FabSwingers.com mobile

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to The Lounge

if people are rude to you ? are you rude back ?

Jump to newest
 

By *rlando OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

there s a warped sense of reality here !

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *immyinreadingMan
5 weeks ago

henley on thames

Depends how rude they have been, whether I can be arsed, and whether I can think of a good comeback.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago


"there s a warped sense of reality here !

"

I don't do rude in any shape or form , l just move on , simple, don't invite any rude people into your World ,you'll find it a better place because of it .

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ora the explorerWoman
5 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

Depends. Not really. I usually just cut them off.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ad NannaWoman
5 weeks ago

East London

Not usually, but I was very rude to an old woman in a supermarket checkout line once.

I felt so bad afterwards I reversed my trolley and apologised.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *dam1971Man
5 weeks ago

Bedford

If it’s just a one off comment, no. If it’s a long rant I might make fun of them, more for my own enjoyment really.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *arla SwingerWoman
5 weeks ago

Somewhere

Depends on the context...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

5 weeks ago

East Sussex

It depends but usually I just can't be bothered.

Quite often people are unaware of how rude they're being

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eardedguy800Man
5 weeks ago

Kidderminster

I get lots of rude emails at work. I deliberately don’t respond back in the same way. I’m better than that.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
5 weeks ago

Ends

Not always but sometimes too many people have tried to tek man fi eediat that day.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
5 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I think I'm often perceived as rude because I speak in short sentences and don't like to lie to people or lead them on.

Generally, I try to remain polite to people.

The actual rudeness comes out when I vent about them after that fact 💜

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

I had a grumble under my breath yesterday when i stood aside to allow a cyclist to pass me on a footbridge when had a sign to dismount.. Then i remembered i would do exactly the same 😂😂😂

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ealitybitesMan
5 weeks ago

Belfast

No I just ignore their existence which usually seems to rile then even more.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *carlet SeductionWoman
5 weeks ago

Maidstone

Sometimes. Depends how rude they are.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *atnip make me purrWoman
5 weeks ago

Reading

Nope I take the higher road. It's more satisfying than getting into the mud.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *endalshaggersCouple
5 weeks ago

Kendal

Depends on how rude they are. Block button gets used a lot more than it did!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *glyBettyTV/TS
5 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

Resounding yes.

I just can't help myself.

If you don't nip disrespect in the bud early on, it sets a precedent.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
5 weeks ago

Leeds

It depends who and why.

Usually I'll just back away sometimes I'll speak my mind.

It varies depending on if I feel it's worth the hassle.

I prefer an easy life.

Mrs

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eyeYCouple
5 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

D here, a sarcastic "you're welcome" and/or "hope your day is as nice as you" But mostly a "no problem" and ignore..

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iandti2023Couple
5 weeks ago

Wokingham

Most times it’s not worth the argument or your own peace of mind. It does however depend on the context. No holding back if it’s about each other but if it’s about the trivial then we couldn’t care less

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ucka39Man
5 weeks ago

Newcastle

I tend to use a sarcastic polite approach always leaves them wondering

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ros40Man
5 weeks ago

Bedford

I don't lower myself down the negative ally

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ell GwynnWoman
5 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Not usually. What's the point? It's not going to diffuse the situation. If a response is called for at all I can be reasonable yet firm when pointing out their unreasonableness (is that a word? My phone doesn't like it).

However, at my brother's wedding some aggressive d*unk man was so awful to my sister that she cried. I'm ashamed to say I saw red and was quite verbally aggressive. That's VERY unlike me.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *r SproutMan
5 weeks ago

the middle

No i just ignore them

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *vaRose43Woman
5 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

It depends how rude they’ve been

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *orphia2003Woman
5 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

Sometimes. Usually I just call them out on Thier behaviour, which they seem to see as rudeness.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *parkle1974Woman
5 weeks ago

Leeds

No. I can't be arsed with people like that..no point in calling them out on it either because they never change x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *sWyldWoman
5 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Rarely. It's easier just to walk away.

