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By *icro OP   Man
9 weeks ago

Manchester

What’s your preference?

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By *ootnootboopCouple
9 weeks ago

Cheshire

I think it's all rubbish this alpha beta crap ...

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
9 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Anyone who thinks that they're either can get in the bin 💜

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By *riel13Woman
9 weeks ago

Northampton

There's no such thing

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By *vaRose43Woman
9 weeks ago

Forest of Dean

Alphas have the weakest penetration

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By *dam21122024Man
9 weeks ago

southall


"Alphas have the weakest penetration "

How so?

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By *.T.Man
9 weeks ago

Glasgow

standby for much butthurt from the Alpha "community"...

Is there a difference between an alpha and an incel?

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By *ellhungvweMan
9 weeks ago

Cheltenham


"Alphas have the weakest penetration

How so?"

That is a universal question.

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By *uperSalopian7Man
9 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

My 10 year old nephew says Sigma is the best

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By *ittleLiasonsWoman
9 weeks ago

Birmingham

Neither.. instead a man who takes the lead without being an asshole about it.

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By *ayd100Man
9 weeks ago

clitheroe

I don't mind

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
9 weeks ago

Ryde


"My 10 year old nephew says Sigma is the best "

Bruce Banner always sides with Gamma...

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By *r John WickMan
9 weeks ago

The Continental

I love Kappa guys

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
9 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"standby for much butthurt from the Alpha "community"...

Is there a difference between an alpha and an incel?"

Delusion.

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By *eordieJeansCouple
9 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"I love Kappa guys"

I love Kappa tracksuits.

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By *ea monkeyMan
9 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)

Firstly; there’s no such thing

Secondly; why the false dichotomy?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Herts


"Firstly; there’s no such thing

Secondly; why the false dichotomy? "

If enough people believe it (and they do) it becomes a thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

If you instantly call yourself a thing, chances are, you're not it.

That goes for both alpha men and nice guys

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
9 weeks ago

Gloucestershire

Bruce Banner was a Gamma guy

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By *ot MediterraneanCouple
9 weeks ago

Bedfordshire

Sigmas all day long 🔥🔥

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By *oshrocksMan
9 weeks ago

Gloucester


"Alphas have the weakest penetration "

top tier science humour there

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By *vaRose43Woman
9 weeks ago

Forest of Dean


"Alphas have the weakest penetration

How so?"

In science even a piece of paper can stop an alpha wave.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
9 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"If you instantly call yourself a thing, chances are, you're not it.

That goes for both alpha men and nice guys"

This.

If someone refers to themselves as that they’re not for me

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By *r John WickMan
9 weeks ago

The Continental

I’m a PI guy.

Greggs

Ginsters

Wrights

Chatwins

Pukka

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By *ea monkeyMan
9 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Firstly; there’s no such thing

Secondly; why the false dichotomy?

If enough people believe it (and they do) it becomes a thing. "

What I mean is that scientifically (anthropologically) speaking, there is no such thing.

Also, the zoologist that originally cited its use in regards to wolves has since changed and recounted their existence in the wild. Therefore, there is no such thing.

Men calling themselves Alpha are often just bullies and narcissists

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By *icolerobbieCouple
9 weeks ago

walsall

Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?

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By *vaRose43Woman
9 weeks ago

Forest of Dean


"Alphas have the weakest penetration

top tier science humour there"

Thank you

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By *ora the explorerWoman
9 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?"

Fair point!

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By *vaRose43Woman
9 weeks ago

Forest of Dean


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?"

I have zero tolerance for men who claim to be alpha doms based on personal experience with many. Bullies and abusers who hide behind the term Alpha like it’s an excuse to ignore all basic RACK rules for kink.

Additionally the original scientist that authored the theory Dr. Robert Green disproved and debunked his own theory with further research. Further research on chimp populations where the term alpha is still used doesn’t follow the way we view alpha. A chimp alpha isn’t the biggest or strongest bully, in fact they rule with compassion, kindness and altruism.

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By *r John WickMan
9 weeks ago

The Continental


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?"

Original post asks what’s your preference. I don’t think stating that preference is denying anything.

