FabSwingers.com forum: Second Chance

By *rightonsteve OP Man
13 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Do you ever give anyone a second chance or the benefit of the doubt? Or is it one strike and you’re out type thing for you?

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By *lack beauty 35Woman
13 weeks ago

West midlands

Not of they've ghosted me without any explanation

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By *agatoXXXMan
13 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

No. Once bitten, and all that.

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By *ucka39Man
13 weeks ago

Newcastle

Did in past and found this as if the chance was abused, so no more,

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
13 weeks ago

Bristol

"Do you ever give anyone a second chance or the benefit of the doubt? Or is it one strike and you’re out type thing for you? "

It entirely depends on the context..

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By *ucka39Man
13 weeks ago

Newcastle

"Did in past and found this as if the chance was abused, so no more, "

If you are discussing fab then most likely

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
13 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Very occasionally, depending on the context, but a third chance is never going to happen.

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By *enk15Man
13 weeks ago

Evesham

Lifelong grudges, always.

If we are talking FAB meets, and they have ghosted or generally not been respectful then nah, no second chances.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I have made snap judgements with people on here who I've then gone on to get on really well with.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

And I'll give people a second chance, I don't think I care enough to be so bothered if they ghosted or cancelled.

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By *issmorganWoman
13 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It depends if I think they're genuine in what they've said.

If I do give a 2nd chance, I expect that they will be the ones trying to sort out another time and place.

If they don't, then I wouldn't get back in touch with them.

If anyone just stood me up, then no second chance at all.

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By *rightonsteve OP Man
13 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Very occasionally, depending on the context, but a third chance is never going to happen."

That’s interesting.

I go by the Auric Goldfinger aphorism:

Once is happenstance

Twice is coincidence

Thrice is enemy action

Miami, Sandwich and now Geneva….

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
13 weeks ago

Leeds

Depends how much I like you, it’s usually one strike and your out, but some I do give a second chance, never trust them again but I don’t completely cut them off.

The mr

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By *JcuriousCouple
13 weeks ago

Derby

Depends on the context of the situation tbh.

But probably not

Miss S x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
13 weeks ago

East Sussex

Rarely on here. Often in other circumstances

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
13 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We don’t give second chances.

Apart from Raven.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
13 weeks ago

Leeds

Depends who, I've given people 2nd, 3rd, 4th chances, I guess I just end up with the enough is enough & I'm out, sometimes that maybe the 1st chance and others the 4th.

Mrs

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair

Depends on the magnitude of their transgression. Generally no.

If she's worth bonking then I'll apply my hypocritical card and afford her a third chance. If she's expendable then no.

This is the problem with having a fragile heart — the fragments have been glued back together far too often.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

One chance is all anyone gets from me 😁 there is no going back 😉👍🏽

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By *iscotti32Woman
13 weeks ago

choomah island

If it’s someone I know and have met then I tend to give a second or even third chance.

Anyone else absolutely not.

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By *stwo2023Couple
13 weeks ago

Worcester

Yes and sometimes it works out fabulously.

Other times not so much but I like to see the good in people.

Evie

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
13 weeks ago

the moon

Doubt it …. We all know what we’re doing ….

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By *elix SightedMan
13 weeks ago

Cloud 8

Nope, fuckem. In any walk of life once you’re on my cunt list you’re gonna die there.

I hold grudges.

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By *electableicecreamMan
13 weeks ago

The West

Sure. Third chances too. Most people don't prioritise fab life. Shit happens.

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By *ife NinjaMan
13 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Life happens. You can tell when somebody is bullshitting normally

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By *oralltherightreasonsCouple
13 weeks ago

WELLINGBOROUGH

Rarely certainly no third chances

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By *ade crossTV/TS
13 weeks ago

chiselhurst

If they have a genuine reason and sound sincere

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By *otcplmidsCouple
13 weeks ago

Warwick

Depends on the circumstances...I try not to xx

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By *imples24Man
13 weeks ago

tamworth

Suppose it depends if their excuse is plausible or not 🤣

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

"Nope, fuckem. In any walk of life once you’re on my cunt list you’re gonna die there.

I hold grudges."

👆

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By *neeyedwillieMan
13 weeks ago

Darlington

"Do you ever give anyone a second chance or the benefit of the doubt? Or is it one strike and you’re out type thing for you? "

Depends who it is and what they did.

But to be be blunt (and what I suspect you are getting at) no, I don't give women a second chance.

Wouldn't tolerate a cheat (learnt that the hard way as a teen). You don't get to mess with my heart.

