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By *essie1966 OP   Man
13 weeks ago

east coast.

Hi, just reading a status from a lady in Thirsk who has suffered abuse from a man using multiple phones.

Because this site is free it allows every Tom, dick 'n' Harry in.

Should there be a 1, 2, 3 strikes and you're out policy introduced?

What's the members thoughts on the subject of abusive messages and the best way to tackle this issue (aside from a block button and reporting the abuse to admin?

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

One could always use the fafo tactic 🤷🏽‍♂️😂

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By *ather WickmasMan
13 weeks ago

The Continental

There are no other ways of dealing with it other than the block button and reporting functions.

There’s no way to control another’s behaviour, no matter how much we’d like to think that people should do better. It’s a pipe dream to think that you can educate everyone to stop them sending abuse. The internet has created the anonymity to do so with very little recourse.

Let’s take your 3 strikes and out idea.

Abusive member gets struck out. They create a new profile within hours, and resume their campaign of nastiness.

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By *elticGent2024Man
13 weeks ago

Kempston

Abuse, by men on women or women on men is wrong and shouldn’t happen or be tolerated under any circumstances, full stop.

How would you stop an offender from rejoining under different profiles? Most IP address are dynamic nowadays, and email accounts are free and easy to create.

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By *allipygousMan
13 weeks ago

Leicester


"Hi, just reading a status from a lady in Thirsk who has suffered abuse from a man using multiple phones.

Because this site is free it allows every Tom, dick 'n' Harry in.

Should there be a 1, 2, 3 strikes and you're out policy introduced?

What's the members thoughts on the subject of abusive messages and the best way to tackle this issue (aside from a block button and reporting the abuse to admin?

"

Why are you starting a thread based on someone's status that you presumably don't know and you've no idea of the validity of her claims? Smells a little like virtue signalling to me, but what do I know 🤷🏾‍♂️

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Think it’s shocking it’s a fun site I get knock backs all the time, and rightly so if I’m not what there seeking, but wouldn’t dream of abusing them, it’s fun and if attitudes don’t change before you know it there won’t be couples or females left on this site.

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By *wiss Army KnifeMan
13 weeks ago

Second star to the right…

As someone once said, “ there is the way it should be and there is the way it is”

Online abuse, trolling and bullying as unacceptable as it is happens.

No one enjoys rejection but unfortunately there are some who can’t take it like an adult and need to make themselves feel better by being abusive.

I think you need to grow a thick skin on here and as has been said you can report and block.

Never give them the satisfaction of replying.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon

Women aren’t helpless damsels needing protecting from horrible men on the site. They are quite capable of dealing with abuse themselves.

Any woman, tv/ts or openly gay person of either gender will be very familiar with online abuse. And how to respond to it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
13 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Bi guys get abuse too. I only respond if their abuse is grammatically correct and their spelling is top notch. Otherwise, why bother with an uneducated bore?

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
13 weeks ago

Wirral.


"Women aren’t helpless damsels needing protecting from horrible men on the site. They are quite capable of dealing with abuse themselves.

Any woman, tv/ts or openly gay person of either gender will be very familiar with online abuse. And how to respond to it.

"

This 👏

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Central

Admin have very well defined policies upon unacceptable behaviour. It's up to the site owners to determine how they proceed, with those who break policies and making their tools etc, explicitly public, may encourage people to try to work around them.

If you want to help to improve Fab, report every user who's behaving inappropriately, to Admin. Even if they're blocked, you can still report. Every report made is always investigated.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
13 weeks ago

Reading

Use privacy settings to stop newbies contacting you.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
13 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"Hi, just reading a status from a lady in Thirsk who has suffered abuse from a man using multiple phones.

Because this site is free it allows every Tom, dick 'n' Harry in.

Should there be a 1, 2, 3 strikes and you're out policy introduced?

What's the members thoughts on the subject of abusive messages and the best way to tackle this issue (aside from a block button and reporting the abuse to admin?

"

Education I guess.

Until then there is a BLOCK button.

