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By *hiloabc OP   Man
13 weeks ago

Manchester

Having trouble connecting to people

Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete

My messages stay there for days without being read at least

I understand females may get a lot of messages

But manners is needed

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

🍿

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By *andadbodMan
13 weeks ago

Liverpool

no one is obligated to read or reply to a message, just delete everything in your sent folder and don’t worry about whether they’ve read it or not 👍🏻

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By *cotlad178Man
13 weeks ago

falkirk

Sometimes think it's better to have it deleted then I know for sure but leaving it on read just gives me false hope tbh 😔 it gets demoralising

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By *inger_SnapWoman
13 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Please refer to the FAQs

No response is a response

You are not entitled to a reply

No one owes you anything

👍🏻

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By *avexxMan
13 weeks ago

cheshire


"Please refer to the FAQs

No response is a response

You are not entitled to a reply

No one owes you anything

👍🏻"

,,, this

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By *ffervescentMan
13 weeks ago

winfrith


"🍿 "
give him advice page 2 cmon .

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
13 weeks ago

belfast

Oh for fuck sake another entitled whinger.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
13 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Another man with group pics/photos of a woman and no veris.

Do you have permission to share those pics?

Is that even your pic on your profile or have you "borrowed" it from the internet?

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By *tephanie63Woman
13 weeks ago

BRIDGWATER

Manners are not needed..

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"🍿 give him advice page 2 cmon ."

Oh, you didn’t know?… page 1 my friend, page 1.

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By *coobyBoobyDooWoman
13 weeks ago

Markfield


"Having trouble connecting to people

Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete

My messages stay there for days without being read at least

I understand females may get a lot of messages

But manners is needed "

You know those spam emails you get and random flyers through the door and adverts in free papers? Do you call each of them and tell them you aren’t interested? That you won’t be ordering tonight? Or do you perhaps keep a few of the menus to one side in a drawer just incase you fancy a pizza one night?

Apply that logic to your unsolicited messages to people.

Happy fabbing x

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By *ffervescentMan
13 weeks ago

winfrith


"🍿 give him advice page 2 cmon .

Oh, you didn’t know?… page 1 my friend, page 1."

well then advise him ,give him some hot tips .

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By *hiloabc OP   Man
13 weeks ago

Manchester

Valid point

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By *nya NeesWoman
13 weeks ago

Brum

You are welcome to do my FabMin if you like, 535 messages sitting there unread. Thank goodness you haven't seen my email inbox 🤣

Nothing to do with manners, simply time constraints

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By *oveToPlay.Couple
13 weeks ago

Yorkshire

No response is a response

Read, repeat, digest, accept

It's as simple as that

Have a lovely evening 😊

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Why would you want a load of “no thanks” messages. Be arsed with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

At the end of the day, it gets dark.

Delete your sent items, or if you’re too curious then give it a few days, people are busy, if they’re read and not replied to, then block them and move on, that way you won’t mistakingly message them again in the future.

People stress far too much over this, nobody owes anybody anything.

Have a wank and chill out, make a Horlicks, watch streethawk and imagine, what chuck norris would do.

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By *andPextraCouple
13 weeks ago

North West

I did start on here replying all.

Soon found it too much of a chore.

Half the messages i get you do not have to open to read.

I can simply read them and delete them.

Unless there is an obvious effort into it, i use the no reply is the reply standard.

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By *allerthanaverage79Man
13 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"Delete"

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
13 weeks ago

Northampton


"Is that even your pic on your profile or have you "borrowed" it from the internet?"

You know the saying “a reverse image search paints a thousand words”

Although to be fair. I just watched the movie it was screen grabbed from, as part of my research of course, and it was pretty good

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By *hiloabc OP   Man
13 weeks ago

Manchester

Thanks all for your feedback new on this site

Patience maybe it is then

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By *NormalMan01Man
13 weeks ago

Harrogate


"🍿 "

Move up.

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
13 weeks ago

Wolvo

What ppl get for replying no thanks -

1) thanks for the polite reply

2) why and then further reasoning as to why i should change my mind

3) no response

4) abuse

Sometimes its safer to just not reply

Also the filters are useless if you reply to ppl and then want to shut off that demographic later on.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
13 weeks ago

Reading

How about the good manners of not sending unsolicited messages?