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By *parkle1974Woman
9 weeks ago

Leeds

As long as neither has smegma 🤣

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By *awpleasureMan
9 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield


"As long as neither has smegma 🤣"

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Herts


"Firstly; there’s no such thing

Secondly; why the false dichotomy?

If enough people believe it (and they do) it becomes a thing.

What I mean is that scientifically (anthropologically) speaking, there is no such thing.

Also, the zoologist that originally cited its use in regards to wolves has since changed and recounted their existence in the wild. Therefore, there is no such thing.

Men calling themselves Alpha are often just bullies and narcissists "

I agree. A self identified ‘Alpha’ can only be so if they identify ‘betas’ and that usually entails behaviour to enforce their ‘status’

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
9 weeks ago

Leeds

If anyone referred to themselves as either it would been a definite no.

Mrs

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By *lim_bbcMan
9 weeks ago

barking

Gamma

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I like people to be themselves

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By *andynecklaceWoman
9 weeks ago

West Brom

Both cringe

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By *ittlebirdWoman
9 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Alpha and beta can mean lots of different things 👍🏻

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

I prefer men who use fewer podcasts

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
9 weeks ago

Essex


"Firstly; there’s no such thing

Secondly; why the false dichotomy?

If enough people believe it (and they do) it becomes a thing.

What I mean is that scientifically (anthropologically) speaking, there is no such thing.

Also, the zoologist that originally cited its use in regards to wolves has since changed and recounted their existence in the wild. Therefore, there is no such thing.

Men calling themselves Alpha are often just bullies and narcissists "

See also other self given “manly titles”

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Also women who use fewer podcasts.

And... I'm yet to meet a non-binary type within my podcast limit. But a spot of CD/TV can be hot in either direction

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By *inx000Couple
9 weeks ago

Manchester

Neither..if your calling yourself either of these then definitely not appealing.

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By *uenevereWoman
9 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

I have no interest in anyone who feels the need to label themselves using the Greek alphabet. I think it's a bit weird.

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By *ade crossTV/TS
9 weeks ago

chiselhurst

Like a gentle man or gentle woman who respectfully takes the lead

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By *icolerobbieCouple
9 weeks ago

walsall


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?

Original post asks what’s your preference. I don’t think stating that preference is denying anything. "

It was the replies I referred to. Not the op.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
9 weeks ago

walsall


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?

I have zero tolerance for men who claim to be alpha doms based on personal experience with many. Bullies and abusers who hide behind the term Alpha like it’s an excuse to ignore all basic RACK rules for kink.

Additionally the original scientist that authored the theory Dr. Robert Green disproved and debunked his own theory with further research. Further research on chimp populations where the term alpha is still used doesn’t follow the way we view alpha. A chimp alpha isn’t the biggest or strongest bully, in fact they rule with compassion, kindness and altruism.

"

This version of alpha may not be what some people identify as. I’m no expert in the field of human or animal behaviours, but I doubt that they seek your tolerance or need a scientist to research their identity for them.

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By *agerMorganMan
9 weeks ago

Canvey Island

Unstable software va stable software.

Think most will take stable.

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By *licia_2021TV/TS
9 weeks ago

Ashby De La Zouch


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?"

Maybe they've had enough

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Both terms make my anus crawl up my throat

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By *929Man
9 weeks ago

newcastle

Both are cringey as fuck especially “alpha”

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By *icolerobbieCouple
9 weeks ago

walsall


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?

Maybe they've had enough"

Does that make intolerance acceptable though? Just because a person doesn’t like another dynamic?

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By *rightonsteveMan
9 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Guys who need to say they’re ‘alpha’, aren’t.

Alpha, Beta, Gamma, Delta, Loser..,

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?

Maybe they've had enough

Does that make intolerance acceptable though? Just because a person doesn’t like another dynamic? "

Is putting yourself above others for the sake of your own ego acceptable? It might be your (general term) dynamic, but don't pigeonhole me to make yourself feel better.

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By *iker JackMan
9 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Funny how all the distaste and hate is towards men.

I have heard woman refer to themselves as alpha submissive or alphas as well

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Herts


"Funny how all the distaste and hate is towards men.

