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"Probably the brains inability to switch off so to speak. At any one Time I'm thinking about 100 thing's unable to relax causing anxiousness and stress and so it goes on. Sleep should be a way to relax but takes ages to get to sleep only for a fleeting moment and awake again , brain at 100 mph... " So from what you describe is that ADHD or Anxiety playing it's part? Is this the M or F posting? Do you take medication for this? | |||
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"Yes as above My ADHD has been diagnosed recently but know I was different my whole life Yes anxiety there and I didn't know what it was Panic attacks Even been told I might be boarder line autistic due to some of my traits Yes the flipping out is an issue but I learnt to deal with it due to effect it had on my family " Thankyou for sharing this. It kinda answers a good few of my questions about a girlfriend I was seeing. However she never did tell me her problems. How did you learn to deal with your problem? | |||
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"I find it's my fear from what some wood think is silly like how I have my bread and the plate is set out when eat and only eat certain foods I've been like this from a very early age " So I take it you've had childhood trauma?? | |||
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"I find it's my fear from what some wood think is silly like how I have my bread and the plate is set out when eat and only eat certain foods I've been like this from a very early age So I take it you've had childhood trauma??" Still do but not as much | |||
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"ADHD and Anxiety Adhd never had this shit when I was young. To much shit these days. Just my point of view don't like it don't post it " It was around when you were young it just wasn’t recognised. The ignorance here is sad. Depression and anxiety I would agree perhaps gets played a lot. Some if it is just life. The things I have to deal with in my every day life is unbelievable and I often think I can’t cope with this anymore and have mini breakdowns. That’s not a mental health issue that’s life and the cards I’ve been dealt! So whilst I agree that things are too often put down to “mental health issues” I can’t agree that actual diagnosed mental health illnesses aren’t real. | |||
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"ADHD and Anxiety Adhd never had this shit when I was young. To much shit these days. Just my point of view don't like it don't post it It was around when you were young it just wasn’t recognised. The ignorance here is sad. Depression and anxiety I would agree perhaps gets played a lot. Some if it is just life. The things I have to deal with in my every day life is unbelievable and I often think I can’t cope with this anymore and have mini breakdowns. That’s not a mental health issue that’s life and the cards I’ve been dealt! So whilst I agree that things are too often put down to “mental health issues” I can’t agree that actual diagnosed mental health illnesses aren’t real. " So what conditions do you suffer from? | |||
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"ADHD and Anxiety Adhd never had this shit when I was young. To much shit these days. Just my point of view don't like it don't post it It was around when you were young it just wasn’t recognised. The ignorance here is sad. Depression and anxiety I would agree perhaps gets played a lot. Some if it is just life. The things I have to deal with in my every day life is unbelievable and I often think I can’t cope with this anymore and have mini breakdowns. That’s not a mental health issue that’s life and the cards I’ve been dealt! So whilst I agree that things are too often put down to “mental health issues” I can’t agree that actual diagnosed mental health illnesses aren’t real. So what conditions do you suffer from?" None | |||
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"I find it's my fear from what some wood think is silly like how I have my bread and the plate is set out when eat and only eat certain foods I've been like this from a very early age So I take it you've had childhood trauma?? Still do but not as much " Thanks for sharing | |||
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"And also anxiety from PTSD, I used to have panic attacks, which I didn’t know at first, I thought I had issues with my heart. Now I take meds as and when I need, I don’t take them daily. There’s also breathing exercises you can do for anxiety, as well as seating and laying positions for circulatory posture to slow your heart rate. " I feel your pain there x | |||
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"Does anyone have autism and what can you tell me about that?" It’s broadly similar, a life time of not fitting in and being shamed plus struggles with emotional regulation | |||
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"Probably the brains inability to switch off so to speak. At any one Time I'm thinking about 100 thing's unable to relax causing anxiousness and stress and so it goes on. Sleep should be a way to relax but takes ages to get to sleep only for a fleeting moment and awake again , brain at 100 mph... " Snap  | |||
