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By (user no longer on site) OP   
5 weeks ago

Reading a lot of threads and it's mostly men that ask for advice, some listen, some don't and that's OK.

What I haven't seen is the same comments on a woman's profile when she is handling a man's equipment and it's in her profile pic.

I'll be told I'm probably wrong, be told women rarely ask for or have to ask for advice as they are the ones in control here, but my opinion is mine.

So I have some empathy for the male profiles that do try.

This doesn't mean I'm up for a shag lol

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
5 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Reading a lot of threads and it's mostly men that ask for advice, some listen, some don't and that's OK.

What I haven't seen is the same comments on a woman's profile when she is handling a man's equipment and it's in her profile pic.

I'll be told I'm probably wrong, be told women rarely ask for or have to ask for advice as they are the ones in control here, but my opinion is mine.

So I have some empathy for the male profiles that do try.

This doesn't mean I'm up for a shag lol

"

Re the photos.

In all my years on here I've never seen a photo on a single female profile where it's just a womans hand and a man's cock and body with the face blurred out

I've never seen a shot of a tiny section of vagina with a man prone eating her out.

I've rarely seen any where it's 95% someone other than the woman in the picture.

Some single male profiles however.....🤷‍♂️

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
5 weeks ago

Ends

The men will love this

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
5 weeks ago


"Reading a lot of threads and it's mostly men that ask for advice, some listen, some don't and that's OK.

What I haven't seen is the same comments on a woman's profile when she is handling a man's equipment and it's in her profile pic.

I'll be told I'm probably wrong, be told women rarely ask for or have to ask for advice as they are the ones in control here, but my opinion is mine.

So I have some empathy for the male profiles that do try.

This doesn't mean I'm up for a shag lol

Re the photos.

In all my years on here I've never seen a photo on a single female profile where it's just a womans hand and a man's cock and body with the face blurred out

I've never seen a shot of a tiny section of vagina with a man prone eating her out.

I've rarely seen any where it's 95% someone other than the woman in the picture.

Some single male profiles however.....🤷‍♂️"

Has been said multiple times in other threads so I'm just copying but...

Have you seen/looked at more than 75% of women's profiles?

They do exist Obi...they do exist

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By *imi_RougeWoman
5 weeks ago

Portsmouth

Because that sort of image appeals to men... And that's her target audience.

"Men confuse what they enjoy seeing with they think women want to see. If they understand the difference, they do better on here."

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By *arla SwingerWoman
5 weeks ago

Somewhere

I wouldn't ask for advice, nor listen to it regarding my profile 👍

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By *ealitybitesMan
5 weeks ago

Belfast

I've said on numerous threads that people are happy to give advice to men or tell them either what they are doing wrong or how they can improve their experience but many women and couples profiles are equally lazy with a poor bio and crappy pics.

Obviously it doesn't really matter what a woman or couple have on their profile, and I'm speaking as one half of a fab couples profile, because they will get lots of messages regardless.

However they can't really have a pop about the quality of messages received if they haven't made much of an effort themselves.

I've also seen numerous single female profiles that are very well verified and yet their galleries are filled with dick pics and virtually nothing else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
3 weeks ago


"I wouldn't ask for advice, nor listen to it regarding my profile 👍"

If a bloke said the same thing I wonder if it would be commented on?

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By *agnar73Man
3 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

I wouldn’t comment on a women’s profile

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By *esthetic21Man
3 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol


"Reading a lot of threads and it's mostly men that ask for advice, some listen, some don't and that's OK.

What I haven't seen is the same comments on a woman's profile when she is handling a man's equipment and it's in her profile pic.

I'll be told I'm probably wrong, be told women rarely ask for or have to ask for advice as they are the ones in control here, but my opinion is mine.

So I have some empathy for the male profiles that do try.

This doesn't mean I'm up for a shag lol

"
women run the world don't be silly

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By *8on33Man
3 weeks ago

winfrith


"I wouldn't ask for advice, nor listen to it regarding my profile 👍

If a bloke said the same thing I wonder if it would be commented on?"
Exactly .

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By *he return of meMan
3 weeks ago

Leeds


"I wouldn't ask for advice, nor listen to it regarding my profile 👍

If a bloke said the same thing I wonder if it would be commented on?Exactly ."

I wouldn't ask for, or listen to any advice on my profile.