However I'll happily fight for other people.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *B69Woman
5 weeks ago

Wiltshire

Depends on the situation but most of the time I would walk away

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *aybeLadyWoman
5 weeks ago

West Dublin

No I dont bother. Why waste my energy and it probably wont be received well anyway.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
5 weeks ago

District 13

Mark and avoid, I can be rude but I chose not to 😁 unless it’s unavoidable 😂😂

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *elix SightedMan
5 weeks ago

Cloud 8

If the opportunity presents itself and I think it’s worth it, absolutely. But I usually sigh, mentally berate them and walk away. It’s better for my own sanity.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ornucopiaMan
5 weeks ago

Bexley

Very little point in telling someone what they are, when it is highly likely that they already know.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *mupforplentyMan
5 weeks ago

Maidstone

There are a hell of a lot of very rude people on here, I tell them in no uncertain terms to go away.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iss KinkWoman
5 weeks ago

North West

Be nice it’s hurts hell of a lot more

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ischaTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Sheffield

Just move on really, can’t be bothered with rude people

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
5 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

Just smile and walk away.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *TMycockMan
5 weeks ago

Watford

I had a little spell a few months ago when I kept receiving unsolicited phone calls (clearly routed from India) from numbers beginning 0330 or 0331.

I asked them politely to remove my number.

The calls continued...

I then asked them not-so-politely to remove my number.

Still the calls continued...

I dug out out an old referee's whistle I had tucked away.

The calls stopped.

There's NO arguing with an "Acme Thunderer" !!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ascaIMan
5 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester

Depends where I am.

In work I’m overly nice in return to boil their piss even more. Outside of work I’ll be a cunt.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ustlooking78Man
5 weeks ago

northants

I'll either match go beyond, or be overly nice, depends on my mood

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *hrista BellendWoman
5 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Nope, I'm a witty smart arse, with much more ingenious comebacks for rude people.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *opinovMan
5 weeks ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

I try to remain scrupulously polite and courteous as long as I can - usually much longer than most would bother with - but, once my patience has run out and a final last-ditch attempt at civility ignored, my retorts become exponentially pointed and brutally insulting.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
5 weeks ago

BRIDPORT

Sometimes, it depends what mood I’m in and how much their rudeness has pissed me off.

Sometimes I reciprocate and ramp the level of rudeness right up, just to get their reaction of utter gobsmackedness that someone has dared to speak to them in such a manner. I usually follow it with the comment, “ don’t like it when the boots on the other foot, do ya” and smile at them.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
5 weeks ago

Leeds

I speak to people how I’m spoken too.

The mr

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
5 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

No. I don't lower myself to their standard of how to treat others.

If I did that then i'd be a cunt like them.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *inky_couple2020Couple
5 weeks ago

North West

I'm a cunt.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *naswingdressWoman
5 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

What do you mean by rudeness?

What is it about things here that you think brings out rudeness?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *MisschiefxTV/TS
5 weeks ago

London

Depends, I can be pretty cutting or sarcastic or just give them the same energy back. If I think low enough of them I just ignore them like some kind of dysfunctional animal

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *randMrsLPCouple
5 weeks ago

london

Rarely as I dont want to create a scene with a dumb fuck that has nothing to lose and is very thick skinned

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *undee2Man
5 weeks ago

Dundee

I most definitely am rude back and I work in a call centre.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ascaIMan
5 weeks ago

Cheshire Liverpool Manchester


"I'm a cunt."

I didn’t want to be the one to say it 😋

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lex46TV/TS
5 weeks ago

Near Wells

I would reply but in a polite way. That usually stumps them.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *inky_couple2020Couple
5 weeks ago

North West


"I'm a cunt.

I didn’t want to be the one to say it 😋 "

You said it 😘

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iddle ManMan
5 weeks ago

Walsall

Usually not, I give people the benefit of the doubt, but if someone is constantly rude for no reason then yes, I find myself giving them a little dose of their own medicine so to speak.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *abluesbabyMan
5 weeks ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

Oooh no! I am even nicer back. Sugar coated often vomit inducingly nice. Just to rile them more.