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"Does anyone have autism and what can you tell me about that? It’s broadly similar, a life time of not fitting in and being shamed plus struggles with emotional regulation" Are you autistic and if you are could you message me please | |||
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"Personally i think we all tick the box’s in some way. I think certainly do and the more I read and learn about ADHD Autism and anxiety im convinced it fit all. Its only in the last 18th months my anxiety has stated to show its hand and have an effect. Autism fits Always shy away’ struggle to fit in’ always looking for confirmation etc etc ADHD everything has be right’ i need to plan or know the plan or it just messes with my head. I get to work 30 mins before start time and if i get delayed on way to work my day if buggered. " So for example if you plan something yourself and someone tries to improve and help you out with travel plans. Would this mess up your head and your day and days ahead will be stressful?? Plus you would fall out with the person whose trying to help you | |||
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"Totally I struggle a go from silence to spouting utter shit A have gave up to be honest am basically marmite and can’t control people perception off me a just try to be kind and do my best depending on which me I am that day " Are you on medication? | |||
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"Totally I struggle a go from silence to spouting utter shit A have gave up to be honest am basically marmite and can’t control people perception off me a just try to be kind and do my best depending on which me I am that day Are you on medication? " No I just get on with it my youngest child is autistic my second youngest was tested but fell just short of a diagnosis, my oldest shows signs too , my fault for sure , am 41 so never had stuff like that when a was younger , the team that delt with my daughter said am deffo got issues and spoke of adhd but s good mostly and am happy not seeing anyone | |||
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"I suffer social anxiety, I've never been tested for ADHD. I've had moments i thought I could be slightly on the autism spectrum though ! That or I'm just super awkward !" Exactly like me….sometimes I just dont like people | |||
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"I suffer social anxiety, I've never been tested for ADHD. I've had moments i thought I could be slightly on the autism spectrum though ! That or I'm just super awkward ! Exactly like me….sometimes I just dont like people " Honestly I'm the same. Better to just stay away soentimes ! | |||
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"I suffer social anxiety, I've never been tested for ADHD. I've had moments i thought I could be slightly on the autism spectrum though ! That or I'm just super awkward ! Exactly like me….sometimes I just dont like people Honestly I'm the same. Better to just stay away soentimes !" Crowds are a no go. People are likley to get either shouted at or pushed out the way | |||
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"I suffer social anxiety, I've never been tested for ADHD. I've had moments i thought I could be slightly on the autism spectrum though ! That or I'm just super awkward ! Exactly like me….sometimes I just dont like people Honestly I'm the same. Better to just stay away soentimes ! Crowds are a no go. People are likley to get either shouted at or pushed out the way " I have my moments but if not aware of my surroundings. I'll panic and feel out of my depth! | |||
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"I suffer social anxiety, I've never been tested for ADHD. I've had moments i thought I could be slightly on the autism spectrum though ! That or I'm just super awkward ! Exactly like me….sometimes I just dont like people Honestly I'm the same. Better to just stay away soentimes ! Crowds are a no go. People are likley to get either shouted at or pushed out the way I have my moments but if not aware of my surroundings. I'll panic and feel out of my depth!" Yeh i get where ya coming from | |||
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"Im an advocate for ADHD and very very educated about it and anxiety links and more importantly just living life day to day with it,and being a father with ADHA my inbox IS OPEN TO ANYONE " Thats decent of you mate ! | |||
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"ADHD and Anxiety Adhd never had this shit when I was young. To much shit these days. Just my point of view don't like it don't post it " They didn't have PTSD either when you were young, and then they did when it was recognised and classified. Shit changes.  | |||
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"Im an advocate for ADHD and very very educated about it and anxiety links and more importantly just living life day to day with it,and being a father with ADHA my inbox IS OPEN TO ANYONE " More of this  Inbox also open to anyone regarding adhd. | |||
