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By (user no longer on site) OP   
7 weeks ago

What’s the etiquette re verification…we both had a good time..I’ve verified him…he hasn’t verified me…is that rude? Or the norm?

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
7 weeks ago

your head

Some people aren't keen on them or don't see the point. You could message him and ask? I personally wouldn't say there is an etiquette round it, more personal choice.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Herts

Why not just ask him? Maybe he hasn’t got to it yet.

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By *aizyWoman
7 weeks ago

west midlands

Don't think there is an etiquette really, you can leave a veri or not, you could ask him why he hasn't left you one if it is bothering you.

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By *endalshaggersCouple
7 weeks ago

Kendal

For us it's just common courtesy, one party verifies, the other does it in return. Not like it's a long winded process with multiple box ticking or lots of red tape to wade through is it? Takes seconds.

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By *ellhungvweMan
7 weeks ago

Cheltenham

It happens OP. Maybe he has forgotten. Maybe he doesn’t want to. If it is important to you then ask but I don’t think you have to veri every meet.

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
7 weeks ago

Bristol

You would assume it would be common courtesy if you’ve left one to return it, but I guess it’s their prerogative

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
7 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Did he have any pets?

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago


"What’s the etiquette re verification…we both had a good time..I’ve verified him…he hasn’t verified me…is that rude? Or the norm?"

If someone took time to leave me a verification - I'd leave them one. But I only post verifications that aren't too personal on my profile because I don't feel everyone has to know my sleeping history.

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By *aven.Woman
7 weeks ago

Not the North West...

Did you meet him because you wanted to meet him or to get a verification? Does it matter?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
7 weeks ago

East Sussex

We wouldn't ask someone to verify us if they didn't do it off their own bat.

I don't think there's an etiquette as such but I think there's an expectation that it's reciprocal.

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Covent Garden

There is no etiquette or protocol or similar. If you have verified him and IF he has displayed it but not verified you in return then ask him for clarification. If he hasn't displayed it then perhaps verifications aren't his cup of tea.

Lack of verifications aren't unusual. Non-reciprocity, however, can sometimes feel peculiar and baffling.

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By *r Mind CandyMan
7 weeks ago

Cheshire


"Did you meet him because you wanted to meet him or to get a verification? Does it matter?"

This 👆

Don’t get me wrong I love my verifications and the ladies that left them, but I certainly didn’t meet them for their verifications writing skills. I met them because they are amazing people and I had an incredible time with them.

A few of my regular playmates have never left me a verification, does that matter? Not at all, we know what a great time we have together and that’s all that really matters.

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"Did you meet him because you wanted to meet him or to get a verification? Does it matter?

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This 👆

Don’t get me wrong I love my verifications and the ladies that left them, but I certainly didn’t meet them for their verifications writing skills. I met them because they are amazing people and I had an incredible time with them.

A few of my regular playmates have never left me a verification, does that matter? Not at all, we know what a great time we have together and that’s all that really matters. "

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That's lovely for you.

Let's just see what the OP says/clarifies. 👍🏻

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By *r Mind CandyMan
7 weeks ago

Cheshire


"Did you meet him because you wanted to meet him or to get a verification? Does it matter?

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This 👆

Don’t get me wrong I love my verifications and the ladies that left them, but I certainly didn’t meet them for their verifications writing skills. I met them because they are amazing people and I had an incredible time with them.

A few of my regular playmates have never left me a verification, does that matter? Not at all, we know what a great time we have together and that’s all that really matters.

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That's lovely for you.

Let's just see what the OP says/clarifies. 👍🏻"

OP has already stated they both had a great time, and in my opinion that is all that really matters, I’m not sure what clarification is needed.

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By *hirleyMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere


"Did you meet him because you wanted to meet him or to get a verification? Does it matter?

This 👆

Don’t get me wrong I love my verifications and the ladies that left them, but I certainly didn’t meet them for their verifications writing skills. I met them because they are amazing people and I had an incredible time with them.

A few of my regular playmates have never left me a verification, does that matter? Not at all, we know what a great time we have together and that’s all that really matters. "

In past profiles, knowing how much effort I put in and how much of a good time we had I'd be fuming if I didn't get a veri

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Feel like verifications are far more important for men on here so wouldn’t say it’s anything to worry about x

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"Did you meet him because you wanted to meet him or to get a verification? Does it matter?

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This 👆

Don’t get me wrong I love my verifications and the ladies that left them, but I certainly didn’t meet them for their verifications writing skills. I met them because they are amazing people and I had an incredible time with them.

A few of my regular playmates have never left me a verification, does that matter? Not at all, we know what a great time we have together and that’s all that really matters.

•

That's lovely for you.

Let's just see what the OP says/clarifies. 👍🏻

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OP has already stated they both had a great time, and in my opinion that is all that really matters, I’m not sure what clarification is needed. "

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The clarification of whether she met him solely for the verification or not. Having a great time and exchanging joyous verifications aren't mutually exclusive.

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By *r Mind CandyMan
7 weeks ago

Cheshire


"Did you meet him because you wanted to meet him or to get a verification? Does it matter?

·

This 👆

Don’t get me wrong I love my verifications and the ladies that left them, but I certainly didn’t meet them for their verifications writing skills. I met them because they are amazing people and I had an incredible time with them.

A few of my regular playmates have never left me a verification, does that matter? Not at all, we know what a great time we have together and that’s all that really matters.

•

That's lovely for you.

Let's just see what the OP says/clarifies. 👍🏻

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OP has already stated they both had a great time, and in my opinion that is all that really matters, I’m not sure what clarification is needed.

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The clarification of whether she met him solely for the verification or not. Having a great time and exchanging joyous verifications aren't mutually exclusive."

