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is how you view yourself different to how others view you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For me id say the two are very different.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

completely different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to use a mirror - they don't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely - I don't get it at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes very. In the mirror I'm something not great but most people say different.

But also I can call myself fat, no one else can!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say so, but I think that goes for most people

I have met so many guys and when we have met ive looked at them and thought theres not a cat in hells chance they will like me, but they seem to and even want to meet again

We see our bads points other see our good one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see myself as a chiselled-jawed, extremely well-hung mature hunk.

And then there's how everyone else views me.....

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Why are they different?

I think we are as much how others view us as how we view ourselves. Of course you (one, not you per se) might be dysmorphic and can't see yourself.

I look in the mirror and see a 5'10" perfectly proportioned sex goddess. Then I catch sight of myself in a shop window and realise most people will see me as a slightly dowdy, short, fat, muddle aged woman. Those in a club situation will be see me as a pair of boobs. My friends see something else. All of that is me, except the actuality of 5'10".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes very. In the mirror I'm something not great but most people say different.

But also I can call myself fat, no one else can!! "

Fattie!

*Runs and buys suit of armour pending next trip 'oop north' !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are they different?

I think we are as much how others view us as how we view ourselves. Of course you (one, not you per se) might be dysmorphic and can't see yourself.

I look in the mirror and see a 5'10" perfectly proportioned sex goddess. Then I catch sight of myself in a shop window and realise most people will see me as a slightly dowdy, short, fat, muddle aged woman. Those in a club situation will be see me as a pair of boobs. My friends see something else. All of that is me, except the actuality of 5'10"."

'Muddle' aged..???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm hilariously funny, I'm sure most think I'm a prick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite possibly...

But unless they really "know" me, I can't say I'm worried...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes very. In the mirror I'm something not great but most people say different.

But also I can call myself fat, no one else can!!

Fattie!

*Runs and buys suit of armour pending next trip 'oop north' ! "

haha baldie

but without being fat I'd not have the norks haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Id say so, but I think that goes for most people

I have met so many guys and when we have met ive looked at them and thought theres not a cat in hells chance they will like me, but they seem to and even want to meet again

We see our bads points other see our good one "

amen to that sweetarse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

definitely different - I fancy myself something rotten, whereas others (bafflingly) seem to think I'm 'not their type'. Nowt as queer as folk, as my old granny used to say...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see myself as mainly awesome in most respects. Anyone who can't see that is wrong, plain and simple. Which they usually are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are they different?

I think we are as much how others view us as how we view ourselves. Of course you (one, not you per se) might be dysmorphic and can't see yourself.

I look in the mirror and see a 5'10" perfectly proportioned sex goddess. Then I catch sight of myself in a shop window and realise most people will see me as a slightly dowdy, short, fat, muddle aged woman. Those in a club situation will be see me as a pair of boobs. My friends see something else. All of that is me, except the actuality of 5'10".

'Muddle' aged..??? "

It's between middle aged and old aged, where the mind starts going and they.get muddled to how old they actually are.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Why are they different?

I think we are as much how others view us as how we view ourselves. Of course you (one, not you per se) might be dysmorphic and can't see yourself.

I look in the mirror and see a 5'10" perfectly proportioned sex goddess. Then I catch sight of myself in a shop window and realise most people will see me as a slightly dowdy, short, fat, muddle aged woman. Those in a club situation will be see me as a pair of boobs. My friends see something else. All of that is me, except the actuality of 5'10".

'Muddle' aged..??? "

It's the term I have coined for us over 40s to 60s. Middle age now seems to come at 60 - try calling a 60 year old elderly and see the response. We're not young anymore (although I see many a 45 year old man describe himself as young on profiles here) but we can't quite claim middle age either. It also describes that we dress and act younger and not entirely sure which category we fit into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are they different?

I think we are as much how others view us as how we view ourselves. Of course you (one, not you per se) might be dysmorphic and can't see yourself.

I look in the mirror and see a 5'10" perfectly proportioned sex goddess. Then I catch sight of myself in a shop window and realise most people will see me as a slightly dowdy, short, fat, muddle aged woman. Those in a club situation will be see me as a pair of boobs. My friends see something else. All of that is me, except the actuality of 5'10".

'Muddle' aged..???

It's between middle aged and old aged, where the mind starts going and they.get muddled to how old they actually are."

Gee thanks! I shall look forward to that stage in life with relish..... NOT!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are they different?

I think we are as much how others view us as how we view ourselves. Of course you (one, not you per se) might be dysmorphic and can't see yourself.

I look in the mirror and see a 5'10" perfectly proportioned sex goddess. Then I catch sight of myself in a shop window and realise most people will see me as a slightly dowdy, short, fat, muddle aged woman. Those in a club situation will be see me as a pair of boobs. My friends see something else. All of that is me, except the actuality of 5'10".

'Muddle' aged..???

