FabSwingers.com forum: What do you do when you are down

By *esthetic21 OP Man
5 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

I don't get down very often but when I do I usually just lock myself away and sit in silence with my thoughts till I feel better

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By *orthern_knobberMan
5 weeks ago

manchester

Listen to the crying game soundtrack.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

Cry.

It helps. Apparently.

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By *illy IdolMan
5 weeks ago

Midlands

I go for a nice walk 🚶‍♂️

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By *rill PhilMan
5 weeks ago

Crediton

Today, I've mostly slept in-between little bursts of crying.

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By *ympha LuxuriaWoman
5 weeks ago

La La Land

"I don't get down very often but when I do I usually just lock myself away and sit in silence with my thoughts till I feel better"

I hope you are ok OP?

And you know who you can reach out to if you need to talk to anyone?

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By *sWyldWoman
5 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I'm sorry you're feeling down. I hope it passes soon.

I tend to shut people out when I feel that way too. I try hard to focus on all I'm thankful for and find things to look forward to. That usually helps

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By *weetiepie99Woman
5 weeks ago

cardiff

Have a cup of tea. Put on a really scary film. Curl up on the sofa. Let it pass..

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
5 weeks ago

Leeds

I wait until it raining and then stare out the window, with careless whisper playing in the background.

The mr

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By *aven.Woman
5 weeks ago

Not the North West...

"Have a cup of tea. Put on a really scary film. Curl up on the sofa. Let it pass.."

This. But with rum.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Herts

I piss on a window when I see someone looking out listening to Careless Whisper.

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By *lutandhubbyCouple
5 weeks ago

west midlands

i put my headphones on, turn up the volume and chill out listening to my music

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By *r SproutMan
5 weeks ago

the middle

"I don't get down very often but when I do I usually just lock myself away and sit in silence with my thoughts till I feel better"

I do this but add a bottle of whiskey

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

I play Bloodborne and listen to Midwest Emo.

Does it help? Yes. Do I feel better? Debatable.

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By *r TriomanMan
5 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I get back up again, nothing ever gets me down, oooh Danny boy...

I also try and find a positive to every day, it not always easy but can be done.

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By *inkylipsWoman
5 weeks ago

Debauchery

I internally suffer till it passes, paint a smile on so no one can ask what’s wrong. I’m going through this at the moment. I just keep going like an old work horse

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By *enk15Man
5 weeks ago

Evesham

Indulge in some disassociation. Usually films or gaming. Stiff drink in hand.

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By *immyinreadingMan
5 weeks ago

henley on thames

"Today, I've mostly slept in-between little bursts of crying."

You ok?

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By *weetiepie99Woman
5 weeks ago

cardiff

"Have a cup of tea. Put on a really scary film. Curl up on the sofa. Let it pass..

This. But with rum. "

Yes, rum, wine, gin is definitely preferable

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By *immyinreadingMan
5 weeks ago

henley on thames

"I go for a nice walk 🚶‍♂️ "

That’s usually my answer too. Thoughts seem to settle during a long walk, problems become more obvious, solutions clearer.

But some situations don’t have solutions. For those … a chat and a whiskey 🥃 or two

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By *ustMe123xWoman
5 weeks ago

Essex

I eat anything and everything then feel worse for being a pig

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
5 weeks ago

London

Isolate myself from the world

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By *oonbath89Man
5 weeks ago

radstock

I try and put on a brave face and deal with it in my own way , I know people especially us men don’t like to show our emotions but as I got older I realise crying isn’t a sign of weakness is sign of emotion , if like me you don’t like to let others know how you’re really feeling then remember

“ if you cry in the shower no one can see your tears”

That’s how I deal with a bad time

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By *ayPrimeMan
5 weeks ago

Leeds

I play a game called Disco Elysium. For some reason, it always gives me a better perspective on things.

I also listen to Alan Watts or Aperture (YouTube channel) to help remind me that none of this is real, and none of it really matters.

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By *aybeLadyWoman
5 weeks ago

West Dublin

Eat, cry, wollow.

Go to sleep. Then get up and shake myself off. Put one foot in front of the other.

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By *oontuneMan
5 weeks ago

Menston

Go out on the motorbike

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By *uacksplat.Woman
5 weeks ago

Star Trekking Across The Universe

self-sabotage.

self-isolate.

distraction.

always distraction.

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By *itygamesMan
5 weeks ago

get pissed at home and get a curry delivered and book the next day off work and laze in bed allday watching tele

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By *atin2TV/TS
5 weeks ago

rainham

Dress up in heels and stockings x

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan
5 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

Blowimg up a goblin.camp in baldurs gate 3

Really does wonders for the brain

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By *acktonatureMan
5 weeks ago

carlisle

Have a w@nk…. Always lightens my mood…..