To me ...... anyone using their status for topics like this isn't helping matters.

I mean - some bloke might decide to tell everyone else and then we'll all start talking about it and no one even knows if it's true ....

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
13 weeks ago

Leeds

Abuse on fab by anyone is wrong, report and block.

If they keep making new accounts use message filters to block newbies.

Mrs

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
13 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Hi, just reading a status from a lady in Thirsk who has suffered abuse from a man using multiple phones.

Because this site is free it allows every Tom, dick 'n' Harry in.

Should there be a 1, 2, 3 strikes and you're out policy introduced?

What's the members thoughts on the subject of abusive messages and the best way to tackle this issue (aside from a block button and reporting the abuse to admin?

"

I think someone should start a thread about it 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

Mr

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
13 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"Hi, just reading a status from a lady in Thirsk who has suffered abuse from a man using multiple phones.

Because this site is free it allows every Tom, dick 'n' Harry in.

Should there be a 1, 2, 3 strikes and you're out policy introduced?

What's the members thoughts on the subject of abusive messages and the best way to tackle this issue (aside from a block button and reporting the abuse to admin?

I think someone should start a thread about it 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

Mr "

I thought it first !

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
13 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Hi, just reading a status from a lady in Thirsk who has suffered abuse from a man using multiple phones.

Because this site is free it allows every Tom, dick 'n' Harry in.

Should there be a 1, 2, 3 strikes and you're out policy introduced?

What's the members thoughts on the subject of abusive messages and the best way to tackle this issue (aside from a block button and reporting the abuse to admin?

I think someone should start a thread about it 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

Mr

I thought it first !"

GC you win 😂😂

Mr

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
13 weeks ago

belfast


"Hi, just reading a status from a lady in Thirsk who has suffered abuse from a man using multiple phones.

Because this site is free it allows every Tom, dick 'n' Harry in.

Should there be a 1, 2, 3 strikes and you're out policy introduced?

What's the members thoughts on the subject of abusive messages and the best way to tackle this issue (aside from a block button and reporting the abuse to admin?

Why are you starting a thread based on someone's status that you presumably don't know and you've no idea of the validity of her claims? Smells a little like virtue signalling to me, but what do I know 🤷🏾‍♂️"

Of course it's virtue signalling with the hope some woman will feel sorry for him and offer him a ride. Loads of men doing the same thing in the forums, complaining how bad other men are. It's pathetic.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
13 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.


"Hi, just reading a status from a lady in Thirsk who has suffered abuse from a man using multiple phones.

Because this site is free it allows every Tom, dick 'n' Harry in.

Should there be a 1, 2, 3 strikes and you're out policy introduced?

What's the members thoughts on the subject of abusive messages and the best way to tackle this issue (aside from a block button and reporting the abuse to admin?

Why are you starting a thread based on someone's status that you presumably don't know and you've no idea of the validity of her claims? Smells a little like virtue signalling to me, but what do I know 🤷🏾‍♂️

Of course it's virtue signalling with the hope some woman will feel sorry for him and offer him a ride. Loads of men doing the same thing in the forums, complaining how bad other men are. It's pathetic. "

Is this reverse virtue signalling in hopes of a shag?

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair

I agree with Glowupdoll's post.

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As for virtue signalling — I don't think it is (I've seen worse). I'm giving the OP the benefit of the doubt: he's new to Fab/Forums and he's probably noticing abhorrent behaviours from men that probably go against his sensibilities.

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By *illan-KillashMan
13 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"Hi, just reading a status from a lady in Thirsk who has suffered abuse from a man using multiple phones.

Because this site is free it allows every Tom, dick 'n' Harry in.

Should there be a 1, 2, 3 strikes and you're out policy introduced?

What's the members thoughts on the subject of abusive messages and the best way to tackle this issue (aside from a block button and reporting the abuse to admin?

