FabSwingers.com forum: Meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
13 weeks ago

Question about meets.

You've been chatting to someone who lives some distance away. You've exchanged photos, built up a naughty connection.

You decide to meet and its a 5 hour drive.

You get there and they look nothing like their photos.

Do you still go ahead?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
13 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

5 hours and not even a video call if you're fussed about aesthetics? Odd choice.

I don't like liars. If I feel like I've been deliberately mislead in the hope I'd feel obliged to continue upon discovery, I'd rather walk home than give them the satisfaction.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
13 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Take one for the team.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
13 weeks ago

"Take one for the team."

Double McDonalds bag?

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair

No, I wouldn't.

I would instead check into the nearest boutique hotel, grab some fine provisions and just relax, watch a movie, order a Gin (via Room Cervix) and enjoy the recharge of my solitude.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
13 weeks ago

"5 hours and not even a video call if you're fussed about aesthetics? Odd choice.

I don't like liars. If I feel like I've been deliberately mislead in the hope I'd feel obliged to continue upon discovery, I'd rather walk home than give them the satisfaction."

This would be me, if I felt mislead or not attracted to them I couldn't go through with it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
13 weeks ago

Post is just to gauge how people would react in that situation

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By *eordieJeansCouple
13 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"Take one for the team.

Double McDonalds bag?

How many heads has she got?

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By *oodmessMan
13 weeks ago

yumsville

Apparently the camera adds 5 yrs as well as weight so people should be prepared that people don't look like what they should

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Central

I'd look at myself and work out what I'd done wrong, to get this result. Sure, I'd be disappointed but unless the person was more attractive in real life than what I'd expected, I'd run and enjoy myself some other ways.

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By *sWyldWoman
13 weeks ago

Edinburgh

This is why I worry about people traveling a long distance for me. I'd hate for them to be disappointed or worse felt they had to!

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By *oodmessMan
13 weeks ago

yumsville

"This is why I worry about people traveling a long distance for me. I'd hate for them to be disappointed or worse felt they had to! "

Benefit is... they live 5 hrs away so you'll never trip over them in the supermarket

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By *omRachCouple
13 weeks ago

Wirral

Why can't they meet you at least halfway mate?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
13 weeks ago

"Take one for the team.

Double McDonalds bag?

How many heads has she got?"

In case one bag tears

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Never trust a man who can't get laid in his own county. Demonstrates a poor choice of county if nothing else. I'd take the view that the OP's date had a lucky escape

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By (user no longer on site) OP
13 weeks ago

"Why can't they meet you at least halfway mate?"

Hi Tom/Rach. Great answer.

My post is hyperthetical. I've not anyone yet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
13 weeks ago

"Never trust a man who can't get laid in his own county. Demonstrates a poor choice of county if nothing else. I'd take the view that the OP's date had a lucky escape

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Had to re-read this, I thought you said country. I'm thinking that's bad if the person has to go overseas for fun lol

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair

"This is why I worry about people traveling a long distance for me. I'd hate for them to be disappointed or worse felt they had to! "

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For you, Ms Wyld, I would do what the Royals † did in the Middle-Ages: I would send an emissary along with an official court portraitist to capture a rendition of your face and figure. If the semblance was 60% accurate then and only then I would catch the Caledonian Express to court you.

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Never trust a man who can't get laid in his own county. Demonstrates a poor choice of county if nothing else. I'd take the view that the OP's date had a lucky escape

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I don't think the OP's thread is allegorical.

P.S. 99% of my dalliances have been out of my county because of the Fab Curse™.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

If you’re travelling 5 hours for a meet

1. Video call. See if they are who they say they are. It’ll also give you a chance to spot any behavioural or environment red flags.

2. Have a plan B! I never arrange a meet without an alternative plan such as a bar or venue to go to, places to see etc. Dobt get left at the kerb with the time wasted, you want time reinvested

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

"Never trust a man who can't get laid in his own county. Demonstrates a poor choice of county if nothing else. I'd take the view that the OP's date had a lucky escape

Had to re-read this, I thought you said country. I'm thinking that's bad if the person has to go overseas for fun lol"

Dude, it's bad if they have to travel more than an hour, let alone five. I have a strong preference for waking distance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
13 weeks ago

"Never trust a man who can't get laid in his own county. Demonstrates a poor choice of county if nothing else. I'd take the view that the OP's date had a lucky escape

Had to re-read this, I thought you said country. I'm thinking that's bad if the person has to go overseas for fun lol

Dude, it's bad if they have to travel more than an hour, let alone five. I have a strong preference for waking distance

Haha. I prefer local

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

"Never trust a man who can't get laid in his own county. Demonstrates a poor choice of county if nothing else. I'd take the view that the OP's date had a lucky escape

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I don't think the OP's thread is allegorical.

P.S. 99% of my dalliances have been out of my county because of the Fab Curse™."

"Why, Sir, you find no man, at all intellectual, who is willing to leave London. No, Sir, when a man is tired of London..."

