import part of fwb | |||
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"I pissed one off and lost her. 😭 The other, we are really good friends and I don't see her sexually anymore. 🤯 I need a new one, but there aren't any women to be found. There are no women in the area. Fun women don't exist. 🫢😂" We do exist just not local to you 🤣 | |||
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"Not very friendly to be honest. They just seem to want to poke fun out of me." Awww... I just want to poke you | |||
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"Not very friendly to be honest. They just seem to want to poke fun out of me. Awww... I just want to poke you "Flirt! | |||
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"Not very friendly to be honest. They just seem to want to poke fun out of me. Awww... I just want to poke you
Flirt!"Have you only just realised?! 🤣🤣  | |||
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"I am moving more towards this now , people you can relay on and discuss the price of cheese with " So was I, but I didn't realise I had to discuss cheese with them 🤢 | |||
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"I pissed one off and lost her. 😭 The other, we are really good friends and I don't see her sexually anymore. 🤯 I need a new one, but there aren't any women to be found. There are no women in the area. Fun women don't exist. 🫢😂 We do exist just not local to you 🤣" Lol, all the ones around here are broken. I might go back to the one I've pissed off and say "Look, how much is it going to cost me to repair the damage?" 😂 | |||
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"I pissed one off and lost her. 😭 The other, we are really good friends and I don't see her sexually anymore. 🤯 I need a new one, but there aren't any women to be found. There are no women in the area. Fun women don't exist. 🫢😂 We do exist just not local to you 🤣 Lol, all the ones around here are broken. I might go back to the one I've pissed off and say "Look, how much is it going to cost me to repair the damage?" 😂" You make her sound like a clapped out cortina 🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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"I pissed one off and lost her. 😭 The other, we are really good friends and I don't see her sexually anymore. 🤯 I need a new one, but there aren't any women to be found. There are no women in the area. Fun women don't exist. 🫢😂 We do exist just not local to you 🤣 Lol, all the ones around here are broken. I might go back to the one I've pissed off and say "Look, how much is it going to cost me to repair the damage?" 😂 You make her sound like a clapped out cortina 🤣🤣🤣" Oh, far from it. She's beautiful and intelligent, and everything. That's probably why she chose not to put up with my shit. Lol. Noooo, I just need the problem to go away. If she can just give me a quote for the cost of repairing damage, that's fine. I'd pay it. 😂 | |||
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"Need some advice got an ex who is a fwb,I've had feelings for him,and he knows it,and I thought he had,he did say he didn't need another fwb,but last nite he asked me over and another fwb turns up wanting a 3sum,the 3sum doesn't bother me as I've had one in the past what bother me was that he hasn't been honest. That goes along way in my book. So how do know what to do now. Thanks I think you should fuck him off. Its completely out of order that he had someone else show up for a 3sum he didn't get your prior consent for, even if you had one before, he's assuming an awful lot. He's a total user. He's not showing you even basic care and respect. Sorry you've had to experience a shit like that xx" This about sums it up, I was going to reply with something similar. He hasn't asked if you consented the the other person being there for a threesome or I assume told you they where coming over which is not the way you treat friends in my opinion and is very bad form to put you on the spot like that. For me a friend with benifts should be exactly that, someone that you get on with and enjoy spending time with outside of the bedroom doing normal friendship things like going for a meal, having a coffee or drink with and having a good laugh with and certainly someone your have trust in, and you can be honest with. | |||
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"I pissed one off and lost her. 😭 The other, we are really good friends and I don't see her sexually anymore. 🤯 I need a new one, but there aren't any women to be found. There are no women in the area. Fun women don't exist. 🫢😂 We do exist just not local to you 🤣 Lol, all the ones around here are broken. I might go back to the one I've pissed off and say "Look, how much is it going to cost me to repair the damage?" 😂 You make her sound like a clapped out cortina 🤣🤣🤣 Oh, far from it. She's beautiful and intelligent, and everything. That's probably why she chose not to put up with my shit. Lol. Noooo, I just need the problem to go away. If she can just give me a quote for the cost of repairing damage, that's fine. I'd pay it. 😂" 🤣🤣 | |||
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"If you have a "friend with benefits" How friendly are you with them??" Quite a few.. variously do dinner dates, hotel nights, spa weekends, holidays, go to gigs, climb mountains, go as couples to parties or club events. Sometimes just come over, bottle of wine, fire going, snuggle, stay the night, spoon, fuck. Some I’ll even do big things for like remove a fireplace and board and plaster a wall in their living room… | |||
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"Not too friendly and recently been described as close but distant as if lines get blurred before you know it you're in a full blown relationship and feelings get involved so it can be a bit sticky " Not the ‘feels’ !!😱!! | |||
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"I don't really have one. I am open to it though. However, most of the people I speak too on here live too far. And ughhh. Fab curse. " Haha tell me about it 🤣 | |||
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"I see the friendship to be as important as the benefits " This!! X | |||
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"I see the friendship to be as important as the benefits This!! X" Made quite a lot of friends on this site and for that I'm thankful | |||
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"Not too friendly and recently been described as close but distant as if lines get blurred before you know it you're in a full blown relationship and feelings get involved so it can be a bit sticky Not the ‘feels’ !!😱!!" It the feelings aren't _utual could end in heartbreak and a loss of a good friend so it's good to keep NSA as much as possible | |||
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"I see the friendship to be as important as the benefits " I would be a friend, but I know some prefer the separation of things and not to be too involved | |||