It's the term I have coined for us over 40s to 60s. Middle age now seems to come at 60 - try calling a 60 year old elderly and see the response. We're not young anymore (although I see many a 45 year old man describe himself as young on profiles here) but we can't quite claim middle age either. It also describes that we dress and act younger and not entirely sure which category we fit into."

Now I AM muddled! Time for the men in white coats, I think.... Oh hang on - not sure about that. Far too muddled to decide....

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Why are they different?

I think we are as much how others view us as how we view ourselves. Of course you (one, not you per se) might be dysmorphic and can't see yourself.

I look in the mirror and see a 5'10" perfectly proportioned sex goddess. Then I catch sight of myself in a shop window and realise most people will see me as a slightly dowdy, short, fat, muddle aged woman. Those in a club situation will be see me as a pair of boobs. My friends see something else. All of that is me, except the actuality of 5'10".

'Muddle' aged..???

It's between middle aged and old aged, where the mind starts going and they.get muddled to how old they actually are."

That too. When I started writing about this new sexual exploration I have been on for the last 3 years I called it Diary of a Muddle Aged Woman. I had to stop as I'm not sure anyone would believe it, looking at me.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I think I see myself not so different from the way others do. Of course you never show all your persona at any one time so most people, except for close friends and family, would not know you that well.

I can be very serious, deep, meaningful and sometimes over analytic but my gym mates would not know about that side as in the gym I am a "different person".

I can be frivolous, fun loving, exuberant and a very sociable individual - my clients would not see that side, or at best get a glimpse through my sense of humour.

So I guess, in summary, most people usually only see a part of another person and it takes time and some effort to "get" the whole person.

Good thread!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm pretty self aware but I can ne'er be sure what people think of me. What they say might be different to what they think. What do people on here think of me? Pm only - allergy to embarrassment

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I'm pretty self aware but I can ne'er be sure what people think of me. What they say might be different to what they think. What do people on here think of me? Pm only - allergy to embarrassment "
lol... I am thinking whether it really matters what other people think of you. I dont mean we should walk around not giving a hoot about others, I do think a healthy self esteem makes you see yourself in a positive light and it makes you accept that no matter what there will always be people who like and appreciate you while some wont. Its life.

PS I think you re great xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think so

I do sometimes think to myself did I really say/do that.

Other people, I Have now come to the conclusion that if they see me and like me good if they don't, tuff I am who I am and I'm not going to change for anybody else than for myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I view myself as a super hero. Others view me as the weird guy running around in a batman outfit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

physically all I see in the mirror is a big post pregnancy belly (still after 2 years!)

Most other people tend to notice my height, boobs & red hair and without exception everybody thinks I ooze confidence, the reality couldn't be further from the truth!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The real me is nothing like my press releases!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally different. I dont have to put up with my face.

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By *owlmMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

If i could see myself as another person I would probably cringe at how I look and act.

I think back to times at work and want to crings and panic.

im not very confident like that. It would be nice to have someone constantly check my appearance for me and tell me i look fabulous lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never see in myself what others see..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are they different?

I think we are as much how others view us as how we view ourselves. Of course you (one, not you per se) might be dysmorphic and can't see yourself.

I look in the mirror and see a 5'10" perfectly proportioned sex goddess. Then I catch sight of myself in a shop window and realise most people will see me as a slightly dowdy, short, fat, muddle aged woman. Those in a club situation will be see me as a pair of boobs. My friends see something else. All of that is me, except the actuality of 5'10".

'Muddle' aged..???

It's between middle aged and old aged, where the mind starts going and they.get muddled to how old they actually are.

That too. When I started writing about this new sexual exploration I have been on for the last 3 years I called it Diary of a Muddle Aged Woman. I had to stop as I'm not sure anyone would believe it, looking at me."

Surely being a 'muddle aged mysterious woman' is what every female aspires to be. And if they don't... they should!!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Nope. People say I'm awesome and I know they're right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. People say I'm awesome and I know they're right "

too bloody right you are!!

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

How I feel inside and how I project myself might not always be the same so I would expect that people see me differently, in some ways, to the way I see myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My skinny friends think I'm fat. My fat friends think I'm skinny. I agree with them all.

There's a cool video doing the rounds, think it's for Dove. Women describe themselves and a sketch artist draws a picture. Then other people describe the women and he draws another picture.

The difference between the pictures is quite sad really. The women saw themselves in quite a bad light, whereas other people picked out all their good points.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of people dont actually see the real me, they prefer to see an idea they create for themselves about who I am, because of my disabilities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never the same.

Others see different bits of me, I see the whole me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no idea you would have to ask them.

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By *icentious.LibertineWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk

People say I'm brave, strong & determined.

Some people see me as demure, quiet, reserved.

Some people see me as sometimes slutty, horny, confident, outspoken.

I see me as someone who is the former, who is growing towards letting the latter show to the world and not giving a damn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very much so here i don't really take compliments that well and it makes me uncomfy sometimes when getting them and sometimes think are we looking at the same person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same.

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