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By *ryme123 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

manchester

Right ok been on for a while now ( recently single male) and had no luck whatsoever lol im an easy going lad who is clean and good looking (been told, I don’t think it).

I get that woman on here get 100’s of messages off guys etc and is probably ridiculously difficult to reply to all but seriously how does one get his first verification??

Any guys or ladies have any advice because I feel like im giving up.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

9 weeks here is nothing OP!

Use the search function to look up the 100s of threads asking the same question

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By *ryme123 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

manchester

Oh really?? I’ll do that now I haven’t done that yet. Thanks

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By *NormalMan01Man
4 weeks ago

Harrogate

Yeah, be patient, don’t force it, be yourself and be prepared for lots of different reasons why meets don’t happen.

Mostly, enjoy the forums, don’t take things too seriously.

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By *HUSH-Man
4 weeks ago

London


"Right ok been on for a while now ( recently single male) and had no luck whatsoever lol im an easy going lad who is clean and good looking (been told, I don’t think it).

I get that woman on here get 100’s of messages off guys etc and is probably ridiculously difficult to reply to all but seriously how does one get his first verification??

Any guys or ladies have any advice because I feel like im giving up.

"

You’ve already answered how to get a verification in your status update. Go to cupids. Speak to a few people. Have a chat with some of the staff. Keep it casual.

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By *ryme123 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

manchester


"Yeah, be patient, don’t force it, be yourself and be prepared for lots of different reasons why meets don’t happen.

Mostly, enjoy the forums, don’t take things too seriously. "

Thanks mate I will be patient

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By *ryme123 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

manchester


"Right ok been on for a while now ( recently single male) and had no luck whatsoever lol im an easy going lad who is clean and good looking (been told, I don’t think it).

I get that woman on here get 100’s of messages off guys etc and is probably ridiculously difficult to reply to all but seriously how does one get his first verification??

Any guys or ladies have any advice because I feel like im giving up.

You’ve already answered how to get a verification in your status update. Go to cupids. Speak to a few people. Have a chat with some of the staff. Keep it casual. "

Great advice cheers pal I’ll go and see what it’s all about tonight 👍

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By *alkerdMan
4 weeks ago

Bowdon

It’s not really a dating site tbf. Try one of the 1000’s there are out there. I’ve been on and off here for years and probably the best way is to go along to one of the club nights to get noticed.

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By *alandNitaCouple
4 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

Remember that you are one of 1000's of single guys, and that most people will read your profile before they decide whether they want to interact with you. If your profile is good, then your chances improve massively.

There are 100s of threads giving profile advice too.

Cal

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By *ryme123 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

manchester


"Remember that you are one of 1000's of single guys, and that most people will read your profile before they decide whether they want to interact with you. If your profile is good, then your chances improve massively.

There are 100s of threads giving profile advice too.

Cal"

Thank you this is massively helpful

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By *HUSH-Man
4 weeks ago

London


"Right ok been on for a while now ( recently single male) and had no luck whatsoever lol im an easy going lad who is clean and good looking (been told, I don’t think it).

I get that woman on here get 100’s of messages off guys etc and is probably ridiculously difficult to reply to all but seriously how does one get his first verification??

Any guys or ladies have any advice because I feel like im giving up.

You’ve already answered how to get a verification in your status update. Go to cupids. Speak to a few people. Have a chat with some of the staff. Keep it casual.

Great advice cheers pal I’ll go and see what it’s all about tonight 👍"

I was given really great advice by people on this forum before I went to my first club night as a single guy.

Smile, say hello, don’t wait for them to say it. Keep the conversation friendly. Don’t go expecting anything, your reputation is what matters. Don’t worry about being nervous, everyone has butterflies including those that have been going for years.

Just be respectful and you’ll be fine

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By *ryme123 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

manchester


"Right ok been on for a while now ( recently single male) and had no luck whatsoever lol im an easy going lad who is clean and good looking (been told, I don’t think it).

I get that woman on here get 100’s of messages off guys etc and is probably ridiculously difficult to reply to all but seriously how does one get his first verification??

Any guys or ladies have any advice because I feel like im giving up.

You’ve already answered how to get a verification in your status update. Go to cupids. Speak to a few people. Have a chat with some of the staff. Keep it casual.

Great advice cheers pal I’ll go and see what it’s all about tonight 👍

I was given really great advice by people on this forum before I went to my first club night as a single guy.

