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Return to Work After a Bereavement

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By *rishunicorn OP   Man
18 weeks ago

Dungannon

Hi Folks,

I have returned to work after a bereavement of a very close family member.

They had been seriously ill for a considerable period of time (6 momths)

In that period & upon reflection my mental state was far from perfect. The mental effect of providing support to the patient, our family and still working took its toll.

Should i in my return to work interview highlight my poor/decreased mental state prior to their death?

I do not wise to sound cold or calice but the death is a weight of my shoulders i.e. a minor element of closure and that i can “move on” and grieve and life in someway can return to normality.

Thanks all in advance for the advice

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By *rthur30Man
18 weeks ago

Warrington

I hope you are on the road to recovery.

I have had a similar experience to yours. I think it pays to have an honest conversation with your employer. There are many more people suffering with their mental health post-COVID, so it it is not the taboo topic it once was. It helps to have people close to you for support.

Good luck and good health.

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By *rishunicorn OP   Man
18 weeks ago

Dungannon


"I hope you are on the road to recovery.

I have had a similar experience to yours. I think it pays to have an honest conversation with your employer. There are many more people suffering with their mental health post-COVID, so it it is not the taboo topic it once was. It helps to have people close to you for support.

Good luck and good health."

Thank you for the kind message

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By *rthur30Man
18 weeks ago

Warrington


"I hope you are on the road to recovery.

I have had a similar experience to yours. I think it pays to have an honest conversation with your employer. There are many more people suffering with their mental health post-COVID, so it it is not the taboo topic it once was. It helps to have people close to you for support.

Good luck and good health.

Thank you for the kind message "

You are welcome. I had to retire following my bereavement. It has worked out so much better!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
18 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross

What do you think O.P.

How would you benefit from informing your employer of your mental health decline prior to your relatives death ?

How would you benefit from informing them that in some ways the death brings release from mental and physical stress and your health is improving while you go through a grieving process ?

What might be the harm in telling them?

What are they like ?

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By *rightonsteveMan
18 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It depends if your mental health prior to the bereavement affected your work and if that will affect anything now. You could ask for a phased return or a lesser workload until you’re back up to speed. It’s not callous for the living to go on living. What is done is done and it’s you that has to manage the future so do what’s best for you.

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By *rishunicorn OP   Man
18 weeks ago

Dungannon


"What do you think O.P.

How would you benefit from informing your employer of your mental health decline prior to your relatives death ?

How would you benefit from informing them that in some ways the death brings release from mental and physical stress and your health is improving while you go through a grieving process ?

What might be the harm in telling them?

What are they like ?"

I just feel ita best they know how much mental stress i was under as i do think it effected my work & general mood in the office.

They are understanding

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By *sWyldWoman
18 weeks ago

Edinburgh

If you have a supportive environment it is always a good idea to have a chat with someone (often HR). You could consider a wellbeing action plan and perhaps a phased return.

Does your employer offer an employee assistance programme? Many of these services can provide support and counselling free of charge.

Being open with your line manager is a good idea if you can, they can be your biggest support in the workplace.

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By *rishunicorn OP   Man
18 weeks ago

Dungannon


"It depends if your mental health prior to the bereavement affected your work and if that will affect anything now. You could ask for a phased return or a lesser workload until you’re back up to speed. It’s not callous for the living to go on living. What is done is done and it’s you that has to manage the future so do what’s best for you. "

I think phased return ia best. Thanks for thoughtful message

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By *rishunicorn OP   Man
18 weeks ago

Dungannon


"If you have a supportive environment it is always a good idea to have a chat with someone (often HR). You could consider a wellbeing action plan and perhaps a phased return.

Does your employer offer an employee assistance programme? Many of these services can provide support and counselling free of charge.

Being open with your line manager is a good idea if you can, they can be your biggest support in the workplace.

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I believe the environment to be supportive.

In ways i feel i have to get of my cheat what i was going through

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By *sWyldWoman
18 weeks ago

Edinburgh


"If you have a supportive environment it is always a good idea to have a chat with someone (often HR). You could consider a wellbeing action plan and perhaps a phased return.

Does your employer offer an employee assistance programme? Many of these services can provide support and counselling free of charge.

Being open with your line manager is a good idea if you can, they can be your biggest support in the workplace.

I believe the environment to be supportive.

In ways i feel i have to get of my cheat what i was going through"

Definitely talk to them. You may find there's a lot of support available to you.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
18 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

My personal opinion,be upfront and explain how you feel.

It's going to be difficult to start and there will be good days and bad, but getting back into a routine may help take your mind off things.

Good luck

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By *rishunicorn OP   Man
18 weeks ago

Dungannon


"My personal opinion,be upfront and explain how you feel.

It's going to be difficult to start and there will be good days and bad, but getting back into a routine may help take your mind off things.

Good luck "

I actually have been very good at talking after it.

Thanks for lovely measage

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By (user no longer on site)
18 weeks ago

My company would definitely want to know to be able to support appropriately -also your boss could make a note on your performance record so that you are not judged unfairly

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