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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

good afternoon all, im finding that the majority of people on here are spread out all over the country, but as im from the 2nd biggest city in the uk still find it a bit miffing that theres not really many ladies from birmingham on here...and im assuming those that are im not thier type ahh well c`est la vie..not a moan as such, just an observation....anybody else finding all the sexy up for it people live far away?

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Hell do a search on birmingham you will find 100s

Guess your just exspecting not to have to put eny effort into looking and that what your looking for is gonna be just round the corner from you.

You only get out of this site what you put into it.

Steve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hunni as a single male you are one of thousands on here and you have to put the effort in to get results. We wont come to you!! Get in chat get yourslef known, and being verified helps us singlies know you are genuine and not a timewaster who only joined for chat and cheap thrills.

Get writing to people and make them laugh, after all foreplay starts in the mind way before you reach the bedroom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi there! I know just how you feel, I'm from Plymouth and it's just as bad down here.

I find it's better to concentrate on the couples who are willing to meet a single guy.

Best of luck!

Alan

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are just looking for women -alot of us on here come with a partner. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

welcome and good luck.

maybe take longer than a week tho.. but seriously, keep chatting and am sure yu will be cool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with what has already been said by the other guys, it takes alot of effort, and a lot of rejections too, but if you keep at it you will be rewarded in the end.

Think about what you say in your profile and what you say when you approach people. Look at what people are looking for and try your best to address this when you approcah someone.

I decided to set up a gangang team, and approached singles and couples that were interested in GB's.

Plan an event and see if you get any interest, also I see you have blocked messages from single blokes, I understand it might get on your nerves if guys keep approaching you, but on the otherhand, some of us may be able to help you find a Lady to play with or invite you to a party etc.

Keep positive, and put some extra work in, and remeber you are one of 1000's of single guys on Fab so what you say needs to shine like a diamond ring to catch a Lady's eye.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some excellent advice given already. For single men it is harder so you really do need to stand out. This is an excellent site and caters for all. Be patient, get yourself noticed without being pushy, and do make sure you read the profiles to ensure you're what people are looking for. Enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"welcome and good luck.

maybe take longer than a week tho.. but seriously, keep chatting and am sure yu will be cool

"

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Some single men are lucky to get meets months after they have joined, so keep on searching and contacting people.

As already mentioned by the others, be prepared to travel!

Also, try not to moan and groan, as peeps are put off by moaners!

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thankyou all for the advice, i will say im not the type who expects ladies to come looking as im a realist was simply saying that the ladies who i have chatted with on here are far away, therefore makes taking anything further more difficult, i do understand that simply saying hello is not going to have an army of ladies competing to get me lol, just making an observation was all i was doing, thanks again though for all advice xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"good afternoon all, im finding that the majority of people on here are spread out all over the country, but as im from the 2nd biggest city in the uk still find it a bit miffing that theres not really many ladies from birmingham on here...and im assuming those that are im not thier type ahh well c`est la vie..not a moan as such, just an observation....anybody else finding all the sexy up for it people live far away?"

You give some of us a bad name winging like this. All things worth having in life are worth putting some effort into including travelling.

Make more effort and be prepared to travel. If you cant then your loss.

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By *artin216Man
over a year ago

Spilsby

You could just set up a commune....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

oh and please do remember what it was like for you when you were brand new to this thing please im sure i will make mistakes and say the wrong things my thread being a good example lol, came across as moaning but never meant as such xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"oh and please do remember what it was like for you when you were brand new to this thing please im sure i will make mistakes and say the wrong things my thread being a good example lol, came across as moaning but never meant as such xxx"

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Good, you are taking notice of the advice given, which is a very encouraging sign!

Hang out in the forums, especially the Lounge, as it is quite fun. Hopefully, you'd get to know people and eventually meet them at a social near you soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"good afternoon all, im finding that the majority of people on here are spread out all over the country, but as im from the 2nd biggest city in the uk still find it a bit miffing that theres not really many ladies from birmingham on here...and im assuming those that are im not thier type ahh well c`est la vie..not a moan as such, just an observation....anybody else finding all the sexy up for it people live far away?

You give some of us a bad name winging like this. All things worth having in life are worth putting some effort into including travelling.

Make more effort and be prepared to travel. If you cant then your loss.

"

give the guy a break its hard enough being a newbie and having noone to ask advise from, but to get slated for asking is wrong!!!

Keep your chin up hun some of us arent bah humbugs. And will give constructive advise if you need it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thankyou bettyboo was a bit daunting reading some of the replies but i suppose its better to ask and find out rather than say nothing and be unsure, will think any future threads through fully before posting, . thankyou to you and everyone else for the positive advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

your more than welcome hunni. And if you dont want to ask in the forum then im sure plenty of us who have posted would not mind you mailing us for advise. We were all newbies at one point too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no offence meant by my reply

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont think anyone took offence to your comment hun , you gave constructive advise. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, never had that problem funnily enough. There are loads of them right on our doorstep.