Smile, say hello, don’t wait for them to say it. Keep the conversation friendly. Don’t go expecting anything, your reputation is what matters. Don’t worry about being nervous, everyone has butterflies including those that have been going for years.

Just be respectful and you’ll be fine "

Thanks mate, that is my plan. I’m going to have a drink and won’t be playing. Just to observe and chat to different people. I’ll be nervous but I’m sure that will pass 🤞

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By *8on33Man
4 weeks ago

winfrith


"Right ok been on for a while now ( recently single male) and had no luck whatsoever lol im an easy going lad who is clean and good looking (been told, I don’t think it).

I get that woman on here get 100’s of messages off guys etc and is probably ridiculously difficult to reply to all but seriously how does one get his first verification??

Any guys or ladies have any advice because I feel like im giving up.

"

How can we help it's down to you and what you do ,think about the women which I know you do they have to waste their time reading lots of shite messages from people who don't fit their profile demands ,they have to look at ugly hairy dick pics and ugly face pics and can't be arsed replying because that further wastes their time ,so it's in the rules no reply not interested even though in your case they well may be ,so my advice just be patient make your profile the best it can be and your pics after all that's your advert then wait for the influx of lovely messages.

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By *sian FlowerWoman
4 weeks ago

Sin City X

Just try your best you can’t do more than that. Good luck OP

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By *ryme123 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

manchester


"Right ok been on for a while now ( recently single male) and had no luck whatsoever lol im an easy going lad who is clean and good looking (been told, I don’t think it).

I get that woman on here get 100’s of messages off guys etc and is probably ridiculously difficult to reply to all but seriously how does one get his first verification??

Any guys or ladies have any advice because I feel like im giving up.

How can we help it's down to you and what you do ,think about the women which I know you do they have to waste their time reading lots of shite messages from people who don't fit their profile demands ,they have to look at ugly hairy dick pics and ugly face pics and can't be arsed replying because that further wastes their time ,so it's in the rules no reply not interested even though in your case they well may be ,so my advice just be patient make your profile the best it can be and your pics after all that's your advert then wait for the influx of lovely messages. "

💯 mate I get it’s hard for some women on here and I ALWAYS read their profile and only message if I think I match the criteria! I guess patience is the key

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Covent Garden

Dear OP, you've only been here 9 weeks. That is but a picosecond within the Fab timeline. It takes much patience and resolve to get any traction on here.

This will help, sort of...

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-search/No%2bluck%2b

Good luck. ☮️

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By *CExeCouple
4 weeks ago

Lincoln/Exeter

Post on the forums, keep an eye on local meets and message any that work for you. Be respectful and self deprecating and you'll be fine.

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By *ryme123 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

manchester


"Just try your best you can’t do more than that. Good luck OP"

Thank you ☺️

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By *ryme123 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

manchester


"Dear OP, you've only been here 9 weeks. That is but a picosecond within the Fab timeline. It takes much patience and resolve to get any traction on here.

This will help, sort of...

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-search/No%2bluck%2b

I will check it out appreciate it

Good luck. ☮️"

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By *ryme123 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

manchester


"Post on the forums, keep an eye on local meets and message any that work for you. Be respectful and self deprecating and you'll be fine. "

Great advice I will stick with it

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By *rill PhilMan
4 weeks ago

Crediton

I'm been on this site on and off for around 15 years now and, I've never actually met anyone. In fact, it's only really in the last year and a half that I've even had any responses to messages and most of them have been polite "not interested"s.

I still live in hope but, I've given up caring or worrying about it. Now I'm just here for the forums and the yuk-yuks.

Fab is no different to a dating site. Men outnumber women 100 to 1 and sadly, that does mean most of us are largely invisible but, if you engage with the forums and don't act like an angry horny teenager, you will at the very least get to have some fun and interesting chats with some fun and interesting people.

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By *CExeCouple
4 weeks ago

Lincoln/Exeter


"I'm been on this site on and off for around 15 years now and, I've never actually met anyone. In fact, it's only really in the last year and a half that I've even had any responses to messages and most of them have been polite "not interested"s.

I still live in hope but, I've given up caring or worrying about it. Now I'm just here for the forums and the yuk-yuks.