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"Totally I struggle a go from silence to spouting utter shit A have gave up to be honest am basically marmite and can’t control people perception off me a just try to be kind and do my best depending on which me I am that day Thanks for sharing your stories and I hope all goes well in the future Are you on medication? No I just get on with it my youngest child is autistic my second youngest was tested but fell just short of a diagnosis, my oldest shows signs too , my fault for sure , am 41 so never had stuff like that when a was younger , the team that delt with my daughter said am deffo got issues and spoke of adhd but s good mostly and am happy not seeing anyone " | |||
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"Im an advocate for ADHD and very very educated about it and anxiety links and more importantly just living life day to day with it,and being a father with ADHA my inbox IS OPEN TO ANYONE More of this Inbox also open to anyone regarding adhd."Likewise | |||
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"Im an advocate for ADHD and very very educated about it and anxiety links and more importantly just living life day to day with it,and being a father with ADHA my inbox IS OPEN TO ANYONE " That’s such a lovely offer. I’m the same also, I have ADHD and professionally specialise in supporting girls/ women whose presentation can be really different. My inbox is also open It’s a shame when I see people querying the legitimacy of ADHD diagnosis, as I’ve seen personally on so many occasions how affirming diagnosis can be for people. Quite often people are diagnosed with anxiety and depression for years before looking into alternative conditions. | |||
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"Im an advocate for ADHD and very very educated about it and anxiety links and more importantly just living life day to day with it,and being a father with ADHA my inbox IS OPEN TO ANYONE That’s such a lovely offer. I’m the same also, I have ADHD and professionally specialise in supporting girls/ women whose presentation can be really different. My inbox is also open It’s a shame when I see people querying the legitimacy of ADHD diagnosis, as I’ve seen personally on so many occasions how affirming diagnosis can be for people. Quite often people are diagnosed with anxiety and depression for years before looking into alternative conditions." It's so very validating to get an ND diagnosis, although I'm autistic rather than ADHD. I was misdiagnosed with borderline/EUPD as a teenager, and I know about 5 women who experienced the same. The damage done from years of being told that with therapy you can "get better" takes a long time to recover from. | |||
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"Im an advocate for ADHD and very very educated about it and anxiety links and more importantly just living life day to day with it,and being a father with ADHA my inbox IS OPEN TO ANYONE That’s such a lovely offer. I’m the same also, I have ADHD and professionally specialise in supporting girls/ women whose presentation can be really different. My inbox is also open It’s a shame when I see people querying the legitimacy of ADHD diagnosis, as I’ve seen personally on so many occasions how affirming diagnosis can be for people. Quite often people are diagnosed with anxiety and depression for years before looking into alternative conditions. It's so very validating to get an ND diagnosis, although I'm autistic rather than ADHD. I was misdiagnosed with borderline/EUPD as a teenager, and I know about 5 women who experienced the same. The damage done from years of being told that with therapy you can "get better" takes a long time to recover from." YES! The sheer amount of people who have been literally been tortured with CBT/ other therapies which are incompatible with ND conditions because of misdiagnosis is insane. Even more bizarre that NDA young people are being pushed towards it because services are so stretched and don’t have appropriate interventions at their disposal. | |||
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"Im an advocate for ADHD and very very educated about it and anxiety links and more importantly just living life day to day with it,and being a father with ADHA my inbox IS OPEN TO ANYONE That’s such a lovely offer. I’m the same also, I have ADHD and professionally specialise in supporting girls/ women whose presentation can be really different. My inbox is also open It’s a shame when I see people querying the legitimacy of ADHD diagnosis, as I’ve seen personally on so many occasions how affirming diagnosis can be for people. Quite often people are diagnosed with anxiety and depression for years before looking into alternative conditions. It's so very validating to get an ND diagnosis, although I'm autistic rather than ADHD. I was misdiagnosed with borderline/EUPD as a teenager, and I know about 5 women who experienced the same. The damage done from years of being told that with therapy you can "get better" takes a long time to recover from. YES! The sheer amount of people who have been literally been tortured with CBT/ other therapies which are incompatible with ND conditions because of misdiagnosis is insane. Even more bizarre that NDA young people are being pushed towards it because services are so stretched and don’t have appropriate interventions at their disposal." One million percent this
