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Do people take advantage of ones kindness?

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
17 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

I was reading an open debate and I want to see how you see it.

This is what it was about: Really? It must be true that when you love a person the most and give them the best of yourself, that is when they disappoint you the most.

There was a mix of responses of yes and no. I agreed with one who said that people who receive a lot are selfish and take advantage of the fact that they know they have you, but things change when you stop paying attention to them and you are the one in charge.

It would be interesting to see what you think of it and do you also agree that people take advantage of ones kindness too?

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By *ell GwynnWoman
17 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

Certain types of people might. But it's our responsibility to keep firm and healthy boundaries for our own wellbeing and self-respect. You can be kind and not a mug. I speak as a former mug.

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By *agatoXXXMan
17 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

You have to be kind for that to happen.👹

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By *ife NinjaMan
17 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Sometimes. Maybe I should be a right bastard instead (unlikely to be fair. I'd give you the shirt off my back)

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By (user no longer on site)
17 weeks ago

Best to be a heartless bitch.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
17 weeks ago

Tamworth


"Certain types of people might. But it's our responsibility to keep firm and healthy boundaries for our own wellbeing and self-respect. You can be kind and not a mug. I speak as a former mug."

I love this answer.

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By *ayRyuMan
17 weeks ago

Harrogate

There's plenty who will and plenty who will allow it to happen as well.

It's like Nell says. Set your own boundaries and make sure you don't allow anyone to cross them.

You need to protect your own mental wellbeing as the majority won't care as long as they get what they want!

May sound negative, but it's the unfortunate reality of actually trying to be nice to people.

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By *ripfillMan
17 weeks ago

Paris, New York, Hong Kong and Havant

I like to give and be kind it’s in my inner nature the best thing I can give is time .. and being able to listen …

however …. Not be made a fool out of … it can happen once !!

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
17 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
17 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.


"Certain types of people might. But it's our responsibility to keep firm and healthy boundaries for our own wellbeing and self-respect. You can be kind and not a mug. I speak as a former mug."
Hi nell, yes, you are right there, it is our responsibility too

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
17 weeks ago

East Sussex

Being kind is one thing, being a push over is another.

Saying you're being taken advantage of while continuing to do the things asked of you is a bit daft.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
17 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.


"Best to be a heartless bitch.

"
Hi raven, yes, that is one way too

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
17 weeks ago

Central

Some people will take advantage of others. Some also play psychological games, with both potentially doing so, outside of awareness

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By *agatoXXXMan
17 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.


"Best to be a heartless bitch.

"

We would expect nothing less of you.

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
17 weeks ago

Norwich


"Certain types of people might. But it's our responsibility to keep firm and healthy boundaries for our own wellbeing and self-respect. You can be kind and not a mug. I speak as a former mug."

Sometimes I feel like a mug too. To be fair I think most people don’t always realise when they are taking advantage and will accept a reminder.

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By *tephanie63Woman
17 weeks ago

BRIDGWATER

I was very kind to someone I was dating back along, helping them with medical issues ect. They got d*unk and went back to an ex....The next person I was dating did similar but with a work colleague.

I feel very much my kindness was taken the piss out of...

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By *ourtney CocksWoman
17 weeks ago

fabland

In the past it have happened & now I’m soooo guarded I don’t let anyone get close enough to try it really burdens me now

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
17 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.


"Some people will take advantage of others. Some also play psychological games, with both potentially doing so, outside of awareness "
Yes, some will also play those games too.

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By *ellhungvweMan
17 weeks ago

Cheltenham

Do _some_ people take advantage of a kind nature? Yes of course they do.

Do _most_ people take advantage? No they don’t.

I go with the world view that most people are decent. The upsides from that far outweigh the costs of the minority who abuse it.

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