FabSwingers.com forum: Where am I going wrong ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
7 weeks ago

Can you look at profile and see why I’m not getting messages from couples x

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By *8on33Man
7 weeks ago

winfrith

Who knows you have 2 really hairy cock pics ,your profile is all about sex as though that's all you think about and your bi so theirs 3 reasons but it could be the area you live in maybe no couples that you suit their preference .

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By *viatrixWoman
7 weeks ago

Redhill

The photos…. 🫣🫣🫣🫣 they are awful.

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By *electableicecreamMan
7 weeks ago

The West

Probably the dick pics and lack of profile pics.

Your bio isn't too bad but it's a low bar.

Also. Most men don't get replies.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
7 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

It would be the pics for me

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By *AYENCouple
7 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

"Can you look at profile and see why I’m not getting messages from couples x"

Please tell me you're having a laugh

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By (user no longer on site) OP
7 weeks ago

Would cock

In pants be better ?

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By *ack FrostyMan
7 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Your profile.

That’s the clue. It’s your profile

It reflects you. Not what you think others want to see

So if you’re happy with the representation of you then leave it be

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By *ornycougaWoman
7 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

You're bi. Would you fuck you on the basis of your profile?

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By *he ExcaliburMan
7 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Looks to me like you’re just looking to fulfill your own fantasy of being in a threesome, and you don’t make it very clear as to what makes you stand out from the thousands of other guys on here

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Covent Garden

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By *8on33Man
7 weeks ago

winfrith

"Would cock

In pants be better ? "
Oh yes and as a single guy you don't accommodate that always raises alarm bells around here so tell them why you don't accommodate but please don't take our advice just carry on with what you've got eventually it will work for somebody.

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By *iberius61Man
7 weeks ago

Pontefract

Single man...can't accommodate...

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By *electableicecreamMan
7 weeks ago

The West

"Single man...can't accommodate..."

This is not a thing.

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By *iss DevilWoman
7 weeks ago

Bedford

OP, your profile is your shop window. Is it showing you in the best possible light? And I concur, those photos are awful! You say you're "tidy", with "tidy facial hair", so why is your downstairs not tidy?

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By *ondonsw6Man
7 weeks ago

Hampton

Women on here typically receive hundreds of messages so you need to stand out from the crowd which means a profile with not just cock pics that look like Brian Mays plughole.

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By *ack FrostyMan
7 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"OP, your profile is your shop window. Is it showing you in the best possible light? And I concur, those photos are awful! You say you're "tidy", with "tidy facial hair", so why is your downstairs not tidy? "

As per the plentiful posts and current posts on pubic hair I don’t see the relevance between tidy facial hair and pubic hair let alone asking someone why there’s isn’t

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By *eyond PurityCouple
7 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

No profile pic

Spelling mistake in first sentence of bio

2 close up pics and a really hairy cock and no others

Nothing would appeal to us.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
7 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

Hello Pete,

Your fantasy may not be their fantasy and they probably don’t think that they exist to make your dream come true.

You are looking for cuckold or to just watch – so that limits you to a couple who want to be watched or to a couple that want the husband to be cuckolded.

You are bisexual and want to have sex with the husband too ...... so that limits you to bi males

You love giving oral more than anything....... so basically

YOU are looking for

A couple who want to make your dream come true - with a bi male who wants to be cuckolded while you fuck his wife and then he can be played with – possibly orally.

Nothing wrong with that .... just limits your chances somewhat

As for your pics....... nothing wrong with them but they are pretty similar.

Maybe say a bit more about what you are offering.

Good luck

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By *iss DevilWoman
7 weeks ago

Bedford

As per the plentiful posts and current posts on pubic hair I don’t see the relevance between tidy facial hair and pubic hair let alone asking someone why there’s isn’t "

You may not but I do. It's my reply and my personal opinion, and I am entitled to one. As well as you are entitled to your opinion. So as it's a forum open to anyone, let's agree to disagree on the subject.

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
7 weeks ago

Cheshire

If only the inbox was as popular as the thread

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
7 weeks ago

Cheshire

Go look at a few guys profiles that have numerous veris and see what example they set.

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By *endalshaggersCouple
7 weeks ago

Kendal

Zero profile picture. Two (sorry) rather awful public photos. A profile with grammar mistakes, that is all about sexual preference.

There is literally no reason for someone to click on your profile and be intrigued let alone message.

I'd suggest a complete rewrite of your profile - it's fine to include what your're looking for/fantasies etc but don't make it all about that as it currently is. Maybe include other interests and hobbies. Upload a profile picture (not of your penis!) and a few thoughtful, tasteful shots in your public gallery - eg a nice suit photo, crop your head off if you don't want your face to be shown. Maybe even a contrast and the odd black and white photo in there as well.

C xoxo

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

"Can you look at profile and see why I’m not getting messages from couples x"

Never looked at your profile & have no intention of doing so, so ain't much good but the rest of the replies are fairly descriptive in their eyes .

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By *aven.Woman
7 weeks ago

Not the North West...

On another thread, people can do what they want with their pubic hair as long as they are happy. Yeah right!!

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By *ellhungvweMan
7 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"On another thread, people can do what they want with their pubic hair as long as they are happy. Yeah right!!

You are not expecting consistency across threads are you?

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By *eliWoman
7 weeks ago

"On another thread, people can do what they want with their pubic hair as long as they are happy. Yeah right!!

You are not expecting consistency across threads are you?"

Or, you know, different posters having different opinions. Some don't mind what people do, others clearly do.

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By *ellhungvweMan
7 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"On another thread, people can do what they want with their pubic hair as long as they are happy. Yeah right!!

