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19 weeks ago

Conversation

Are you good at it on here?

How much do you need before meeting someone?

Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I'm crap

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By *ools and the brainCouple
19 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

"Conversation

Are you good at it on here?

How much do you need before meeting someone?

Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?

I give good message

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
19 weeks ago

Reading

With some the conversation just flows with others its so dry.

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By *iker JackMan
19 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I need conversation and the feeling that at least you have something in common with each other and it’s not just based on looks

For me there are some good wordsmiths. Tell you what they think you want to hear.

Sometimes you have to realise it is all chat and going nowhere. And that’s okay as long as you’re honest

If I am looking to meet someone I would suggest taking it on another format than here.

If I can’t trust them with my number I’m definitely not trusting them in my bed

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
19 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Oh.

I'm crap at it.

I'm either epic novel levels of word vomit or borderline monosyllabic.

Sometimes I don't have the spoons to reply so I'll leave a message for days.

If there's actual set plans I make sure I don't make them feel like I'm ghosting in the days before. But a casual mention of maybe meeting some undefined time in the possible future doesn't bind me to fighting through the spoonless days 💜

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By *ellhungvweMan
19 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I am happy to chat but in my experience people that only want to talk only talk and never meet.

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By *ilver_foxxx69Man
19 weeks ago

Falkirk

I pressed to talk in person. Easier to feel the vibe and feed off each others energy

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
19 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

I always want to chat and connect. I'm not in a rush, and I like making sure me and another human are aligned.

Here for the conversation.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
19 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

"Conversation

Are you good at it on here?"

With those who chat in a similar way, yes. Not so much with others.

"How much do you need before meeting someone?"

Loads

"Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?

I'd be a bit disappointed if I'd invested enough time into a conversation to have arranged meeting, but life happens.

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By *illy IdolMan
19 weeks ago

Midlands

I'm only as good as the person I'm chatting with. It feels like getting blood from a stone with some and I'm sure they probably feel the same towards me. Others, it's just effortless.

Yes, it would annoy me if I was left on read for days and they were constantly logging in.

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By *imples24Man
19 weeks ago

tamworth

I thought I was good at it seems not 🤣

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By *enrietteandSamCouple
19 weeks ago

Staffordshire

If it’s someone were genuinely invested in then yes, it does seem rather rude. Our inbox is as busy as anyone else’s but we spot the ones from people we want to talk to immediately.

Me being in charge of the fabmin have a very short patience with that kind of thing.

Delete the message thread, unfriend and generally ignore from then onwards.

Occasionally we’re a little slow to respond but that’s only if it’s a conversation that needs H’s input or opinion or confirmation she’s happy to meet.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
19 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

I like someone I can instantly bounce off. You can tell pretty quickly if you’ll be able to have a good laugh when you meet.

Left on read? It happens but, no point in getting annoyed about it. It’s Fab - smile and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I'm as good as the other person is. If they're just providing one word sentences, I'll entertain it for a bit before I just cut things off but if I can hold a conversation with them then I'm happy to chat to them and if a meet happens organically, then great! But if not, I'm not going to push it, especially due to distance in some cases.

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By *nplainsight200Man
19 weeks ago

portsmotuh

2 hands message or 4 hands message?

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By *bi HaiveMan
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19 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

It's good to talk

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By (user no longer on site) OP
19 weeks ago

Sometimes I don't have the spoons to reply so I'll leave a message for days.

I'm pinching this, I'm often all out of spoons.

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By *HUSH-Man
19 weeks ago

London

Am I any good at the chat? Depends on who I’m talking to.

I’ve had some really great chats on here. Some people I just click with. We flirt. They make me laugh, they make me open up and some have given me a raging hard on with their dirty talk.

Some fizzle out after a few sentences. I’ve had a few FAF’s (one I’m actually considering because quite frankly she’s hot enough to get away with being that lazy😂)

I don’t mind if people don’t respond to me right away. I do it too.

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By *ealitybitesMan
19 weeks ago

Belfast

I always need conversation before agreeing to a social. I refuse to meet without it and it has to be two way conversation where I'm not carrying the load.

I'm not currently meeting and haven't been for a few years so it doesn't bother me if it takes a while for others to reply.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
19 weeks ago

"I pressed to talk in person. Easier to feel the vibe and feed off each others energy "

If someone pressed to meet in person I'd just get annoyed

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
19 weeks ago

Essex

I’m great at talking

I can only do so much here though.

I need a fair amount of chat before I decide it’s worth pursuing. I have so little free time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
19 weeks ago

"I'm only as good as the person I'm chatting with. It feels like getting blood from a stone with some and I'm sure they probably feel the same towards me. Others, it's just effortless.

Yes, it would annoy me if I was left on read for days and they were constantly logging in."

I get this Willy.