Fab is no different to a dating site. Men outnumber women 100 to 1 and sadly, that does mean most of us are largely invisible but, if you engage with the forums and don't act like an angry horny teenager, you will at the very least get to have some fun and interesting chats with some fun and interesting people. "

Get down Cruisers on a Saturday night and you'll be fine

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By *ryme123 OP   Man
4 weeks ago

manchester


"I'm been on this site on and off for around 15 years now and, I've never actually met anyone. In fact, it's only really in the last year and a half that I've even had any responses to messages and most of them have been polite "not interested"s.

I still live in hope but, I've given up caring or worrying about it. Now I'm just here for the forums and the yuk-yuks.

Fab is no different to a dating site. Men outnumber women 100 to 1 and sadly, that does mean most of us are largely invisible but, if you engage with the forums and don't act like an angry horny teenager, you will at the very least get to have some fun and interesting chats with some fun and interesting people.

Get down Cruisers on a Saturday night and you'll be fine "

Oooh where is cruisers??

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By *rill PhilMan
4 weeks ago

Crediton


"I'm been on this site on and off for around 15 years now and, I've never actually met anyone. In fact, it's only really in the last year and a half that I've even had any responses to messages and most of them have been polite "not interested"s.

I still live in hope but, I've given up caring or worrying about it. Now I'm just here for the forums and the yuk-yuks.

Fab is no different to a dating site. Men outnumber women 100 to 1 and sadly, that does mean most of us are largely invisible but, if you engage with the forums and don't act like an angry horny teenager, you will at the very least get to have some fun and interesting chats with some fun and interesting people.

Get down Cruisers on a Saturday night and you'll be fine "

Cruisers hasn't existed for years! Besides, I'm not that desperate yet. I still have some dignity!

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By *CExeCouple
4 weeks ago

Lincoln/Exeter


"I'm been on this site on and off for around 15 years now and, I've never actually met anyone. In fact, it's only really in the last year and a half that I've even had any responses to messages and most of them have been polite "not interested"s.

I still live in hope but, I've given up caring or worrying about it. Now I'm just here for the forums and the yuk-yuks.

Fab is no different to a dating site. Men outnumber women 100 to 1 and sadly, that does mean most of us are largely invisible but, if you engage with the forums and don't act like an angry horny teenager, you will at the very least get to have some fun and interesting chats with some fun and interesting people.

Get down Cruisers on a Saturday night and you'll be fine

Oooh where is cruisers?? "

A really crap nightclub in the town BrillPhill lives. I was teasing him.

A club isn't a bad shout though, places like Quest do daytime sessions and a great way to meet folks from the scene in a no pressure environment.

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By *CExeCouple
4 weeks ago

Lincoln/Exeter


"I'm been on this site on and off for around 15 years now and, I've never actually met anyone. In fact, it's only really in the last year and a half that I've even had any responses to messages and most of them have been polite "not interested"s.

I still live in hope but, I've given up caring or worrying about it. Now I'm just here for the forums and the yuk-yuks.

Fab is no different to a dating site. Men outnumber women 100 to 1 and sadly, that does mean most of us are largely invisible but, if you engage with the forums and don't act like an angry horny teenager, you will at the very least get to have some fun and interesting chats with some fun and interesting people.

Get down Cruisers on a Saturday night and you'll be fine

Cruisers hasn't existed for years! Besides, I'm not that desperate yet. I still have some dignity!

"

I don't think I've been there since I was around 17, truly grim!!

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By *rill PhilMan
4 weeks ago

Crediton


"I'm been on this site on and off for around 15 years now and, I've never actually met anyone. In fact, it's only really in the last year and a half that I've even had any responses to messages and most of them have been polite "not interested"s.

I still live in hope but, I've given up caring or worrying about it. Now I'm just here for the forums and the yuk-yuks.

Fab is no different to a dating site. Men outnumber women 100 to 1 and sadly, that does mean most of us are largely invisible but, if you engage with the forums and don't act like an angry horny teenager, you will at the very least get to have some fun and interesting chats with some fun and interesting people.

Get down Cruisers on a Saturday night and you'll be fine

Cruisers hasn't existed for years! Besides, I'm not that desperate yet. I still have some dignity!

I don't think I've been there since I was around 17, truly grim!!"

I regret not going there more now, if I'd known I could have found a hotty like you down there...

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By *ildTimes777Man
4 weeks ago

Colchester/London

Send out 100s of dick pics , you'll get a bite eventually 🙌

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