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By *rAdventurer OP   Man
over a year ago

Richmond

Simple this one - Spoke politely to a lady a few days ago and became friends on here - 2 days later whilst checking my friends list she has disappeared. She is online so I ask why she de-friended me and that I was hoping to meet her eventually. She blocks me? I cannot understand why someone would be so cold?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Simple this one - Spoke politely to a lady a few days ago and became friends on here - 2 days later whilst checking my friends list she has disappeared. She is online so I ask why she de-friended me and that I was hoping to meet her eventually. She blocks me? I cannot understand why someone would be so cold?"

Consider the opposite. Some folk are down right needy .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry, time is a great healer.

Are you over her yet?..

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Are you sure she was single? Are you sure 'she' was a lady?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This wont be the first an last you have of this it happens to us all at some point. You just need a thicker skin.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Simple this one - Spoke politely to a lady a few days ago and became friends on here - 2 days later whilst checking my friends list she has disappeared. She is online so I ask why she de-friended me and that I was hoping to meet her eventually. She blocks me? I cannot understand why someone would be so cold?"

because they have no requirement to be your best bud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wanted to see your private pics. Saw them - and either that was all she intended on doing - or something she saw changed her mind!

Don't try and over analyse - it's pointless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simple this one - Spoke politely to a lady a few days ago and became friends on here - 2 days later whilst checking my friends list she has disappeared. She is online so I ask why she de-friended me and that I was hoping to meet her eventually. She blocks me? I cannot understand why someone would be so cold?"

Maybe she befriended you just to check out your pics?

Maybe she thought you were presumptious in thinking she'd meet or maybe she blocked you for questioning how she choses to manage her friend list?

All her choice at the end of the day and would agree with the previous post about sounding a bit needy

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By *ral geniusMan
over a year ago

north notts

Aaggghhh poor bloke, come on ladies don't kick him while he's down. He obviously loved her

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

OP, to be honest sometimes there are no answers - all it ever comes down to is not taking much.

If you're convinced you've done nothing wrong, and they haven't come forward to say what you've done, then hold your head up high (block them back!) and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its annoying i know, i have arranged meets before now only to get blocked on the day arranged, just move on mate and don't take it too personal

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By *rAdventurer OP   Man
over a year ago

Richmond


"OP, to be honest sometimes there are no answers - all it ever comes down to is not taking much.

If you're convinced you've done nothing wrong, and they haven't come forward to say what you've done, then hold your head up high (block them back!) and move on "

I like that answer!

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Just remember to also block her, as she or he will time to time unblock you just to see who is leaving you some verification

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened to us a few days ago with someone we had been talking to for a while, logged on one day to find we had been blocked by them, take no notice, its down to them who they speak to and if they no longer want to be in contact with you the easiest way is to block.

Won't be the last time it happens, we are all entitled to change our minds

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"Just remember to also block her, as she or he will time to time unblock you just to see who is leaving you some verification"

Oh yes - and then start contacting your meets to spread gossip about you (which is untrue as they never even met you) in the hope of bad mouthing you to people that actually did meet you!

Its called the curse of the nutters ... I mean ... stalkers Learn how to play (and counter!) the game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someon takes you off their friends list don't question it they have done it for a reason.

Better to be unfriended and blocked now than sat in a hotel room waiting like a mug I reckon.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Simple this one - Spoke politely to a lady a few days ago and became friends on here - 2 days later whilst checking my friends list she has disappeared. She is online so I ask why she de-friended me and that I was hoping to meet her eventually. She blocks me? I cannot understand why someone would be so cold?"

She changed her mind.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"Just remember to also block her, as she or he will time to time unblock you just to see who is leaving you some verification

Oh yes - and then start contacting your meets to spread gossip about you (which is untrue as they never even met you) in the hope of bad mouthing you to people that actually did meet you!

Its called the curse of the nutters ... I mean ... stalkers Learn how to play (and counter!) the game "

And tell everybody that you are a nasty shagger or you are too picky and this and that...then try to spoil your name in every club

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"Don't worry, time is a great healer.

Are you over her yet?.."

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"If someon takes you off their friends list don't question it they have done it for a reason.

Better to be unfriended and blocked now than sat in a hotel room waiting like a mug I reckon.

