FabSwingers.com forum: Bondage and spanking

By *asterHades OP Man
18 weeks ago

Malvern

Who enjoys being tied up and just spanked or spanked and teased? Alot harder to find than I thought. 😈

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By *vaRose43Woman
18 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Bondage and bdsm take a lot of trust, it’s supposed to be hard to find

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
18 weeks ago

East Sussex

I would hope it would be hard to find with strangers.

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By *asterHades OP Man
18 weeks ago

Malvern

I know. Sorry if came across wrong. I guess it is trying to meet someone to talk to and grow a dynamic with. I know it is about deep trust. And needs to be right. I kno2 it won't be easy to find. But hope it won't be impossible. Thank you

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
18 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I finally managed to get some impact play in this past weekend and it has proper brightened me up 💜

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By *arden5Man
18 weeks ago

Woking

Do enjoy bondage spanking milking but the trust has to be built

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
18 weeks ago

London

Love it but it's a very selective pool of who I'm going to enjoy that with

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
18 weeks ago

Reading

One of my best bdsm sessions was with a stranger. Not something I would do now but man was it HOT.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
18 weeks ago

Tamworth

When you find someone you trust, love it. Mind blowing in fact!

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By *r Mind CandyMan
18 weeks ago

Cheshire

With the right person it can be one of the most incredibly intense and pleasurable things you can ever experience, the range of sensations from the most gentle and sensual, to the hard and challenging, life starts at the edge of your comfort Zone, this couldn’t be more true when pushing boundaries in the bedroom/playroom.

Sadly there a very few who truly understand this, or are will to put in years of hard work honing their craft.

It makes me so sad that people try this with the wrong person and are then put off for life, especially as I know how amazing and in some cases absolutely life changing it can be when done right. My verifications are some examples of how incredible it can be with the right person, hence why I’m so picky about finding the right person, life is way too short for anything less than incredible sex.

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By *iberius61Man
18 weeks ago

Pontefract

My views on this might be controversial, but it's what I find. I've never really had much trouble finding people to spank. I think that there are actually more ladies who want to experience a spanking than men who want to give one.

What there aren't, is lots of ladies who want to jump over the lap of a stranger the first time they meet him. As others have said, time and effort into creating a relationship and safe environment are generally required first.

OK, this moment is geared more towards spanking than restraint, but it's a similar topic.

Munches and other meetings are usually the way to start/icebreaker. But there is absolutely no shortage of people to share and join in your fantasies so that you can fulfil theirs.

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By *icentiousCouple
18 weeks ago

Up on them there hills

Will play a little bondage and discipline in a club, with a little discussion it’s a safe environment for all parties.

If it was to go further, that is a whole different kettle of kippers

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
18 weeks ago

Central

It takes a lot of effort to find the small percentage of people who are mutually compatible, for general engagement, without trying to add specialist interests, that require massive trust. You have to expect to be prepared to put in the graft

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By *punk n gushCouple
18 weeks ago

Lyndhurst

Spanking will do with most people we meet if there happy to but being tied up would only allow hubby to do

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By *rightonsteveMan
18 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I thought it said ‘porridge and spanking’ to which I issued a small but audible unintentional squeak of delight.

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By *stwo60Couple
18 weeks ago

Hampshire

We often have mild sessions, Mrs tied and blindfolded. We have has threesomes with strangers where I have prepared her then left her in a hotel room to then return with someone else. The fact she can’t see heightens the sensation. Would never do anything without me being there, but do enjoy seeing someone else lick her and slip inside her when she doesn’t know who it is and can’t really complain about it. It’s all pre planned and spanking just happens when it happens, which is often!

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

Yes please

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By *heekydomdanMan
18 weeks ago

Eastbourne

Completely agree trust and communication is what it’s all about. I have experienced it terms of BDSM or bondage.

However when slowly working up to and pushing boundaries with a submissive women earning that trust is all part of the fun and more trust you gain in each other the better it gets.

