FabSwingers.com forum: What makes someone "relationship material"

By *sWyld OP Woman
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I hate the terminology of girlfriend or boyfriend material, however following on from the would you date someone from fab thread, I'm curious.

What is it that makes you want a relationship with someone as opposed to something more casual?

Not limited to people you might meet here, but also in "the real world"

I imagine it's different for everyone but is there some set criteria or something that takes you from lust to love?

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By *eroLondonMan
4 weeks ago

Covent Garden

It's 1.45am your lådyship, here's my musings...

I always interpret it as something that has 'spousal' qualities, but less than betrothal and without the full commitment. The union goes beyond the physicalities of sex — without detaching from sex however - because sex, tactility and passion represent the nucleus of the relationship.

There's a deeper connection, synergy and a symbiosis between the two people which gives solidity to the relationship, which otherwise wouldn't be the case in a casual relationship.

For me a casual arrangement would be less susceptible to the "shackles' that you would have in a 'proper' relationship which would be based upon, amongst other things, dating and romance.

Anyway... I'm not sure that I'm making any sense...!

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By *ainyDaySunshineMan
4 weeks ago

Ayrshire

A reply is a good start

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By *herry delightWoman
4 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

I honestly can't think of anything that would make someone boyfriend material to me.

The last thing I want is a partner, I enjoy my single life.

I am not girlfriend material.

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By *ecretescapeCouple
4 weeks ago

Helps if they are single, and enjoy life and aren't moaners, make me laugh, also if they can cook and do DIY! Oh and also that they love the fact that I like lots of dick from lots of men

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
4 weeks ago

Wirral.

I guess, for me, he needs to:

*be single

*fit & attractive (to me)

*have no kids

*be funny as fuck

*really "get" me

*not be a swinger

Not too much to ask for, surely....?

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By *emboy AlexMan
4 weeks ago

Chadderton, Manchester

For me probably the following:

-If they're a male, they gotta be feminine. If they're a woman, they gotta be andro and taller than me.

-Older than me.

-into sport/fitness

-into video games

-similar life goals

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By *lueLotusWoman
4 weeks ago

the wilderness

I need one with red hot chemistry

Works outside

Big arms and shoulders

Macho but not a dick.

Doesn't want any more kids

Loves to goof around

Music mad.

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By *londebiguyMan
4 weeks ago

Southport

I'm husband material so I'm told.

Not so sure that I want to be though.

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By *lueLotusWoman
4 weeks ago

the wilderness

Also, I want an upbeat attitude...

Sick of the old man who's seen it all vibe from guys my age.

Look where we live you guys ffs sake wake up and get un jaded every day is a fuckn miracle. If you know this us two might have a chance. If not just feck off and don't waste my time.

Love this shopping list format

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Darlaston

Well after searching for a good 10 years I have found the one

She matches me perfectly

We are both wild

Freaky as fuck

on fab

And the cards and zodiac signs don't lie we are the perfect match

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
4 weeks ago

Leeds

For me it’s someone I don’t mind having around for a long time, and not get annoyed when they interfere with my shit, if I’m totally honest if it wasn’t for the wife and how compatible we are together, I’d still be single.

The mr

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By *ittleLiasonsWoman
4 weeks ago

Birmingham

Someone who's kind, respectful and will show up for you in ways not many people do.

Someone who can offer strengths where you find weakness and know will have your back no matter what.

Someone who is emotionally intelligent, listens and makes a conscious effort to grow and learn together rather than fight.

Someone who is fun. Who matches your energy and makes you laugh until your stomach hurts.

Someone who you are so comfortable around, your favourite part of the day is falling asleep in their arms.

Someone who you have a natural sexual chemistry with that gets your body with no instruction.

Someone who can communicate, talk straight and you never have to question your place in their life or their feelings for you.

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By *dam1971Man
4 weeks ago

Bedford

"Someone who's kind, respectful and will show up for you in ways not many people do.

Someone who can offer strengths where you find weakness and know will have your back no matter what.

Someone who is emotionally intelligent, listens and makes a conscious effort to grow and learn together rather than fight.

Someone who is fun. Who matches your energy and makes you laugh until your stomach hurts.

Someone who you are so comfortable around, your favourite part of the day is falling asleep in their arms.

Someone who you have a natural sexual chemistry with that gets your body with no instruction.

Someone who can communicate, talk straight and you never have to question your place in their life or their feelings for you. "

I was going to write something similar, but you’ve already done a better job of it

It’s someone who when you’re apart, you keep thinking about being together and they think the same. When something happens, it’s the person you can’t wait to tell and know their reaction will be just what you need.