"

I hope you haven't taken any viagra before going waiting in that hotel room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She simply changed her mind it happens

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By *icky1Man
over a year ago

Nuneaton


"Simple this one - Spoke politely to a lady a few days ago and became friends on here - 2 days later whilst checking my friends list she has disappeared. She is online so I ask why she de-friended me and that I was hoping to meet her eventually. She blocks me? I cannot understand why someone would be so cold?"
that sounds like a fake profile mate dont worrier about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does it bother you not end of world.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"that sounds like a fake profile mate dont worrier about it "

You cant see her profile

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yeah .....she didn't fall at your feet so she must be a fake ... believe it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someon takes you off their friends list don't question it they have done it for a reason.

Better to be unfriended and blocked now than sat in a hotel room waiting like a mug I reckon.

I hope you haven't taken any viagra before going waiting in that hotel room "

I don't need viagra

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"If someon takes you off their friends list don't question it they have done it for a reason.

Better to be unfriended and blocked now than sat in a hotel room waiting like a mug I reckon.

I hope you haven't taken any viagra before going waiting in that hotel room

I don't need viagra "

Damnnnnnn you know your stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

haha - love this..

"must be a fake", she's a stalker, she's a psycho that will bad mouth you in every club in the country - BLOCK HER!!!

cos after all if she was genuine she'd have been gagging for you and would never block any man!

Good to see male coping mechanisms in action. Peckers up..

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"Simple this one - Spoke politely to a lady a few days ago and became friends on here - 2 days later whilst checking my friends list she has disappeared. She is online so I ask why she de-friended me and that I was hoping to meet her eventually. She blocks me? I cannot understand why someone would be so cold?that sounds like a fake profile mate dont worrier about it "

How the feck do you come to that conclusion?.....so because someone exercises their personal choice that makes their profile fake?

Jesus Christ.....the way some guys minds work on here

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Sorry girls, we are only here for the menz, and if we DARE to friend them then change our minds we must be fakes, or otherwise we're waiting in front of our flickering screens til 2am so we can sneakily remove the block and stalk the profile. Then we'll spread tales about how the guy, like, totes stalked us.

I really hope some of the comments I have seen from some of the guys here are tongue in cheek, otherwise my 'decent meet' radar is well off.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"haha - love this..

"must be a fake", she's a stalker, she's a psycho that will bad mouth you in every club in the country - BLOCK HER!!!

cos after all if she was genuine she'd have been gagging for you and would never block any man!

Good to see male coping mechanisms in action. Peckers up.."

Well...thank...you!!!

I was enjoying the vitriol from some of the single men, now they're going to go all gooey...killjoys...sigh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"haha - love this..

"must be a fake", she's a stalker, she's a psycho that will bad mouth you in every club in the country - BLOCK HER!!!

cos after all if she was genuine she'd have been gagging for you and would never block any man!

Good to see male coping mechanisms in action. Peckers up..

Well...thank...you!!!

I was enjoying the vitriol from some of the single men, now they're going to go all gooey...killjoys...sigh! "

Sorry - I was enjoying it too - carry on boys..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its weird when people commit online suicide mid thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its weird when people commit online suicide mid thread."

Was just thinking that exact same thing

Makes you wonder what has happened in the last 40 mins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worse when they dont turn up at a prearranged meet.then when you log on theyve blocked you.? Fantasists & timewasters mate.block back & move on buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worse when they dont turn up at a prearranged meet.then when you log on theyve blocked you.? Fantasists & timewasters mate.block back & move on buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rosie had a guy that was sending her messages numerous times per day and checking the profile dozens of times per day, he wasn't rude or abusive but it just felt creepy and when she tried to explain he just whined on about how he was a nice guy and he was so hurt she felt that way about him and he wouldn't let up, so she had to block him.

I'm not saying the OP has been like that but there are two sides to every story and the moral of this one is if someone doesn't fancy you just let it drop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just cos someone replies and has a chat with u doesn't mean they are contracted to meet u..

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By *xpresMan
over a year ago

Elland


"Are you sure she was single? Are you sure 'she' was a lady?"

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

wow! Ladies,.. before you bash all guys for dropping 1% of some of their experiences, please bear in mind not all men are bad and not all women are innocent.

If you (male or female) have ever been stalked (or been on the receiving end of some nutter's antics) then you'll need no explanation to understand.

And if you haven't, all I can wish for you is that you never have to face it.

yes, everyone has coping mechanisms: I don't know how the ladies deal with theirs, but sometimes, guys try to joke about it with each other.. it takes the edge off to realise you're not the only one. Sometimes, how someone else has coped with things gives a different perspective.

And as for the "people bad mouthing your name in every club", the only reason this works (having been a victim of this myself) is because the swing scene, as with most aspects of society, loves gossip and most people will believe what they hear as truth without pausing a moment to confirm the facts,... or who its coming from.

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