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By *ilkycockyMan
13 weeks ago

wrexham

I’m the same I’ve sent lots of messages and probably had a chat with maybe 2 ppl, I think it’s the volume of messages the women get on here, hard to keep up replying to us all lol

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By *exxyyDy11Man
13 weeks ago

Darwen

No reply genuinely means not interested. So just accept that and move on with your day.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"I’m the same I’ve sent lots of messages and probably had a chat with maybe 2 ppl, I think it’s the volume of messages the women get on here, hard to keep up replying to us all lol"

This is just what they say, really it’s because they’re actually all having massive lesbian gangbangs.

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By *iscombobulated1523Couple
13 weeks ago

Worcestershire

Oh come on he's been here 2 months why haven't you all messaged him and cancelled all plans to meet him

OP your like a blade of grass in a very big field on here

Couples don't have it easy either

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"Having trouble connecting to people

Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete

My messages stay there for days without being read at least

I understand females may get a lot of messages

But manners is needed "

What does a typical message from you say? Is it more than a few words?

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"No reply genuinely means not interested. So just accept that and move on with your day. "

OR... READ the person's profile. Perhaps you have messaged them without reading it and didn't notice that the person only meets under certain conditions. (Mine is a social meet first) and about 1 in every 1000 guys reads that and affirms it's ok (as I ask them to do in my profile).

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By *exxyyDy11Man
13 weeks ago

Darwen

To be honest to the OP I kinda get why he feels like this. When I first joined I thought it was fucking damn right rude to read a message and not reply. I quickly learned on the FAQ page, that it genuinely means no reply and not interested. Also all the women, I've met said it can be unbearable at times to reply to everyone.

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By *nya NeesWoman
13 weeks ago

Brum


"I’m the same I’ve sent lots of messages and probably had a chat with maybe 2 ppl, I think it’s the volume of messages the women get on here, hard to keep up replying to us all lol

This is just what they say, really it’s because they’re actually all having massive lesbian gangbangs. "

Where the fuck are these happening, what am I missing 🤣🤣🤣

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By *ear in the chairMan
13 weeks ago

yeah there

If your 1st message goes unread. Do people consider it bad form to send a 2nd message a week or so later?

Lots of ladies say they've never even seen the 1st message due to being overwhelmed in their inbox so does a 2nd (and final) polite follow up generally cause offence?

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By *oralltherightreasonsCouple
13 weeks ago

WELLINGBOROUGH

We frequently get messages where it's obvious the person is trying their luck or just not read our profile, I can read message in my email so don't have to open them, and will probably just delete. Will reply to someone we are not interested in if its obvious they have read profile though.

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By *CExeCouple
13 weeks ago

Lincoln/Exeter

Dude, imagine you're in a nightclub, there's a few hundred guys, 5 or 6 girls and a few couples. What are the odds you'd pull, let alone have a conversation? Fab is the online version of that. If you hunt around like a horndog you'll get nowhere. Desperation, or the impression of desperation won't get you laid. Engage on the forums, keep an eye on the local meets and send polite messages without expectation of a response. If you can engage in self deprecation on here and have a laugh at your own expense, you're halfway there already.

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By *oxy jWoman
13 weeks ago

somerset


"Having trouble connecting to people

Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete

My messages stay there for days without being read at least

I understand females may get a lot of messages

But manners is needed "

nobody owes you anything not now not ever on this scene ...rejection is a big part of it for all just move on and forget about it ... a

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By *evoncream2017Couple
13 weeks ago

exeter

Try search inside image

The group pic Is from another site

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By *ilkycockyMan
13 weeks ago

wrexham

I don’t mind joining in on that with the women

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"I’m the same I’ve sent lots of messages and probably had a chat with maybe 2 ppl, I think it’s the volume of messages the women get on here, hard to keep up replying to us all lol

This is just what they say, really it’s because they’re actually all having massive lesbian gangbangs.

Where the fuck are these happening, what am I missing 🤣🤣🤣"

😂

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
13 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Nobody should need to read a FAQ to grasp the concept that no engagement = no interest.

It should just be commonly understood

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By *issmorganWoman
13 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Op, nobody has to reply to anyone on here, it's not rude especially when so many don't take the time to read a profile.

Many women and couples get so much mail, that they can't reply to all. Plus some don't take rejection well and you then get well why not, what's up with me or abuse.

I use lots of filters so don't get much mail, I do reply if I can see someone's read my bio or made an effort. Otherwise I delete.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
13 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence


"Try search inside image

The group pic Is from another site "

He's now removed it 🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

If I was going in fancy dress as an old man, I’d literally wear identical boxers to you.

If you’re struggling with replies, maybe put more effort in to your pictures and profile.

As one of the current, page 1 hottest guys, I think I know what I’m talking about.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
13 weeks ago

Darwen


"No reply genuinely means not interested. So just accept that and move on with your day.