You are not expecting consistency across threads are you?

Or, you know, different posters having different opinions. Some don't mind what people do, others clearly do. "

I was more thinking about the people who say one thing on one thread and then a totally different thing on a different one but with you as well

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By *ickey ThumbWoman
7 weeks ago

South Down

"On another thread, people can do what they want with their pubic hair as long as they are happy. Yeah right!!

Have any of those posters commented to the contrary on this thread?

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By *electableicecreamMan
7 weeks ago

The West

"Your profile.

That’s the clue. It’s your profile

It reflects you. Not what you think others want to see

So if you’re happy with the representation of you then leave it be "

Gotta love this type of low effort passive aggressive reply.

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By *olly MistlehoeWoman
7 weeks ago

Somewhere

Try a club

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
7 weeks ago

Leeds

If you don’t already know 🤦🏻‍♂️ god help you.

The mr

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By *ealMissShadyWoman
7 weeks ago

St Albans/ Welsh Borders

Pictures aside your bio says nothing about what you have to offer just what you are looking for.....

Sell yourself

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By *ack FrostyMan
7 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"Your profile.

That’s the clue. It’s your profile

It reflects you. Not what you think others want to see

So if you’re happy with the representation of you then leave it be

Gotta love this type of low effort passive aggressive reply."

Are you just going to pick on my reply or those of others in this thread who have stated the same or similar?

It’s actually a very meaningful piece of advice.

If your profile is written from the perspective of others then it is no longer your profile, it is what other think it should be.

That’s not passive aggressive at all

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
7 weeks ago

Leeds

Way to cock heavy

Mrs 🙈

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By *electableicecreamMan
7 weeks ago

The West

"Your profile.

That’s the clue. It’s your profile

It reflects you. Not what you think others want to see

So if you’re happy with the representation of you then leave it be

Gotta love this type of low effort passive aggressive reply.

Are you just going to pick on my reply or those of others in this thread who have stated the same or similar?

It’s actually a very meaningful piece of advice.

If your profile is written from the perspective of others then it is no longer your profile, it is what other think it should be.

That’s not passive aggressive at all "

It's entirely unhelpful. The OP wouldn't have asked the question if he was happy with his profile.

This idea that people shouldn't ask for or our take advice on their profiles is a total red herring and one I see that's basically copy pasted across the forum in certain circles.

Of course it's still his profile if he gets some advice and takes it on board.

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By *s-two-75Couple
7 weeks ago

The cock pics for staters. Not flattering all ..

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By *rightonsteveMan
7 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Can you look at profile and see why I’m not getting messages from couples x"

No idea but the grammatical mistakes are a total turn off for me. Shallow as a grave, me but there you go. Reasons Seasons.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS
7 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

"Would cock

In pants be better ? "

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I dont get any responses atall. Seems like big and cuddly bald men ain’t a hit anymore lol.

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By *apaFoxMan
7 weeks ago

Merseyside

Interesting,can you take a look at my profile too,any suggestions to improve it would be well received.

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By *orphia2003Woman
7 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

2 close up cock pics. Profile is all me,me,me.

Nothing there to set you apart from the 100s of other effortless profiles.

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By *uxurybubblesCouple
7 weeks ago

by the sea

Yeah to join the choir it's those cock pics and no profile pic your account is automatically in the category of not worth our time because there is nothing original about it. It's just another as we like to say talented dick that can us a keyboard

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
7 weeks ago

"Interesting,can you take a look at my profile too,any suggestions to improve it would be well received."

It's considered poor fab etiquette to ask for advice on another person's thread. It may be better to start your own

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By *rindnbump V2Couple
7 weeks ago

Our little world of Kinky Fuckery in Durham

Look at your profile like a shop window. If there is nothing in the window to encourage people to go inside and take a look, they are just going to walk on by.

You have no profile pic, therefore most people won't even look at your profile.

The two public pics on your profile are cock pics, which doesn't give people any idea of your body shape.

You won't meet smokers (entirely your preference) and can't accommodate, this will also narrow down the people who will get in touch.

The fact you've been on here for over a year and have no verifications will also put people off. You can go to clubs or organised socials to pick up a veri. We all have to start somewhere, it's all to do with how much effort you want to put in.

Sorry if any of that offends, we didn’t mean to

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
7 weeks ago

Stoke

Sorry OP, but those 2 profile pics have made me reach for the optrex!

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By *yesgreenMan
7 weeks ago

north and south

"Sorry OP, but those 2 profile pics have made me reach for the optrex! "
Did not check out op profile but some other well thought out profiles and pictures

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
7 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Where do you think you're going right OP?

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
7 weeks ago

London

No profile pic, two unappetising cock pics and you only talk about what you want.

If you were part of a couple and your profile messaged you, what would you think?

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By *rchitectMan
7 weeks ago

Dorchester

"Looks to me like you’re just looking to fulfill your own fantasy of being in a threesome, and you don’t make it very clear as to what makes you stand out from the thousands of other guys on here"
absolutely spot on.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Central

Perhaps it's fewer than 1% of couples that would find you attractive.

They do have to see you, before they'd know. And, if they could see you, you'd have to be more attractive to them than anyone else who they are engaging with.

Perhaps it's fewer than 1% of people who would find you attractive? Or more? The ball's in your court to let them have what they need to be able to take meaningful decision. If in doubt, it's no.

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By *agatoXXXMan
7 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

Well, first of all, you joined Fab. Every thing went downhill from there.

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By *rightonsteveMan
7 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Well, first of all, you joined Fab. Every thing went downhill from there."
it is indeed, a slippery slope.

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