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By *onynhannah OP   Man
7 weeks ago

WHITBY

Just seems that way to me. Certainly more wasters

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By *liza_13Woman
7 weeks ago

Hamilton

Yes there is a lot more time wasters

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By *avej500Man
7 weeks ago

town

100% finding it in all walks of life

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By *ysteryIncMan
7 weeks ago

Portishead

Unfortunately yes

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By *ee69Man
7 weeks ago

glasgow

A mixed bag it is deffo tedious at times lol

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By *onynhannah OP   Man
7 weeks ago

WHITBY

Maybe I'm to old for this now. Arranged a meet for this morning. Went to sleep woke up blocked. Is this normal behaviour

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod

7 weeks ago

O o O oo

What is your definition of a timewaster?

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By *onynhannah OP   Man
7 weeks ago

WHITBY

Chatted for sometime arranged to meet over a week ago. Stayed in touch. Supposed to be meeting this morning. Woke up blocked

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
7 weeks ago

chichester


"Just seems that way to me. Certainly more wasters"

Agreed

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By *r TriomanMan
7 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

It's not hard work for me OP, I don't have any messages to answer and no meetings to attend, easy life.

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By *r Mind CandyMan
7 weeks ago

Cheshire

You get out what you put in peeps!

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By *onynhannah OP   Man
7 weeks ago

WHITBY

And I have done

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
7 weeks ago

chichester


"You get out what you put in peeps! "

No I get inundated with Spam / stupid messages from garbage

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod

7 weeks ago

O o O oo


"Chatted for sometime arranged to meet over a week ago. Stayed in touch. Supposed to be meeting this morning. Woke up blocked"

Anyone can change their mind even up to the point of having sex, however it would be polite to say so

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By *enk15Man
7 weeks ago

Evesham

When the fun stops, stop.

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By *r Mind CandyMan
7 weeks ago

Cheshire


"You get out what you put in peeps!

No I get inundated with Spam / stupid messages from garbage "

I’m sorry about that, you need an admin sub to deal with your fabmin!

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

7 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Chatted for sometime arranged to meet over a week ago. Stayed in touch. Supposed to be meeting this morning. Woke up blocked"

When you say 'chatted' do you mean just on here or on the phone/off site.

Restricting all pre meet contact to just messages leaves you more open to being let down in my experience.

The concept that someone would happily arrange to meet for sex yet not be willing to just talk on the phone before hand often baffles me.

You're essentially putting all your faith in words on a screen and some pictures. 🤷‍♂️

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By *onynhannah OP   Man
7 weeks ago

WHITBY

I've met some really nice people over the years. Regular in PDI and have a regular group who play and have done for years. And I get the right to say no. A simple sorry not for me would be great

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Everyone has a different definition of time wasting but for me talking isn't time wasting, changing your mind isn't time wasting and being selective on who you meet isn't time wasting.

If you arrange a meet and they don't show or just ghost, I'd take that as time wasting but it's part and parcel of meeting strangers on the Internet. Just move on and give no second chances.

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By *ik NaksCouple
7 weeks ago

Wigan


"Everyone has a different definition of time wasting but for me talking isn't time wasting, changing your mind isn't time wasting and being selective on who you meet isn't time wasting.

If you arrange a meet and they don't show or just ghost, I'd take that as time wasting but it's part and parcel of meeting strangers on the Internet. Just move on and give no second chances."

💯

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By *8on33Man
7 weeks ago

winfrith

It's like the toughest work out an SAS workout with crocs

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By *onynhannah OP   Man
7 weeks ago

WHITBY

Actually said wasters not time wasters. Seems to me to be a lot of people who have no concept of how to be nice to each other. Like I said a polite no

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By *ik NaksCouple
7 weeks ago

Wigan

We used to get lots of nasty messages from single men when we gave them a polite no thank you so we had to block them. Unfair on the genuine nice blokes but the majority are ruining it for the minority

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By *8on33Man
7 weeks ago

winfrith


"We used to get lots of nasty messages from single men when we gave them a polite no thank you so we had to block them. Unfair on the genuine nice blokes but the majority are ruining it for the minority "
Have you done Banksy style artwork on your stairwell?

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By *ik NaksCouple
7 weeks ago

Wigan

Cupids swinging club. Best club in Manchester

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By *endalshaggersCouple
7 weeks ago

Kendal

Not especially.

