FabSwingers.com forum: Age to young

By *utdoorsquirtcpl OP Couple
7 weeks ago

Chesterfield

I need opinions. I (f) have a 22 year old daughter, we seem to get messages from couples around 24 upwards. My thoughts are that it's to weird playing with especially females around that age. How do you compartmentalise the age issue? Also wouldn't want my Mr to play with a females close to my daughters age. Give me some insight advice anything

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By *usyBusyGirlWoman
7 weeks ago

Brum

I avoid 25 and under, eldest child is 20

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By *r John WickMan
7 weeks ago

The Continental

You don’t really need advice, as you’ve already made your preference known.

Stick with your choices and filter out those you have no interest in.

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By *utdoorsquirtcpl OP Couple
7 weeks ago

Chesterfield

"You don’t really need advice, as you’ve already made your preference known.

Stick with your choices and filter out those you have no interest in. "

Thanks i just needed to know I'm not being silly. The age range sometimes doesn't filter out partners who are younger than 30

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By *dam21122024Man
7 weeks ago

southall

What is the issue of him playing with younger girls?

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By *utdoorsquirtcpl OP Couple
7 weeks ago

Chesterfield

"What is the issue of him playing with younger girls?"

Younger girls around 22 and a bit higher is same age as his step daughter.

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By *xstaceyxxTV/TS
7 weeks ago

longeaton,

Age doesn't have to be a problem.

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By *dam21122024Man
7 weeks ago

southall

"What is the issue of him playing with younger girls?

Younger girls around 22 and a bit higher is same age as his step daughter. "

I really cant see the problem here,what his step daughter age got to do with a girl who will be playing with him.

As long as he is not playing with his step daughter he is fine.

Thats what i think🤷‍♂️

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By *exycarlashane181Couple
7 weeks ago

Leamington Spa

"I need opinions. I (f) have a 22 year old daughter, we seem to get messages from couples around 24 upwards. My thoughts are that it's to weird playing with especially females around that age. How do you compartmentalise the age issue? Also wouldn't want my Mr to play with a females close to my daughters age. Give me some insight advice anything"

We don't meet anyone the small rage or younger than our oldest child who is 32. Just seems to weird

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By *utdoorsquirtcpl OP Couple
7 weeks ago

Chesterfield

"Age doesn't have to be a problem. "

I'm trying to hear the opinion on both sides. Yay or nay. I have no issue with a bloke around 25 but I can't play with a girl that age, I know my answer already but just wanted others opinions.

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By *tephanie63Woman
7 weeks ago

BRIDGWATER

"What is the issue of him playing with younger girls?

Younger girls around 22 and a bit higher is same age as his step daughter.

I really cant see the problem here,what his step daughter age got to do with a girl who will be playing with him.

As long as he is not playing with his step daughter he is fine.

Thats what i think🤷‍♂️"

I disagree.

Clearly the OP is not happy for him to play with females close to her daughter's age, that should be respected. There is nothing silly about her preference.

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By *zChiefWoman
7 weeks ago

middle of somewhere

Its my preference not to play with anyone less than 10 years older than my son . It would be odd.

Everyone plays by their own rules.

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By *utdoorsquirtcpl OP Couple
7 weeks ago

Chesterfield

"What is the issue of him playing with younger girls?

Younger girls around 22 and a bit higher is same age as his step daughter.

I really cant see the problem here,what his step daughter age got to do with a girl who will be playing with him.

As long as he is not playing with his step daughter he is fine.

Thats what i think🤷‍♂️"

I can understand your point. We play as couples and never solo so I would be involved with the younger girl. I suppose I can't get over the fact that it's to close to my kids age so would be weird and like playing with my kid.

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By *utdoorsquirtcpl OP Couple
7 weeks ago

Chesterfield

"What is the issue of him playing with younger girls?

Younger girls around 22 and a bit higher is same age as his step daughter.

I really cant see the problem here,what his step daughter age got to do with a girl who will be playing with him.

As long as he is not playing with his step daughter he is fine.

Thats what i think🤷‍♂️

I disagree.

Clearly the OP is not happy for him to play with females close to her daughter's age, that should be respected. There is nothing silly about her preference."

