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"C'est la vie. Annoying but it happens " I just really don’t get it. I totally get the first message being deleted if I’m not to their liking, but why engage to start with 🤷🏻♂️ | |||
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"C'est la vie. Annoying but it happens I just really don’t get it. I totally get the first message being deleted if I’m not to their liking, but why engage to start with 🤷🏻♂️" Bloke having a wank. False profile. Chin up  | |||
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"C'est la vie. Annoying but it happens I just really don’t get it. I totally get the first message being deleted if I’m not to their liking, but why engage to start with 🤷🏻♂️" Perhaps Hurricane Windolene came along and made them accidentally hit delete instead of sending you their photo? | |||
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"C'est la vie. Annoying but it happens I just really don’t get it. I totally get the first message being deleted if I’m not to their liking, but why engage to start with 🤷🏻♂️ Bloke having a wank. False profile. Chin up "😂 even on a verified profile? | |||
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"Why is this site RIDDLED with timewasters? The latest one, I engage with someone through messages (I always send face pic on first message), then ask for a face pic in return only for them to delete the thread 🤣 Why waste both of our time? " it seems fairly obvious...you sent a face pic...he deleted...? | |||
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"C'est la vie. Annoying but it happens I just really don’t get it. I totally get the first message being deleted if I’m not to their liking, but why engage to start with 🤷🏻♂️ Bloke having a wank. False profile. Chin up
😂 even on a verified profile? "Yep. Check who the verification are left from. Chances are if it's a man it may be "I'll verify you mate, no worries" as a favour type of thing. It goes on. It happens. | |||
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"C'est la vie. Annoying but it happens I just really don’t get it. I totally get the first message being deleted if I’m not to their liking, but why engage to start with 🤷🏻♂️ Bloke having a wank. False profile. Chin up "Or just someone who has lost interest | |||
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"Why is this site RIDDLED with timewasters? The latest one, I engage with someone through messages (I always send face pic on first message), then ask for a face pic in return only for them to delete the thread 🤣 Why waste both of our time? it seems fairly obvious...you sent a face pic...he deleted...?" It’s fairly obvious you didn’t understand. My Face pic was with first message, they then reply, we have a few messages back and forth, then I ask for a face pic and boom, gone 😂 | |||
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"C'est la vie. Annoying but it happens I just really don’t get it. I totally get the first message being deleted if I’m not to their liking, but why engage to start with 🤷🏻♂️ Bloke having a wank. False profile. Chin up
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Yep. Check who the verification are left from. Chances are if it's a man it may be "I'll verify you mate, no worries" as a favour type of thing. It goes on. It happens."Yeah very true | |||
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"I'd class that more as not being what the other person is looking for. To me, timewasting is when someone doesn't turn up" That’s definitely worse 100% | |||
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"Do you really think someone stopping chatting with you is time wasting? " Yeah. As soon as I ask for a face pic they delete & run. That’s wasted my time with messages to & fro. I’m not gonna get that time back & it’s come to nothing, so yes I class that as time wasting | |||
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"Do you really think someone stopping chatting with you is time wasting? Yeah. As soon as I ask for a face pic they delete & run. That’s wasted my time with messages to & fro. I’m not gonna get that time back & it’s come to nothing, so yes I class that as time wasting " Perhaps they didn't want to waste any more of their time by chatting with someone they didn't want to meet | |||
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"Do you really think someone stopping chatting with you is time wasting? Yeah. As soon as I ask for a face pic they delete & run. That’s wasted my time with messages to & fro. I’m not gonna get that time back & it’s come to nothing, so yes I class that as time wasting " Wow. So anyone who replies to your message and it doesn’t go how you want it to is a timewaster. Good luck with that. | |||
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"Do you really think someone stopping chatting with you is time wasting? Yeah. As soon as I ask for a face pic they delete & run. That’s wasted my time with messages to & fro. I’m not gonna get that time back & it’s come to nothing, so yes I class that as time wasting Wow. So anyone who replies to your message and it doesn’t go how you want it to is a timewaster. Good luck with that. " No not at all, the context is important. | |||
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"Do you really think someone stopping chatting with you is time wasting? Yeah. As soon as I ask for a face pic they delete & run. That’s wasted my time with messages to & fro. I’m not gonna get that time back & it’s come to nothing, so yes I class that as time wasting " Would it have wasted your time any less had they messaged with "Sorry, changed our minds"? | |||
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"Do you really think someone stopping chatting with you is time wasting? Yeah. As soon as I ask for a face pic they delete & run. That’s wasted my time with messages to & fro. I’m not gonna get that time back & it’s come to nothing, so yes I class that as time wasting Would it have wasted your time any less had they messaged with "Sorry, changed our minds"?" That would’ve been fine. The chat was going well until I asked for a face pic | |||