I find it very interesting most of these posts along the same theme are made by single male profiles, you rarely see a lady or couple posting similar to the above.

You get out what you put in.

Unfortunately as a single male profile your're one in a million on this site all vying for attention from a small sample size of ladies/couples who would meet males, but have a huge sample size to pick from and can afford to be picky.

C xoxo

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By *ik NaksCouple
7 weeks ago

Wigan


"Not especially.

I find it very interesting most of these posts along the same theme are made by single male profiles, you rarely see a lady or couple posting similar to the above.

You get out what you put in.

Unfortunately as a single male profile your're one in a million on this site all vying for attention from a small sample size of ladies/couples who would meet males, but have a huge sample size to pick from and can afford to be picky.

C xoxo"

👍👍👍

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Maidstone


"100% finding it in all walks of life "

Interesting point. Since COVID, people have kinda gone off the rails... You know the Road/Airplane Rage, Karens/Kevins, Putin etc. Forgotten how to be kind and civil.

Only I can waste my own time.

If they're not respectful enough to update you or inform, I take it as a lucky bullet dodged.

I would arrange to meet at a bookshop café, if he's a no show, I love browsing books anyway.

Or if hosting at home, I'm lucky I can call on my fuck buddies or go online and rearrange another meet. My record is 10 mins, another guy was on his way.

I'm no victim. There is a silver lining if you care to look for it.

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By *8on33Man
7 weeks ago

winfrith


"Cupids swinging club. Best club in Manchester "
ok not been to cupids maybe try it one day .

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By *rowley616Man
7 weeks ago

Scarborough

Not sure. As a couple we would get a lot of pushy or unpleasant messages from men but now as a single guy I get no attention at all. I just figured as these sites are mostly men it makes sense. But we do seem to have two sets of standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Yes, used to be fun now it feels like you have to pass a test, just to get to the interview stage then told no thanks

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By *hilloutMan
7 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Not really.

I was 'retired' for 4 years and have not experienced difficulties in meeting or re-engaging with people with my recent return.

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By *8on33Man
7 weeks ago

winfrith


"Not especially.

I find it very interesting most of these posts along the same theme are made by single male profiles, you rarely see a lady or couple posting similar to the above.

You get out what you put in.

Unfortunately as a single male profile your're one in a million on this site all vying for attention from a small sample size of ladies/couples who would meet males, but have a huge sample size to pick from and can afford to be picky.

C xoxo"

Exactly you never see a lady or couple struggling here.

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By *earded BeastMan
7 weeks ago

durham


"Chatted for sometime arranged to meet over a week ago. Stayed in touch. Supposed to be meeting this morning. Woke up blocked"

this seems to be happening more I'm finding myself day of meet suddenly blocked

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By *vaRose43Woman
7 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Not really

Just take a break for a bit if it’s becoming more of a chore than a pleasure

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By *ohnny DeeeepMan
7 weeks ago

durham

I think when you use this site with zero expectations a weight is lifted.

Come on, have some craic in the forums and then do one.

If you do end up finding what you are looking for it’s a bonus.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
7 weeks ago

Gloucestershire


"Not really

Just take a break for a bit if it’s becoming more of a chore than a pleasure "

I totally agree with this. I take regular breaks from Fab (and eat lots of Kitkats too)

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By *viatrixWoman
7 weeks ago

Redhill


"Not especially.

I find it very interesting most of these posts along the same theme are made by single male profiles, you rarely see a lady or couple posting similar to the above.

You get out what you put in.

Unfortunately as a single male profile your're one in a million on this site all vying for attention from a small sample size of ladies/couples who would meet males, but have a huge sample size to pick from and can afford to be picky.

C xoxoExactly you never see a lady or couple struggling here. "

We struggle, but it is a different struggle.

I fancied meeting someone the other day- so I put up a meet and changed my status. Obviously I got a deluge of messages. I am very soecific in what I am looking for, age, body type, looks- and people still don’t read. I say no thanks and I get abuse. I get people being very pushy, demanding to know my hotel and room number (yeah, right! 😂😂😂😂) but in the end I got the meet with a person who fit exactly what I was looking for.

This is why I stay on Fab. There is a lot of sifting to do, but when it works, it is mindblowing.