OR... READ the person's profile. Perhaps you have messaged them without reading it and didn't notice that the person only meets under certain conditions. (Mine is a social meet first) and about 1 in every 1000 guys reads that and affirms it's ok (as I ask them to do in my profile)."

Agreed. Most don't read profiles, just see a pic they like and press send and hope for the best

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
13 weeks ago

Stoke


"Having trouble connecting to people

Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete

My messages stay there for days without being read at least

I understand females may get a lot of messages

But manners is needed "

I'm shoving 50 leaflets through your door, I expect you to reply to every single one saying you're not interested, then I'll shove 35 more through asking why you're not interested, to which I also expect further replies. If not, you've no manners!

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By *rightonsteveMan
13 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I always delete and never reply. It’s a tad presumptuous.

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By *ucka39Man
13 weeks ago

Newcastle

Where do manners start, did said user request a message is it rude to send a message without being notified.

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By *hiloabc OP   Man
13 weeks ago

Manchester

I’ve appealed it with admin

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
13 weeks ago

your head


"I’ve appealed it with admin "

Appealed what? The fact people don't reply?

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By *ir tootMan
13 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"I’ve appealed it with admin

Appealed what? The fact people don't reply? "

Tinkerbell you didn't reply my message last night, I think im gonna have to report that sorry.

FYI I didn't send you anything.

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By *he HandiemanMan
13 weeks ago

north west


"I’ve appealed it with admin

Appealed what? The fact people don't reply? "

Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"I’ve appealed it with admin "

😂😂😂

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By *emboy AlexMan
13 weeks ago

Chadderton, Manchester


"Having trouble connecting to people

Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete

My messages stay there for days without being read at least

I understand females may get a lot of messages

But manners is needed "

OP, when you receive spam/scam emails or spam/scam mail in the post. Do you phone them up to say you're not interested? When you see a billboard, do you phone them to say you're not interested?

The site clearly states that no reply is a reply.

I don't understand what else you want them to do. How is it "manners" to say "Not interested" when the site itself says that not replying is that exact message itself?

You gotta stop taking this so personally.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
13 weeks ago

The Continental


"Having trouble connecting to people

Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete

My messages stay there for days without being read at least

I understand females may get a lot of messages

But manners is needed "

You gonna reply to every comment?

Manners is needed after all.

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By *oldAndBoundlessMan
13 weeks ago

Bradford


"Having trouble connecting to people

Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete

My messages stay there for days without being read at least

I understand females may get a lot of messages

But manners is needed "

I wish I was a woman on here for just a day, I can only imagine the amount of people that send uninvited messages to them and expect a response, and I bet 75% of them don’t even read the lasses bio on her profile page

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By *naswingdressWoman
13 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I’ve appealed it with admin "

What is there to appeal?

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By *rightonsteveMan
13 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Actually, I think it’s more etiquette than manners.

‘Manners Maketh Man’ they say, but it doesn’t make ladies reply.

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By *naswingdressWoman
13 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Actually, I think it’s more etiquette than manners.

‘Manners Maketh Man’ they say, but it doesn’t make ladies reply. "

Probably because replying shows you the difference between men and boys who throw toys out of prams 😅

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By *iss.BellaWoman
13 weeks ago

Chester

I do delete messages but my profile explains why. If people don't bother reading it, that's on them.

I'm generally quite friendly and will reply where I can. When that gets too much, I ignore my inbox and interact with people in the lounge instead.

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By *ohn.Wick.Man
13 weeks ago

The Continental


"I do delete messages but my profile explains why. If people don't bother reading it, that's on them.

I'm generally quite friendly and will reply where I can. When that gets too much, I ignore my inbox and interact with people in the lounge instead. "

faf

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By *iss.BellaWoman
13 weeks ago

Chester


" faf"

With you Mr. Wick, always

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair

I stopped messaging women after the ³rd crusades. All my penmanship was wasted on these common harlots and hussies who would totally ignore my sonnets.

Now I just send cut-and-paste missives, hand delivered by emissaries of love.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
13 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"I’ve appealed it with admin "

The pic you took from a porn site? You have heard of reverse image search OP? it'll never do trying to look like you're out there having 3sums when we all know you're not... And it makes you appear dishonest!

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By *aggy dollsCouple
13 weeks ago

bradford


"Having trouble connecting to people

Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete

My messages stay there for days without being read at least

I understand females may get a lot of messages

But manners is needed

You know those spam emails you get and random flyers through the door and adverts in free papers? Do you call each of them and tell them you aren’t interested? That you won’t be ordering tonight? Or do you perhaps keep a few of the menus to one side in a drawer just incase you fancy a pizza one night?