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"The benefits are more fun if the friendship is genuine, but I think friendships of this nature are easier to sustain if one or both parties are already taken. Far less chance of drifting towards relationship territory. " I had a fwb for most of the first year I was on here, I'm in a long term relationship he was single, I laughed or shrugged of his comments like how he wished we had met years ago and we should run away together, which in hindsight I shouldn't have done, it spiraled into demands and guilt tripping, it has made me wary of getting into a fwb situation again but, I am ready now to try, I'm in no rush though. | |||
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"The benefits are more fun if the friendship is genuine, but I think friendships of this nature are easier to sustain if one or both parties are already taken. Far less chance of drifting towards relationship territory. I had a fwb for most of the first year I was on here, I'm in a long term relationship he was single, I laughed or shrugged of his comments like how he wished we had met years ago and we should run away together, which in hindsight I shouldn't have done, it spiraled into demands and guilt tripping, it has made me wary of getting into a fwb situation again but, I am ready now to try, I'm in no rush though." Oh, that sounds awkward, and not something I’ve experienced. I can understand why that would make you wary, but It’s lovely to hear you’re feeling ready again  | |||
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"It is the holy grail ...friendship 1st ..building connections ..with the sex bit bolted on . Not sure how attainable/ sustainable it is on here though." Don’t think it’s possible from here to be honest | |||
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"I do. She's currently annoyed with me for not paying her enough attention. It wasn't my best move when I replied "Who's this"? to her last message. Hopefully I'll get the chance to put things right." Attention? Most of them want money! | |||
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"I do. She's currently annoyed with me for not paying her enough attention. It wasn't my best move when I replied "Who's this"? to her last message. Hopefully I'll get the chance to put things right. Attention? Most of them want money!" You're getting finessed | |||
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"I do. She's currently annoyed with me for not paying her enough attention. It wasn't my best move when I replied "Who's this"? to her last message. Hopefully I'll get the chance to put things right. Attention? Most of them want money! You're getting finessed" ...but they are getting f*cked! That's mainly the way of the world! | |||
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"I see the friendship to be as important as the benefits I would be a friend, but I know some prefer the separation of things and not to be too involved " True but wouldn’t that be more of a NSA or FB? If it’s friends with benefits i see it as you actually build a friendship too. I personally found they are most satisfying all round. Maybe some people fear it could turn into something more and feelings aren’t reciprocated so stay a bit more detached or just don’t want to keep things strictly physical. | |||
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"Would like one just can't find one. " Just read your profile and no disrespect but I think I can see why your struggling, your demands are exceptionally high. Good luck! | |||
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"I am still in need of one.." You probably don't need or want any feedback, but your profile would put me off massively if I was looking for a FWB on here. Can you see why? X | |||
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"I am still in need of one.. You probably don't need or want any feedback, but your profile would put me off massively if I was looking for a FWB on here. Can you see why? X" Looks like 'No piercings' must be the reason! | |||
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"Would like one just can't find one. " Damn, us guys need to help these ladies with their profile text. | |||
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"I am still in need of one.. You probably don't need or want any feedback, but your profile would put me off massively if I was looking for a FWB on here. Can you see why? X Looks like 'No piercings' must be the reason!" That's the one! | |||
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"I am still in need of one.. You probably don't need or want any feedback, but your profile would put me off massively if I was looking for a FWB on here. Can you see why? X" I didn’t ask for feedback or advice. I was just sharing my situation. I know what I’m looking for, and I’m confident in that. | |||
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"I do. She's currently annoyed with me for not paying her enough attention. It wasn't my best move when I replied "Who's this"? to her last message. Hopefully I'll get the chance to put things right. Attention? Most of them want money! You're getting finessed ...but they are getting f*cked! That's mainly the way of the world!" There's no financial transactions between us, nor do we buy/pay for each other. She's aware of my home life, and is more than happy with our 'arrangement'. She's extremely well off, so if anyone would be after money it'd be me. | |||
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"I am still in need of one.. You probably don't need or want any feedback, but your profile would put me off massively if I was looking for a FWB on here. Can you see why? X" Morelike....You probably don't need or want any feedback but I'm going to give it anyway. | |||
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"Trixie Blonde, CuriousScouser - that sounds brilliant. Good friends, good people, and sex as part of the friendship but not the only part of the friendship. Xx" It's lovely, and it's great that we're on the same page - it's so hard to find. I think we'd really struggle if he got into a relationship with a woman who didn't understand there is a friendship there even without the sex, but I try to ignore that possibility! | |||
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"Trixie Blonde, CuriousScouser - that sounds brilliant. Good friends, good people, and sex as part of the friendship but not the only part of the friendship. Xx It's lovely, and it's great that we're on the same page - it's so hard to find. I think we'd really struggle if he got into a relationship with a woman who didn't understand there is a friendship there even without the sex, but I try to ignore that possibility!" It's exactly the sort of friendships & sexships (not a word, but we need a word that is like that) that I am trying and hoping to build. Maybe it'll happen for me eventually, I think possibly it is even happening or at the start of happening for me already. Though sometimes I wish that the sex bit would hurry up and happen! Polly xxx | |||
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"If you have a "friend with benefits" How friendly are you with them??" I don't have one at the moment, last one I was with, I went on dinner dates, movie nights in and I even went to her mum and stepdad's wedding. | |||
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