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"Why is this site RIDDLED with timewasters? The latest one, I engage with someone through messages (I always send face pic on first message), then ask for a face pic in return only for them to delete the thread 🤣 Why waste both of our time? it seems fairly obvious...you sent a face pic...he deleted...? It’s fairly obvious you didn’t understand. My Face pic was with first message, they then reply, we have a few messages back and forth, then I ask for a face pic and boom, gone 😂" ...thats not what your first message said..? | |||
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"Why is this site RIDDLED with timewasters? The latest one, I engage with someone through messages (I always send face pic on first message), then ask for a face pic in return only for them to delete the thread 🤣 Why waste both of our time? " that's not time wasting though is it... that's them deciding that you and them isn't compatible | |||
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"Why is this site RIDDLED with timewasters? The latest one, I engage with someone through messages (I always send face pic on first message), then ask for a face pic in return only for them to delete the thread 🤣 Why waste both of our time? it seems fairly obvious...you sent a face pic...he deleted...? It’s fairly obvious you didn’t understand. My Face pic was with first message, they then reply, we have a few messages back and forth, then I ask for a face pic and boom, gone 😂...thats not what your first message said..?" I can see the misunderstanding, further down the thread explains it better 😂 | |||
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"Do you really think someone stopping chatting with you is time wasting? Yeah. As soon as I ask for a face pic they delete & run. That’s wasted my time with messages to & fro. I’m not gonna get that time back & it’s come to nothing, so yes I class that as time wasting Would it have wasted your time any less had they messaged with "Sorry, changed our minds"? That would’ve been fine. The chat was going well until I asked for a face pic" But the time spent and end result would have been exactly the same. | |||
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"OP what's an &? ? I think it types that when I put a laughing emoji" So you want a laughing emoji on your profile header? | |||
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"When I've done this. It's because if we are interested I usually ask if they have read our profile. In our profile it explains that we can't share face pictures. Than they ask for one. At first I was polite and addressed, but after a while and frustration I started deleting. " You get meets without sharing face pics? | |||
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"When I've done this. It's because if we are interested I usually ask if they have read our profile. In our profile it explains that we can't share face pictures. Than they ask for one. At first I was polite and addressed, but after a while and frustration I started deleting. You get meets without sharing face pics?" Yes | |||
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"I'd class that more as not being what the other person is looking for. To me, timewasting is when someone doesn't turn up" This ^^ | |||
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"When I've done this. It's because if we are interested I usually ask if they have read our profile. In our profile it explains that we can't share face pictures. Than they ask for one. At first I was polite and addressed, but after a while and frustration I started deleting. You get meets without sharing face pics? Yes" Well just so you know I wouldn't be one ,sorry if that offends but I would have thought most people would like to have attraction before they meet ,unless you are NSA quick F&G meets . | |||
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"Do you really think someone stopping chatting with you is time wasting? Yeah. As soon as I ask for a face pic they delete & run. That’s wasted my time with messages to & fro. I’m not gonna get that time back & it’s come to nothing, so yes I class that as time wasting Would it have wasted your time any less had they messaged with "Sorry, changed our minds"? That would’ve been fine. The chat was going well until I asked for a face pic" But the outcome would have been the same - no more conversation and no meet - so by that logic would have wasted the same amount of time. Maybe it wasn't about the face pic. Maybe it was something said. Maybe they just changed their mind. You'll never know, but it's not time wasting, it's life. Any conversation is time invested. And as they always say, the value of investments can go down as well as up and you may lose everything you've invested. 🤷♂️ | |||
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"When I've done this. It's because if we are interested I usually ask if they have read our profile. In our profile it explains that we can't share face pictures. Than they ask for one. At first I was polite and addressed, but after a while and frustration I started deleting. You get meets without sharing face pics? YesWell just so you know I wouldn't be one ,sorry if that offends but I would have thought most people would like to have attraction before they meet ,unless you are NSA quick F&G meets ." Doesn't offend me at all. Respect and understand your position. Wish we could but even though it's a small risk the cost is to great to jeopardize it. | |||
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"When I've done this. It's because if we are interested I usually ask if they have read our profile. In our profile it explains that we can't share face pictures. Than they ask for one. At first I was polite and addressed, but after a while and frustration I started deleting. You get meets without sharing face pics? YesWell just so you know I wouldn't be one ,sorry if that offends but I would have thought most people would like to have attraction before they meet ,unless you are NSA quick F&G meets ." ...I didn't see them ask you tbh . | |||
