FabSwingers.com forum: What you now bout love

By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenic OP Man
6 weeks ago

Ends

Tell me something, anything, you know or have learned about romantic love.

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By *r John WickMan
6 weeks ago

The Continental

That it can be fuckin’ expensive.

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By *emorefridaCouple
6 weeks ago

La la land

That it can sneak up on you even when you're determined never to fall in love.

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By *uperSalopian7Man
6 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

I'll let you know when I find out

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By *obilebottomMan
6 weeks ago

All over

Lole, love changes everything, hands and faces, earth and sky

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By *r John WickMan
6 weeks ago

The Continental

That it’s a “crazy li’l thing…”

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By *weetiepie99Woman
6 weeks ago

cardiff

That's it's not all moon beams and roses

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By *ceKweenWoman
6 weeks ago

Bolton

A very rare occurrence but when it hits it’s wonderful

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

That loving the wrong person can cause you more damage than most things in this world. Never settle for less than what you deserve as those wounds are a heavy weight to carry.

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
6 weeks ago

Hertfordshire

That it's not guaranteed.

People change and feelings change.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
6 weeks ago

Wirral

Here's one thing I know: the whole "you've got to love yourself before you can be loved" thing is absolute bollocks.

I was very well-loved, even when I loathed myself.

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By *aughty_Smooth_OperatorMan
6 weeks ago

Birmingham

Love is blind

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By *uicy 2020Woman
6 weeks ago

London

It can really fucking hurt

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By *heWelshMan1Man
6 weeks ago

Cardiff

It wrecks your mental health

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By *aven.Woman
6 weeks ago

Not the North West...

Most people aren't in love, they just settle.

True love is very rare and not many people experience it.

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
6 weeks ago

Sheffield

"Tell me something, anything, you know or have learned about romantic love. "

That it is infinite

That it matures

And it is possible to love more than one person at once

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By *inx000Couple
6 weeks ago

Manchester

Intimacy is the key and communication.Long passionate kisses and falling asleep in each others arms is the most wonderful feeling

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By *otSoPetiteMortWoman
6 weeks ago

Hertfordshire

Also, that no matter how head over heels you are, it is very important to never lose yourself in the process.

Many of us give everything to someone else and neglect ourselves, and if that's not being reciprocated or it doesn't work out in the long run, it's very hard to remember who you are and what you need and enjoy. x

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It involves compromises and communication in order to survive.

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By *n at the DeeP endCouple
6 weeks ago

Manchester

We'd love to offer our view but it might make some people diabetic

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By *ohn 66Man
6 weeks ago

Birmingham

"It wrecks your mental health"

So does the absence of love

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
6 weeks ago

North West

That you find it in the strangest places. Places you never knew it could be.

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By *eavenscentitCouple
6 weeks ago

barnstaple

You think you don't love someone anymore then, boom

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By *ife NinjaMan
6 weeks ago

Dunfermline

It hurts

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

"Here's one thing I know: the whole "you've got to love yourself before you can be loved" thing is absolute bollocks.

I was very well-loved, even when I loathed myself."

I don't think it's about not being able to be loved, it's being loved in the right way. When you don't love yourself you are more likely to accept people who are not good for you.

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By *929Man
6 weeks ago

newcastle

Loving your doggy Is the best love of all

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

When it's real, it's magic!

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By *ickyKlungespeareMan
6 weeks ago

St Leonards

It's amazing.

There's very little like it.

It tends not to last though, because our realities, which shift, are different to our yearnings, fantasies, and projections, which also shift.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
6 weeks ago

Reading

That its not for me.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
6 weeks ago

East Sussex

Romantic love is all very well until the chips are down. Then you want the other kind that means you've got each others back even when you don't like each other very much

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By *IXEN200Woman
6 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

I don't believe in love anymore, I don't think it ever existed......

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By *usyBusyGirlWoman
6 weeks ago

Brum

Nah....