Though it's not always a case of it being effort, sometimes I hold back or don't engage as I know for whatever reason it wouldn't go anywhere.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
19 weeks ago

"Yes"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
19 weeks ago

"I always need conversation before agreeing to a social. I refuse to meet without it and it has to be two way conversation where I'm not carrying the load.

I'm not currently meeting and haven't been for a few years so it doesn't bother me if it takes a while for others to reply. "

But how much conversation? Do you need to exchange messages every day?

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
19 weeks ago

London

I like convo and banter but some just want cold sex without a convo

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By *ife NinjaMan
19 weeks ago

Dunfermline

I cut to the chase with a face pic. That normally ends the conversation

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By *andPextraCouple
19 weeks ago

North West

I enjoy the back and forth of messaging and need to be engaged by them, flirted with and seduced (and doing similar in return- I hope)

For those who don't put the effort in I shut sown pretty quickly; I’d prefer to spend time messaging those I’m getting stimulated by than flogging a dead horse.

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By *P994Man
19 weeks ago

Travelling

I like to think I’m a good conversationalist here, it depends what someone gives you to work with though. If it’s bare minimum in their replies I assume no interest if I’m making all the effort

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By *illy IdolMan
19 weeks ago

Midlands

"I'm only as good as the person I'm chatting with. It feels like getting blood from a stone with some and I'm sure they probably feel the same towards me. Others, it's just effortless.

Yes, it would annoy me if I was left on read for days and they were constantly logging in.

I get this Willy.

Though it's not always a case of it being effort, sometimes I hold back or don't engage as I know for whatever reason it wouldn't go anywhere. "

I get this Raven.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"Conversation

Are you good at it on here?

How much do you need before meeting someone?

Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?

A lot depends on my time +energy levels... I don't deliberately not-reply to someone that i have some connection with.

In terms of meeting, people have different needs... I'm probably too laid back - If it's left too open ended it'll probably never happen - I much prefer having a plan presented.. ie, xx date, let's do x/y

if we've arranged to meet, then I'm pretty responsive, but I don't do war +peace... and there can be long periods between communication as I'm cognisant that peeps have lives

In summary I'm probably terrible 🤣🤣

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By *ealitybitesMan
19 weeks ago

Belfast

"I always need conversation before agreeing to a social. I refuse to meet without it and it has to be two way conversation where I'm not carrying the load.

I'm not currently meeting and haven't been for a few years so it doesn't bother me if it takes a while for others to reply.

But how much conversation? Do you need to exchange messages every day? "

If I was thinking about meeting I wouldn't need a message every day but I need to know that they are interested in me as me and not just as another meet.

That requires them to make an effort. It wouldn't bother me if they they were chatting to others but if they aren't fully invested in me it is pretty obvious over a period of time.

That could take weeks or months as I don't meet randomly even when I am meeting.

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By *hilloutMan
19 weeks ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"Conversation

Are you good at it on here?

How much do you need before meeting someone?

Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?

I'm good at it off and on here.

The amount of conversation varies and depends how good a connection is established.

Your last question hasn't happened yet, so can't comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

It takes two to talk,so it can be hard work sometimes

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By *quirrel!Man
19 weeks ago

Instead: Give it to me baby !

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By *eroLondonMan
19 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Conversation

Are you good at it on here?"

Yes. They have lead to some memorable dates.

"How much do you need before meeting someone?"

For me it's the qualitative factor as opposed to quantative. However, I'm a slow-ish burn.

"Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?"

I'm not quite clear - as in she's read the message but not replied for days? Or, the message remains unread? (Genuine question, not pedantry)

Either way, the answer is no. If the radio silence persists then I just assume she's no longer interested. That's fine too. (Well, it's not ideal but it's ok)

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

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By *younaughty2Man
19 weeks ago

preston

"With some the conversation just flows with others its so dry."

This to a T.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I'm shit on here (or at messaging in general). I'd rather meet for a social ASAP, where I can make a half decent impression.

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By *cLovin2Man
19 weeks ago

Reading

"Conversation

Are you good at it on here?

How much do you need before meeting someone?

Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?

Online convos are annoying, you might get on with one person in particular only to meet them irl and they are not what you want.

Better to meet up in person quickly imo. Then you can see if there's chemistry or not.

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By *nique breedMan
19 weeks ago

london

Im shit but very good once it gets going have a great imagination lol

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By *heHookyMonsterMan
19 weeks ago

Liverpool

Conversation builds rapport, which tends to lead to a great connection - often leading to the very best of intimate outcomes. I'm always happy to chat until a woman feels comfortable and ready to escalate things.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

"Conversation

Are you good at it on here?

How much do you need before meeting someone?

Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?

Yes i am pretty good at holding a conversation.

I prefer a FWB rather than NSA so i like a fair amount of conversation is needed.

How much depends on how well we click and usually we are both happy to talk regularly.

I don’t have a lot of free time to meet and want it to be with someone i really get on with and are compatible.