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"Do you really think someone stopping chatting with you is time wasting? Yeah. As soon as I ask for a face pic they delete & run. That’s wasted my time with messages to & fro. I’m not gonna get that time back & it’s come to nothing, so yes I class that as time wasting " Oh boy… if you think this is ‘wasted time’ I’ve got some terrible news for you… Sitting at the bar waiting for a social appointment - no show. At the hotel having paid for the room - radio silence. Having driven to the Post Code as instructed - followed by no responses to messages to provide the street and house number. This is ‘time’ wasting. Simply disconnecting from a message exchange is par for the course here. You need to toughen up princess, thicker skin, water off a ducks back etc. etc. | |||
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"When I've done this. It's because if we are interested I usually ask if they have read our profile. In our profile it explains that we can't share face pictures. Than they ask for one. At first I was polite and addressed, but after a while and frustration I started deleting. You get meets without sharing face pics? YesWell just so you know I wouldn't be one ,sorry if that offends but I would have thought most people would like to have attraction before they meet ,unless you are NSA quick F&G meets ....I didn't see them ask you tbh . " ?my reply wasn't about them asking it was about attraction ,was trying to understand who would meet without attraction but obviously some do . | |||
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"Why is this site RIDDLED with timewasters? The latest one, I engage with someone through messages (I always send face pic on first message), then ask for a face pic in return only for them to delete the thread 🤣 Why waste both of our time? " How do you know they didn't delete the thread by mistake? I frequently do this on my mobile. Maybe they didn't have a suitable face photo available at that time or didn't feel comfortable sharing one at that point in the conversation. The whole point of chatting is to see if you want to take things further. Chatting does not mean a Fabster is guaranteed a sexual meet. | |||
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"Do you really think someone stopping chatting with you is time wasting? Yeah. As soon as I ask for a face pic they delete & run. That’s wasted my time with messages to & fro. I’m not gonna get that time back & it’s come to nothing, so yes I class that as time wasting Would it have wasted your time any less had they messaged with "Sorry, changed our minds"? That would’ve been fine. The chat was going well until I asked for a face pic" The end result was the same - no pic and no meet. So I'm unclear how a 'sorry, changed our minds' would have been any less of a time wasting outcome for you given that the outcome was the exactly the same. | |||
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"OP what's an &? ? I think it types that when I put a laughing emoji So you want a laughing emoji on your profile header?" My profile header? Ahhhh yeah, I see what you mean. Haha. I’ve got no idea what it’s meant to be. I’d best go change it. Thanks for the heads up | |||
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"They didn't waste your time No answer and deleting the thread is your answer You just don't like the way you've been told not for me " That’s not it at all. Why engage in multiple messages, then disappear when I ask for a face pic? | |||
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"They didn't waste your time No answer and deleting the thread is your answer You just don't like the way you've been told not for me That’s not it at all. Why engage in multiple messages, then disappear when I ask for a face pic? " Because they no longer wanted to engage with you | |||
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"They didn't waste your time No answer and deleting the thread is your answer You just don't like the way you've been told not for me That’s not it at all. Why engage in multiple messages, then disappear when I ask for a face pic? " You’ll never know. Maybe chickened out. Maybe they didn’t want to take it to the next stage. In any case you know it’s not happening now. | |||
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"They didn't waste your time No answer and deleting the thread is your answer You just don't like the way you've been told not for me That’s not it at all. Why engage in multiple messages, then disappear when I ask for a face pic? Because they no longer wanted to engage with you" As soon as I ask for a face pic….. hmmm nothing fishy there? | |||
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"They didn't waste your time No answer and deleting the thread is your answer You just don't like the way you've been told not for me That’s not it at all. Why engage in multiple messages, then disappear when I ask for a face pic? You’ll never know. Maybe chickened out. Maybe they didn’t want to take it to the next stage. In any case you know it’s not happening now." 😂😂 this is very true. At least it lead to a bit of fun on the forum though. More time I won’t get back, wink wink nudge nudge | |||
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"Do you really think someone stopping chatting with you is time wasting? Yeah. As soon as I ask for a face pic they delete & run. That’s wasted my time with messages to & fro. I’m not gonna get that time back & it’s come to nothing, so yes I class that as time wasting Perhaps they didn't want to waste any more of their time by chatting with someone they didn't want to meet " And now the OP is wasting more time by discussing it. The other person wins lol | |||
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"Do you really think someone stopping chatting with you is time wasting? Yeah. As soon as I ask for a face pic they delete & run. That’s wasted my time with messages to & fro. I’m not gonna get that time back & it’s come to nothing, so yes I class that as time wasting Perhaps they didn't want to waste any more of their time by chatting with someone they didn't want to meet And now the OP is wasting more time by discussing it. The other person wins lol" Damnit 🤣 | |||