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By *hrista BellendWoman
6 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

That some place unrealistic conditions upon it

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By *BWLOVER1965Man
6 weeks ago

My Own Little World

Love is pain laughter

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By *inkylipsWoman
6 weeks ago

Debauchery

It’s all bullshit

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
6 weeks ago

North West

"Romantic love is all very well until the chips are down. Then you want the other kind that means you've got each others back even when you don't like each other very much"

We've got each other's backs AND we like each other. A lot.

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By *viatrixWoman
6 weeks ago

Redhill

Love Bites…

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By *viatrixWoman
6 weeks ago

Redhill

"Romantic love is all very well until the chips are down. Then you want the other kind that means you've got each others back even when you don't like each other very much"

I have that but I’d also like the love where my clothes get ripped off me and I get fucked senseless…

😭😭😭😭 bit emotional haha *reaches for the ice cream*

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

It's a bitch that continues to slap

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
6 weeks ago

Wolvo

Its all a fantasy of your own making.

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By *illy IdolMan
6 weeks ago

Midlands

You think you know what love is and then you have children. Then you realise one is much more powerful than the other.

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By *eroLondonMan
6 weeks ago

Covent Garden

It's not often that he's this profound... ... ⬆️

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By *hrek101Man
6 weeks ago

Herts

That is does not like me

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By *andynecklaceWoman
6 weeks ago

West Brom

It's a mystery

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
6 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It still surprises me after 30 years of living with it

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
6 weeks ago

North West

"It still surprises me after 30 years of living with it

Yes! After 21yrs the same.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
6 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

That it's just one of many kinds of love and they're all equally valuable and worth investing in. I dislike how romantic love is revered as the best kind of love.

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By *illy IdolMan
6 weeks ago

Midlands

"It's not often that he's this profound... ... ⬆️"

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
6 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"It still surprises me after 30 years of living with it

Yes! After 21yrs the same. "

❤️

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By *lowloadandgocoupleCouple
6 weeks ago

ferrybank

That if you take it for granted over a long period it can break your heart.

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By *elshy44Man
6 weeks ago

rct

It hurts

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenic OP Man
6 weeks ago

Ends

I got what you need.

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By *sWyldWoman
6 weeks ago

Edinburgh

It's never worked out for me.

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By *ad NannaWoman
6 weeks ago

East London

It's a beautiful thing.

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By *arl17Man
6 weeks ago

Central Portugal

Doesn't exist..

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By *arl17Man
6 weeks ago

Central Portugal

"That it's just one of many kinds of love and they're all equally valuable and worth investing in. I dislike how romantic love is revered as the best kind of love. "

Wise words x

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By *eardedguy800Man
6 weeks ago

Kidderminster

Hard work

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By *iss.Bella.Woman
6 weeks ago

Wales

It ain't worth it ❌

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By *ayor 42nd StreetMan
6 weeks ago

Branston

Love is fleeting, it's never ending, it's overwhelming, it's painful, it's exhilarating, it's fake, it's blinding, it's everything and nothing, depending on where you allow it to take you.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
6 weeks ago

Portsmouth

In love and death we don't decide

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By *rSuave88Man
6 weeks ago

Mirfield

A word used too loosely. One i wont be falling for too easily again.

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenic OP Man
6 weeks ago

Ends

"I got what you need. "

Walk in the store and get what you want

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
6 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Romantic love is all very well until the chips are down. Then you want the other kind that means you've got each others back even when you don't like each other very much

We've got each other's backs AND we like each other. A lot. "

Yeah so do we but we've been together coming up for 44 years we know it's not always twinkly stars and bunny rabbits. If you've got someone's back in the bad times, that's love.

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By *oontuneMan
6 weeks ago

Menston

I like being in love

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By *imples24Man
6 weeks ago

tamworth

Nothing!

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By *vaRose43Woman
6 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

That many people mistake infatuation for love, and many stay in situations that are unhealthy because of it.

That it feels wonderful when mutual, and like the worst thing when unrequited.

That love requires freedom to breathe and commitment to its nurture to survive.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
6 weeks ago

Southampton

That if its unrequited ( doesn't even have to be love )it bloody sucks... lol ... sigh lol

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By *ivpoolmanMan
6 weeks ago

Liverpool

"That many people mistake infatuation for love, and many stay in situations that are unhealthy because of it.