It depends on the reason as there are genuine reasons for not getting around to reply.

If it seems like i am being breadcrumbed i just move on.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
19 weeks ago

Glasgow / London

All this aggravation ain't satisfactioning me.

(Why isn’t there an Elvis emoji? I want an Elvis emoji.)

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By *eyond PurityCouple
19 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

We always make an effort with conversation but if we felt the other persons attention was not on us as much when they logged on then we’d soon knock it on the head.

You get a sense of someone when the conversation flows easily and it’s like pulling teeth when it doesn’t.

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By *ampireLoveMan
19 weeks ago

Essex & Bristol

I feel I’m good at conversation but always has to be two way. How long for a meet depends on how well we got on. I’m in no rush. If people don’t respond, I quite quickly forget about them no has never bothered me 🤷🏽‍♂️

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Hardly ever talk to anyone outside of work.

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

I used to be good at conversation. My ability is rather lacking these days.

Now I only put in as much effort as I receive.

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By *echnosonic_BrummieMan
19 weeks ago

Willenhall

I'm pretty good.

After agreeing to free the sausage I can still negotiate a peace deal with hummus and even have a plan to reverse breakfast.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
19 weeks ago

Leeds

People who message constantly drive me insane. Like, fuck off I’ve got a life away from you, know your place and fucking wait, I’ll reply when it suits me, not you.

The mr

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By *ean directMan
19 weeks ago

havant

I find it difficult to get my sense of Humour over a text like in my head if I was talking in person sounds funny and witty and all but when I write it it looks condescending and meh. I always be honest tho and sometimes it might look like I’m boaring etc but I don’t think I am

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By *etsbenaughty69Couple
19 weeks ago

somewhere

"People who message constantly drive me insane. Like, fuck off I’ve got a life away from you, know your place and fucking wait, I’ll reply when it suits me, not you.

The mr "

Very good & so true..

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Like above personality doesn’t shine through via a message, and then initially starting the conversation with one text is hard if not giving that response to do so, but people have the right to choose to respond or not, and it may just boil down to physical features, or the profile just not selling you.

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By *ean directMan
19 weeks ago

havant

Yeah all factors as well. It’s a mine field trying to answer people’s questions etc you don’t want to seem to keen but you want to sound interested. You don’t want to be or look to be unintentionally disrespectful to there partner etc. try to gage the heat of the chat and follow suit. It’s just really difficult and always learning. Where as in a face to face situation it’s so much easier

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By (user no longer on site) OP
19 weeks ago

"Like above personality doesn’t shine through via a message, and then initially starting the conversation with one text is hard if not giving that response to do so, but people have the right to choose to respond or not, and it may just boil down to physical features, or the profile just not selling you."

I'd disagree, I can tell if I'd get on with someone via messages.

Lack of personality shines through amazingly well via message.

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By *NormalMan01Man
19 weeks ago

Harrogate

"Conversation

Are you good at it on here?

How much do you need before meeting someone?

Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?

Conversation isn’t hard as long as the other person puts something in to it. I can talk to pretty much anyone but the minute someone just starts being short/not putting effort in it’s an instant turn off.

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By *ean directMan
19 weeks ago

havant

Wow I need a skin graft after that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
19 weeks ago

Depends who it’s with, it either flows or it’s hard work

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By *NormalMan01Man
19 weeks ago

Harrogate

I'd disagree, I can tell if I'd get on with someone via messages.

Lack of personality shines through amazingly well via message."

Agree with you Raven, 🐦‍⬛ you can get what a person is about by their message. How they treat people, their tone, their personality.

A lot comes from a message and you can pick up on comparability very quickly for just one or two messages.

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By *uzzieboyMan
19 weeks ago

taunton

"Conversation

Are you good at it on here?

How much do you need before meeting someone?

Does it annoy you if someone you've been talking to and have discussed meeting, leaves you on read for days?

Feel ya it’s crap

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By (user no longer on site) OP
19 weeks ago

"People who message constantly drive me insane. Like, fuck off I’ve got a life away from you, know your place and fucking wait, I’ll reply when it suits me, not you.

The mr "

We'd just ignore each over, it'd be great! ❤️

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By *rthur30Man
19 weeks ago

Warrington

I’m pretty shy in both text and in person. I find it difficult to sustain a conversation but I do try. It’s getting interest in the first place that is most difficult for me. This is not self-pity but honesty.

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By *hePleasurerMan
19 weeks ago

Cheshire

I wouldn't meet unless I'd been able to have a decent conversation on here. Communication and understanding are important parts of sex, so it's a good way to see if we're remotely compatible.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
19 weeks ago

Leeds

"People who message constantly drive me insane. Like, fuck off I’ve got a life away from you, know your place and fucking wait, I’ll reply when it suits me, not you.

The mr

We'd just ignore each over, it'd be great! ❤️"

No, it would just take 3/5 working days to say good morning.

The mr

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