FabSwingers.com forum: A lil' bit cynical...

By *eli OP Woman
7 weeks ago

When it comes to Fab, what people from Fab say etc...

How likely are you to readily believe it? Do you ever question how truthful a person is being?

Would you say you're more cynical or grounded?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It all depends on how well I know them, what's said and the context

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By *illy IdolMan
7 weeks ago

Midlands

"When it comes to Fab, what people from Fab say etc...

How likely are you to readily believe it? Do you ever question how truthful a person is being?

Would you say you're more cynical or grounded?"

Which are you, Meli?

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By *ell GwynnWoman
7 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Hey Meli

I find myself pretty cynical these days. I don't like being so, but experience has made it necessary to be fairly guarded.

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By *mf123Man
7 weeks ago

with one foot out the door

I think im more i dont care if its truth or lies as long as it dont give me stress

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By *sWyldWoman
7 weeks ago

Edinburgh

I'm cynical, jaded and rarely believe anyone over anything these days thanks to recent experience.

However I don't like feeling like this.

I'm actively challenging myself to go back to hopefully romantic and seeing the best in everyone.

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
7 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Cynical, grounded, realist... Probably a combination of all three.

I never trust anything anyone says until I look them in the eye as they're saying it, and even then I'm probably pretty guarded over my belief levels.

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By *ee69Man
7 weeks ago

glasgow

"I'm cynical, jaded and rarely believe anyone over anything these days thanks to recent experience.

However I don't like feeling like this.

I'm actively challenging myself to go back to hopefully romantic and seeing the best in everyone. "

Got to open up and try sometime,

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By *8on33Man
7 weeks ago

winfrith

I treat fab as everyone is truthful until caught in a lie .

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By *eli OP Woman
7 weeks ago

"It all depends on how well I know them, what's said and the context

Yeah, that makes sense. It's very contextual isn't it? I guess I lean more towards believing if I know them.

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By *aven.Woman
7 weeks ago

Not the North West...

I think I'm realistic.

I don't believe anything, randomers.or friends. The reason we're talking is because they want sex, which is fair enough, but I'm well aware what guys will say to get what they want.

Is it the truth what they say to me? God no. Do I care? Not really.

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By *illy IdolMan
7 weeks ago

Midlands

"It all depends on how well I know them, what's said and the context

I'm the same as this. If it's someone I believe to know well, I'll take their word for it.

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By *eli OP Woman
7 weeks ago

"When it comes to Fab, what people from Fab say etc...

How likely are you to readily believe it? Do you ever question how truthful a person is being?

Would you say you're more cynical or grounded?

Which are you, Meli?"

I dunno Willy, I'm pondering this now. Which are you dear Willy?

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I start at face value and then act accordingly to what my intuition is telling me but if something feels off, it usually is. Once I start questioning someone, there's not much they can do so easier to just leave it there.. I don't need to find out more.

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By *r John WickMan
7 weeks ago

The Continental

Unless someone gives me reason NOT to trust what they say, then I’ll generally accept what is said at face value.

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By *eli OP Woman
7 weeks ago

"Hey Meli

I find myself pretty cynical these days. I don't like being so, but experience has made it necessary to be fairly guarded."

Hey Nelli'

Do you think you can be guarded without being cynical? I worry that if cynicism takes over than you (a general you) could miss out on things. Guard against positivity almost. Hard to explain.

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By *host63Man
7 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

"When it comes to Fab, what people from Fab say etc...

How likely are you to readily believe it? Do you ever question how truthful a person is being?

Would you say you're more cynical or grounded?"

I think prolonged experience tends to make me very cynical.

With the amount of times I have had been messed about with on here.

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By *ake_or_deathMan
7 weeks ago

Manchester

I am cynical by nature, and generally expect the worst. So my expectations of Fab are simply an extension of my expectations of life.

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By *eli OP Woman
7 weeks ago

"I think im more i dont care if its truth or lies as long as it dont give me stress"

That's a good way of looking at it P.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
7 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

"Hey Meli

I find myself pretty cynical these days. I don't like being so, but experience has made it necessary to be fairly guarded.

Hey Nelli'

Do you think you can be guarded without being cynical? I worry that if cynicism takes over than you (a general you) could miss out on things. Guard against positivity almost. Hard to explain."