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By *ershamMan
5 weeks ago

_ersham

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By *i fem huntersCouple
5 weeks ago

london

Jam some tunes, blaze some , have a drink and then phone everyone in your phonebook. Best outlets are the simplest

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By *ungandMan
5 weeks ago

daveyhulme

Have a chat with my friends or some time come in here and chat always puts a smile on my face

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By *alsaman15Man
5 weeks ago

Market Drayton

I read one of my books and escape in to another world for a bit

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By *rHotNottsMan
5 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Depends why I’m down but usually try to do something positive to resolve it like having a difficult conversation or making no a change

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By *inell1Man
5 weeks ago

Ipswich

I stand up

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By *ershamMan
5 weeks ago

_ersham

Listen to 3 little birds by bob Marley played at my dads funeral have a cry and try to carry on

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

I find fresh air, physical work or the gym and a good nights sleep regulates me really effectively

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By *IXEN200Woman
5 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

"I try and put on a brave face and deal with it in my own way , I know people especially us men don’t like to show our emotions but as I got older I realise crying isn’t a sign of weakness is sign of emotion , if like me you don’t like to let others know how you’re really feeling then remember

“ if you cry in the shower no one can see your tears”

That’s how I deal with a bad time"

I do this on a regular basis now as I can't go walking in the rain when I need to cry

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By *insBadMan
5 weeks ago

& around

"I don't get down very often but when I do I usually just lock myself away and sit in silence with my thoughts till I feel better"

I like to have a good cry, but the only thing that makes me cry is watching videos of the kop singing you'll never walk alone, or the Glastonbury crowd helping Lewis Capaldi sing Someone I loved, it gets me everytime, and I feel much better after it

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By *reat me rightWoman
5 weeks ago

Rotherham

Take the dogs for a loooooooooonnnnnggggg walk. Fresh air and movement helps me

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By *avexxMan
5 weeks ago

cheshire

go for a nice long walk with the dog switch off from everything

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Hide away and watch movies and tv series

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By *eordieJeansCouple
5 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

I go to the gym, listen to aggressive music and stay there until I feel better.

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By *osey WalesMan
5 weeks ago

Surrey

I put some music on, go for a drive and go scream at the sea like a loony.

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By *IXEN200Woman
5 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

"I put some music on, go for a drive and go scream at the sea like a loony.

That sounds like something I need to, oh if only I could drive a car instead of people up the wall....

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By *inkylipsWoman
5 weeks ago

Debauchery

"Listen to 3 little birds by bob Marley played at my dads funeral have a cry and try to carry on"

That was played at my dad’s funeral too while there was a slide show of his pictures. That song is a source of comfort for me because it’s something he would say

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Sometimes can't even get out of bed and have no incentive to do anything.

Alcohol seems to be the only relief.

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By *uncouple153Couple
5 weeks ago

Abergavenny

Completely misread this post

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By *adCherriesCouple
5 weeks ago

Cheshire/Northwest

I dont get down, I'm more of a 'get on with it' kind of person.

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By *enfleetMaleMan
5 weeks ago

Hadleigh

Watch classic movies. Tonight I'm watching Our Man in Havana with Alec Guinness. Not actually with Alec Guinness, that would be weird but staring Alec Guinness. Old films take me away from my reality.

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By *enelope2UWoman
5 weeks ago

Fife

Depends on the level...

Mild..play music

Medium... play music and drive

Bad ..cry and play music and sit outside near waves

Very bad ..go skydiving

.. 3 successful jumps later

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By *parkle1974Woman
5 weeks ago

Leeds

Grab a sledgehammer and batter fuck out of whatever is closest to me at the time!

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan
5 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

"Grab a sledgehammer and batter fuck out of whatever is closest to me at the time! "

You know what that sounds like fun.

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By *parkle1974Woman
5 weeks ago

Leeds

"Grab a sledgehammer and batter fuck out of whatever is closest to me at the time!

You know what that sounds like fun."

It certainly helps

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By *inkyPair2018Couple
5 weeks ago

Wolves

"I don't get down very often but when I do I usually just lock myself away and sit in silence with my thoughts till I feel better"

Cathartic music helps me but id caveat this with advising not to do this if manic or severely depressed as it can be quite triggering. I do this only when in an apathetic state

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By *929Man
5 weeks ago

newcastle

Go to the gym

Really long country walk with dog on my favourite route

Long hot bath with the wireless on

Get a Chinese and watch a favourite film

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By *ike14162236Man
5 weeks ago

Cambridge

I used to walk along the sea front but moved away from the sea. 🤦

I like miserable indie music at the best of times so listening to music whilst walking helps me.

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By *carlet SeductionWoman
5 weeks ago

Maidstone

I'm feeling down right now and I honestly don't know

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By *esthetic21 OP Man
5 weeks ago

Birmingham/Bristol

Sending good vibes to everyone

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By *ad NannaWoman
5 weeks ago

East London

I cry.

I take medication.

I eat crap.

I visit family.

I shop.

I listen to sad music to overload the sadness.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Exercise

Remove myself from humans

Listen to music

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Stockport

I have a breakdown that lasts for about 7 years. Things get worse. Things get very slowly better. I manage to behave relatively normal to outsiders. I eventually manage to taper myself off my antidepressants so that I'm now on only a quarter strength tablet every second day, and will stop entirely before I get to the end of the current packet.