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By *rafter69Man
13 weeks ago

upminster

I couldnt be arsed with 5 hours away. Im a 20 mins distance kinda guy

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair

"...it's bad if they have to travel more than an hour, let alone five. I have a strong preference for waking distance

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She doesn't sleep walk... 🔼

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By *luebell888Woman
13 weeks ago

Glasgowish

"Question about meets.

You've been chatting to someone who lives some distance away. You've exchanged photos, built up a naughty connection.

You decide to meet and its a 5 hour drive.

You get there and they look nothing like their photos.

Do you still go ahead?

I said a quick hello followed by a quick goodbye. I had not travelled for 5hrs but had still travelled on 2 trains which took time. The man in question was 6inches shorter and 10+ years older than his profile stated. I was not a happy bunny. It was only a social meet but no way did I want to spend time with a man who had lied to me.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
13 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

""Why, Sir, you find no man, at all intellectual, who is willing to leave London. No, Sir, when a man is tired of London..." "

Yeah, yeah. Johnson was wrong then, and remains wrong today.

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By *aomilatteCouple
13 weeks ago

Midlands

"Question about meets.

You've been chatting to someone who lives some distance away. You've exchanged photos, built up a naughty connection.

You decide to meet and its a 5 hour drive.

You get there and they look nothing like their photos.

Do you still go ahead?

Whatever you do learn from it. Some filter their photo's and do indeed look nothing like their photo's. Don't be fooled by filtered photo's!

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By *TinyDelight-Woman
13 weeks ago

City Centre

I'm not for taking one for the team, so I wouldn't go through with whatever the flirtatious seduction that had gone on before meeting.

I enjoy my independence and I make choices for myself regarding where I'm staying and who I'd like to join me. I'll make sure that in the event of a meet not working out that I'll enjoy myself regardless.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
13 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Nope, but then I wouldn't travel

very far for a first meet with someone anyway.

I've seen so many threads where people have gone a fair way only to be stood up or the person not be as they've claimed to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

5 hours is asking too much

And I'd not go anywhere unless I was 100% sure I'd like them.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
13 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Sometimes I worry that only posting my favourite pictures of myself is masking the reality of what they're gonna get.

Which is why I'll generally share less flattering photos of the parts of me I dislike with people I'm intending to meet.

I think if you're meeting someone intending to bone entirely off the photos they deem flattering enough to be publicly available that's a choice in itself 💜

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
13 weeks ago

Tamworth

This wouldn’t happen for me. Anybody who is that far away, I’d would chat to for quite some time and build up a good connection. I’d probably do a call and likely a video call as well.

But to answer the exam question, no, I wouldn’t sleep with somebody that I wasn’t attracted to.

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By *oppet22TV/TS
13 weeks ago

huddersfield

Yes looks are not everthing its how you get on thats more important to me if you feel comfortable are are doing what you all like whats the problem

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
13 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

"You get there and they look nothing like their photos."

How unlike their photos are we talking here?

• A bit less perfectly lit?

• A little older/larger than advertised?

• A completely different person?

• The wrong gender entirely?

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
13 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

Knock one out over them, take a nice 5 hr drive home..

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

""Why, Sir, you find no man, at all intellectual, who is willing to leave London. No, Sir, when a man is tired of London..."

Yeah, yeah. Johnson was wrong then, and remains wrong today."

When there's a public statue of the pussy you enjoy in Glasgow I'll come look. I hear you used to have a nice Art School too

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By *r TriomanMan
13 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

If there's still an attraction, yes of course. Some people aren't too happy with how they look so will use an older picture, air-brush their image or use make up, that's their choice, I don't really see it as deceit, if I still feel the Connection then that's all that is important to me.

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By *r TriomanMan
13 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
13 weeks ago

Tamworth

"This wouldn’t happen for me. Anybody who is that far away, I’d would chat to for quite some time and build up a good connection. I’d probably do a call and likely a video call as well.

But to answer the exam question, no, I wouldn’t sleep with somebody that I wasn’t attracted to. "

Rereading I didn’t quite answer so, if there was an attraction yes. The use of old pictures from someone I’d built up a connection with probably wouldn’t bother me that much as a principal. But if there was no attraction, no.

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By *ay W. BeauWoman
13 weeks ago

Wolvo

"This is why I worry about people traveling a long distance for me. I'd hate for them to be disappointed or worse felt they had to! "

Very this or travelling all that way to be disappointed. No ta. I stay local and cry on the 20min bus ride home.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

"Question about meets.

You've been chatting to someone who lives some distance away. You've exchanged photos, built up a naughty connection.

You decide to meet and its a 5 hour drive.

You get there and they look nothing like their photos.

Do you still go ahead?

No piece of pussy on Earth is worth a 5-hours drive per se. And, no 5-hours drive is going to make a pussy worth it, if it weren't to begin with.

