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"For us we have to have a connection so "fuck now" does absolutely nothing for us apart from us hitting the block button. Lots of single guys don't read profiles either. But saying that we have met some really nice single guys. " Your profile is very straight forward to what you both like and are looking for your pics are sexy and you look great. Me personally want the giggles and friendship to enhance the excitement and the passion. Trust is massive | |||
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"For us we have to have a connection so "fuck now" does absolutely nothing for us apart from us hitting the block button. Lots of single guys don't read profiles either. But saying that we have met some really nice single guys. " We can relate xx | |||
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"For us we have to have a connection so "fuck now" does absolutely nothing for us apart from us hitting the block button. Lots of single guys don't read profiles either. But saying that we have met some really nice single guys. We can relate xx " Iv also found through chatting to people that some couples are seeking more of a performing seal type in so and leave | |||
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"We are always looking for single males Mrs "But I'm still to old for you & too far away  | |||
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"Nice thread. For us it’s a challenge to find the right single guy. Must be bi and not just saying it for the chance of a meet. Ideally, happy to just chat and see what happens, like others we have to have a connection as it gives us trust. We also want to find a guy who understands that we don’t need a bull or for him to think he’s doing something that we can’t already do, we’re just adding to all our fun. Sadly, we’ve met very few guys who fit this bill.. " If everyone was honest it would be so much more enjoyable. Nothing worse that chatting and thinking this could work and be fun then the ghosting starts | |||
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"To be honest, we see loads of profiles and threads like this. Not having a dig at above… It’s all about them wanting a meet. What do they bring to the table though..? Let’s see a guys profile where it’s not all about them. Why should we choose you.? You need to stand out to even start the process. " Sounds like the current job market | |||
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"To be honest, we see loads of profiles and threads like this. Not having a dig at above… It’s all about them wanting a meet. What do they bring to the table though..? Let’s see a guys profile where it’s not all about them. Why should we choose you.? You need to stand out to even start the process. " Happy to chat to local couple to see what happens. No expectations. | |||
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"You guys get to meet couples? "This is what this thread is primarily for. Can ask for advice etc. a general idea of what your doing well and not so well | |||
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"You guys get to meet couples?
This is what this thread is primarily for. Can ask for advice etc. a general idea of what your doing well and not so well "I’ve swung since 2004. I found meeting couples easier when I was 29 back then. I’m 50 now. | |||
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"We are on the hunt for a single gent - we had a FWB for a year who set the bar high. We look for a good connection, someone who isn’t too far away and fits our dynamics and preferences (and we fit theirs) and who is willing to spend time to build a connection. Sadly a lot of guys just want instant gratification and can’t converse. I’ll bet my life we’ll get someone just sending a message in response to this thread who will just say ‘hi’ 👀 You have a great profile I hope you find what you are looking for. Patience is the key I’m sure you will have many of admirers K" | |||
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"This is just a relaxed chat for normal friendly guys seeking couples let’s get to know each other with no expectations and dramas " Good thread OP this will be interesting to see where this goes. I am genuinely interested in striking up friendships with couples on here to see where it goes. | |||
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"Absolutely this. No attraction no playing. Neither of us take one for the team lol. Why do guys put straight on their profile but message saying they are bi? " We just think they are faking it think it will get them at the fem. | |||
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"Absolutely this. No attraction no playing. Neither of us take one for the team lol. Why do guys put straight on their profile but message saying they are bi? We just think they are faking it think it will get them at the fem. " Do you get a load of guys lie tomyou then? | |||
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"Sadly, we’ve blocked single males otherwise the relentless amount of single line or even single word messages is unbearable. We reach out when we feel the need and chat through the forums. There are a few shining lights and we have some good friends already but always looking for the exceptional. " You have a great profile and look very attractive. Let’s hope you can sort out the time wasters and find what you are looking for. Personally think you will have no problems | |||
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"Keep the faith!! There are genuine,good guys out there. For me, you just have to be respectful of the fact that you are meeting a couple I.e. two people not just the woman who happens to be there with a guy. It's important to make a connection with both of them. The whole idea is that it's a way for everyone to have a really good time, and you need to build up a bit of trust to do that. ....and the onus is absolutely on the single guy to show that's he's worthy of joining and understanding of the dynamic that's in play!!!" completely agree I try to take the lead from the male as to what is acceptable with the wife’s needs. I’d hate to look as if I’m too cocky and demanding. Simple unobtrusive questions helps a lot | |||
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Decided to unblock single guys since our last post.
Have received several ‘heys’ a single ‘WYU2’ and even a ‘sup’…
It’s just such hard work to deal with…
Filter back on.. | |||
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"For us we have to have a connection so "fuck now" does absolutely nothing for us apart from us hitting the block button. Lots of single guys don't read profiles either. But saying that we have met some really nice single guys. " Yes but sometimes Fuck now Really hits the spot | |||
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Decided to unblock single guys since our last post.
