FabSwingers.com forum: Guide for single blokes

By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Just thought with all the threads about what women want and so on... it might be an idea to put together a cataligue of what single guys should and should not do to give them a better success rate.

So what are, from the females' point of view the things they should avoid, at least to begin with?

1. Dont start initial contact without a face picture

2. Avoid being too pushy

3. .....? Suggestions please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are the 1 making contact, point 1 should apply to everyone not just single males

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheesy sexual innuendos

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"If you are the 1 making contact, point 1 should apply to everyone not just single males"
True, Bussy - point totally taken.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

As Bussy says, there is little a guy should have to do differently from everyone else. But one thing that really chaps my ass is when I am happily chatting away and verging on arranging a potential meet and they say 'can you bring a female friend with you?' It's like, you've not even met me and you're assuming I won't be enough for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I just said be yourself and that will shine through, don't try to please anyone and what works with one will not another far better to be yourself and that will reap the reward.

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By *igSuki81Man
over a year ago

Retirement Village

"As I just said be yourself and that will shine through, don't try to please anyone and what works with one will not another far better to be yourself and that will reap the reward."

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"As Bussy says, there is little a guy should have to do differently from everyone else. But one thing that really chaps my ass is when I am happily chatting away and verging on arranging a potential meet and they say 'can you bring a female friend with you?' It's like, you've not even met me and you're assuming I won't be enough for you.

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OMG I did not think that was for real! That would be an instant turn off for me. It is a bit insulting, i think.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"As I just said be yourself and that will shine through, don't try to please anyone and what works with one will not another far better to be yourself and that will reap the reward."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"1. Dont start initial contact without a face picture"

We'll send a face pic if they already have one up, if they demand one without having one themselves then nuh-uh.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

OMG I did not think that was for real! That would be an instant turn off for me. It is a bit insulting, i think.

I find it incredibly insulting, and tell them so. Then delete and block.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"1. Dont start initial contact without a face picture

We'll send a face pic if they already have one up, if they demand one without having one themselves then nuh-uh."

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

dont assume its 'easy shag' or that cos Fems and Cpl's are on here that their sex life is so poor and that 'you' are the answer..

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By *inktherapyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

"dont assume its 'easy shag' or that cos Fems and Cpl's are on here that their sex life is so poor and that 'you' are the answer..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont assume its 'easy shag' or that cos Fems and Cpl's are on here that their sex life is so poor and that 'you' are the answer..

And don't assume that if someone is currently not meeting you will be the one to change their mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont assume its 'easy shag' or that cos Fems and Cpl's are on here that their sex life is so poor and that 'you' are the answer..

This is a good one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a couple's point of view sending messages addressing only the female is a no no in our books, we are more likely to respond to a man who says e.g. omg your girl looks lovely how are you both than your fit wanna meet some time!

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

Hang on, what about a guide for what couples should bear in mind when contacting single guys?

I ask as a couple (am guessing here) expressed interest by sending me a friend invite. No wink, no email. Just the friend invite. And in my usual fashion I waited 2 weeks to see if they would email, they didn't so I deleted the email.

Another day in chat I stumbled on a profile, not realising it was them. They expressed their disappointment (in me) and that they have nothing to say to me as I was seemingly to arrogant to accept their friend invite.

So my question: they only associate (and I guess, meet) people who have accepted their friend invite before getting to know them?

And does this make me the arrogant one or them? Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think thats perfectly fine, when i was on here as a couple, we got friend invites and no messages. Refused all.

I'd like to think that because I dont have a photo public but send one on first message that is perfectly acceptable?

Not hiding anything just job wise you never know who is watching/judging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are the 1 making contact, point 1 should apply to everyone not just single males"

But this thread is about others threads about what woman want from GUYS

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"If you are the 1 making contact, point 1 should apply to everyone not just single males

But this thread is about others threads about what woman want from GUYS"

That there is the problem: No one knows what women want from guys. In some cases already seen on the forum threads, not even the women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why its been opened for discussion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be young, fit, muscley, tattoos, have a big cock but don't put pics of your big cock up. Be funny. Be able to accommodate. Be ready to meet whenever I suggest or you'll be labelled a timewaster. Have hair on your head but none on your body.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Just thought with all the threads about what women want and so on... it might be an idea to put together a cataligue of what single guys should and should not do to give them a better success rate.

So what are, from the females' point of view the things they should avoid, at least to begin with?

1. Dont start initial contact without a face picture

2. Avoid being too pushy

3. .....? Suggestions please

Personally, I find these constant "guides for single men" condescending.

There are single men doing quite well thank you, who don't need a guide. There are many threads asking advice, the suggestions in the main ignored, which this one will be!

The men that "get it" don't need pointers those that don't will develop word blindness and won't even see this thread!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Be young, fit, muscley, tattoos, have a big cock but don't put pics of your big cock up. Be funny. Be able to accommodate. Be ready to meet whenever I suggest or you'll be labelled a timewaster. Have hair on your head but none on your body. "

...in a nutshell!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We forgot tall

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

four things for a single male.

1/be discreet

2/be attractive

3/remember,on a swingers site,reputation wise,yous have the least to lose.

4/be discreet.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

dont BEG for a meet, plead and offer all manner of things. Its very off putting.

No babe, hun, sweetheart, darling, bird, duck, milf etc.