I see what you're saying, but I don't think I'm letting it get in the way of potential positives. Have the fun, but do so with the awareness that maybe not all is initially as it seems.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
7 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I start at face value and then act accordingly to what my intuition is telling me but if something feels off, it usually is. Once I start questioning someone, there's not much they can do so easier to just leave it there.. I don't need to find out more."

This. 👌👌

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By *aizyWoman
7 weeks ago

west midlands

You have put it better than I could.

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By *eli OP Woman
7 weeks ago

"I'm cynical, jaded and rarely believe anyone over anything these days thanks to recent experience.

However I don't like feeling like this.

I'm actively challenging myself to go back to hopefully romantic and seeing the best in everyone. "

But you'd hope you would be believed yes? So we kind of don't trust others but hope that people believe us?

No, don't see the best in everyone! People are flawed and that's okay. You can still be soft and with a romantic nature without thinking the sun shines out of everyone's arse.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
7 weeks ago

Dartford

I try to take what people say on here with a pinch of salt and just try to go with the flow with little to no expectations. Fab has become more of a chat site for us now to be honest. We tend to have more joy meeting people at clubs, it's just gone dead on here lately as no one really seems to be serious about meeting through here.

Mrs x

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By *host63Man
7 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

"I think I'm realistic.

I don't believe anything, randomers.or friends. The reason we're talking is because they want sex, which is fair enough, but I'm well aware what guys will say to get what they want.

Is it the truth what they say to me? God no. Do I care? Not really.

It goes both ways to be honest. Lost count of the amount of single women on here who show a. Interest seem genuine, but then want payment for something or other.

The biggest one is when they want me to buy them a site supporter pass or want money to go out with their mates or just flat out soliciting.

Trying desperately not to be so negative but years of it wears you down. Or arranging a meeting and they never show up.

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By *eli OP Woman
7 weeks ago

"Cynical, grounded, realist... Probably a combination of all three.

I never trust anything anyone says until I look them in the eye as they're saying it, and even then I'm probably pretty guarded over my belief levels."

Are you happy being that way?

It's far easier to understand intent f2f, levels of truthfulness etc. But this is an online forum so... you don't trust any post? Should I trust this post of yours*?

*I'm musing.

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Covent Garden

It's certainly contextual — for those Fabbers who exist within the confines of my WhatsApp I would believe, with no corroboration. On Fab, however, I would need further attestations from other forum-dwellers to ensure whatever was being said was the gospel † truth.

At the end of the day does it really matter? Fab is just a mythical fantasy.

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By *emorefridaCouple
7 weeks ago

La la land

Depends on context, me having the best boobs on Fab I cry balderdash. But then when people share their experience of neurdiversity or abuse etc I tend to be less cynical.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
7 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"Depends on context, me having the best boobs on Fab I cry balderdash. But then when people share their experience of neurdiversity or abuse etc I tend to be less cynical. "

They are the best though 🤷‍♀️

No balderdash.

Mrs TMN x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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7 weeks ago

East Sussex

In the words of Marvin Gaye I "believe half of what I see and none of what I hear".

That applies double to the internet, politicians and people on public transport.

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By *electableicecreamMan
7 weeks ago

The West

Fab doesn't activate my cynicism. It's all a bit of craic and diversion. To be fair, as a guy I don't really have to deal any of the shite that women get on the daily.

I save the cynicism for my elected government and state apparatus.

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By *antastic_Mr_Fox_76Man
7 weeks ago

District 13

"When it comes to Fab, what people from Fab say etc...

How likely are you to readily believe it? Do you ever question how truthful a person is being?

Would you say you're more cynical or grounded?"

I’m totally cynical until proven otherwise 😂😂😉

How about you Meli x

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By *imples24Man
7 weeks ago

tamworth

I trust every single word everyone says especially on here gullible 🤣

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
7 weeks ago

North East Scotland, mostly

Generally, I take people as I find them and look for the best in everyone.

That’s harder to do as accurately online, without the benefit of tone and body language. There’s also the additional difficulty of people being very guarded on fab, keeping things hidden, not always with nefarious intent but often as a way of safeguarding their privacy, given the nature of the site.

So I don’t think I’m more cynical, but over the years and following some missteps I’ve learned to reserve judgement more.