Have received several ‘heys’ a single ‘WYU2’ and even a ‘sup’…
It’s just such hard work to deal with…
Filter back on.. "It’s as if they are not really trying not sincerely wanted anything from it | |||
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"For us we have to have a connection so "fuck now" does absolutely nothing for us apart from us hitting the block button. Lots of single guys don't read profiles either. But saying that we have met some really nice single guys. Yes but sometimes Fuck now Really hits the spot " Jesus very blunt | |||
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"Hey guys.....we aren't always looking for single males but it would be nice to chat to some who are genuine. We always say face pic for our first message, nothing worse than receiving a dick pic and not knowing who’s on the other end lol.. respectful chat addressing us both is a big plus. We do this for us both not just for one sided pleasure "Yeah I always keep the conversation directed between everyone. Everyone has to be comfortable and relaxed | |||
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Decided to unblock single guys since our last post.
Have received several ‘heys’ a single ‘WYU2’ and even a ‘sup’…
It’s just such hard work to deal with…
Filter back on.. "Ok, I have to ask....... What the actual fuck does WYU2 mean? Appreciate I might be showing my age (or more favourably my degree of education) there | |||
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"Wow.... Given most phone keyboards have swipe typing, surely it takes longer to do the shorter version??? Youths today "And what do they expect the answer to be. I’m waiting for your message naked and ready for you lol | |||
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"So what kind of messages do couples like to receive from the single guys. We are all aware hi how’s you etc are simply not good enough. What do the couples want the first msg to be like ? " We don’t want war and peace as we’ll look at pics and a profile first and if there’s no interest in those, it probably doesn’t matter what is in the message. I would say that a lot of guys fail at the first hurdle as they either write a lengthy message and then have no pics and profile write up. Or they’ll send dick pics with their message which is a complete no. If you’re going to message, ensure your profile is good too and you have some pics (not of your cock) - it’s simple but I’d say 90% of guys fail on the 3 things people would hope someone has on here - a good profile, appealing pics and a nice message. K | |||
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"For us we have to have a connection so "fuck now" does absolutely nothing for us apart from us hitting the block button. Lots of single guys don't read profiles either. But saying that we have met some really nice single guys. " We are same like that. We are not actively looking for single men. However, we are open for a single man to join us at a private party, group of friends, and to play with mrs. Men need to understand that "fuck me now" don't work. The women need to tune in, because the women are not cold sex machines, and they are not sexual objects. | |||
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"For us we have to have a connection so "fuck now" does absolutely nothing for us apart from us hitting the block button. Lots of single guys don't read profiles either. But saying that we have met some really nice single guys. We are same like that. We are not actively looking for single men. However, we are open for a single man to join us at a private party, group of friends, and to play with mrs. Men need to understand that "fuck me now" don't work. The women need to tune in, because the women are not cold sex machines, and they are not sexual objects." That’s great advice. | |||
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"Same I try to tailor it in with there profile and likes etc. " It pains me when I read some of the stuff some guys send to women or couples like they and being some originality in to it… | |||
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"Morning Op i like the hassle free idea" Yeah we just need to interact with interested couples. They have a vast amount of guys to choose from | |||
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"We have read some sensible and intelligent comments here on the forum. We thought we'd give it a try. We turned off the single men filter. In the first period, we received some valuable messages. We liked this, and we saw a possible continuation in it. Then "Hi", "sex now" etc. appeared en masse. And the cock pictures... Especially in the early morning hours. We thought again. Do we need this? Not. Single men filter has been switched back on. Experience. What is the single man's enemy? Your own self. They make each other's lives difficult by this approach." But we are not all the same and when it happens it’s terrible I understand. I try to read the conversation and follow the lead somewhat in the person I’m talking to as not to overstep the mark | |||
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"We have read some sensible and intelligent comments here on the forum. We thought we'd give it a try. We turned off the single men filter. In the first period, we received some valuable messages. We liked this, and we saw a possible continuation in it. Then "Hi", "sex now" etc. appeared en masse. And the cock pictures... Especially in the early morning hours. We thought again. Do we need this? Not. Single men filter has been switched back on. Experience. What is the single man's enemy? Your own self. They make each other's lives difficult by this approach. But we are not all the same and when it happens it’s terrible I understand. I try to read the conversation and follow the lead somewhat in the person I’m talking to as not to overstep the mark "  Respect. | |||
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"We have read some sensible and intelligent comments here on the forum. We thought we'd give it a try. We turned off the single men filter. In the first period, we received some valuable messages. We liked this, and we saw a possible continuation in it. Then "Hi", "sex now" etc. appeared en masse. And the cock pictures... Especially in the early morning hours. We thought again. Do we need this? Not. Single men filter has been switched back on. Experience. What is the single man's enemy? Your own self. They make each other's lives difficult by this approach." From my experience with our couples profile, a lot of guys think when joining that swinging is just a free for all sexathon. There’s no connection required and sex is instant, nothing can be further from the truth, couples and women need to have some sort of connection with the person they’re going to play with, connection of the minds I say, anything else is a bonus, but they just don’t get it and the frustrations quickly show when they don’t get a reply. Some of the messages my wife used to get on her profile were truely shocking, it’s like men had no comprehension on how to talk properly, and those she politely turned down, came back with the most abuse. That’s why I never message first anymore, women or couples who are looking for a single guy will hopefully find something appealing in my profile and message first….. we’ll that’s the hope anyway 😊 | |||
