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Should you play hard to get?

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
9 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.

To get their attention? I will set the scene first before asking the question, I am watching eastenders and there it goes back and forth between cindy and junior knight, cindy is ians partner and she is seeing knight behind ians back, but she is playing hard to get, it feels like knight does it to her also sometimes, but I would say mostly cindy does it more, if she keeps doing it, there is a chance she could lose him.

What is your view about sending out the wrong kind of signals to the other person early on where one is playing hard to get? The way I see it is, if one continue to do it there is a big chance they could lose that person, because they might not have the patience as they do, as it is only fair to tell the other person you like them or not as they could then move on, instead of playing hard to get, one should give them number of reason to keep chasing you instead

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By *asterfulsoulMan
9 weeks ago

Manchester

Should you? I guess some people are into it. I think for those who are into it the risk is part of the fun.

I always hated these sorts of games, mind.

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By *iker JackMan
9 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I like the whole courting thing outside of here. The flirt. The tease. The building up of something

I like it here as well but not for courting so to speak

That said you need to know where to stop or you run the risk of the other feeling it’s unrequited and they back off.

However there are some people who love the “chase” and that’s all they want.

That for me is toying with someone and game playing

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Deffo I’m not going to message any of you so don’t message me

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

I have a hard enough time getting meets as it is let alone playing hard to get 🤣🤣

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By *aomilatteCouple
9 weeks ago

Visiting Blackpool


"To get their attention? I will set the scene first before asking the question, I am watching eastenders and there it goes back and forth between cindy and junior knight, cindy is ians partner and she is seeing knight behind ians back, but she is playing hard to get, it feels like knight does it to her also sometimes, but I would say mostly cindy does it more, if she keeps doing it, there is a chance she could lose him.

What is your view about sending out the wrong kind of signals to the other person early on where one is playing hard to get? The way I see it is, if one continue to do it there is a big chance they could lose that person, because they might not have the patience as they do, as it is only fair to tell the other person you like them or not as they could then move on, instead of playing hard to get, one should give them number of reason to keep chasing you instead "

Is Cindy playing hard to get with Knight? If she is already seeing him, how is she playing hard to get?

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By *r TriomanMan
9 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I'm confused... What's East Enders?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
9 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I don't watch that so I don't know the reference.

I don't get playing hard to get. I'm very upfront generally myself. If someone indicates they're not interested in me the way I am in them, I usually just shrug it off and move on.

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By *ittlemiss Hal O weenCouple
9 weeks ago

Southampton


"I'm confused... What's East Enders? "

TV soap opera that's been going 40 odd years lol

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By *ittleLiasonsWoman
9 weeks ago

Birmingham

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By *ittleLiasonsWoman
9 weeks ago

Birmingham

There's nothing that turns me off quicker than playing games. An adult has the ability to communicate, be consistent and be honest about what they want. Come with that energy or just don't come at all.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
9 weeks ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No. I don't play hard to get, I'm either worth meeting to them, or not.

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By *ellhungvweMan
9 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I can’t be bothered with people who want to play games. Go stroke your ego on some other poor soul would be my advice to them.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
9 weeks ago

Leeds

Urgh, nothing worse than playing silly games when your full grown adults.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Game playing is off putting for me.

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By *ell GwynnWoman
9 weeks ago

North Yorkshire

I hate that shit. If I like someone I'm pretty direct about it and appreciate the same in return. There's no mystery to me. If someone finds that off-putting, so be it.

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By *vaRose43Woman
9 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

The minute I feel like someone is playing games I back off.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
9 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I lack the energy and motivation to engage with anyone playing hard to get. It shouldn't require that much effort to communicate with someone who is actually interested in you as a person, and what's the point in sending out mixed messages?

Odds are they'll get bored of the mind games and invest their interest elsewhere. 🤷‍♂️

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
9 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.


"I like the whole courting thing outside of here. The flirt. The tease. The building up of something

I like it here as well but not for courting so to speak

That said you need to know where to stop or you run the risk of the other feeling it’s unrequited and they back off.

However there are some people who love the “chase” and that’s all they want.