Why are you starting a thread based on someone's status that you presumably don't know and you've no idea of the validity of her claims? Smells a little like virtue signalling to me, but what do I know 🤷🏾‍♂️

Of course it's virtue signalling with the hope some woman will feel sorry for him and offer him a ride. Loads of men doing the same thing in the forums, complaining how bad other men are. It's pathetic. "

There must be an irony thread around here someplace......

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By *he Silver FuxMan
13 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"I agree with Glowupdoll's post.

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As for virtue signalling — I don't think it is (I've seen worse). I'm giving the OP the benefit of the doubt: he's new to Fab/Forums and he's probably noticing abhorrent behaviours from men that probably go against his sensibilities."

Despite connotations of tyrannical emperors, you a nice person Nero

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By *mileyculturebelfastMan
13 weeks ago

belfast


"Hi, just reading a status from a lady in Thirsk who has suffered abuse from a man using multiple phones.

Because this site is free it allows every Tom, dick 'n' Harry in.

Should there be a 1, 2, 3 strikes and you're out policy introduced?

What's the members thoughts on the subject of abusive messages and the best way to tackle this issue (aside from a block button and reporting the abuse to admin?

Why are you starting a thread based on someone's status that you presumably don't know and you've no idea of the validity of her claims? Smells a little like virtue signalling to me, but what do I know 🤷🏾‍♂️

Of course it's virtue signalling with the hope some woman will feel sorry for him and offer him a ride. Loads of men doing the same thing in the forums, complaining how bad other men are. It's pathetic.

Is this reverse virtue signalling in hopes of a shag? "

Is it working?

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By *ennifertvayrshireTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Kilmarnock

Same for tvs. Get lots of abuse. I had to report a so called straight guy for verbal abuse and narrowly avoided physical abuse. He got kicked off the site

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By *cLovin2Man
13 weeks ago

Reading

Frankly, such men need to be taken to task. The site itself needs to have an option to block IP addresses. As well as register stalking to the police. When the police turn up on the idiots doorstep, we'll see how determined he is then.

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
13 weeks ago

Stoke

Feel like a broken record on here. Just set your filters to maximum and you'll never get that shit, you have to jump through about 6 hoops to message us, we never get any shite because the only people who can message us are genuine.

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By *ittlebirdWoman
13 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

As is always the way with life… there’s no accounting for cunts 👍🏻

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By *atch0101Man
13 weeks ago

Here

Want to get rid of them? Sub forum for naming and shaming.

The rest of us see the info and some will happily fill his inbox up.

So he uses another account? Just keep doing it. All his inboxes will be abusive so any bonafide replies will be hard to find( if there are any)

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man
13 weeks ago

BRIDPORT


"Want to get rid of them? Sub forum for naming and shaming.

The rest of us see the info and some will happily fill his inbox up.

So he uses another account? Just keep doing it. All his inboxes will be abusive so any bonafide replies will be hard to find( if there are any)"

What a really stupid idea.

Someone maliciously names and shames another person, who has done nothing wrong, and they subsequently get hounded off the site.

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By *tephanie63Woman
13 weeks ago

BRIDGWATER


"Want to get rid of them? Sub forum for naming and shaming.

The rest of us see the info and some will happily fill his inbox up.

So he uses another account? Just keep doing it. All his inboxes will be abusive so any bonafide replies will be hard to find( if there are any)"

So basically you are suggesting naming "alleged abusive members, ganging up on them and sending them abusive messages...can you not see the idiocy of that suggestion?

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By *ealitybitesMan
13 weeks ago

Belfast

The biggest problem I have with status updates is that they are often used to manipulate the easily manipulated.

Gullibility is an affliction on fab.

The Ireland forum has been filled in recent weeks with tales of false accusations and issues with validation and jealousy.

I don't believe anything written in a status update just as I don't believe anything written by those I know from experience to be professional victims.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
13 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry


"Want to get rid of them? Sub forum for naming and shaming.

The rest of us see the info and some will happily fill his inbox up.