Thank you lovely

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By *avid 50Man
7 weeks ago

kendal

It seems more the trend that young women Tend to look for older people be they male or female as they find their own age group lack experience and speaking from my own experience as an 18 year old I gained more knowledge from my 50-year-old landlady that I had from my time with girls my own age

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By *ealitybitesMan
7 weeks ago

Belfast

My eldest is almost 34. I change my lower age filter every year so there is always a 10 year gap between her age and anyone I would consider meeting.

It's non negotiable as far as I'm concerned as I have zero attraction towards anyone that age regardless of how mature/intelligent/hot they or others may claim they are.

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By *G74Woman
7 weeks ago

Blackburn

I used to have a rule that if you were older than what came out my hoo haa they weren't getting in it ... that being said my eldest is nearly 30 now so my opinion has changed a bit 😅

I've started having more club meets rather than private ones and I dont really go around the younger looking lads asking their age before play, same as I'd hope they wouldnt ask me mine 🙈

It's all about personal preferences and you dont need to make excuses for them, they may change over time but that again is your choice to make.

Happy Fabbing

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By *yrdsisWoman
7 weeks ago

Gleam Street

I have zero children...my choice is not to be intimate with someone who's nappies I could have changed as a Nanny.

I prefer a gent who gets my sense of humour, therefore I prefer someone over a certain age.... You don't need to justify why... If you're not comfortable with it? It's a no

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By *ustlooking78Man
7 weeks ago

northants

We are 44 and 46, have set young age limit at 35, daughter is 23 so think that keeps us well out of getting weird territory

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By *icecouple561Couple
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7 weeks ago

East Sussex

Has anyone said 'age is just a number' yet?

I don't believe that for one minute. Meet the age group you're most comfortable with. If one of you isn't happy with the others preferred age range then you'll need to compromise but I'd always err on the side of higher age groups in that situation .

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
7 weeks ago

Newcastle

A preference doesn’t have to be explained. If it doesn’t float your boat or you would find it weird to play with people close to your daughters age, that’s reason enough. Go with whatever age range you feel comfortable with

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By *uenevereWoman
7 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

Hubby and I have children aged 28 & 30 and we are generally not comfortable with meeting anyone close to their age. Your feelings are perfectly normal.

We do sometimes meet younger people at clubs, if we're comfortable with them.

Do whatever works for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Even though we are all consenting adults, people who are really young on here doesn't sit right with me. My worry is they aren't experienced or mature enough to handle this lifestyle, especially women. I'm sure there are plenty of mature young people but personally I couldn't sleep with someone in the early 20s bracket.

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By *issmorganWoman
7 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I don't have kids, but I still wouldn't play with anyone significantly younger than me.

It just doesn't sit right for me.

I can understand why you wouldn't want to meet people around your daughter's age.

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By *ad NannaWoman
7 weeks ago

East London

I don't even think about my adult children when I chat to someone.

Doesn't enter my head.

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By *WANDTGCouple
7 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

We set our age preference at 35 and over. Similar to others views regarding our children being the same ages.

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By *rying2niteMan
7 weeks ago

Egremont

My personal opinion is.....for a relationship, 10 years either side of my age is the limit......a 1 off, any (legal only) age is fine.

Double standards?.....maybe......but that's my rule

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
6 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

I don't have kids but at 43, I think the under 25's should be hanging out with their own age group....not helping me hobble to A & E when they've banged my hip or knee put of place...

That said if I met them in a swinger club/spa/event/social, I wouldn't particularly avoid them.

I met a 19 year old in a club and he had a great time! Needed a bit of help figuring out the uber back home so I shared a cab with him. Gave him a twenty like how you Nan would after a visit. Lol!

I don't usually ask ages in clubs but for online interaction I stick to 30-35 and over.

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By *iberius61Man
6 weeks ago

Pontefract

"I know my answer already but just wanted others opinions. "

Thing is, they're all just opinions and really yours us the only one that is important...to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

If your daughter were ever to find out, she would be unimpressed at best , angry and disgusted at worst maybe?

It’s a personal thing I guess OP and sounds like between you both the red line In the sands been drawn.. but be pleased with yourself that you stil got it lol

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By *ripodius WillyusMan
6 weeks ago

Here and there

I have been at clubs and once after putting on a show with a woman we were in private room left curtains open as i am not shy lol

After we had done I was approached by a young lady asked if she could my cock so went in a room at time she was 24.