Just because I already know what it will be. Get rid of the d pics, have more detail about what I'm actually looking for, what I will or will not do, all the other things. But I think these days I'm just here to upload nudes for attention

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By *tr8MrEMan
3 weeks ago

Shireoaks, Worksop

If we listened to everyone's opinions on what our profile should it shouldn't contain we'd end up not writing one because no one would be satisfied. So I'd say ignore the advice, upload what you think will attract, and actually write utter bollocks, because rarely the women message first, and as much as they will deny, if they've looked at your profile it'll be to see what you look like not what you've written.

Sorry if offended, but you know I'm right

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By *ohnjones3210Man
3 weeks ago

Chester

Don't worry about us my darling. We'll cope.

The thing is with that anyway is that we're a different breed.

I'm not trying to be sexist in any way, but most women I've known simply can't handle the truth anyway. They're delicate and you can't be frank with most of them without causing some massive scene.

Put it this way, I said to one of my male friends last week "Dude, you're packing on the pounds, are you still running? I can't have my wingman getting unfit." His response was "Yeah, you're right. I'm working on it." A female friend of mine mine is also starting to pack on the pounds. Do I care? Yes I do! Would I say it to her?!? Absolutely not! She'd get abusive/moody, etc and it's not worth the hassle right now.

And although an extreme example, it is what it is.

What's more is that on here, women don't need advice really because they can click their fingers and there will always be some creep who will come running. A woman could literally run a shadow profile with no text and still get a smash.

Xx

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By *AYENCouple
3 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

How many men have a close up of their erect cock as their profile pic, how many women have a close up of their swollen clit as their profile pic?

The vast majority of men are exhibitionists so why would we worry when they're being regardlessly exhibited, I don't think the same can be said for the vast majority of women.

Although it might go against modern thinking, men and women are different and therefore different rules should apply. K.

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By *8on33Man
3 weeks ago

winfrith


"I wouldn't ask for advice, nor listen to it regarding my profile 👍

If a bloke said the same thing I wonder if it would be commented on?Exactly .

I wouldn't ask for, or listen to any advice on my profile.

Just because I already know what it will be. Get rid of the d pics, have more detail about what I'm actually looking for, what I will or will not do, all the other things. But I think these days I'm just here to upload nudes for attention"
Fair enough you should be you .

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By *arnelianWoman
3 weeks ago

Ely/Cambridge - between the two


"If we listened to everyone's opinions on what our profile should it shouldn't contain we'd end up not writing one because no one would be satisfied. So I'd say ignore the advice, upload what you think will attract, and actually write utter bollocks, because rarely the women message first, and as much as they will deny, if they've looked at your profile it'll be to see what you look like not what you've written.

Sorry if offended, but you know I'm right "

We're not all the same. I read profiles to see if you've made yourself sound interesting and if we want the same things. Then I look at the photos. If it all appeals, then yes, I'll send a message. Why wouldn't I?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
3 weeks ago

Leeds

No.

The mr

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
3 weeks ago

A couple of profiles have commented that women don't or hardly post up close shots or action shots.....

There's 7 new pics uploaded on the last hour of exactly that...

It does happen

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By *iker JackMan
3 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I think this for me is the issue.

People on here write a profile. Some actually don’t or say “fill in later”

People post the photos they like of themselves or what they think others want to see

For me on the whole profile advice is futile.

I have given it in the past and you look back and many don’t make the changes. So then I think it may be a clever ploy to get people looking at their profile

I do not want empathy or sympathy from anyone on here nor be boxed off as another male on here so therefore I am ….

People need to take ownership of their profiles and their attitudes and how they interact or portray themself on here

Just my thoughts

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By *haiababeWoman
3 weeks ago

North devon


"If we listened to everyone's opinions on what our profile should it shouldn't contain we'd end up not writing one because no one would be satisfied. So I'd say ignore the advice, upload what you think will attract, and actually write utter bollocks, because rarely the women message first, and as much as they will deny, if they've looked at your profile it'll be to see what you look like not what you've written.

Sorry if offended, but you know I'm right

We're not all the same. I read profiles to see if you've made yourself sound interesting and if we want the same things. Then I look at the photos. If it all appeals, then yes, I'll send a message. Why wouldn't I?"