If by some crazy reason I decided to drive 5 hours to get some, and then I didn't "feel it" (for whatever reason, misleading photos, no chemistry, a bout of acute diarrhoea, etc), I still wouldn't go through with it "just because".

A strong connection and a stimulating brain may completely tip the scales, though. I've driven 5 hours before, just for drinks and banter with a friend.

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By *haiababeWoman
13 weeks ago

North devon

"This is why I worry about people traveling a long distance for me. I'd hate for them to be disappointed or worse felt they had to! "

I understand this. Sometimes i keep thinki g ome day I'll answer the door and deispite seong pics aetc theat theybwould just take one look at me and say nope, and walk away.

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By *urry BlokeMan
13 weeks ago

Stalybridge

Always make a distant meet as part of your plan as opposed to the whole plan

If the meet goes belly up, at least the trip isn't wasted

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By *ohn pcoolMan
13 weeks ago

Inverness

Wasn't a massive distance, but I walked right past her. From the pictures she'd sent I'd say size 14-16, but what I walked past was size 26+. Still had a social but told her I wasn't interested

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Ahhhh, time to get the popcorn out!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
13 weeks ago

Leeds

No, you don't.

You use your due diligence and check them out before driving 5 hours to get your dick wet.

Mrs

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Ahhhh, time to get the popcorn out!"

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By *iss KinkWoman
13 weeks ago

North West

This is why I go to clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

"No, you don't.

You use your due diligence and check them out before driving 5 hours to get your dick wet.

Mrs "

Oh, I like you

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By * and R cple4Couple
13 weeks ago

swansea

We met a couple once who looked nothing like the pictures they sent luckily tho it was a local meet,

We would never travel to meet someone without atleast face timing a few times.

We had a drink or 2 then politely made our excuses and left and we stayed out and made a night of it together.

We tend to stick to group socials and clubs now as even pictures can tend to be extremely flattering.

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By *vaRose43Woman
13 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

I’d rather hitchhike with Kemper than go through meeting someone who had lied.

Obviously we all post the pics we think are the most flattering but I make sure I keep some of my more unflattering pics in my friends gallery and I like a video call with people before meeting. Frank open conversation too.

I’d be upset to think someone travelled and was disappointed with how I looked which is another reason for video calls and not photoshopping pics beyond monochrome filters or lighting adjustments

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By *ellhungvweMan
13 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I wouldn't drive 5 hours just for a meet so it is a moot point but if I have been lied to then I would walk.

Maybe I am lucky but I have never found someone who doesn't look like their pictures. If I did then I would question how I am going about validating potential meets.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
13 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

"Why can't they meet you at least halfway mate?

Hi Tom/Rach. Great answer.

My post is hyperthetical. I've not anyone yet

Oh thank fuck for that. I thought you were messaging from your car and genuinely needed some moral support.

Hypothetically then if I had been dumb enough and desperate enough to drive 5 hours to meet a complete stranger for sex and they turned out to be a bit less desirable than had been projected through still images … I’d be asking to use their toilet first because I’d be busting for a wee and would need to freshen up the fun bits after 5 hours driving

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By *ife NinjaMan
13 weeks ago

Dunfermline

I send a face pic with message 1 normally. That shuts the whole process down pretty quickly when they realise I look like a cross between Sid James and Brian Glover

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
13 weeks ago

London

There is no chance in hell I'm traveling 5 hours for a meet

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By *ittlebirdWoman
13 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"Question about meets.

You've been chatting to someone who lives some distance away. You've exchanged photos, built up a naughty connection.

You decide to meet and its a 5 hour drive.

You get there and they look nothing like their photos.

Do you still go ahead?

I wouldn’t have got there without checking first…. Usually over many months 👍🏻

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
13 weeks ago

Manchester

"Question about meets.

You've been chatting to someone who lives some distance away. You've exchanged photos, built up a naughty connection.

You decide to meet and its a 5 hour drive.

You get there and they look nothing like their photos.

Do you still go ahead?

Absolutely no way!

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By *ekked JackMan
13 weeks ago

South Lanarkshire

"Question about meets.

You've been chatting to someone who lives some distance away. You've exchanged photos, built up a naughty connection.

You decide to meet and its a 5 hour drive.

You get there and they look nothing like their photos.

Do you still go ahead?

That's why they invented doggy style.

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By *andyCaneCuntWoman
13 weeks ago

Not the North West...

Why I only meet guys hundreds of miles away.

I count on their desperation for sex.

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By *ather WickmasMan
13 weeks ago

The Continental

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By *ather WickmasMan
13 weeks ago

The Continental

"Why I only meet guys hundreds of miles away.

I count on their desperation for sex."

There’s hope for me yet then.

Just checking the mileage now.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
13 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

It wouldn’t ever get to the stage of us driving 5 hours without seeing people properly - by that I mean, we would have chatted to them a lot and if we didn’t have a social, we would have insisted on plenty of pics/videos.

Anyway no we wouldn’t continue if they looked nothing like their pics.

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