FabSwingers.com forum: I shouldn't be so surprised.

By *ittlemiss1985 OP Woman
15 weeks ago

Lansing

Kinda just need to get this off my chest so I can feel better, and feel Fab is a more understanding place for something like this

So earlier this year I started hanging out with my ex (should have known better) after his long term girlfriend dumped him. Periodicly we'd send each other suggestive texts.

We made plans last week to hang out this past Monday. Friday he texts saying he needed a massage, especially in the front. It didn't get too racy but had a bit of fun and confirmed we were meeting up on Monday.

I ended up having a sex dream about him the night before, but I just couldn't find a way to bring it up face to face. I ended up texting him about it on Tuesday. He seemed to be really into it until I made a joke about being a bad girl and needed to be spanked.

He did a 180 and went on a rant about being loyal to his ex and how he wants to be back with her.

I shouldn't be be so surprised he sent mixed signals and communicated since that was a major issue when we were together.

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By *uperS77Man
15 weeks ago

Gloucester

"Kinda just need to get this off my chest so I can feel better, and feel Fab is a more understanding place for something like this

So earlier this year I started hanging out with my ex (should have known better) after his long term girlfriend dumped him. Periodicly we'd send each other suggestive texts.

He did a 180 and went on a rant about being loyal to his ex and how he wants to be back with her.

I shouldn't be be so surprised he sent mixed signals and communicated since that was a major issue when we were together."

Remember there is a reason he is your ex

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
15 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

Good morning O.P. Or what ever time it is where you are.

What you describe must have been a shock to you and hurt also.

It's a situation of life that you met and have to get over.

In the huge expanse of things you were two organisms colliding and separating. Nothing more - same as everyone is.

In human terms you were his rebound. A friend with benefits. Someone he needed temporarily.

I'm wishing you happiness as you move on.

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By *ittlemiss1985 OP Woman
15 weeks ago

Lansing

" Remember there is a reason he is your ex

Yea, I should of known better with him. Just glad I'm the one to walk away this time. Already deleted his number and took him off social media.

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

Sounds like you dodged a bullet there OP. He’s an ex for a reason x I hope you find someone else to have some fun with that will make you feel special x

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
15 weeks ago

Coventry

I don't think you should feel bad or anything. You tested the waters and seeked out an opportunity. He in the process revealed himself to be a bit of a mess and it's not the sort of bull shit you should entertain. So don't feel bad, you know now, move on. I would also recommend you block and cut all communication with him from now on.

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By *ittlemiss1985 OP Woman
15 weeks ago

Lansing

"I don't think you should feel bad or anything. You tested the waters and seeked out an opportunity. He in the process revealed himself to be a bit of a mess and it's not the sort of bull shit you should entertain. So don't feel bad, you know now, move on. I would also recommend you block and cut all communication with him from now on.

Mr"

I have

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By *lofeldMan
15 weeks ago

Redhill

Mr"

This. And make sure you're strong enough to stick to it, as inevitably he'll be back.

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By *irthandgirthMan
15 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Sorry to hear this OP. I think it's perfectly normal to have thoughts, get wistful about an ex and it's also easy to forget the negatives sometimes.

I hope you take some comfort in that you were able to control the blocking, and also you did it before you got physical and possibly more emotionally invested.

The block/delete is definitely a great move.

Onwards and upwards

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By *rHotNottsMan
15 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I’m sure you know this , but it’s likely he’ll be texting again next time he’s horny and not getting any

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By *icecouple561Couple
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15 weeks ago

East Sussex

Next time he contacts you reread the second paragraph of your op. Especially the bit where you say you should have known better, just to remind yourself.

Good on you for deleting him

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By *ittlemiss1985 OP Woman
15 weeks ago

Lansing

"Next time he contacts you reread the second paragraph of your op. Especially the bit where you say you should have known better, just to remind yourself.

Good on you for deleting him

Thanks I will

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By *lueLotusWoman
15 weeks ago

the wilderness

It sucks. I hope you're doing something lovely for yourself today like a nice bubble bath with wine, or ice cream, maybe cuddling yourself up in a soft blanket with some Netflix and treats, and nursing your tender broken heart with care and compassion for yourself. Knowing you took a chance and it didn't work but that's ok,and you deserve better.

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By *ittlemiss1985 OP Woman
15 weeks ago

Lansing

"It sucks. I hope you're doing something lovely for yourself today like a nice bubble bath with wine, or ice cream, maybe cuddling yourself up in a soft blanket with some Netflix and treats, and nursing your tender broken heart with care and compassion for yourself. Knowing you took a chance and it didn't work but that's ok,and you deserve better. "

Yea I think today is going to be reading some spooky library books and having some beer.

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By *ife NinjaMan
15 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Get back on the horse. A different one. With some heart

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