For those old enough to remember the Ready Brek tv advert where they’re walking around with that glow that shields them - the emotional version of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

A submissive swinger who doesn't get jealous when I fuck other women. Fun, likes to laugh (not just at my jokes), low emotional maintenance, no kids, no pets, non smoker, no drugs, no alcohol problem, can survive without me for weeks and can't wait to fuck me when she sees me again.

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By *parkle1974Woman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

Basically someone who is honest...which rules out most of the male population

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By *im_1878Man
4 weeks ago

Formby

"Basically someone who is honest...which rules out most of the male population

Just the male population? 🤷‍♂️

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By *parkle1974Woman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

"Basically someone who is honest...which rules out most of the male population

Just the male population? 🤷‍♂️"

I wouldn't date a woman....they are crazy

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By *im_1878Man
4 weeks ago

Formby

"Basically someone who is honest...which rules out most of the male population

Just the male population? 🤷‍♂️

I wouldn't date a woman....they are crazy

The crazy ones are the best (in the bedroom)

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By *parkle1974Woman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

"Basically someone who is honest...which rules out most of the male population

Just the male population? 🤷‍♂️

I wouldn't date a woman....they are crazy

The crazy ones are the best (in the bedroom)

I wouldn't know

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By *rHotNottsMan
4 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

For me personally a bit understated, no classically pretty, but beautiful when you get to know them , quiet but sharp , wise , kind, generous not materialistic

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By *usyBusyGirlWoman
4 weeks ago

Brum

"Basically someone who is honest...which rules out most of the male population

Just the male population? 🤷‍♂️

I wouldn't date a woman....they are crazy

100% agree 🤣🤣🤣

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By *a LunaWoman
4 weeks ago

South Wales

Apart from the basics (single, honest, not a knob head) I don’t think I could quantify it. It just happens, organically.

It feels natural. He makes me laugh and makes me feel safe—not in a tough way, but in a way that shows care and affection. He prioritises me, but not in a needy way - but because he enjoys being with me.

Sex is obviously important, but he’d want it just with me. Frequently.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Someone spontaneous, and we have a chemistry and doesn’t take life to seriously the rest can be worked on

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
4 weeks ago

Leeds

Someone I can be myself around (which for me is hard)

Finding that best friend who's clothes you also want to tear off, someone you can laugh with, sit in silence with, someone that is there when your going through bad times as well as the good times.

Someone who enjoys the little things in life, who you can be weird with as well as serious.

Someone you couldn't imagine life without & I know I'm extremely fortunate to have that.

Mrs

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
4 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

Makes me laugh and good skills in the kitchen 🍰

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By *eathrow pineappleCouple
4 weeks ago

West London

I met my partner courtesy of someone from here. She's my friend, lover and soul mate and we're moving in together. What I think makes the perfect partner is someone you can talk to because for me communication is paramount in a relationship.

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By *hav02Man
4 weeks ago

Glasgow/London

Comes down to trust and behaviour. You know where you stand and there's no mental games.

Then they throw in the small random surprises to just make you happy

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By *ell GwynnWoman
4 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

"Someone who's kind, respectful and will show up for you in ways not many people do.

Someone who can offer strengths where you find weakness and know will have your back no matter what.

Someone who is emotionally intelligent, listens and makes a conscious effort to grow and learn together rather than fight.

Someone who is fun. Who matches your energy and makes you laugh until your stomach hurts.

Someone who you are so comfortable around, your favourite part of the day is falling asleep in their arms.

Someone who you have a natural sexual chemistry with that gets your body with no instruction.

Someone who can communicate, talk straight and you never have to question your place in their life or their feelings for you. "

All of this apart from the falling asleep in their arms. I can't touch anyone when falling asleep and they'd have to be OK with that.

I don't think I could live with anyone again, and they'd have to be OK with that, too. If I ever felt comfortable enough to compromise on that, we'd need separate bedrooms.

I'd also add:

Someone who owns their actions and decisions, who doesn't shy away from difficulties and faces them head-on, knowing that burying their head in the sand when things get tough is never the way to deal with anything.

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By *ilverjagMan
4 weeks ago

swansea

In my opinion what makes, "Relationship material," if you want call it that, is a meeting of minds as well as the physical attraction that so many of us on here find in others. Every intelligent person knows that the biggest sexual organ in the human body is the brain, if you don't stimulate that, nothing else is going to be happening. With so many gorgeous people on here you could be spoilt for choice for attention, but how many would you introduce to your mum, or you would have them partner you at social events and functions, or be prepared to spend quality time with her friends and family??? Not many I shouldn't think, but those are the ladies who in my opinion are, "Relationship material."