It often ends with me curtly informing them in my poshest BBC/Pathe News/Upper-Class Twit voice "Oh I'm terribly sorry... one seems to have one mistaken for someone who actually gives a shit"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *herrybakewellCouple
5 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Rude people get blocked.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *orkshireDrifterMan
5 weeks ago

Nafferton, nr Driffield.

Sometimes it's more fun to be ultra polite, using obsequious and obscure phrases when agreeing with them and watching their puzzled reactions.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rofessor ElementalMan
5 weeks ago

Durham

Certainly not, if someone is rude it’s there issue as life's to short to fuck about with grudging words.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *urry BlokeMan
5 weeks ago

Stalybridge

No

Be nice

They hate it

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *asstabMan
5 weeks ago

Manchester

Usually I am how they are but I am learning to be nice. It makes me feel better

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago


"Not usually, but I was very rude to an old woman in a supermarket checkout line once.

I felt so bad afterwards I reversed my trolley and apologised."

Hey good one x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ex HolesMan
5 weeks ago

Up North

Yes. With both barrels

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *avexxMan
5 weeks ago

cheshire

report to the police straight away

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lljambarMan
5 weeks ago

Manchester

No what's the point

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

Not any more, but it took 46 years to get it into my thick skull that it's not benefial to them, to me, to the whole world.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *exycarlashane181Couple
5 weeks ago

Leamington Spa

I always like myself to a mirror. I'll just bounce right back the treatment you give me

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oo..Woman
5 weeks ago

Boo's World

Depends on how rude they were to me.

Low scale - nah can't be arsed

Medium scale - be sarcastic back

High scale - full blown bitch mode and take that motherfucker down

All 3 options get blocked regardless

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rlando OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

if people dish it out they should be able to take it back ...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *r TriomanMan
5 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

Never rude regardless of what is said to me on here; I just block and forget.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rNightMan
5 weeks ago

Coventry

Nah I just block, delete and move on.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *aribbean King 1985Man
5 weeks ago

South West London

Depends, sometimes I will ignore them but if they really annoyed me then I start cussing and tell them about themselves

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eyond PurityCouple
5 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

On here? I either delete rude messages or just reply with something I think is witty.

Never nasty although saying no thanks is nasty to some people 🤷🏻‍♂️

K

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *naswingdressWoman
5 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)


"if people dish it out they should be able to take it back ... "

That sounds mature and emotionally regulated.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *opinovMan
5 weeks ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

Oh, you mean on here?.. silly me, I missed that bit.

I had said:
"I try to remain scrupulously polite and courteous as long as I can - usually much longer than most would bother with - but, once my patience has run out and a final last-ditch attempt at civility ignored, my retorts become exponentially pointed and brutally insulting."
.. but I've actually never ever had a rude or insulting message here in all the time I've been here - everyone who's PMed me has been really nice.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ittleLiasonsWoman
5 weeks ago

Birmingham

No I don't give my energy to people like that anymore. Sure it's irritating in the moment but I just let it go and move forward. Plus, you never know what people are going through, that one rude moment to you can be their breaking down point. Treat others how you want to be treated, even if they don't show the same courtesy back.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ookie46Woman
5 weeks ago

Deepest darkest Peru


"No I don't give my energy to people like that anymore. Sure it's irritating in the moment but I just let it go and move forward. Plus, you never know what people are going through, that one rude moment to you can be their breaking down point. Treat others how you want to be treated, even if they don't show the same courtesy back."

This

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *acktonatureMan
5 weeks ago

carlisle

Nope just block and move on…..

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *emboy AlexMan
5 weeks ago

Chadderton, Manchester

If I'm at work, I might be a tad snarky towards Karens who insult my collegues but other than that, I don't really find many areas where I'm rude.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rRiosMan
5 weeks ago

dublin


"there s a warped sense of reality here !"