Apply that logic to your unsolicited messages to people.

Happy fabbing x "

Perfectly put.

Mr H

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I demand to speak to a manager!

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By *ik NaksCouple
13 weeks ago

Wigan

We leave some of ours on unread. We try and get back to everyone but some messages that we haven’t had time to reply to send again with shit like ‘hey’ ‘you there’ wuu2’ ‘wanna meet’ bore off 🤣

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By *ir tootMan
13 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"We leave some of ours on unread. We try and get back to everyone but some messages that we haven’t had time to reply to send again with shit like ‘hey’ ‘you there’ wuu2’ ‘wanna meet’ bore off 🤣"

Fuck I got one last couple of days ago.

Sex?

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By *nya NeesWoman
13 weeks ago

Brum


"We leave some of ours on unread. We try and get back to everyone but some messages that we haven’t had time to reply to send again with shit like ‘hey’ ‘you there’ wuu2’ ‘wanna meet’ bore off 🤣

Fuck I got one last couple of days ago.

Sex?"

Yeah you left me on unread

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By *ir tootMan
13 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

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By *ir tootMan
13 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"We leave some of ours on unread. We try and get back to everyone but some messages that we haven’t had time to reply to send again with shit like ‘hey’ ‘you there’ wuu2’ ‘wanna meet’ bore off 🤣

Fuck I got one last couple of days ago.

Sex?

Yeah you left me on unread "

Okay now wait just one second, I was nervous and it took me by surprise.

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By *nya NeesWoman
13 weeks ago

Brum


"We leave some of ours on unread. We try and get back to everyone but some messages that we haven’t had time to reply to send again with shit like ‘hey’ ‘you there’ wuu2’ ‘wanna meet’ bore off 🤣

Fuck I got one last couple of days ago.

Sex?

Yeah you left me on unread

Okay now wait just one second, I was nervous and it took me by surprise. "

🤣😘

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By *ir tootMan
13 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"We leave some of ours on unread. We try and get back to everyone but some messages that we haven’t had time to reply to send again with shit like ‘hey’ ‘you there’ wuu2’ ‘wanna meet’ bore off 🤣

Fuck I got one last couple of days ago.

Sex?

Yeah you left me on unread

Okay now wait just one second, I was nervous and it took me by surprise.

🤣😘"

I'll unblock you now. 🤣

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By *naswingdressWoman
13 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I’ve appealed it with admin

The pic you took from a porn site? You have heard of reverse image search OP? it'll never do trying to look like you're out there having 3sums when we all know you're not... And it makes you appear dishonest! "

It's not as impressive as people think it is - threesomes are relatively common.

Not as common as trying to pass off porn as your own pictures, mind

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair

The OP's thread is about his lack of success in getting replies. It's not about sending messages. The messages that he's sending are more likely to be 'solicited'.

Perhaps we need to disabuse a few of the posters above who have incorrectly pitched their 'unsolicited' analogies.

Unsolicited in this context means you're not looking to potentially meet whatsoever, or for anything sexual at all. And this could be because the profile clearly states - "I'm only here for the forums" or "to engage in the chat rooms" or "single men please don't message, we'll find you"

However If you have suggested or intimated on your profile you're looking to meet men, women and/or couples for sex, oral, anal, dogging etc, then surely there is a REASONABLE expectation that people with similar interests WILL message you and therefore it's not completely unsolicited. How you wish to reply to that message, if at all, is your prerogative. (Not replying is perfectly acceptable too, as stipulated in the FAQs)

(If you have on your profile that you want a take-away and then get a message from 'ABC Pizza' it's not completely unsolicited. If on the other hand you have made no mention that you need food and then receive said offer then it's unsolicited)

In summary: we can give the benefit of the doubt that the OP's messages are indeed •solicited• .

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By *ovinglife!40Man
13 weeks ago

Hinckley


"Having trouble connecting to people

Is it not manners to reply a not interested or just delete

My messages stay there for days without being read at least

I understand females may get a lot of messages

But manners is needed "

Trying to get my head round what you are saying here.

Do you reply to every single message that you get??

Surely by moaning about it you must reply every single time.

Most people follow this process.

1. Receive the message.

2. Check the profile.

3. Interested? Yes or no.

4. The group rules says that no reply says no thanks.

You get your message either way, or am I missing something here??

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By *LiamMan
13 weeks ago

Midlands

You aren't really offering much pal. You get what you put in

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