Mrs TMN x

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By *hrista BellendWoman
7 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Total Cynic

Fab is escapism for so many and they can be and say anything, some lies are said so often they become false truths for the person. Each to their own, as long as it doesn't Involve me, they can say/be whatever they like.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
7 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

On here cynical - tend to find it’s easier to be cynical at first and then get pleasantly surprised if the person you talk to turns out to be real/not with a partner/have no issues or major defaults and fits our dynamics.

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By *inochioMan
7 weeks ago

Derbyshire

When i new on here i was open to new people and experiences but now I doubt peoples motives and question everyone and everything. Trust is hard to establish, is very brittle and is easily shattered. Probably why im not very successful on here i must give off the wrong vibes.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
7 weeks ago

Leeds

Don’t believe a word of it, it’s not hard to be fake nice behind a screen.

The mr

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By *ad NannaWoman
7 weeks ago

East London

I trust everything until they're proven to be lies.

I might be suspicious, but, until cold, hard evidence appears in front of me I have no idea what's truth and what's not.

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By *ad NannaWoman
7 weeks ago

East London

If they're saying I'm stunning, beautiful, gorgeous etc then I know it's lies

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By *ealitybitesMan
7 weeks ago

Belfast

I was never cynical before joining fab but I plateaued a few years ago and absolutely nothing surprises me here anymore.

I've had people tell me I was the only one they were chatting to on fab, the only one who truly understood them and the only one they trusted while at the same time they were able to update me on who was doing what to who and why.

I've been told to avoid certain dangerous, hideous women who should have their kids taken away from them because of the things they have done but each and every one of those horrible women have since been verified as the most amazing and lovely people by their accusers.

I think I'm exceptionally grounded and don't seek out drama but some people see that as a challenge and feel the need to feed me the juicy bits.

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Covent Garden

He's my most favourite idolised cynic... ...⬆️

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By *iss CalicoWoman
7 weeks ago

Wakefield

"I'm cynical, jaded and rarely believe anyone over anything these days thanks to recent experience.

However I don't like feeling like this.

I'm actively challenging myself to go back to hopefully romantic and seeing the best in everyone. "

This

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By *4rkk1ttenWoman
7 weeks ago

East Mids

I'm as honest as they come and I'm living a lie, so I guess I'm very cynical. I'd rather people were honest even in their dishonesty.

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
7 weeks ago

Staffordshire

"When it comes to Fab, what people from Fab say etc...

How likely are you to readily believe it? Do you ever question how truthful a person is being?

Would you say you're more cynical or grounded?"

Yes, if it’s been said on fab it must be true.

Fabswinger members are the most trustworthy people in all of internet.

If you have any doubts then you can just let ok up the Ancient Greek translation of Fabswingers, it’s literal translation is factually accurate.

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By *endalshaggersCouple
7 weeks ago

Kendal

It's the Internet. Absolutely everything you read on the Internet is the absolute truth 😂.

No, we're very cynical to a degree. This site is in a way a "swingers social media". Everyone wants to make it look like they have the "perfect life" on socials - the nice cars/house/family/watch/holidays etc etc etc. Obviously you can only judge what's put in front of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I believe... For every drop of rain that falls... A flower grows.

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By *adyBugsWoman
7 weeks ago

cognito

Cynical. I have found very few on here who are actually honest, sometimes it’s the ones you least expect turn out to be the worst liars(as in lie the most) and break your heart most.

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By *agatoXXXMan
7 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

"When it comes to Fab, what people from Fab say etc...

How likely are you to readily believe it? Do you ever question how truthful a person is being?

Would you say you're more cynical or grounded?"

My motto is "Trust no one". (Thanks, Fox Mulder.)

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By *bostCouple
7 weeks ago

glasgow

Definitely cynical.

Most men thinking with their penises

Couples, probably with the male half’s penis.

Women, trying to not act like a penis.

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By *oubleswing2019Man
7 weeks ago

Colchester

I work on the basis that everyone has an agenda.

None of us would be here otherwise if we didn't, would we ?

So once that understanding is accepted, it's simply a matter of seeing if their agenda is compatible and harmonious with yours.

If it is, then great. If it isn't then is there flexibility to be willing to meet in the the middle ? If there is not, then the agendas do not align.

Do not waste time on agendas that do not serve you, and be mindful that everyone has an agenda.

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