I have heard woman refer to themselves as alpha submissive or alphas as well

"

From what I’ve read the topic has been largely gender agnostic after a few references specifically to men. Not another man bashing care as I can see

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
9 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

What's the pecking order?

Can a bull teabag an Alpha whilst he in turn is teabagging a beta in some multi teabag scenario?

If so where does a Sigma fit into this? Does he guide on?

I need answers to this.

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By *neeyedwillieMan
9 weeks ago

Darlington


"What's the pecking order?

Can a bull teabag an Alpha whilst he in turn is teabagging a beta in some multi teabag scenario?

If so where does a Sigma fit into this? Does he guide on?

I need answers to this."

I dunno what I am but if thats how we sort it, I'll be in a totally different area, enjoying a cold pint and a steak pie whilst you lot sort it out.

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By *ea monkeyMan
9 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?

I have zero tolerance for men who claim to be alpha doms based on personal experience with many. Bullies and abusers who hide behind the term Alpha like it’s an excuse to ignore all basic RACK rules for kink.

Additionally the original scientist that authored the theory Dr. Robert Green disproved and debunked his own theory with further research. Further research on chimp populations where the term alpha is still used doesn’t follow the way we view alpha. A chimp alpha isn’t the biggest or strongest bully, in fact they rule with compassion, kindness and altruism.

This version of alpha may not be what some people identify as. I’m no expert in the field of human or animal behaviours, but I doubt that they seek your tolerance or need a scientist to research their identity for them.

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So terming yourself as an alpha is an identity now?

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By *ornucopiaMan
9 weeks ago

Bexley


"Both terms make my anus crawl up my throat"

Is there a 'Uranus' classification (albeit Latin)?

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By *hePleasurerMan
9 weeks ago

Cheshire

Happy to be Omega.

Or, as my American friend put it when she, er, came... Ohmegawd!

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By *rightonsteveMan
9 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"What's the pecking order?

Can a bull teabag an Alpha whilst he in turn is teabagging a beta in some multi teabag scenario?

If so where does a Sigma fit into this? Does he guide on?

I need answers to this."

. The epsilon could be the fluffer.

This could be a pi thread and go on and on and on and on…

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
9 weeks ago

Newcastle

I prefer confident, dominant, strong men but if he actually referred to himself as an ‘alpha male’, I would be hitting the delete button…

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By *agatoXXXMan
9 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.

This Alpha/Beta stuff is just astrology for incels.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
9 weeks ago

chichester

I just refer to myself as the god emperor . I only require people to kneel as I am benevolent

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By *icolerobbieCouple
9 weeks ago

walsall


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?

I have zero tolerance for men who claim to be alpha doms based on personal experience with many. Bullies and abusers who hide behind the term Alpha like it’s an excuse to ignore all basic RACK rules for kink.

Additionally the original scientist that authored the theory Dr. Robert Green disproved and debunked his own theory with further research. Further research on chimp populations where the term alpha is still used doesn’t follow the way we view alpha. A chimp alpha isn’t the biggest or strongest bully, in fact they rule with compassion, kindness and altruism.

This version of alpha may not be what some people identify as. I’m no expert in the field of human or animal behaviours, but I doubt that they seek your tolerance or need a scientist to research their identity for them.

So terming yourself as an alpha is an identity now? "

It’s how they identify.

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By *lynJMan
9 weeks ago

Morden


"Unstable software va stable software.

Think most will take stable. "

Unstable (alpha) vs less unstable (beta) vs released.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
9 weeks ago

walsall


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?

Maybe they've had enough

Does that make intolerance acceptable though? Just because a person doesn’t like another dynamic?

Is putting yourself above others for the sake of your own ego acceptable? It might be your (general term) dynamic, but don't pigeonhole me to make yourself feel better."

Is not my dynamic at all. No one is pigeonholing anyone.

All I questioned was people’s tolerance.

It seems tolerance is demanded in some dynamics, yet abandoned if the subject is not to people’s taste.

What ever happened to the live and let live ideal? The not yucking other people’s yum?