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"Man up, get over it 😂😂 sorry Dad" Thats ok little boy | |||
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"I wouldn't class that as a time waster, they just changed their mind. I see time wasters as those who arrange to meet, knowing they have no intention of turning up. Or give fake addresses out etc. The whole point of taking time to chat for me is that I can then decide if they're for me or not. They can also do the same and stop chatting if they're not into it. " Yeah I can understand that, I guess I’d just rather be told they’ve changed their mind. | |||
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"Why is this site RIDDLED with timewasters? The latest one, I engage with someone through messages (I always send face pic on first message), then ask for a face pic in return only for them to delete the thread 🤣 Why waste both of our time? " That’s not time wasting. They either didn’t fancy you or didn’t want to send their face. | |||
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"Why is this site RIDDLED with timewasters? The latest one, I engage with someone through messages (I always send face pic on first message), then ask for a face pic in return only for them to delete the thread 🤣 Why waste both of our time? That’s not time wasting. They either didn’t fancy you or didn’t want to send their face. " I didn’t explain very well. We had engaged in several messages before I asked for a face pic. The chat was good and she’d seen me from the first message, then as soon as I ask, “poof” gone | |||
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"C'est la vie. Annoying but it happens I just really don’t get it. I totally get the first message being deleted if I’m not to their liking, but why engage to start with 🤷🏻♂️" Could have been the conversation content Could have been just no longer a fit | |||
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"C'est la vie. Annoying but it happens I just really don’t get it. I totally get the first message being deleted if I’m not to their liking, but why engage to start with 🤷🏻♂️ They just decided thsg you were not what they were looking for. Don't even think about it. It's just how the internet age is. Bloke having a wank. False profile. Chin up
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"Why is this site RIDDLED with timewasters? The latest one, I engage with someone through messages (I always send face pic on first message), then ask for a face pic in return only for them to delete the thread 🤣 Why waste both of our time? That’s not time wasting. They either didn’t fancy you or didn’t want to send their face. " Agreed.... I usually block those asking and who have no real intentions of actually meeting me. I've never required one in return. I'll gladly meet if theirs a connection doesn't mean I'll fuck them if not fully compatible. | |||
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"When I've done this. It's because if we are interested I usually ask if they have read our profile. In our profile it explains that we can't share face pictures. Than they ask for one. At first I was polite and addressed, but after a while and frustration I started deleting. You get meets without sharing face pics? YesWell just so you know I wouldn't be one ,sorry if that offends but I would have thought most people would like to have attraction before they meet ,unless you are NSA quick F&G meets ....I didn't see them ask you tbh . ?my reply wasn't about them asking it was about attraction ,was trying to understand who would meet without attraction but obviously some do ." If you read their profile you will see it's very clearly laid out how they determine attraction. Many many people prefer to do the same and arrange a social meet rather than rely on an exchange of face photos | |||
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"When I've done this. It's because if we are interested I usually ask if they have read our profile. In our profile it explains that we can't share face pictures. Than they ask for one. At first I was polite and addressed, but after a while and frustration I started deleting. You get meets without sharing face pics? YesWell just so you know I wouldn't be one ,sorry if that offends but I would have thought most people would like to have attraction before they meet ,unless you are NSA quick F&G meets ....I didn't see them ask you tbh . ?my reply wasn't about them asking it was about attraction ,was trying to understand who would meet without attraction but obviously some do . If you read their profile you will see it's very clearly laid out how they determine attraction. Many many people prefer to do the same and arrange a social meet rather than rely on an exchange of face photos " Well a social meet is I guess fine but I still wouldn't meet socially unless I'd seen a face pic got caught out too many times not to and what's the point of travelling to a social meet and having no attraction, that is literally a waste of time .If I had been chatting for a long time and we appeared to get on I might consider it but not for a complete stranger . | |||
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"Why is this site RIDDLED with timewasters? The latest one, I engage with someone through messages (I always send face pic on first message), then ask for a face pic in return only for them to delete the thread 🤣 Why waste both of our time? That’s not time wasting. They either didn’t fancy you or didn’t want to send their face. I didn’t explain very well. We had engaged in several messages before I asked for a face pic. The chat was good and she’d seen me from the first message, then as soon as I ask, “poof” gone" So maybe actually really ugly and you’re fortunate not to have wasted time with further messaging? | |||
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"[Reading glasses Removed by poster at 18/10/24 15:11:28]" I've put my glasses on now. I don't see this as time wasting, every conversation you have does not lead to meeting. I'd only send my face pic to people I was interested in, maybe she just wasn't. And yeah that can happen after seeing a face pic and exchanging a few messages. | |||
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