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By *ustintime69Man
18 weeks ago

firest hill

It took me a long time to get my head around it with my last long term partner and learning to read how far she wanted to go and how much care and attention was required afterwards made us lifelong partners whether we are together or not as we truly know each other

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By *r Mind CandyMan
18 weeks ago

Cheshire

"I thought it said ‘porridge and spanking’ to which I issued a small but audible unintentional squeak of delight. "

Haha love this! it most definitely should be porridge and spanking! Now I want my oats!

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By *ubbie300Couple
18 weeks ago

Bawtry

I enjoy being tied and flogged, really love the link scene

Mrs

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By *ubmissiveman2uMan
18 weeks ago

Cheshire

Trust, understanding, dynamic,being safe ,enjoy !

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By *asterHades OP Man
18 weeks ago

Malvern

Fingers crossed. I hope to grow and expand my skills. To pleasure and treat my sub with respect and gain her trust. Thank you for your comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

It's definitely hard to find!!

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By *r Mind CandyMan
18 weeks ago

Cheshire

"It's definitely hard to find!! "

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By *allerthanaverage79Man
18 weeks ago

Ayrshire

It's a bit tame, whips are so much better!

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By *inkeeMan
18 weeks ago

north lincs

Do love to give or receive a spanking.

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By *astpoetMan
18 weeks ago

where the world takes me

As the saying goes, sticks and stones may break your bones, but whips and chains excite me

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By *punk n gushCouple
18 weeks ago

Lyndhurst

"As the saying goes, sticks and stones may break your bones, but whips and chains excite me

Oh yes indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

Found plenty of people who enjoy this and a lot more but only ever in a public club dungeon for a first meet. Preferably with an independent DM in attendance, for their safety and mine.

Known friends where trust is already established, then my play space can be used. Better looking generally on the 'other' site though.

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
18 weeks ago

Gloucester

We enjoy some BDSM but don’t mix it with swinging.

Kink (Mrs)

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By *eparated_galWoman
18 weeks ago

Salford

Love bit of spanking and tied up

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By *adyBugsWoman
18 weeks ago

cognito

I did when I had a friend I trusted to keep my safety in mind. But now I have no friends and I’m billybigballsbutnomates

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
18 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"It's a bit tame, whips are so much better!"

Who's got space for whips 😂

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

The problem I have is if you slap my ass it doesn't stop wobbling for a week

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By *hilmeup85Man
18 weeks ago

Glasgow

I love bondage, impact play and BDSM in general but as others have said it takes a lot of trust and communication before any of that happens from me.

I will play more vanilla the first couple of meets even with someone into the same things and have constant communication to learn each other and build that mutual trust.

The way I like to play, I couldn't go straight into it without understanding that person and knowing we have that trust.

So yes, it's hard to find but totally worth the time and effort when you do find it.

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By *avid 50Man
18 weeks ago

kendal

After responding to a thread on discipline a husband brought his wife dressed as a schoolgirl to me to be chastised, reenacting what happened to her when she was at school, 20 slaps some over her skirt and some on her bare bottom were given And the couple left,.

But I will add there was a lot of discussion beforehand of boundaries and limitations , she did text back later saying she had been on detention again would probably need more

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By *r M Gray88Man
18 weeks ago

Morecambe

1000%

I've not had any unsatisfied recipients, in fact the opposite transpires where it becomes desired

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
18 weeks ago

Leicestershire

Hard to find on the swinging scene. Because it takes so much more trust to explore.

We have only ever mixed the two twice with ladies we had met previously and formed the level of trust and confidence needed for kink.

Really have to be prepared to put the time in to do it right.

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By *neeyedwillieMan
18 weeks ago

Darlington

"Bondage and bdsm take a lot of trust, it’s supposed to be hard to find "

Agree. I enjoy Domming but I'll not participate without the trust being there and a long discussion first on boundries.