It's so frustrating for young people to be told there's services there but then to be refused because services are stretched so much and then going on massive waiting lists. The whole system is a mess really. More needs to be done. | |||
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"F is suspected autism and has anxiety and mr is ADHD. There is some level of anxiety for both of us....f is because loud noises and feeling overwhelmed. M is because it's the timings and making sure punctual and got everything lol but have that in day to day lives not just fab life. Communicating helps xT" Do you feel it affects your Sexual desires for the use of the website such as fab Your conditions? | |||
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"I’m really interested in exploring ADHD and a strong desire for NSA hook ups. I’ve pretty much desired this for myself for most of my years. Has anyone else with ADHD felt like this???" I think there’s definite links between neuro divergence and “alternative” sexual lifestyles and preferences. Whether that be NSA, poly, swinging, kink etc. | |||
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"Hello fabbers, I have a question about how ADHD and Anxiety are linked. So,has anyone any experiences they would like to share with us? How has one or the other or both affected your life? " Was diagnosed a year ago with ADHD after knowing my whole life I was different. Been taking antidepressants/anti-anxiety meds for years however after starting ADHD meds since May and upping my dose I’m finally starting to see the difference and no longer mask who I am. RSD - Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria is something that I struggle from massively which also causes anxiety and is strongly linked to ND. Happy to chat to anyone who would like some support or just a listening ear. | |||
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"I’m really interested in exploring ADHD and a strong desire for NSA hook ups. I’ve pretty much desired this for myself for most of my years. Has anyone else with ADHD felt like this??? I think there’s definite links between neuro divergence and “alternative” sexual lifestyles and preferences. Whether that be NSA, poly, swinging, kink etc." Omg I’ve always known this. I’ve just never been able to kick the fab habit and the excitement it gives me. I’ve been in and off the NSA world since 2007, even now in a stable relationship I’m still drawn back into my desire for finding fab friends. It’s been such a realisation that I’m now finding myself and others who are just like me | |||
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"I’m really interested in exploring ADHD and a strong desire for NSA hook ups. I’ve pretty much desired this for myself for most of my years. Has anyone else with ADHD felt like this??? I think there’s definite links between neuro divergence and “alternative” sexual lifestyles and preferences. Whether that be NSA, poly, swinging, kink etc. Omg I’ve always known this. I’ve just never been able to kick the fab habit and the excitement it gives me. I’ve been in and off the NSA world since 2007, even now in a stable relationship I’m still drawn back into my desire for finding fab friends. It’s been such a realisation that I’m now finding myself and others who are just like me "Good old dopamine chasing 😂😂. There’s nothing like the feeling of connecting with someone new, finding out their desires and exploring them together. I’m pretty similar lol. Shopping and impulse purchasing is another for me!! | |||
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"I’m really interested in exploring ADHD and a strong desire for NSA hook ups. I’ve pretty much desired this for myself for most of my years. Has anyone else with ADHD felt like this??? I think there’s definite links between neuro divergence and “alternative” sexual lifestyles and preferences. Whether that be NSA, poly, swinging, kink etc. Omg I’ve always known this. I’ve just never been able to kick the fab habit and the excitement it gives me. I’ve been in and off the NSA world since 2007, even now in a stable relationship I’m still drawn back into my desire for finding fab friends. It’s been such a realisation that I’m now finding myself and others who are just like me
Good old dopamine chasing 😂😂. There’s nothing like the feeling of connecting with someone new, finding out their desires and exploring them together.
I’m pretty similar lol. Shopping and impulse purchasing is another for me!!"I’ve found myself draw into chasing 3 sums as 121 encounters no longer give me the hit I need from fab. Any one else feel like this??? | |||
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