I'm the same. If a guy messages me i read the profile 1st and see if abything they have said grabs my attention. I think aboit this and the quality of their message. Then look at pics. But their message and profile are more important to me than the pics

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By *rHotNottsMan
3 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I think this for me is the issue.

People on here write a profile. Some actually don’t or say “fill in later”

People post the photos they like of themselves or what they think others want to see

For me on the whole profile advice is futile.

I have given it in the past and you look back and many don’t make the changes. So then I think it may be a clever ploy to get people looking at their profile

I do not want empathy or sympathy from anyone on here nor be boxed off as another male on here so therefore I am ….

People need to take ownership of their profiles and their attitudes and how they interact or portray themself on here

Just my thoughts "

I agree , you cannot help them, they just need to figure it out.

If I ever got stuck, like if it stopped working, I’m not actually sure what I’d do, but I would not ask for profile advice on here.

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By *ealitybitesMan
3 weeks ago

Belfast

I have never and would never ask for profile advice because then it wouldn't be a true reflection of me.

It would just become a box ticking list of how others think I should present myself.

I also disagree with the comment that women on here can have sex easily with zero effort. That is suggesting that they aren't really fussy who they have sex with, which may well be the case for some but most prefer some form of attraction and/or connection and that requires effort.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

As was said higher up, it's about appealing imagery for the market you're trying to attract. Men are much more likely to like to see that sort of imagery, so when it's on a woman or couples profile that's looking to attract men, it's not really something that'll hold them back.

Women do ask for profile advice less often, and when they do it's more about how to attract the kind of person they're into rather than just how can I make my profile more appealing to the masses.

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By *entlemanH666Man
3 weeks ago

South West

I appreciate your empathy OP. And admire anyone willing to speak against the general consensus.

However what I will say is that, in my experience, anyone with a half thought out profile along with the ability to engage people through message will do perfectly fine on fab and meet great people. Which really is not too different from the real world.

Sometime I wonder if the frustration is born from a struggle to meet people in the real world that spills onto fab when it dawns on someone that it actually takes more effort to meet people here. If fab didn’t give me access to people I could explore specific desires with then I would just meet people out in the wild.

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By *AYENCouple
3 weeks ago

Lincolnshire


"A couple of profiles have commented that women don't or hardly post up close shots or action shots.....

There's 7 new pics uploaded on the last hour of exactly that...

It does happen "

I don't think anyone said they 'don't' - and we were talking in the context of your op - single men/ women, not couples. We also know that there are many female exhibitionists too. I think the difference is more about the audience than the act.

If a man opened his trousers and flashed his cock to 10 individual random women, I'm pretty sure most would feel pissed off.

If a woman lifted her skirt and flashed her pussy to 10 individual random men, I'm pretty sure most would feel ecstatic!

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By *entlemanH666Man
3 weeks ago

South West


"A couple of profiles have commented that women don't or hardly post up close shots or action shots.....

There's 7 new pics uploaded on the last hour of exactly that...

It does happen

I don't think anyone said they 'don't' - and we were talking in the context of your op - single men/ women, not couples. We also know that there are many female exhibitionists too. I think the difference is more about the audience than the act.

If a man opened his trousers and flashed his cock to 10 individual random women, I'm pretty sure most would feel pissed off.

If a woman lifted her skirt and flashed her pussy to 10 individual random men, I'm pretty sure most would feel ecstatic!"

I’d probably laugh. Before swiftly leaving

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"If a man opened his trousers and flashed his cock to 10 individual random women, I'm pretty sure most would feel pissed off.

If a woman lifted her skirt and flashed her pussy to 10 individual random men, I'm pretty sure most would feel ecstatic!"

Though both count as sexual assault in the eyes of the law 💜

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By *iker JackMan
3 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"A couple of profiles have commented that women don't or hardly post up close shots or action shots.....

There's 7 new pics uploaded on the last hour of exactly that...

It does happen

I don't think anyone said they 'don't' - and we were talking in the context of your op - single men/ women, not couples. We also know that there are many female exhibitionists too. I think the difference is more about the audience than the act.

If a man opened his trousers and flashed his cock to 10 individual random women, I'm pretty sure most would feel pissed off.

If a woman lifted her skirt and flashed her pussy to 10 individual random men, I'm pretty sure most would feel ecstatic!"

Maybe I’m odd. If a woman lifted her skirt and flashed me or flashed any part of her body I would not be in anyway ecstatic or even close to being happy

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