Ultimetly a sub is always in charge.

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By *tuvyMan
18 weeks ago

bedford

Love giving and receiving

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By *r M Gray88Man
18 weeks ago

Morecambe

Gag on my throbbing helmet 💦💦

Love it

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By *hePleasurerMan
18 weeks ago

Cheshire

Love being tied up, but not on a first date!

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By *issy_named_cTV/TS
18 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I adore being spanked well

I have to keep coming up with creative ways to get in trouble

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By *inkyropecoupleCouple
18 weeks ago

carluke

We enjoy spanking and restraints, but that’s something that we only do between us - as others have said, trust is needed

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By *viatrixWoman
18 weeks ago

Redhill

I like spanking but not as part of BDSM, and just to make my bum red- bruises and all that no thanks.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
18 weeks ago

Motherwell

Maybe go to kink socials and events or join a genuine kink site, not a site primarily for swingers.

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By *r Mind CandyMan
18 weeks ago

Cheshire

"I like spanking but not as part of BDSM, and just to make my bum red- bruises and all that no thanks. "

May I ask why you wouldn’t like it as part of BDSM please?

BDSM isn’t all about nailing someone to a cross and beating the living daylights out of them, it can be one of the most gentle, sensual and thrilling things you could ever experience.

In fact it very rarely about pain for me, it’s all about the anticipation, teasing and stimulation of the mind as much as the body.

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By *iberius61Man
18 weeks ago

Pontefract

"We enjoy some BDSM but don’t mix it with swinging."

That's actually very common, you'd think the two activities would have a lot in common, but in general I find that the people in each community distrust each other. There are exceptions of course.

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By *iberius61Man
18 weeks ago

Pontefract

"I like spanking but not as part of BDSM, and just to make my bum red- bruises and all that no thanks. "

Yes, although most people consider spanking to be part of BDSM, actually the two communities are quite separate. In fact a common 'insult' in the spanking community is 'he hits like a BDSM person'

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By *entlemanrogueMan
18 weeks ago

Motherwell

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By *entlemanrogueMan
18 weeks ago

Motherwell

"I like spanking but not as part of BDSM, and just to make my bum red- bruises and all that no thanks.

Yes, although most people consider spanking to be part of BDSM, actually the two communities are quite separate. In fact a common 'insult' in the spanking community is 'he hits like a BDSM person'

Never once heard this "Common insult" in my life.

And indeed if I did would rake it as a compliment rather than, as you say an insult.

I find BDSM people are far more openly and honestly communicative than any other community I have ever been involved with.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
18 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"I like spanking but not as part of BDSM, and just to make my bum red- bruises and all that no thanks.

Yes, although most people consider spanking to be part of BDSM, actually the two communities are quite separate. In fact a common 'insult' in the spanking community is 'he hits like a BDSM person'

Never once heard this "Common insult" in my life.

And indeed if I did would rake it as a compliment rather than, as you say an insult.

I find BDSM people are far more openly and honestly communicative than any other community I have ever been involved with. "

I find it's just as common a hiding place for abusive people and liars as any other community that promotes itself as honest, open and communicative.

I'd assume they don't consider it BDSM because they have no interest in it as a form of discipline or submission or even really as pain. Just a happy level of physical stimulation that doesn't translate to their brain or body as any of the aspects of BDSM.

If someone expressed that they weren't enjoying something I was doing because I was treating it as something they're not, I wouldn't consider it a compliment 💜

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

There is one ass on here I would love to leave my hand print on

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By *r Mind CandyMan
18 weeks ago

Cheshire

"I like spanking but not as part of BDSM, and just to make my bum red- bruises and all that no thanks.

Yes, although most people consider spanking to be part of BDSM, actually the two communities are quite separate. In fact a common 'insult' in the spanking community is 'he hits like a BDSM person'

What on earth are you talking about? 🤷‍♂️

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