Even when im swinging, I won't tolerate being messed about. Have met a few in the past who turned me down on fab but them met me at a club and changed their tune or showed intrest then went off with someone else just to come back to me when that didn't work. Just how some women are I guess. Well, too late.i have options aa well and i'm not playing second fiddle to anyone. I have to much self respect.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
13 weeks ago

the moon

"Do you ever give anyone a second chance or the benefit of the doubt? Or is it one strike and you’re out type thing for you?

Depends who it is and what they did.

But to be be blunt (and what I suspect you are getting at) no, I don't give women a second chance.

Wouldn't tolerate a cheat (learnt that the hard way as a teen). You don't get to mess with my heart.

Not fucking about are you 😆

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By *ansoffateMan
13 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Only if they are really good at oral or they are funny.

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By *zChiefWoman
13 weeks ago

middle of somewhere

Nope .. generally

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By *IXEN200Woman
13 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

I like to give people the benefit of the doubt but once is enough, my trust and my heart has been shattered so much that not all the pieces are there anymore, so I'm a lot more guarded now than I used to be.

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
13 weeks ago

your head

Really depends on the context. On here, no. Family or friends, maybe.

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By *ife NinjaMan
13 weeks ago

Dunfermline

"Really depends on the context. On here, no. Family or friends, maybe. "

For that body of yours, I'd be there at the first chance

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By *2000ManMan
13 weeks ago

Worthing

If I ask them out and they say no. No second chances. If they agree and they cancel, I give them one more chance.

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
13 weeks ago

Southampton

I give people a second chance but not a third one

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By *haiababeWoman
13 weeks ago

North devon

Depends on the circumstances of the let down. Something that could be glassed as genuine, then yes. Ghosting with no explanation no.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I used to be a lot more understanding and forgiving but now I'm pretty ruthless, one strike and it's done.

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By *rHotNottsMan
13 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Generally yes, a little more cautious on here

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By *avexxMan
13 weeks ago

cheshire

like so many have said it depends,,, but we all make mistakes

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

absolutely - we all have real lives and crap going on that is out of our control

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By *exxyyDy11Man
13 weeks ago

Darwen

Depends, for example a fab meet, if they've given me a reason why they can't meet for fun or for a social. Not an issue. Life gets in the way.

But if they've ghosted without the decency to give an explanation, then they can fuck off.

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By *rightonsteve OP Man
13 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Depends, for example a fab meet, if they've given me a reason why they can't meet for fun or for a social. Not an issue. Life gets in the way.

But if they've ghosted without the decency to give an explanation, then they can fuck off. "

Seems like a theme. Perfectly reasonable.

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By *iss.BellaWoman
13 weeks ago

Wales

I've given too many second chances over the years.. and thirds and fourths.

I'm now much better at detecting bullshit so no, there's no second chances.

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By *ffervescentMan
13 weeks ago

winfrith

I gave someone a chance and it worked out in the end .

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By *rightonsteve OP Man
13 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I gave someone a chancre and it worked out in the end ."

Yuk

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By *anchesterGuy1Man
13 weeks ago

Manchester

Always give people a second chance me, like to at least hear an excuse they messed up the first one!

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By *ewyearnewkneeMan
13 weeks ago

Peterborough

Depends on what they were struck off for I’ve given second chances but some things are unforgivable

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By *eyond PurityCouple
13 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

On here, we’ve accepted it if it’s come from something urgent however the walls go up if there’s a complete change in the connection.

Can’t be dealing with half heartedness.

In real life, probably the same. Don’t like flakiness.

Either way we don’t sweat it. People either get on with you or they don’t.

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By *oney HoneyWoman
13 weeks ago

York

Experience has taught me that it’s rarely wise to give a second chance. If they treat you wrong once, they have the potential to do so again, and probably will.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
13 weeks ago

London

If someone shows you who they are, believe them.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
13 weeks ago

Merseyside

"Do you ever give anyone a second chance or the benefit of the doubt? Or is it one strike and you’re out type thing for you? "

Depends on the scenario really but if really off then no; if genuine then a second chance is worth the risk

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By *inxy777Woman
13 weeks ago

essex

I do and then tend to get walked over again!! 🤷‍♀️

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Central

Generally now I don't

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By *gent CoulsonMan
13 weeks ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I have done in the past, now there has to be a really good reason or it's thanks but no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I do but 9 times out of 10 I'd say it was the wrong choice.

But the wrong choice is still the right choice...we all have those lessons to learn

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By *outhern77Man
13 weeks ago

Quinton

I usually give a Second Chance..

sometimes they can't really say why they've backed out/ghosted and the next time they might turn out to be really good fun

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By *mf123Man
13 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

All the time some even get a third one im not as narky as one i was

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I will occasionally give someone a second strike, if they don't lie and make up some big fictitious reason for the first time, but two strikes in your out. X

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By *orphia2003Woman
13 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I think it depends on what they have done.

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