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By *ik NaksCouple
7 weeks ago

Wigan

Think some people set their expectations to high. We’re an average looking couple and if we find a hot profile and send a message it’s great when they reply but don’t expect to meet them just through one message. Multiple messages can be sent between us and if a meet doesn’t materialise then we don’t see it as a waste of time, sometimes we are just grateful that they have taken time out of their day and had a nice conversation with them

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By *ruceyyMan
7 weeks ago

London

It's always been a bloody pickle! 😂

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Maidstone


"I think when you use this site with zero expectations a weight is lifted.

Come on, have some craic in the forums and then do one.

If you do end up finding what you are looking for it’s a bonus."

So true. Also learn how to sense when women who are trying to be being polite with a luke warm response.

In this modern age of instant gratification, you may not have been swiped left already, so get flirty. If eventually she decides no, that's just old fashioned courtship.

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
7 weeks ago

Sheffield

Not for me. I prefer to attend clubs. So fab is good for keeping in touch with others and what’s on at the clubs.

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By *Silver-Man
7 weeks ago

Mold

Its been like this the last 4yrs

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By *roticguyMan
7 weeks ago

nottingham

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
7 weeks ago

Lanson

Not really - generally have a meet arranged with 20 mins of updating my status saying I'm looking for cock

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By *roticguyMan
7 weeks ago

nottingham

Maybe as a free site it is far too easy for people to come and go etc ?

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By *r John WickMan
7 weeks ago

The Continental

Nah, seems alright to me. My expectations are realistic.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
7 weeks ago

Tamworth

I do feel like, compared to say 10 years ago, the greater numbers combined with the different ways people want to use the site, can make it a bit more needle in the haystack.

But if you’re clear on what you want and avoid people who are obviously not compatible then it’s not so bad.

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By *aimedescendreMan
7 weeks ago

Hitchin

I gave up on trying to meet folk from here two profiles ago. I had a good run at it perhaps having been on and off of here since its inception. Some wonderful meets, some not so much, some nice people to chat to that never went further and some really rude, some no shows and ghosting etc. But it was often quite hard work and time consuming trying to get noticed amongst the masses. I’m not a bad looking guy, keep myself in shape, have reasonable equipment and know what to do etc. have my skills but in truth I do better/have more luck in the real world as it were than on sites.

I think there have always been guys that get abusive when they get nowhere or don’t get their way, sadly. It’s something couples/ladies have always told me about. For nearly 20 years. Used to worry/shock me that people would behave like that in here, they wouldn’t dare in real life. What people will do when they think no-one is watching. I’m not so sure that is true now.

The one thing I’ve noticed as a change is people are less willing to chat now. Most of my previous meets came from chats that developed over time.

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By *aughtySexualArousalMan
7 weeks ago

SPALDING

It's not just on here, it's becoming a thing of life now.

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By *ellhungvweMan
7 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Working well for me at the moment

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Maidstone


"This is why I stay on Fab. There is a lot of sifting to do, but when it works, it is mindblowing. "

Hear here! Oh there are meets that were just "ok" too but yeah, the memorable ones are special...

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By *icolerobbieCouple
7 weeks ago

walsall


"You get out what you put in peeps! "

That is so not true, but love that optimism.

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Durham

Its not you. Either guys refuse to read a profile or they want to meet then go missing.

Far to many keyboard warriors and not enough genuine people x

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By *inceIlkestonMan
7 weeks ago

Ilkeston


"Just seems that way to me. Certainly more wasters"

It's the same on all sites especially dating sites

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By *jnew34Man
7 weeks ago

Leeds

Lots of time wasters but there are diamonds in the rough, some wonderful people on here still just got to be patient and they appear.

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By *entfootloverMan
7 weeks ago

Sevenoaks

It *is* very tedious, but the ardent supporters love to pin it on the complainers rather than acknowledge the elephant in the room.

Although it does seem like the way to get meets is to participate in the club scene and use fab as a Facebook/LinkedIn to keep in touch, rather than hope it works like Tinder to find you matches. Does that make sense?

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
7 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Not sure what the problem is to be honest.

Don't be a knob. If you are a knob, look for people that appreciate a little bit of knobishness.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
7 weeks ago

Motherwell


"Just seems that way to me. Certainly more wasters"

time wasters, fake profiles the lot.

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By *ima7893Man
7 weeks ago

Cardiff (Home) / London (Work)

It’s definitely changing rapidly and more difficult to find genuine swingers. It’s such a shame!

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By *entfootloverMan
7 weeks ago

Sevenoaks


"You get out what you put in.

Unfortunately as a single male profile your're one in a million on this site all vying for attention from a small sample size of ladies/couples who would meet males, but have a huge sample size to pick from and can afford to be picky.

C xoxo"

A hard disagree on the first statement. No matter how thought-out a message is, you're lucky if it even gets opened.

Your second point is the real reason and explains the above. I can understand why some people get lazy and only send winks etc, because they don't think it's worth the effort when the odds are overwhelmingly stacked against them.

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By *icksastard002Man
7 weeks ago

Hove

I've already accepted that its a numbers game so i rarely get a reply from a lady on this site. The ladies arent at fault for that, nor are they for not being interested when i message.

But tbf, my profile isnt exactly blossoming with enticement

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
7 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"You get out what you put in.

Unfortunately as a single male profile your're one in a million on this site all vying for attention from a small sample size of ladies/couples who would meet males, but have a huge sample size to pick from and can afford to be picky.

C xoxo

A hard disagree on the first statement. No matter how thought-out a message is, you're lucky if it even gets opened.

Your second point is the real reason and explains the above. I can understand why some people get lazy and only send winks etc, because they don't think it's worth the effort when the odds are overwhelmingly stacked against them."

If the competition is fierce why do you understand that it's ok to be lazy and send a wink?

You have to up your game.

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By *entfootloverMan
7 weeks ago

Sevenoaks


"If the competition is fierce why do you understand that it's ok to be lazy and send a wink?

You have to up your game. "

I don't get lazy usually. I always send substantial messages. What do you suggest I do if they don't even get opened though?

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
7 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"If the competition is fierce why do you understand that it's ok to be lazy and send a wink?

You have to up your game.

I don't get lazy usually. I always send substantial messages. What do you suggest I do if they don't even get opened though? "

Revamp bio. Revamp pics for a start. Nothing wrong with them but perhaps it appeals to a small % of the lovely ladies on here?

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By *milyRose321TV/TS
7 weeks ago

Derry, Ireland


"Just seems that way to me. Certainly more wasters"

You have 5 meets this year?

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By *eyond PurityCouple
7 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

It’s harder when people can’t be truthful from the off.

Just spent time chatting to a guy only to tell us he is attached. Nothing in his profile states that.

Honesty is the biggest part for us when forming a connection.

K

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By *onynhannah OP   Man
7 weeks ago

WHITBY

I never judge anyone, thank god we are all different. I meet plenty of people in the lifestyle on my journeys. Not even having a moan because I am realistic. Things have just changed and not for the better.

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By *ik NaksCouple
7 weeks ago

Wigan


"It’s harder when people can’t be truthful from the off.

Just spent time chatting to a guy only to tell us he is attached. Nothing in his profile states that.

Honesty is the biggest part for us when forming a connection.

💯

K

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By *8on33Man
7 weeks ago

winfrith


"Not especially.

I find it very interesting most of these posts along the same theme are made by single male profiles, you rarely see a lady or couple posting similar to the above.

You get out what you put in.

Unfortunately as a single male profile your're one in a million on this site all vying for attention from a small sample size of ladies/couples who would meet males, but have a huge sample size to pick from and can afford to be picky.

C xoxoExactly you never see a lady or couple struggling here.

We struggle, but it is a different struggle.

I fancied meeting someone the other day- so I put up a meet and changed my status. Obviously I got a deluge of messages. I am very soecific in what I am looking for, age, body type, looks- and people still don’t read. I say no thanks and I get abuse. I get people being very pushy, demanding to know my hotel and room number (yeah, right! 😂😂😂😂) but in the end I got the meet with a person who fit exactly what I was looking for.

This is why I stay on Fab. There is a lot of sifting to do, but when it works, it is mindblowing. "

I get you get those that don't read profiles and I get that you get lots of messages to read but you have the luxury of choice .As you've said you recently met someone who was exactly what you wanted so well done you .

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By *xstaceyxxTV/TS
7 weeks ago

longeaton,

Tell me about it.

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By *d mirerMan
7 weeks ago

lost

Errrrrr

Quite simply

No

Not hard work at all , it’s fun , some you hit it off with some you don’t .

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By *aven.Woman
7 weeks ago

Not the North West...

It's you

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By *tephanie63Woman
7 weeks ago

BRIDGWATER

A single fella wasted his time messaging me this morning asking if I was "free to meet".

I deleted it unread. He further wasted his time replying and blocking....

So I would agree that there are lots of people wasting their own time by messaging people expecting instant meets..

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

7 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"If the competition is fierce why do you understand that it's ok to be lazy and send a wink?

You have to up your game.

I don't get lazy usually. I always send substantial messages. What do you suggest I do if they don't even get opened though? "

I always give the same advice to people.

Your message is nowhere near as important as your profile.

Most won't even read a message til they've looked you over and if there's nothing to interest or attract them they'll simply delete it.

The most finely tuned message in history would likely go unread if they're turned off by what the see in a profile or if it's obvious to them you're not compatible. 🤷‍♂️

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By *ik NaksCouple
7 weeks ago

Wigan


"A single fella wasted his time messaging me this morning asking if I was "free to meet".

I deleted it unread. He further wasted his time replying and blocking....

So I would agree that there are lots of people wasting their own time by messaging people expecting instant meets.."

💯

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By *arrington coupleCouple
7 weeks ago

Warrington


"Chatted for sometime arranged to meet over a week ago. Stayed in touch. Supposed to be meeting this morning. Woke up blocked

When you say 'chatted' do you mean just on here or on the phone/off site.

Restricting all pre meet contact to just messages leaves you more open to being let down in my experience.

The concept that someone would happily arrange to meet for sex yet not be willing to just talk on the phone before hand often baffles me.

You're essentially putting all your faith in words on a screen and some pictures. 🤷‍♂️"

We don't give out personal Numbers in here.

Did it once and Got weird phones calls at all hours from different numbers.. Had to block them all.

Never again.

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By *heonlycunnilinguyMan
7 weeks ago

Yeovil

I think people seem to have forgotten why they are here and it is not to sell content lol

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By *ik NaksCouple
7 weeks ago

Wigan


"Chatted for sometime arranged to meet over a week ago. Stayed in touch. Supposed to be meeting this morning. Woke up blocked

When you say 'chatted' do you mean just on here or on the phone/off site.

Restricting all pre meet contact to just messages leaves you more open to being let down in my experience.

The concept that someone would happily arrange to meet for sex yet not be willing to just talk on the phone before hand often baffles me.

You're essentially putting all your faith in words on a screen and some pictures. 🤷‍♂️

We don't give out personal Numbers in here.

Did it once and Got weird phones calls at all hours from different numbers.. Had to block them all.

Never again. "

Shame. If you want to text us our number is 07*********8 😘 xx

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By *hil most chillMan
7 weeks ago

South East & Europe

Never had this problem on the site. Although it's definitely hard work trawling through all the posts saying the site isn't as good as it used to be. Could be the problem is you?

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By *adyBugsWoman
7 weeks ago

cognito

Don’t ask me, I’m just here wasting time 🤷

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By *tlanshiaWoman
7 weeks ago

Chatham

Yeah it can be tedious.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

7 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Chatted for sometime arranged to meet over a week ago. Stayed in touch. Supposed to be meeting this morning. Woke up blocked

When you say 'chatted' do you mean just on here or on the phone/off site.

Restricting all pre meet contact to just messages leaves you more open to being let down in my experience.

The concept that someone would happily arrange to meet for sex yet not be willing to just talk on the phone before hand often baffles me.

You're essentially putting all your faith in words on a screen and some pictures. 🤷‍♂️

We don't give out personal Numbers in here.

Did it once and Got weird phones calls at all hours from different numbers.. Had to block them all.

Never again. "

I have a 'bat phone'. Cost me £5 a month for the sim.

Well worth it. I can count on one hand the number of fabbers who have my normal number.

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Covent Garden

I prefer the hard work. The rewards and the fulfillment more than offset it.

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By *onynhannah OP   Man
7 weeks ago

WHITBY

If you read the original post you would see. I'm asking is it me so it might well be me. Politeness and manners are something that are important to be. Seems those values are getting harder forto find

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"If you read the original post you would see. I'm asking is it me so it might well be me. Politeness and manners are something that are important to be. Seems those values are getting harder forto find"

What are you asking, OP?

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By *onynhannah OP   Man
7 weeks ago

WHITBY

Sorry for the mistakes in the grammar. I'm getting on a bit so its way past my bedtime

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

7 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

7 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"If you read the original post you would see. I'm asking is it me so it might well be me. Politeness and manners are something that are important to be. Seems those values are getting harder forto find"

Why do you think politeness and manners are hard to find?

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By *airyboxMan
7 weeks ago

sheffield


"Yes there is a lot more time wasters "

Yes I have to agree I am wasting loads of time just being here

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Isn't David Dickinson an attractive and incredibly sexy man

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By *airyboxMan
7 weeks ago

sheffield


"A single fella wasted his time messaging me this morning asking if I was "free to meet".

I deleted it unread. He further wasted his time replying and blocking....

So I would agree that there are lots of people wasting their own time by messaging people expecting instant meets.."

Maybe some people need a lesson in etiquette and manners. I mean who does instant meets? That’s like instant mash… nice idea but the effort of making things happen is a thousand times better

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By *hGlobbitsMan
7 weeks ago

Leeds

This site has *always* been hard work. Took me a good few years to start getting meets with any kind of regularity. I took a couple of years out when I became a dad and it's back to square one. Ho hum...

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I have half the site on block and things have calmed down a bit since...

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By *hrista BellendWoman
7 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yep, I wouldn't be here if not for chatting shit in the forums and socials

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By *onynhannah OP   Man
7 weeks ago

WHITBY

I disagree sorry

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

7 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I disagree sorry "

If you use the 'reply + quote' option it'll be clear who you're replying to.

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By *ohnny DeeeepMan
7 weeks ago

durham


"

So true. Also learn how to sense when women who are trying to be being polite with a luke warm response.

"

This also, if somebody doesn’t really put effort into a reply I leave them to it.

But sometimes you get another message a few days later asking if everything is alright.

Which could mean their better option fell through, or they were busy when they replied.

And then you can get into your head wondering if they are being honest or time wasting.

I don’t think it’s worth investing any hope until you’ve actually met someone and gained feedback of eachother after.

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By *iberius61Man
7 weeks ago

Pontefract

It's a bit disappointing but doesn't bother me too much. I've had decent conversations with people and then just as you're arranging a meet they disappear. It's disappointing, but we've usually had a good chat anyway.

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By *herry delightWoman
7 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

It becomes very hard work.

I keep hoping it will go back to the way it was a few years ago when people meet up to swing, not just talk about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Time wasters, content sellers, bullshitters etc

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By *ullsfan77Man
7 weeks ago

Torquay


"Chatted for sometime arranged to meet over a week ago. Stayed in touch. Supposed to be meeting this morning. Woke up blocked

When you say 'chatted' do you mean just on here or on the phone/off site.

Restricting all pre meet contact to just messages leaves you more open to being let down in my experience.

The concept that someone would happily arrange to meet for sex yet not be willing to just talk on the phone before hand often baffles me.

You're essentially putting all your faith in words on a screen and some pictures. 🤷‍♂️

We don't give out personal Numbers in here.

Did it once and Got weird phones calls at all hours from different numbers.. Had to block them all.

Never again. "

I completely understand reluctance to give out phone numbers. But also agree that it is a bit of a gamble just meeting someone on the back of messages from this site. I will take that gamble but I will mitigate it-social first, will not spend money booking into a hotel until I have met someone and nor will I go miles away. An hours (might stretch to 1.5) drive. No more. The time I have does not permit long distance meets anyway.

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By *iberius61Man
7 weeks ago

Pontefract

It's a bit disappointing but doesn't bother me too much. I've had decent conversations with people and then just as you're arranging a meet they disappear. It's disappointing, but we've usually had a good chat anyway.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
7 weeks ago

North West

Too many timewasters and too many people with their heads so far up their own arses.

But having said that, a lot of gems and brilliant people too on here.

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By *utterypopcornCouple
7 weeks ago

oxford

Mrs M has been stood up and ghosted twice when she went on her own for a social. So we totally get where you’re coming from OP.

Some people on here are just dreamers behind their keyboards.

I agree that anyone can change there minds but have the human decency to let the other party know.

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By *airybobMan
7 weeks ago

Telford

Very much like hard work ,I have enjoyed quite a few good meets over the years ,Took some time out (3 years) as I was meeting a couple who convinced me that they wanted to be exclusive ,It came to an unwelcome end and i ended up deleting my profile and making a new one

Since then I can’t even get a reply let alone a conversation going

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By *evourm3Man
7 weeks ago

London

It’s a game of Jumanji at the moment haha

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By *ee69Man
7 weeks ago

glasgow


"Mrs M has been stood up and ghosted twice when she went on her own for a social. So we totally get where you’re coming from OP.

Some people on here are just dreamers behind their keyboards.

I agree that anyone can change there minds but have the human decency to let the other party know. "

This one hundred percent

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By *moothdickMan
7 weeks ago

stoke

It’s been hard work for the last few years for many reasons, but I think the mobile forum is more difficult than chat rooms … but fakes, weirdos and egotisticals are on abundance…

Shame really, but hey ho, that’s life …

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Itslike hurding kittens at times. More narcissists here than a ricky geveous gig lol its defo changed alot in the last few years

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By *cflirtyMan
7 weeks ago

hants/ w sussex border

Yes I agree, and as a member of the 60+ club, it seems to be becoming quite ageist! So when the site supporter runs out, I think I will too

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"….….….…fakes, weirdos and egotisticals are on abundance…

Shame really, but hey ho, that’s life … "

All hail the ego-testicles!

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
7 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales


"….….….…fakes, weirdos and egotisticals are on abundance…

Shame really, but hey ho, that’s life …

All hail the ego-testicles! "

If there’s testicles involved then I’m in!

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod

7 weeks ago

O o O oo


"Yes I agree, and as a member of the 60+ club, it seems to be becoming quite ageist! So when the site supporter runs out, I think I will too "

It isn't ageist to not want to sleep with someone a certain age. When we were playing we would never have gone lower than a certain age.

Maybe they just don't like the involuntary groaning us oldies give out when we get up from the couch

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Covent Garden

She's got a Stannah™ Stairlift. Fåçt... ...⬆️

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"….….….…fakes, weirdos and egotisticals are on abundance…

Shame really, but hey ho, that’s life …

All hail the ego-testicles!

If there’s testicles involved then I’m in!"

If I was castrated would you love me any less? ♂️

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
7 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales


"….….….…fakes, weirdos and egotisticals are on abundance…

Shame really, but hey ho, that’s life …

All hail the ego-testicles!

If there’s testicles involved then I’m in!

If I was castrated would you love me any less? ♂️"

I can’t answer that right now, I need time to think.

🤔

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By *heonixrising500Man
7 weeks ago

Barnsley

Not as good as years ago

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"….….….…fakes, weirdos and egotisticals are on abundance…

Shame really, but hey ho, that’s life …

All hail the ego-testicles!

If there’s testicles involved then I’m in!

If I was castrated would you love me any less? ♂️

I can’t answer that right now, I need time to think.

🤔 "

·

When a lådy affords a man some of her "time" then it's all good. I like a woman who thinks. They are a rare form of crumpet.

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By *ndisMan
7 weeks ago

Liverpool


"You get out what you put in peeps!

No I get inundated with Spam / stupid messages from garbage "

It's be cause you are so fit!

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

I can’t work out if it’s time wasters dreaming of things never have guts to try

Or if it’s admin of site to keep people interested. As I’ve said if it’s was 95% guys profiles then we get bored and move on.

Same people on meets list all the time and never meet or last meet was 7 years ago

Out of last 15 profiles I’ve had chats with swaps pics, made sure we all want say things. When it gets down to meeting and you try arrange it, they start saying silly shit like, ow I didn’t realise you was under 6 ft or you didn’t send enough pics.

Only 1 has turned out to be genuine

Sad times, used to be class on here

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Totally agree with that and I’ve always said arranging to meet doesn’t guarantee things will happen

You can meet someone and instantly not like them or be out of by something

It’s the people who lead you down a path saying all the right things then when it comes to meeting face to face they like others have said either block you or find some stupid excuse which makes no sense, those are the time wasters and dreamers on here

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By *eturningagain2024Man
7 weeks ago

fife


"It's you"

Hahaha only started coming on the forums at the weekend, and I’m all for the Raven replies n here cracks me up, and mostly true 🤣🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Ya crease me

And it’s an opinion not a rant, ya know like an arse hole everyone has one !

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
7 weeks ago

My boudoir - S Wales


"….….….…fakes, weirdos and egotisticals are on abundance…

Shame really, but hey ho, that’s life …

All hail the ego-testicles!