That for me is toying with someone and game playing "
I also like the flirt and tease, yes, one should know where to stop it too

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
9 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

The fact is, so many people on fab are just here for an ego boost or a wank. It's same on dating apps, after a while you can tell you're getting strung along and the other person has zero intention of meeting.

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By *r John WickMan
9 weeks ago

The Continental

Don’t see the point in playing games.

If you like each other, get together. What does playing a game of what is essentially “you want me but you’re not having me until I allow it” achieve?

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By *trueceltMan
9 weeks ago

Bristol

I don't play games. There's been a few women over the years who were disappointed to find that I don't indulge in game playing or tried to play me off against other men. I would never do that to anyone so by playing games they signal a lack of respect and manipulative tendencies which are unattractive qualities to me. Generally I respond well to honest grown ups and dismiss children cos playing as adults.

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By *hiteWitchXXXWoman
9 weeks ago

North Wales

Sorry Shag I stop reading when I saw the word Eastenders

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
9 weeks ago

.

Cindy has slept with Junior lots of times, really not sure how she's playing hard to get after she has been got.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
9 weeks ago

North West


"Sorry Shag I stop reading when I saw the word Eastenders "

Same

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By *aomilatteCouple
9 weeks ago

Visiting Blackpool


"Cindy has slept with Junior lots of times, really not sure how she's playing hard to get after she has been got."

So she's not actually played hard to get at all?

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
9 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

Not a big fan. It's a mind game to be honest. I'd sooner walk away and leave them to it.

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By *B69Woman
9 weeks ago

Wiltshire

Too old to play games now, it’s either a yes or no

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
9 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"Too old to play games now, it’s either a yes or no"

Always throw a 'maybe' in?

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By *ulie.your. bottom. slutTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Glasgow

No but you should only play when hard..

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By *esi_dickMan
9 weeks ago

South Birmingham

Deffo..Well, as it's I have a hard enough time getting meets, let alone playing hard to get!

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Dunno, to me, the moment someone deliberately "plays" harder to get than they would naturally inclined to be, it smells manipulative and I'm out of there.

I don't like jumping through hoops like a trained dog.

If I like someone, why would I want to make it harder for them to like me back?

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By *viatrixWoman
9 weeks ago

Redhill

I don’t play hard to get…

I *am* hard to get.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
9 weeks ago

Glasgow / London


"I don’t play hard to get… I *am* hard to get. "

Yep. *and* you get me hard, too.

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By *agatoXXXMan
9 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

I don't have to.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
9 weeks ago

.


"Cindy has slept with Junior lots of times, really not sure how she's playing hard to get after she has been got.

So she's not actually played hard to get at all?"

Nope if anything she was pretty easy to get

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By *ornycougaWoman
9 weeks ago

NORWAY Wherever I lay my hat

Another one who hates deliberately playing games. I blow hot and cold more times than an HVAC unit without resorting to that nonsense

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By *tunna.gurlTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Manchester

Playing hard to get is just absolutely childish, could come across as been prestigious and narcissistic, if you know u like someone or find them attractive go for it cos they might just leave u to find someone who shows them more attention

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By *ougarsilkWoman
9 weeks ago

Pleasure heaven

Ah there comes a time in your life when you cba with all the games and chase stuff. I would rather be honest and upfront about my level of interest. Equally the same level of honesty and integrity is required from the guy.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Central

I prefer relationships without games. Honesty and directness is always clearer

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Just be yourself, best way and tend to get what you deserve

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By *tsJustKateWoman
9 weeks ago

London


"To get their attention? I will set the scene first before asking the question, I am watching eastenders and there it goes back and forth between cindy and junior knight, cindy is ians partner and she is seeing knight behind ians back, but she is playing hard to get, it feels like knight does it to her also sometimes, but I would say mostly cindy does it more, if she keeps doing it, there is a chance she could lose him.