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By *weetiepie99Woman
4 weeks ago

cardiff

I have no set criteria. Everyone is different. No one is perfect. When you know, you just know.(But they must be single)

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By *usyBusyGirlWoman
4 weeks ago

Brum

"Makes me laugh and good skills in the kitchen 🍰"

I make a nice coffee cake, just saying 😘

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Maybe an emotional connection, someone who is interested in your wellbeing and someone you can chat shit with, but they still give you butterflies and light up your heart and mind

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Friendship, respect and uncontrollable desire for each other.

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By *ixieAndHerKingCouple
4 weeks ago

Debauchery

So many to list, I’m sure to forget some of them.

A long list of common interests.

Shared sense of humour

A good soul

A down right filthy and open mind

Trust

Putting others before herself

Works hard

The list goes on in Cherry’s case but those are the qualities I like in a woman that I can think of right now.

The good ones are rare.

Hades

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
4 weeks ago

East Sussex

I think that relationship material is something woven by both/all of you. It's something separate from you as individuals. There has to be a common purpose as to the pattern of the material and you both/all need to work on the fabric to maintain it in good order. That needs overall common ground and enough differences to complement each other and keep life interesting.

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By *8on33Man
4 weeks ago

winfrith

You want each other and forsake all others .

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
4 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

"Makes me laugh and good skills in the kitchen 🍰

I make a nice coffee cake, just saying 😘"

You are a very naughty lady, mentioning coffee 🙈😊

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By *ife NinjaMan
4 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Don't think there's a list. Would you leave fab in a heartbeat for her? Yes.....then it's a relationship

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By *eardedguy800Man
4 weeks ago

Kidderminster

"You want each other and forsake all others ."

This

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
4 weeks ago

the moon

Moi

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By *usyBusyGirlWoman
4 weeks ago

Brum

"Makes me laugh and good skills in the kitchen 🍰

I make a nice coffee cake, just saying 😘

You are a very naughty lady, mentioning coffee 🙈😊"

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenicMan
4 weeks ago

Ends

She is into poly and she’s not afraid of love or feelings and she’s good at expressing those things.

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By *eliWoman
4 weeks ago

Makes me want a relationship with someone? Rather than this almost high pressure list of things, it's quite simple really. It's how compatible we are on a dating level. If they stimulate me on various levels, if it feels right with them.

I'd sworn off dating anyone this year. Was meant to be getting my slut on after words of wisdom from some dear friends. And then a conversation resumed after several years. It soon became a date, long over due. And then several dates. I didn't have a list of what would make someone relationship material. Was actively *not* looking for anything. And then it happened. Sure, he's great at open and honest conversations, beautiful, he excites me mentally, physically, emotionally and intellectually. It's easy. Fun. Hot. It's more than a list though, it's timing. What we both make it.

I don't want it to move from lust to love. I'd like both to grow. Both are important for me.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
4 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We weren’t looking for a partner however we:-

Got on sexually

Enjoyed each others company

Both had similar outlooks in vanilla life and FAB life

I’d say that had we met maybe 6 months before then things could have been very different.

So sometimes it’s about luck and right place right time.

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By *lder.Woman
4 weeks ago

Not Local

If you're both looking for the same thing and express as much.

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By *scaMan
4 weeks ago

Herts / London / Beyond

Multiple factors - mainly that you're both willing to bring the same energy, attitude and commitment. Open communication, shared humour, mutual love of 'something' and of course, plenty of sex. Elusive chemistry too.

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

"I hate the terminology of girlfriend or boyfriend material, however following on from the would you date someone from fab thread, I'm curious.

What is it that makes you want a relationship with someone as opposed to something more casual?

Not limited to people you might meet here, but also in "the real world"

I imagine it's different for everyone but is there some set criteria or something that takes you from lust to love?

Looking for my soulmate, here or in the real world,if l'm lucky enough to find such I will know & so will she.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
4 weeks ago

Norwich

I think the hot/crazy matrix explains it very well

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By *ora the explorerWoman
4 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

I think everyone I’ve met probably is. I don’t meet people if I don’t 100 percent like them in every way. It’s me who’s not relationship material. I don’t want one.

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By *sWyld OP Woman
4 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Good thoughts everyone. Thank you.

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By *ad NannaWoman
4 weeks ago

East London

Compatibility. Being with him feels like I'm wearing a cosy jumper.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
4 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Time. When the months roll Into years and both still wanting to spend quality time with each other

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