Generally no, when I am rude to people, I overthink how I acted and it ruins my day. But there are obviously exceptions.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *inochioMan
5 weeks ago

Derbyshire

Im never intentionally rude.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
5 weeks ago

chichester

Yes

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
5 weeks ago

chichester

[Removed by poster at 21/10/24 23:18:58]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *avinaTVTV/TS
5 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

[Removed by poster at 21/10/24 23:21:29]

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oubleswing2019Man
5 weeks ago

Colchester

Nope, because my interpretation of someone else's rudeness is highly subjective based on my own interpretation.

Their own interpretation of the words they say is also highly subjective based on their own interpretation and understanding.

.

Throw in cultural/education/upbringing to the mix and the energy and effort spent trying to work out if they were being rude seems hardly worth it.

.

And even if they *were* being rude, how is being rude back going to improve the situation for both parties ? It's an escalatory move. It'd argue it's actually abusive since it involves the flow of negative energy from you to them. You've already been pierced by their bad mojo. Throwing some back doesn't make you a better person. It makes you the same as them.

.

Walk away. Or even better, avoid people in the first place. Life is much quieter and stress-free that way.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rucking-HellMan
5 weeks ago

Northampton

No. I used to be. But I've learnt that when somebody is rude, it's a reflection of their inner state. It's how they feel about themselves. It's what lies in their hearts. They project all this outwards onto the world.

This might sound a bit weird, but I try to feel some love for them. If I'm rude back, it only reinforces their reasons to put negative energy into the world. It only confirms their negative feelings, or self hatred, or whatever. It then becomes a viscous circle, and the world remains negative.

I ignore their rudeness, and continue with them as if they weren't rude to me. It's never personal, and I never take it personally. Instinctively I find that difficult to do and there is always room for improvement. However, someone wise once said to me, if you want the world to change into a better place, be that change.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oontuneMan
5 weeks ago

Menston

I prefer to get my retaliation in first.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oney HoneyWoman
5 weeks ago

York

If it’s someone in my life or someone I have any interest in then I will call them out, as you can’t just ignore these things if you want to be friends. If it’s a stranger I will usually just call them a name under my breath and move on.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oontuneMan
5 weeks ago

Menston


"I prefer to get my retaliation in first."

What if you became friends with that stranger?

Say they bought took you out for a cup of tea and a sticky bun?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *oontuneMan
5 weeks ago

Menston

And they could string a sentence together properly?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rincebusterMan
5 weeks ago

Wokingham

No, couldn't be bothered. Not that's it's happened mind you. But if it did, BAMO!

They're only an image or three on a website.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rincebusterMan
5 weeks ago

Wokingham


"No, couldn't be bothered. Not that's it's happened mind you. But if it did, BAMO!

They're only an image or three on a website."

To add, out there in the real world, if I encountered rudeness when I was younger, I gave two barrels back, and that usually went one or two ways. These days, don't really encounter it.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ickyKlungespeareMan
5 weeks ago

St Leonards

Online can't damage me in any real sense, so I overwhelmingly ignore or play a game and see if I can put them in the position of hanging themselves.

Sometimes it's obvious they might just be having a really bad time, so I'll be pleasant, even supportive on very rare occasions.

Out here in the real world, I'll do whatever I need to to navigate the obstacle in the most efficient way possible, so that can range from brushing it off as a couple of seconds of annoyance, or, if they're really in my face and not backing down, I'll mostly play with their heads.

Very, very occasionally someone will be consistently rude and I haven't found a way to kick them into touch, but it's infrequent enough not to be in my consciousness to much of a degree.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *r Mind CandyMan
5 weeks ago

Cheshire

Generally I brutally rip the piss out of them, I walk away chuckling, they walk away furious! Life has a way of buffing out in the end.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *andymanlancsMan
5 weeks ago

here

I fight rudeness and aggression with love and compassion, usually works a treat

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ink vixenCouple
5 weeks ago

Medway

Absolutely.

Disrespect me and you’d better be ready for violence.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *obilebottomMan
5 weeks ago

All over

Depends but usually in a very calm manner I tell them their behavious is unacceptable though there are thectypes with no shame that will want to escalate it. Not worth my time

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *mupforplentyMan
1 week ago

Maidstone


"Absolutely.

Disrespect me and you’d better be ready for violence. "

Luv it!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top