That it feels wonderful when mutual, and like the worst thing when unrequited.

That love requires freedom to breathe and commitment to its nurture to survive.

This!!

Very poetic x

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By *ib.Man
6 weeks ago

Hampshire

Oxytocin.

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By *neeyedwillieMan
6 weeks ago

Darlington

Learnt a few things as a teen.

1) If you treat her like a Queen, she will treat you like a subject.

2) You have no control over other people's actions, just your own and what you will or wont tolerate.

3) Nice guys finnish last.

You have to pay attention to how they treat you just as much as how you treat them amd you don't have to tollerate certain things. You can walk away.

To be fair, I'm glad it happened. Would not have met my wife of 28 years otherwise and I doubt she'd have any interest in the guy I was who had little confidence in himself and was worried about being alone if he didn't put up with certain crap. Better it happened to me.at 18 than 28 so to speak.

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By *iss CalicoWoman
6 weeks ago

Wakefield

"That many people mistake infatuation for love, and many stay in situations that are unhealthy because of it.

That it feels wonderful when mutual, and like the worst thing when unrequited.

That love requires freedom to breathe and commitment to its nurture to survive.

This

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
6 weeks ago

Edinburgh

When you're not looking for it it can find you

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By *ack1971Man
6 weeks ago

Cork

Romantic love is never boring and lasts 24/7 being comfortable in each others space.

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By *ansoffateMan
6 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Eventually, there's a negotiation phase, where the details may be of varying levels of importance, but the ability to learn to communicate collaboratively is essential.

If that doesn't happen then it becomes a magic roundabout of fuckery. Especially, if you get hooked on the make-up sex.

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By *aptain Caveman41Man
6 weeks ago

Home

You can get your heart broken and struggle to trust again

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By *iandti2023Couple
6 weeks ago

Wokingham

Totally get some negative shades on thoughts but we totally believe love is the foundation upon which you can do something like swinging… without that solid foundation, cracks can expose faster than you can say osteoarthritis

we love love ❤️

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
6 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

Love begins and ends with the self and is something that you give to others.

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By *iker JackMan
6 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

One persons version is very different to another

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By *iseekingbiCouple
6 weeks ago

N ireland and West Midlands

Love is not all you need.

What about beer, sex, chips and gravy?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
6 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

"One persons version is very different to another "

People's interpretations and understandings differ but love remains the same

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
6 weeks ago

North West

"Love begins and ends with the self and is something that you give to others.

Granny, you'll probably be unsurprised to know that Pickle's question brought a song into my head. A song from primary school:

Love is something if you give it away

Give it away, give it away.

Love is something if you give it away

You end up having more.

It's just like a magic penny

Hold it tight and you won't have any.

Lend it, spend it and you'll have so many

They'll roll all over the floor.

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By *eliWoman
6 weeks ago

Will you call me moist?

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By *aybeLadyWoman
6 weeks ago

West Dublin

That I've never been in love, despite being married for 13yrs.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
6 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

"Love begins and ends with the self and is something that you give to others.

Granny, you'll probably be unsurprised to know that Pickle's question brought a song into my head. A song from primary school:

Love is something if you give it away

Give it away, give it away.

Love is something if you give it away

You end up having more.

It's just like a magic penny

Hold it tight and you won't have any.

Lend it, spend it and you'll have so many

They'll roll all over the floor."

What a lovely concept - giving love and letting it grow !

Why do you think i'd be unsuprised ?

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By *teveAndHisMagicPicklenic OP Man
6 weeks ago

Ends

"Will you call me moist?"
depends on if you say moist shit

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By * and R cple4Couple
6 weeks ago

swansea

It's not all picket fences and roses it's hard work at times but definitely worth it..

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By *ellinever70Woman
6 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"That I've never been in love, despite being married for 13yrs. "

What kept you together?

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By *ea monkeyMan
6 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

That it’s not nearly as rare as society would have you believe. That it can grow or spring. That a person can hold multiple loves…

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By *enk15Man
6 weeks ago

Evesham

That it is not an on/off switch.

That it doesn't have to be one at a time.

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Northwich

It can happen on here

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