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By *rostgiantMan
9 weeks ago

Chippenham

In technology terms i.e Software, video games etc, Alpha is the most unstable version of the software which can be used, Beta is also not fully stable and experiences issues

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
9 weeks ago

Leeds

Serious question, people who refer to themselves as an alpha male.

Do you howl at the moon and sniff bums to assert dominance ?

The mr

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

I thought beta was a fish

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By *vaRose43Woman
9 weeks ago

Forest of Dean


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?

I have zero tolerance for men who claim to be alpha doms based on personal experience with many. Bullies and abusers who hide behind the term Alpha like it’s an excuse to ignore all basic RACK rules for kink.

Additionally the original scientist that authored the theory Dr. Robert Green disproved and debunked his own theory with further research. Further research on chimp populations where the term alpha is still used doesn’t follow the way we view alpha. A chimp alpha isn’t the biggest or strongest bully, in fact they rule with compassion, kindness and altruism.

This version of alpha may not be what some people identify as. I’m no expert in the field of human or animal behaviours, but I doubt that they seek your tolerance or need a scientist to research their identity for them.

"

As you say. They don’t seek my tolerances 👍

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By *andadbodMan
9 weeks ago

Liverpool

I bet there’s a lot of guys removing the term “alpha” from their profile text now

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By *vaRose43Woman
9 weeks ago

Forest of Dean


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?

Maybe they've had enough

Does that make intolerance acceptable though? Just because a person doesn’t like another dynamic?

Is putting yourself above others for the sake of your own ego acceptable? It might be your (general term) dynamic, but don't pigeonhole me to make yourself feel better.

Is not my dynamic at all. No one is pigeonholing anyone.

All I questioned was people’s tolerance.

It seems tolerance is demanded in some dynamics, yet abandoned if the subject is not to people’s taste.

What ever happened to the live and let live ideal? The not yucking other people’s yum?

"

Ahh you see that’s the main issue

The kink community is the place to not yuk someone’s yum. What the kink community doesn’t tolerate? Abusers who ignore consent, abusers who think the label dominant is permission to do whatever they wish to another human being regardless of that humans wishes, abusers who have never heard the term RACK. Those people who are dangerous for the kink community They’re the ones who use the term alpha.

Other people I have seen use the term Alpha. Andrew Tate, Lawrence fox and various other odious human beings.

I would also suggest that Alpha isn’t an identity it’s an ideology.

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By *atinaChica54Woman
9 weeks ago

Marlborough

It's all Greek to me!

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

I prefer Kenny Omega personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

No one who would be categorized as "alpha" would ever call themselves that.

Just like no one genuine ever needs to claim to be genuine.

It's some kind of catch 22, really. Yet, very useful to filter out the undesirables.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
9 weeks ago

walsall


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?

Maybe they've had enough

Does that make intolerance acceptable though? Just because a person doesn’t like another dynamic?

Is putting yourself above others for the sake of your own ego acceptable? It might be your (general term) dynamic, but don't pigeonhole me to make yourself feel better.

Is not my dynamic at all. No one is pigeonholing anyone.

All I questioned was people’s tolerance.

It seems tolerance is demanded in some dynamics, yet abandoned if the subject is not to people’s taste.

What ever happened to the live and let live ideal? The not yucking other people’s yum?

Ahh you see that’s the main issue

The kink community is the place to not yuk someone’s yum. What the kink community doesn’t tolerate? Abusers who ignore consent, abusers who think the label dominant is permission to do whatever they wish to another human being regardless of that humans wishes, abusers who have never heard the term RACK. Those people who are dangerous for the kink community They’re the ones who use the term alpha.

Other people I have seen use the term Alpha. Andrew Tate, Lawrence fox and various other odious human beings.

I would also suggest that Alpha isn’t an identity it’s an ideology. "

Interesting. Are these people even part of the kink/bdsm community? Is it only the kink community that frowns upon the term? Are all people who identify themselves as alpha the same as Tate?

I would hazard a guess that not many people outside of the kink community would know what rack means. I’ve had to look it up myself. Is the kink community tolerant of the non-kink world? Is it just the ones who try to be part of the kink world who identify as alpha or beta that you won’t tolerate?

There’s lots of questions!

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
9 weeks ago

London

The whole 'Alpha' and 'