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"It's very important to me, I won't kiss a face I don't want to look at. Attraction can grow from personality & getting close to someone. On here though it's harder the face is usually the last thing you see. Mrs " Face pic or no reply  | |||
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"Facial attraction is important for me. That’s not necessarily about traditional good looks but I have to find them attractive to play. A part of that attraction though will also be contributed by their personality, humour and approach. " Agree with this, facial attraction has to be there, but someone could be gorgeous with a personality of a potato which makes them not attractive then, good looks and good personality for the win, x | |||
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"Very. So many have a hot body and a face that just doesn't match. " This is what we mean when we say to each other, ‘nah sorry I’m not keen, they’re a bit of a shrimp’. Delicious body but the face ain’t nothing to write home about  | |||
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"Facial attraction is important for me. That’s not necessarily about traditional good looks but I have to find them attractive to play. A part of that attraction though will also be contributed by their personality, humour and approach. " This is a nutshell | |||
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"Facial attractiveness (on my personal attractiveness scale) is one of the most important things for me. But just being a gorgeous face isn't enough. You have to be a gorgeous person too. I'm obviously high maintenance or something. " I missed the second bit of the question. Its definitely possible to develop attraction to someone I wasn't immediately attracted to. I don't remember being attracted to Mr KC until I was and I can't pinpoint when or why something changed. | |||
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 I also think it’s possible to build or lose attraction to someone as you get to know them. But I think sexual chemistry is either there or it’s not. | |||
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"It’s essential that I’m physically attracted to them (both face and body) but physical attraction isn’t the only thing that matters. They also must be a decent person, good sense of humour, fun to talk to/spend time with, good in bed and well dressed. Longer term, they also need to be driven/ambitious, have similar morals and interests… I could keep going I also think it’s possible to build or lose attraction to someone as you get to know them. But I think sexual chemistry is either there or it’s not."Well said Agree with all that but especially the driven/ambitious as this is often overlooked or not mentioned yet it’s one of the most important things imho. Drive to succeed and achieve is an amazingly attractive trait | |||
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"It’s essential that I’m physically attracted to them (both face and body) but physical attraction isn’t the only thing that matters. They also must be a decent person, good sense of humour, fun to talk to/spend time with, good in bed and well dressed. Longer term, they also need to be driven/ambitious, have similar morals and interests… I could keep going I also think it’s possible to build or lose attraction to someone as you get to know them. But I think sexual chemistry is either there or it’s not.
Well said Agree with all that but especially the driven/ambitious as this is often overlooked or not mentioned yet it’s one of the most important things imho. Drive to succeed and achieve is an amazingly attractive trait "Yep I agree. Wealth or status doesn’t bother me in the slightest but ambition, drive, having a skill or trade, showing commitment to something you’re passionate about and having your shit together are all very attractive qualities. | |||
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"It’s essential that I’m physically attracted to them (both face and body) but physical attraction isn’t the only thing that matters. They also must be a decent person, good sense of humour, fun to talk to/spend time with, good in bed and well dressed. Longer term, they also need to be driven/ambitious, have similar morals and interests… I could keep going I also think it’s possible to build or lose attraction to someone as you get to know them. But I think sexual chemistry is either there or it’s not.
Well said Agree with all that but especially the driven/ambitious as this is often overlooked or not mentioned yet it’s one of the most important things imho. Drive to succeed and achieve is an amazingly attractive trait "We've been together since we were at school so we didn't really have any idea about the other's work ethic or intended profession. It's not the be all and end all, certainly. | |||
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"Physical attraction is the primary driver. It's an instant thing, the 'spark' or "wow factor". Not saying personality cannot become attractive but until you interact with someone you can't witness their personality. No one had ever walked down the street and thought "look at the personality on him/her" and felt attraction. Think most of us have had furtive second glances at the "beautiful people" though and felt very attractive. So yes physical attraction is very important. Mrs x" This is Gospel  | |||
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"Physical attraction is the primary driver. It's an instant thing, the 'spark' or "wow factor". Not saying personality cannot become attractive but until you interact with someone you can't witness their personality. No one had ever walked down the street and thought "look at the personality on him/her" and felt attraction. Think most of us have had furtive second glances at the "beautiful people" though and felt very attractive. So yes physical attraction is very important. Mrs x" I think you can a huge amount about someone’s personality by their face, their eyes where they look - up, down, unable to hold eye contact etc. Classically beautiful people aren’t always attractive , pretty privilege often results in not so nice , and not so smart people | |||
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"It’s essential that I’m physically attracted to them (both face and body) but physical attraction isn’t the only thing that matters. They also must be a decent person, good sense of humour, fun to talk to/spend time with, good in bed and well dressed. Longer term, they also need to be driven/ambitious, have similar morals and interests… I could keep going I also think it’s possible to build or lose attraction to someone as you get to know them. But I think sexual chemistry is either there or it’s not.
Well said Agree with all that but especially the driven/ambitious as this is often overlooked or not mentioned yet it’s one of the most important things imho. Drive to succeed and achieve is an amazingly attractive trait
We've been together since we were at school so we didn't really have any idea about the other's work ethic or intended profession. It's not the be all and end all, certainly. "It’s a bit different back then nobody has that mentality at that age, it’s something that becomes more important the older we get in my opinion not so important at 20, but at 41 I wouldn’t entertain the idea of seriously dating someone who hasn’t got their shit together by that age | |||
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"It’s essential that I’m physically attracted to them (both face and body) but physical attraction isn’t the only thing that matters. They also must be a decent person, good sense of humour, fun to talk to/spend time with, good in bed and well dressed. Longer term, they also need to be driven/ambitious, have similar morals and interests… I could keep going I also think it’s possible to build or lose attraction to someone as you get to know them. But I think sexual chemistry is either there or it’s not.
Well said Agree with all that but especially the driven/ambitious as this is often overlooked or not mentioned yet it’s one of the most important things imho. Drive to succeed and achieve is an amazingly attractive trait
We've been together since we were at school so we didn't really have any idea about the other's work ethic or intended profession. It's not the be all and end all, certainly.
It’s a bit different back then nobody has that mentality at that age, it’s something that becomes more important the older we get in my opinion not so important at 20, but at 41 I wouldn’t entertain the idea of seriously dating someone who hasn’t got their shit together by that age"I suppose that's fair. Not having any experience or intention of looking for a life partner at almost-40 means I probably am unqualified to comment | |||
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"It’s essential that I’m physically attracted to them (both face and body) but physical attraction isn’t the only thing that matters. They also must be a decent person, good sense of humour, fun to talk to/spend time with, good in bed and well dressed. Longer term, they also need to be driven/ambitious, have similar morals and interests… I could keep going I also think it’s possible to build or lose attraction to someone as you get to know them. But I think sexual chemistry is either there or it’s not.
Well said Agree with all that but especially the driven/ambitious as this is often overlooked or not mentioned yet it’s one of the most important things imho. Drive to succeed and achieve is an amazingly attractive trait
We've been together since we were at school so we didn't really have any idea about the other's work ethic or intended profession. It's not the be all and end all, certainly.
It’s a bit different back then nobody has that mentality at that age, it’s something that becomes more important the older we get in my opinion not so important at 20, but at 41 I wouldn’t entertain the idea of seriously dating someone who hasn’t got their shit together by that age
I suppose that's fair. Not having any experience or intention of looking for a life partner at almost-40 means I probably am unqualified to comment "thats a very good position to be, in it’s not all that fun looking at this age as each year older you get feels like chances reduces | |||
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"It’s essential that I’m physically attracted to them (both face and body) but physical attraction isn’t the only thing that matters. They also must be a decent person, good sense of humour, fun to talk to/spend time with, good in bed and well dressed. Longer term, they also need to be driven/ambitious, have similar morals and interests… I could keep going I also think it’s possible to build or lose attraction to someone as you get to know them. But I think sexual chemistry is either there or it’s not.
Well said Agree with all that but especially the driven/ambitious as this is often overlooked or not mentioned yet it’s one of the most important things imho. Drive to succeed and achieve is an amazingly attractive trait
Yep I agree. Wealth or status doesn’t bother me in the slightest but ambition, drive, having a skill or trade, showing commitment to something you’re passionate about and having your shit together are all very attractive qualities. "1000% | |||
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"How honestly important is it that your partner is typically attractive (in the face)? Does your attraction to someone depend on things other than looks? Can your attraction develop towards someone you aren’t that instantly sexually attracted to? (Inspired by MAFS)" I have a slight disconnect between aesthetic attraction and sexual attraction. The latter has multiple elements that make it up. I need to be intellectually attracted to someone, and there also needs to be chemistry, alongside finding them physically attractive for sexual attraction for me. | |||
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