So he uses another account? Just keep doing it. All his inboxes will be abusive so any bonafide replies will be hard to find( if there are any)"

Tooth for a tooth hey, very medieval dogma there

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I only abuse myself

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By *ustcuriousleeMan
13 weeks ago

LEICESTER

I treat people how I would like to be treated with respect

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By *uctifanoWoman
13 weeks ago

Glasgow


"As is always the way with life… there’s no accounting for cunts 👍🏻"

A most profound and succinct statement

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair


"As is always the way with life… there’s no accounting for cunts 👍🏻"

She's a Chartered Ac'cuntant... ... ... 🔼

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I was told to fuck off earlier, because I didn’t want to meet up without sharing pictures first?

Is that unreasonable?

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By *otkiss2020Woman
13 weeks ago

Gloucester

I get abused daily. There is a filter where you can block newbies. Might help

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair


"I was told to fuck off earlier, because I didn’t want to meet up without sharing pictures first?

Is that unreasonable?"

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No, it's not unreasonable. It may curtail your chances on here but it's your prerogative to refuse.

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By *appyhumper123Man
13 weeks ago

hull

It's not free tho is it

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By *appyhumper123Man
13 weeks ago

hull

I get abused regularly, but at least its conversation

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By *TJxComboMan
13 weeks ago

birmingham

Welcome to the internet

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I think you should have to add your phone number like tinder not to display the number but you can only have one account per phone number… it Will eliminate some of the dick heads that like to make multiple accounts..

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By *dc1Man
13 weeks ago

essex and all over the south


"I think you should have to add your phone number like tinder not to display the number but you can only have one account per phone number… it Will eliminate some of the dick heads that like to make multiple accounts.. "

I agree with that. But also make it if your not photo varied or site supported you can send 3 messages a day. Would cut out the friday and saturday make a profile as wife out on town and i want a wank crew.

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By *he turned me GreyCouple
13 weeks ago

Warwick and Coventry

Cunts walk amongst us

Mr

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By *illan-KillashMan
13 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"Want to get rid of them? Sub forum for naming and shaming.

The rest of us see the info and some will happily fill his inbox up.

So he uses another account? Just keep doing it. All his inboxes will be abusive so any bonafide replies will be hard to find( if there are any)"

Whats to stop someone using the naming and shaming sub forum for reporting you as an abusive time waster.

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair

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By *eroLondonMan
13 weeks ago

Mayfair


"I think you should have to add your phone number like tinder not to display the number but you can only have one account per phone number… it Will eliminate some of the dick heads that like to make multiple accounts..

·

I agree with that. But also make it if your not photo varied or site supported you can send 3 messages a day. Would cut out the friday and saturday make a profile as wife out on town and i want a wank crew. "

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Or the husband out of town. 👍🏻

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By *andyCaneCuntWoman
13 weeks ago

Not the North West...

I'd stay clear of anyone naming and supposedly shaming.

There's 2 sides to every story.

Abuse is not ok but it's pretty easy to block and ignore.

I think that covers it.

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By *andyCaneCuntWoman
13 weeks ago

Not the North West...


"I think you should have to add your phone number like tinder not to display the number but you can only have one account per phone number… it Will eliminate some of the dick heads that like to make multiple accounts..

I agree with that. But also make it if your not photo varied or site supported you can send 3 messages a day. Would cut out the friday and saturday make a profile as wife out on town and i want a wank crew. "

Does this crew bother you?

People should think more with their upstairs brains on here then they maybe wouldn't come across some many "time wasters" and "fakes"

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By *ather WickmasMan
13 weeks ago

The Continental


"I think you should have to add your phone number like tinder not to display the number but you can only have one account per phone number… it Will eliminate some of the dick heads that like to make multiple accounts..

I agree with that. But also make it if your not photo varied or site supported you can send 3 messages a day. Would cut out the friday and saturday make a profile as wife out on town and i want a wank crew.

Does this crew bother you?

People should think more with their upstairs brains on here then they maybe wouldn't come across some many "time wasters" and "fakes""

Stop being sensible you?

What’s going on? Are you ok hun?

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