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" We don’t want war and peace as we’ll look at pics and a profile first and if there’s no interest in those, it probably doesn’t matter what is in the message. I would say that a lot of guys fail at the first hurdle as they either write a lengthy message and then have no pics and profile write up. Or they’ll send dick pics with their message which is a complete no. If you’re going to message, ensure your profile is good too and you have some pics (not of your cock) - it’s simple but I’d say 90% of guys fail on the 3 things people would hope someone has on here - a good profile, appealing pics and a nice message. K" All of that should go without saying really but sadly there are far too many guys that can't muster up more than a "Hi" or "rn?" and a dick pic as a first message. It's not just the couples,I receive my fair share of them too. | |||
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" We don’t want war and peace as we’ll look at pics and a profile first and if there’s no interest in those, it probably doesn’t matter what is in the message. I would say that a lot of guys fail at the first hurdle as they either write a lengthy message and then have no pics and profile write up. Or they’ll send dick pics with their message which is a complete no. If you’re going to message, ensure your profile is good too and you have some pics (not of your cock) - it’s simple but I’d say 90% of guys fail on the 3 things people would hope someone has on here - a good profile, appealing pics and a nice message. K All of that should go without saying really but sadly there are far too many guys that can't muster up more than a "Hi" or "rn?" and a dick pic as a first message. It's not just the couples,I receive my fair share of them too. " Yeah I get a few too always say the likes of not for me thanks the block then | |||
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" Or they’ll send dick pics Yeah I get a few too always say the likes of not for me thanks the block then " Strangely enough though I haven't had a "Rn?" and a muff pic yet 🤔 | |||
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" Or they’ll send dick pics Yeah I get a few too always say the likes of not for me thanks the block then Strangely enough though I haven't had a "Rn?" and a muff pic yet 🤔" Because I can accom Iv had husband message me what’s your address I will bring my wife over right now not even hello mate how’s your evening going or a we are so and so nice to meet you lol | |||
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" Because I can accom Iv had husband message me what’s your address I will bring my wife over right now not even hello mate how’s your evening going or a we are so and so nice to meet you lol " Well you have to give them 10/10 for confidence - I can only guess they think all the single guys here are so desperate for a shag that no introductions were necessary?? [not gonna ask whether or not you did ] | |||
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"We have read some sensible and intelligent comments here on the forum. We thought we'd give it a try. We turned off the single men filter. In the first period, we received some valuable messages. We liked this, and we saw a possible continuation in it. Then "Hi", "sex now" etc. appeared en masse. And the cock pictures... Especially in the early morning hours. We thought again. Do we need this? Not. Single men filter has been switched back on. Experience. What is the single man's enemy? Your own self. They make each other's lives difficult by this approach. From my experience with our couples profile, a lot of guys think when joining that swinging is just a free for all sexathon. There’s no connection required and sex is instant, nothing can be further from the truth, couples and women need to have some sort of connection with the person they’re going to play with, connection of the minds I say, anything else is a bonus, but they just don’t get it and the frustrations quickly show when they don’t get a reply. Some of the messages my wife used to get on her profile were truely shocking, it’s like men had no comprehension on how to talk properly, and those she politely turned down, came back with the most abuse. That’s why I never message first anymore, women or couples who are looking for a single guy will hopefully find something appealing in my profile and message first….. we’ll that’s the hope anyway 😊" Agree with this 
We are all about intamicy when it comes to sex, having a connection first is obviously very important for that to happen. We don't do socials, only clubs but it's always good to chat before a club visit
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"For us we have to have a connection so "fuck now" does absolutely nothing for us apart from us hitting the block button. Lots of single guys don't read profiles either. But saying that we have met some really nice single guys. " I have always approached couples as couples and chatted to the men more than the women. So many guys ignore the guys and they dont realise that does them no good. I still chat to loads of guys of couples I have met,just as you would in normal life | |||
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"Absolutely this. No attraction no playing. Neither of us take one for the team lol. Why do guys put straight on their profile but message saying they are bi? " lol we get 109s of straight bi guys messages I think it’s clear what we are looking for | |||
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"For us we have to have a connection so "fuck now" does absolutely nothing for us apart from us hitting the block button. Lots of single guys don't read profiles either. But saying that we have met some really nice single guys. " Can’t read your profile. | |||
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"Sorting the garage is the most exciting thing this weekend
Disturbing all the spiders "Clearly i didn't think that far ahead. HUBBY will be doing the garage | |||
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"Had single male filter on since may, meet so many messages it is at times overwhelming, we have met some of the people the such a small percentage compared to the messages we get. Some of these guys must think we are desperate to meet but that certainly isn't the case thankfully we can them out easy, some love to talk the talk and then bottle, we are very much a one chance couple especially after so many let downs, so unfortunately the genuine ones only get that one chance too" I don’t get why some people think others are desperate to meet etc that they havnt any standards. Do these people not need the mutual spark even that first little connection dictates the mood and vocabulary used on the messages etc. wonder how many of the hi fancy a shag they have to send before it works or do they just get off on speaking in that manor | |||
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