A lovely nice lady we had a good time together the age difference was a consideration because we were both horny and had a great night.

For nearly a year we met up now and then in and away from clubs

There was no need for compartmentalising as both wanted same.

Folk get hung up on such age difference it was two people attracted to each other so why not enjoy each other

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By *haiababeWoman
6 weeks ago

North devon

I personally dont really want to be with someone who i am old enough to be their parent or they are old enough to be mine. I basically set a 10 up and 10 down rule for profiles although i do tend to prefer to go up as i find some guys in their 30s come accros as needy in their message. (Not all but some)

I've never been to a club or anything as my circumstances dont allow me to go out much and i dont think i would ask an age there of someone i want to play with.

But i also know everyone is different. Some dont aee age is an issue and some do.

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By *urry BlokeMan
6 weeks ago

Stalybridge

Just do what you're comfortable with at the time and make sure whoever you're chatting with is in the same headspace

As long as all parties are adults, consenting and at ease, the judgement of others is incidental

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By *vaRose43Woman
6 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Your boundaries are just that, your own.

I’m uncomfortable with anyone too close to my own grown kids ages.

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By *eparated_galWoman
6 weeks ago

Salford

Honestly. I dont have age limits, i just attracted to who i feel comfortable with, its each persons own preference really and bith consenting adults

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Problems, problems

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By *nnocentsecret66Woman
6 weeks ago

birmingham

Stick with my own age group and it works for me

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By *rHotNottsMan
6 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Would you not let him play with women with sane hair colour as your step daughter? What’s the age of your kids got to do with your sex life / choices ?

I find it very odd when people set preferences around age based on family members , I wonder what strange thoughts are going through thier heads when having sex

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Age is just a number

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By *rettCoolMan
6 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Age doesn't bother me .. 20 or 60 if your attracted to them all good.. think women might feel different tho

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Your boundaries are absolutely fine as they are OP.

People don't want to meet certain demographics and as it is entirely their life and their swinging experience, it's all good.

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By *WANDTGCouple
6 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

"Would you not let him play with women with sane hair colour as your step daughter? What’s the age of your kids got to do with your sex life / choices ?

I find it very odd when people set preferences around age based on family members , I wonder what strange thoughts are going through thier heads when having sex

Not sure what you're alluding to....but we set that preference because we don't want to go with a 20/30 somethings, with the of chance finding out they went to school with our kids.

Surely it's in your head to even imagine a scenario like that !

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By *ools and the brainCouple
6 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

If it feels off don't do it, generally speaking it's about the person rather than the age ( obviously of legal age) but someone can be mature acting at 22 and immature at 50.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
6 weeks ago

Cwmbran

Age doesn’t matter as long as you’re all happy and it’s legal. It’s not your daughter or any of her friends, it’s a total stranger. But if you’re uncomfortable then don’t do it.

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By *othicslaveCouple
6 weeks ago

Norfolk

Yes I agree anyone under 30, it is just weird and no no no from me- sl@ve

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By *weetiepie99Woman
6 weeks ago

cardiff

Of course age matters, and it isn't just a number. My children are in their early 20's and I wouldn't want to be with anyone around their age range. It would just feel wrong.

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By *ornycougaWoman
6 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

Do whatever feels right for you. Age doesn't matter to me if mutual attraction is there and they are fun, intelligent and decent people that I enjoy spending time with. I've met plenty of people my own age that don't meet those criteria and who are also more immature than those less than half my age.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
6 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

It's good that you both have solid boundaries on your swinging journey

Personally. Especially in a club, age never comes into it, it's purely attraction based.

Whilst in fab I am wary, as many lot's younger than me, are seeking an "experienced woman". I'm not here to teach, I'm here to have equal fun.

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By *ynecplCouple
6 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Each person has to make their own decisions. You have made your preferences clear and that is fine, somebody else will have their own reasons for why they would or wouldn't play with somebody so young.

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By *vonne5exMan
6 weeks ago

Doncaster

I personally don't think about my kids when playing, however I do live in the real world so wouldn't really attempt to play with anyone under 40ish but have done many times.

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By *avinaTVTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Transsexual Transylvania

I also feel weird about that. My daughter is 22. I don't entertain the possibility of any meets under 30.

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