I think “ Did you meet him because you wanted to meet him or to get a verification?” Was a rhetorical question. I don’t think anyone meets someone just for a verification……. Or do they?? Surely not!

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By *r Mind CandyMan
7 weeks ago

Cheshire


"Feel like verifications are far more important for men on here so wouldn’t say it’s anything to worry about x"

This is actually true, a woman can put up no photos, no verifications and nothing written in the profile and still get 1000’s of men begging to meet them. It’s a crazy!

So please don’t worry about it OP have fun and don’t let things like this get you down

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
7 weeks ago

Cheshire

Wouldn't let it bother you. Wouldn't be the first time a lads attitude changes after he gets what he wants.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
7 weeks ago


"Did you meet him because you wanted to meet him or to get a verification? Does it matter?

·

This 👆

Don’t get me wrong I love my verifications and the ladies that left them, but I certainly didn’t meet them for their verifications writing skills. I met them because they are amazing people and I had an incredible time with them.

A few of my regular playmates have never left me a verification, does that matter? Not at all, we know what a great time we have together and that’s all that really matters.

•

That's lovely for you.

Let's just see what the OP says/clarifies. 👍🏻

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OP has already stated they both had a great time, and in my opinion that is all that really matters, I’m not sure what clarification is needed.

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The clarification of whether she met him solely for the verification or not. Having a great time and exchanging joyous verifications aren't mutually exclusive.

I think “ Did you meet him because you wanted to meet him or to get a verification?” Was a rhetorical question. I don’t think anyone meets someone just for a verification……. Or do they?? Surely not! "

Absolutely not! I was already verified…he just seemed like someone I was happy to meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I think you need to start kickin some serious ass OP

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By *hirleyMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere


"Feel like verifications are far more important for men on here so wouldn’t say it’s anything to worry about x"

I don't think that's entirely true. For instance I wouldn't want to interact with your profile largely because of the fact you have none displayed.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
7 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"Did you meet him because you wanted to meet him or to get a verification? Does it matter?

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This 👆

Don’t get me wrong I love my verifications and the ladies that left them, but I certainly didn’t meet them for their verifications writing skills. I met them because they are amazing people and I had an incredible time with them.

A few of my regular playmates have never left me a verification, does that matter? Not at all, we know what a great time we have together and that’s all that really matters.

•

That's lovely for you.

Let's just see what the OP says/clarifies. 👍🏻

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OP has already stated they both had a great time, and in my opinion that is all that really matters, I’m not sure what clarification is needed.

·

The clarification of whether she met him solely for the verification or not. Having a great time and exchanging joyous verifications aren't mutually exclusive.

I think “ Did you meet him because you wanted to meet him or to get a verification?” Was a rhetorical question. I don’t think anyone meets someone just for a verification……. Or do they?? Surely not! "

I think it’s important to some. I’ve had people say they wouldn’t be interested because I don’t show them or leave them. Which I’m glad they said as they wouldn’t be for me with that mindset.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

It has happened to us, sent a veri but didnt get one back.

He didn't display it either but he wanted to hide he likes fat women.

Honestly it's not a big deal.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago


"Did you meet him because you wanted to meet him or to get a verification? Does it matter?

·

This 👆

Don’t get me wrong I love my verifications and the ladies that left them, but I certainly didn’t meet them for their verifications writing skills. I met them because they are amazing people and I had an incredible time with them.

A few of my regular playmates have never left me a verification, does that matter? Not at all, we know what a great time we have together and that’s all that really matters.

•

That's lovely for you.

Let's just see what the OP says/clarifies. 👍🏻

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OP has already stated they both had a great time, and in my opinion that is all that really matters, I’m not sure what clarification is needed.

·

The clarification of whether she met him solely for the verification or not. Having a great time and exchanging joyous verifications aren't mutually exclusive.

I think “ Did you meet him because you wanted to meet him or to get a verification?” Was a rhetorical question. I don’t think anyone meets someone just for a verification……. Or do they?? Surely not!

I think it’s important to some. I’ve had people say they wouldn’t be interested because I don’t show them or leave them. Which I’m glad they said as they wouldn’t be for me with that mindset. "

Agreed x

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By *he Silver FuxMan
7 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

First off not everyone wants verifications. If there’s some doubt I’d just ask. If he hasn’t displayed your verification then he could be preparing to send yours over (just ask for a veri or remind him).

If they are playing away from a partner or significant other (a FB for example) that is also on Fab then there maybe be some sensitivity to a verification being displayed.

If he HAS displayed your verification then that’s a bit rude - personally I don’t display mine until I’ve written one in return.

Then there’s the possible scenario that’s going to hurt…. that he was prepared to meet with you but he doesn’t want to be associated with you…

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By *ervent X KissMan
7 weeks ago

Portsmouth


"Feel like verifications are far more important for men on here so wouldn’t say it’s anything to worry about x"

I totally agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Verifications are for the benefit of others not yourself. If someone tells me in person they have had a good time, that's all I need. I don't need them to tell the Internet they did too.

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By *hirleyMan
7 weeks ago

somewhere


"Verifications are for the benefit of others not yourself. If someone tells me in person they have had a good time, that's all I need. I don't need them to tell the Internet they did too."

You're right, but it's entirely dependent on how one uses fab.

While personal meets are importantly distinguished by what you experienced as an individual. Fab is a social network tool, but people take things too literally here and not as a guide to what you can find. The forums make it even worse for those people who can't see past their boner (both sexes)

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Central

Verifications are largely to confirm that you are who you say you are. Reliability follows from this. If you already have it, there's reduced need. If you leave one, it's probably fairly standard to get one in return. But many here aren't super vigilant or attentive to inboxes etc.

If important to you, it's acceptable to request one

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