What is your view about sending out the wrong kind of signals to the other person early on where one is playing hard to get? The way I see it is, if one continue to do it there is a big chance they could lose that person, because they might not have the patience as they do, as it is only fair to tell the other person you like them or not as they could then move on, instead of playing hard to get, one should give them number of reason to keep chasing you instead "

You lost me at the mention of Eastenders

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
9 weeks ago

A den in the Glen


"Playing hard to get is just absolutely childish, could come across as been prestigious and narcissistic, if you know u like someone or find them attractive go for it cos they might just leave u to find someone who shows them more attention "

Exactly. Think of the dozens and dozens of women that we playing hard to get with me. I mean they have missed out on a fuck tonne of shit chat and worse shags.

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By *olfandtazCouple
9 weeks ago

Bristol

Life's to short for playing games, if you like someone, tell them and go for it. Time playing games is time missing out of fun with someone special

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By *he Silver FuxMan
9 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

I prefer to play get me hard..

Teasing, tantalising have their place.

Playing hard to get is vanilla type bullshit.

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By *issmorganWoman
9 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

If someone plays games with me, it turns me off them.

I much prefer straight forward people.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
9 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.


"I don't watch that so I don't know the reference.

I don't get playing hard to get. I'm very upfront generally myself. If someone indicates they're not interested in me the way I am in them, I usually just shrug it off and move on."
That is good to be very upfront. I am the same too

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By *ayor 42nd StreetMan
9 weeks ago

Branston

Lately, I've seen a lot more clips uploaded by young single women, all of them seem to be added for one thing only, getting "likes". Maybe it's just me, but I really don't believe any of them are actually living the swinging life. All those pouty lips, duck face, puppy dog eyes, seen through the mist, kind of thing. Screams "Look at me, I'm gorgeous" but looking only, no touching. Not exactly playing hard to get, just teasing, although, at my age, I'm not interested in a young woman the same age or even younger than my daughter, so I don't bother watching the clip, the giveaway is the "still" in the video.

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By *rightonsteveMan
9 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Shag, you should play hard to get otherwise women will think you’re an easy lay and not worth the trouble. Basically, if you get any offer from any woman, just say no. But don’t be harsh, remember, you’re only playing hard to get so say something like “no, but you’re perfectly Ok, come back in 2 weeks time and I’ll reconsider”

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By *parkle1974Woman
9 weeks ago

Leeds

I left the playground and the games behind years ago, can't be arsed with anyone like that and I certainly wouldn't hang around.

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By *8on33Man
9 weeks ago

winfrith

That's the trouble with Fab you have to play easy to get as a guy otherwise you'd never get anything.

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By *ife NinjaMan
9 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Fuck that right off. I can't stand games like that. Leave me colder than a snowman in a blizzard 🙄

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By *ackformore100Man
9 weeks ago

Tin town


"To get their attention? I will set the scene first before asking the question, I am watching eastenders and there it goes back and forth between cindy and junior knight, cindy is ians partner and she is seeing knight behind ians back, but she is playing hard to get, it feels like knight does it to her also sometimes, but I would say mostly cindy does it more, if she keeps doing it, there is a chance she could lose him.

What is your view about sending out the wrong kind of signals to the other person early on where one is playing hard to get? The way I see it is, if one continue to do it there is a big chance they could lose that person, because they might not have the patience as they do, as it is only fair to tell the other person you like them or not as they could then move on, instead of playing hard to get, one should give them number of reason to keep chasing you instead "

Well... I'm so bad at relationships it's hard to think I can add any value but... My gut always says... Life's too short for stupid childish games. Instead of spending time not doing what you want... Why not spend the time with people you want to be with doing things you want to do?

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By *andynecklaceWoman
9 weeks ago

West Brom

It can be fun 🤔

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By *ornucopiaMan
9 weeks ago

Bexley

Starting their name with a lower case initial character seems like an idea worth exploring as a way of keeping them keen by treating them mean!

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By *he Silver FuxMan
9 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"It can be fun 🤔"

For an attractive sexy woman on Fab, sure..

For a single male… not so much ☺️

It’s not a game if everyone’s gone home

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
9 weeks ago

From the land of haribos.


"No. I don't play hard to get, I'm either worth meeting to them, or not."
Hi patricia, same here, you are right there

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