No need tell me how BBWs are REAL women.

All women on here are equal.

The guys I've met, have just been themselves, I dont have a list of yhings of how to look, how big or small your cock should be, your profession, etc etc, just let your personality shine through.

*this is just from my point of view, its not set in stone for the whole site.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"We forgot tall

You forgot have a uniform!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself...

Be patient....

Be discreet....

Be patient...

Be polite...

Oh... And be patient...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Given that single men are in the majority on here I would say that the proportion who post asking for advice is tiny.

Bad manners and a sense of entitlement aren't the sole preserve of single men anyway I see plenty of those qualities displayed by all types of members. However the single guys do seem to get a bashing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just thought with all the threads about what women want and so on... it might be an idea to put together a cataligue of what single guys should and should not do to give them a better success rate.

So what are, from the females' point of view the things they should avoid, at least to begin with?

1. Dont start initial contact without a face picture

2. Avoid being too pushy

3. .....? Suggestions please

4. undying declarations of love

5. proposals of marriage until after the 1st meet.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

4. undying declarations of love

5. proposals of marriage until after the 1st meet.

Oh how true is this! Love it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just thought with all the threads about what women want and so on... it might be an idea to put together a cataligue of what single guys should and should not do to give them a better success rate.

So what are, from the females' point of view the things they should avoid, at least to begin with?

1. Dont start initial contact without a face picture

2. Avoid being too pushy

3. .....? Suggestions please

Personally, I find these constant "guides for single men" condescending.

There are single men doing quite well thank you, who don't need a guide. There are many threads asking advice, the suggestions in the main ignored, which this one will be!

The men that "get it" don't need pointers those that don't will develop word blindness and won't even see this thread!"

Your taking this thread to seriously!

Its meant to be light hearted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Dont start initial contact without a face picture.

Don't like that idea unless I'm 100% certain they are real. It could be a guy with a fake female profile or someone collecting face pics for some evil scheme.

Just call me Mr Paranoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just thought with all the threads about what women want and so on... it might be an idea to put together a cataligue of what single guys should and should not do to give them a better success rate.

So what are, from the females' point of view the things they should avoid, at least to begin with?

1. Dont start initial contact without a face picture

2. Avoid being too pushy

3. .....? Suggestions please

Personally, I find these constant "guides for single men" condescending.

There are single men doing quite well thank you, who don't need a guide. There are many threads asking advice, the suggestions in the main ignored, which this one will be!

The men that "get it" don't need pointers those that don't will develop word blindness and won't even see this thread!"

Have to agree there. Thing is this - being a single male swinger is actually very easy if you understand the importance of having good pics, a well written profile, you send well written mails and you have a number of good verifications on your profile - the only difficult part is overcoming the vast, vast oversaturation of single males on the site, as no matter how good your own individual efforts are, they are MASSIVELY reduced in effectiveness simply by the sheer numbers of guys on here, and the only way to overcome those numbers is through sheer patience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always on initial contact ask the lady if she's a tranny, thouroughly check pics for Adam's apples and big hands. Words if wisdom friends words of wisdom

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

Because of the huge amounts of single guys on here ,and guys pretending to be single,we pass them by we look mainly at the club for fun ,its better chatting face to face with them ,and wife can decide ,if she likes them enough to invite them to play,we tried a few meets private ,but clubs work better for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't send cock pics especially ones with you lying on the bed pants round knees, white socks and big fluffy slippers on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't send cock pics especially ones with you lying on the bed pants round knees, white socks and big fluffy slippers on!"

But they're the only ones I have

and there not big fluffy slippers its the one big tartan slipper you put both feet in. The one you buy from the back of the Sunday papers magazines

now try and say that isn't super hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most frustrating thing is when you send a very friendly message, well thought out and honest.... Then you check your sent messages and its been deleted!!! I hate that!

Oh and nearly everything written in here by women and couples, I follow, but still rarely get a reply!!

But looking at it from the womens point of view it must be hard with the amount if messages you get.... So maybe suggest ideas to make our messages stand out?!....

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"The most frustrating thing is when you send a very friendly message, well thought out and honest.... Then you check your sent messages and its been deleted!!! I hate that!

Oh and nearly everything written in here by women and couples, I follow, but still rarely get a reply!!

But looking at it from the womens point of view it must be hard with the amount if messages you get.... So maybe suggest ideas to make our messages stand out?!....

It's not even a case of making your message stand out tbh, even if your message stands out but you don't appeal to the recipient for one reason or another they might not reply x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No such problems here

but keep up the good work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't send cock pics especially ones with you lying on the bed pants round knees, white socks and big fluffy slippers on!

But they're the only ones I have

and there not big fluffy slippers its the one big tartan slipper you put both feet in. The one you buy from the back of the Sunday papers magazines

now try and say that isn't super hot

I have this image of you jumping round with your huge unislipper on lol. This guy had two blue slippers on please send yours again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't send cock pics especially ones with you lying on the bed pants round knees, white socks and big fluffy slippers on!

But they're the only ones I have

and there not big fluffy slippers its the one big tartan slipper you put both feet in. The one you buy from the back of the Sunday papers magazines

now try and say that isn't super hot

I have this image of you jumping round with your huge unislipper on lol. This guy had two blue slippers on please send yours again

I prefer to call it my monoslipper

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