And we live in a realtively out of the way kind of place - strange

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"im sure i will make mistakes and say the wrong things my thread being a good example lol, came across as moaning but never meant as such xxx"

Take no notice of the negative comments some people find it difficult to cope with competition!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

had the chap been local lol , I would have kidnapped him ..... ya got to ensure no competition..

birmingham miles away ....... so get oot shagging lad and give em one from me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"good afternoon all, im finding that the majority of people on here are spread out all over the country, but as im from the 2nd biggest city in the uk still find it a bit miffing that theres not really many ladies from birmingham on here...and im assuming those that are im not thier type ahh well c`est la vie..not a moan as such, just an observation....anybody else finding all the sexy up for it people live far away?

You give some of us a bad name winging like this. All things worth having in life are worth putting some effort into including travelling.

Make more effort and be prepared to travel. If you cant then your loss.

"

Whinging? well constructed serious post if you ask me

The op was asking a relevant question not whinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

had the chap been local lol , I would have kidnapped him ..... ya got to ensure no competition..

birmingham miles away ....... so get oot shagging lad and give em one from me. "

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You are sooooooo easily pleased! Tart!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Tart! "

you say the kindest things ....... cheers

am chuffed xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, when I first read the OP's post, I thought, not again, another newbie single male moaning about lack of meets, that much is true!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"your more than welcome hunni. And if you dont want to ask in the forum then im sure plenty of us who have posted would not mind you mailing us for advise. We were all newbies at one point too."

Awww Jen you showing your maternal side again, xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Tart!

you say the kindest things ....... cheers

am chuffed xxxx "

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Only the truth as I see it!

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By *im53Man
over a year ago

Boldon

my first thing is keep trying

some times it takes mths to get known

on here

but start to make friends first ( its not wildly known but the ladies chat amongst them selfs on here )

and word spreads about a nice guy.

if at my age i can get loads of fun cant see why you cant too

good luck jim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"good afternoon all, im finding that the majority of people on here are spread out all over the country, but as im from the 2nd biggest city in the uk still find it a bit miffing that theres not really many ladies from birmingham on here...and im assuming those that are im not thier type ahh well c`est la vie..not a moan as such, just an observation....anybody else finding all the sexy up for it people live far away?

You give some of us a bad name winging like this. All things worth having in life are worth putting some effort into including travelling.

Make more effort and be prepared to travel. If you cant then your loss.

Whinging? well constructed serious post if you ask me

The op was asking a relevant question not whinging "
Exactly what I thought! Didnt see it as a whine at all but someone genuinely seeking advice. Hope the advice helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank goodness there are still members of the Swinging Community who have the grace and good manners to offer costructive and positive advice, and not just be rude!

We were all new here once upon a time, and I am still greatful to the Site Members who took me under their wings.

As a community we should be haapy to sponsor a new member and offer them the necessaary advice and support when they need it.

Any lady who gets to me this young man will have an excelent time as he understands that the largets sexual organ is the brain, not a large cock, and will be able to engage with his partner on a much higher level, and not just reply to an af with the usual st8 response " Wanna Fuck"

Good luck mate!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"your more than welcome hunni. And if you dont want to ask in the forum then im sure plenty of us who have posted would not mind you mailing us for advise. We were all newbies at one point too.

Awww Jen you showing your maternal side again, xxxxxx"

Cant help it lol i was lucky enough to have someone offer me the same advise when i first started off as a newbie and i will forever be grateful for there advise and i feel its only fair to offer the same back lol plus im looking for brownie points from the big man as i was on the naughty list this year - AGAIN!!!!!

But im also getting fed up of looking at these forums and any genuine question gets turned into a joke by certain trolls, and people wonder why folk dont want to post, like the person on top of me states we are meant to be a community and sometimes it feels like them and us. RANT OVER

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

There are lots of things happeneing in birmingham, just have a lil patience and im sure it will happen for you...good luck and happy swinging!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i have to say thanks yet again to the members who (even though they didnt have to) have gone out of thier way to welcome and reassure me and make me feel welcome, its not unappreciated and special thanks to those who messaged me privatley and gave me invaluable pointers and tips. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well there's a fair bit of advice given here, but when it comes down to it, it's down to you to help yourself. You live in Birmingham, right in the centre of the country. There are loads of clubs and social events right on your doorstep. You might have to travel a bit, but hey, we have to drive 95 miles just to get to Exeter ! Just think of the single guys down here, they can travel 50 miles and still be in a field, lol. You are on the edge of the Black Country, my home town, and I know it's full of couples and single ladies who meet single guys.

Get yourself along to some socials, write to people on the site, join the debates in here and get yourself known. As Jenny has already said, there are loads of people here on the site who would be happy to help you. Best of luck xxxxx

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