Oh, and I have to reduce the amount of chocolate I eat because of developing type 2 diabetes...

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By *porty_and_NaughtyCouple
5 weeks ago

Swansea

I need to be outdoors when I feel down, either walking/strolling, hiking, running.

I am going through some stress at the moment. My husband is working in north Wales this week and I have come away with him and our dog to stay in the Airbnb. Whilst my husband works I get outdoors with our dog.

This morning I did a 6.5 mile trail run in beautiful forestry. I loved it and it's therapeutic for me as I don't think or feel stressed particularly when I run as my brain is focusing on my performance, the route and my dog. My stresses are still there but for a few hours I had a break from thinking.

Mrs

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan
5 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

Well normally I would play something, but I haven't got energy to care about killing goblins today.

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By *rSircumsizedMan
5 weeks ago

Risca

Go to my allotment sit quietly and watch the world go by. It's my safe space.

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By *leaningdutiesMan
5 weeks ago

South London

Going for a run is probably the best way for me to get me out of a mood.

Or phoning and talking to one of my 3 very close friends who are always available to me when they know I'm struggling.

What I used to do, and I cannot endorse this approach, was either drink or clam up and cut myself off from everybody I love.

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
5 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

I put my trousers on, have a cup of tea and I think about leaving the house. I feed the pigeons, I sometimes feed the sparrows too

It gives me a sense of enormous well-being.

And then I'm happy for the rest of the day!

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By *imi_RougeWoman
5 weeks ago

Portsmouth

Go for a walk and feed the wildlife - swans, crows, squirrels. That small thing brings me a lot of joy.

And also talking to all the dogs I meet along the way!

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By *ee69Man
5 weeks ago

glasgow

In my younger days alcohol, fuck it a fight

Now

Furiously exercise

Still like alcohol and fuck tho lol

My minds cloudy most days a stay busy to ignore it

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By *luebell888Woman
5 weeks ago

Glasgowish

Take my dogs out for a long walk somewhere away from people.

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By *outhern77Man
5 weeks ago

Quinton

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

"I don't get down very often but when I do I usually just lock myself away and sit in silence with my thoughts till I feel better"

Music 🎵🎶🎼👊💪👍

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
5 weeks ago

Ends

When I’m down as in sad and down as in down on her I eat.

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
5 weeks ago

St Leonards

I get up. I get on up. And I stay on the scene.

Like a lovin' machine.

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By *osey WalesMan
5 weeks ago

Surrey

"Depends on the level...

Mild..play music

Medium... play music and drive

Bad ..cry and play music and sit outside near waves

Very bad ..go skydiving

.. 3 successful jumps later "

Perhaps I should look into sky diving as our methods are similar. 🤔

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By *agnar73Man
5 weeks ago

glasgow-ish

Guess it’s getting back up again.

‘Fall down eight times, stand up nine’ and all that.

Sometimes not so easy when you make an effort socially and socially there are being arses. But.. try try try.

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By *heBelladonnaWoman
5 weeks ago

A dazzling place you never knew

I get knocked down, but I get up again.

You are never gonna keep me down.

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By *dam1971Man
5 weeks ago

Bedford

"I'm feeling down right now and I honestly don't know

I hope it passes soon, and right now you can realise that it’ll pass.

*hug*

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
5 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"I get knocked down, but I get up again.

You are never gonna keep me down.

Then smash a whisky drink, lager drink and the whole of the top shelf!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
5 weeks ago

Reading

Eat.

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By *herryEatersCouple
5 weeks ago

East Cheshire

"I don't get down very often but when I do I usually just lock myself away and sit in silence with my thoughts till I feel better"

Get back up again !. Get a treat, think positive, go out somewhere together. Cuddle up to watch a movie, try a new club if it's FAB pissing us off as usual lol

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By *eardedguy800Man
5 weeks ago

Kidderminster

Eat cake

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
5 weeks ago

belfast

Loud fast music

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By *edhead72Man
5 weeks ago

Cheltenham and Ashby

I try and own it, understanding it’s a transient sensation and I soon be feeling ok again. Equally when Im feeling fucking wonderful try not to be too self congratulatory cus that to is transient.

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By *oo..Woman
5 weeks ago

Boo's World

Go quiet

Get in my car, music on and drive far too fast 🫣 until I start to mellow

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By *ell GwynnWoman
5 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Make myself go outside for some morning light and fresh air, even though I only want to stay indoors in my safe space.

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By *arkjackMan
5 weeks ago

West Cork

Try to get to bed early, and drink Bryan's Blueprint smoothie in the morning, that usually helps.

Staying off caffeine helps too, and a cold shower, and the friendship of my puppy dog, who is a star.

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By *uilder.funMan
5 weeks ago

Bristol

I hit the gym hard. Loud hardcore in my ears and I train until my muscles hurt more then the pain in my mind.

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