If there’s testicles involved then I’m in!

If I was castrated would you love me any less? ♂️

I can’t answer that right now, I need time to think.

🤔

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When a lådy affords a man some of her "time" then it's all good. I like a woman who thinks. They are a rare form of crumpet."

Maybe if you were castrated and replaced the area with a crumpet I would love you even more. ☺️

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By *ustintime69Man
7 weeks ago

Bristol

Ten years ago it was fabulous darling….now it’s just a bit repetitive….or maybe that’s just me

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By *eroLondonMan
7 weeks ago

Covent Garden


"….….….…fakes, weirdos and egotisticals are on abundance…

Shame really, but hey ho, that’s life …

All hail the ego-testicles!

If there’s testicles involved then I’m in!

If I was castrated would you love me any less? ♂️

I can’t answer that right now, I need time to think.

🤔

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When a lådy affords a man some of her "time" then it's all good. I like a woman who thinks. They are a rare form of crumpet.

Maybe if you were castrated and replaced the area with a crumpet I would love you even more. ☺️ "

I love this answer. Even if it took her lådyship 11 hours to get back to me. 💘

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By *ngels_DemonsCouple
7 weeks ago

Stafford

Agree with this, that’s why I have my PA Lucifer ‘vet’ and deal with the admin…

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By *andadbodMan
7 weeks ago

Liverpool

you’re doing better than most single guys on here.

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By *8on33Man
7 weeks ago

winfrith


"Isn't David Dickinson an attractive and incredibly sexy man"

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By *asycouple1971Couple
7 weeks ago

midlands

Got to the stage where we don't meet anymore due to the fakes and timewasters

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By *onynhannah OP   Man
5 weeks ago

WHITBY

I would say at least 75% of people who express an interest have no intention of meeting

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By *lackjack1stMan
5 weeks ago

London


"Just seems that way to me. Certainly more wasters"

Since I have been on this site had one met with a Woman, who was hardly a great advert for the site.

Sent dozens of messages zero response.Have adapted the style in which most profiles are written .

Conversely, have meet a number of women on conventional dating websites women seem less full of themselves there.

Happy Fabbing as they seem to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago


"Just seems that way to me. Certainly more wasters

Since I have been on this site had one met with a Woman, who was hardly a great advert for the site.

Sent dozens of messages zero response.Have adapted the style in which most profiles are written .

Conversely, have meet a number of women on conventional dating websites women seem less full of themselves there.

Happy Fabbing as they seem to say. "

What makes a great advert?? And why did you meet?

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By *aughty driverMan
5 weeks ago

Romford

Planned a meet with a couple for them to cancel couple hours before. Arranged and paid for childcare and wasted my time chatting to them for a while too. Inconsiderate

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By *m3232Man
5 weeks ago

maidenhead

There is a element of people living in fantasy world and guys that get off on writing cheques their cock can’t pay

But you can get the occasional person that will talk and meet.

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By *elboy1978Man
5 weeks ago

Fellgate

It’s hard work trying to find a meet

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan
5 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent

I find not taking the site seriously is less stressful, it wouldn't be good for my mental Health if I did.

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By *sWyldWoman
5 weeks ago

Edinburgh

If you think this is hard, try online dating!

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan
5 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"If you think this is hard, try online dating! "
good lord I hate tinder.

Atleast i get to chat to people here. 🤣

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By *rHotNottsMan
5 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Maybe I'm to old for this now. Arranged a meet for this morning. Went to sleep woke up blocked. Is this normal behaviour "

That’s what happens when you get complacent & nap. Hopefully you’ve learned your lesson

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By *sWyldWoman
5 weeks ago

Edinburgh


"If you think this is hard, try online dating! good lord I hate tinder.

Atleast i get to chat to people here. 🤣 "

I do better here because people can't see my face

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By *ambridgezwingerMan
5 weeks ago

Cambridge

Probably best NOT to OVERTHINK it while using the site in a strategic manner so as to work to your advantage...

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By *ir Toot of the frostMan
5 weeks ago

Burton-on-Trent


"If you think this is hard, try online dating! good lord I hate tinder.

Atleast i get to chat to people here. 🤣

I do better here because people can't see my face "

🤣 im not sure if this is what you mean by that, but people on tinder and the likes can be right assholes.

I've had a couple of lovely messages....

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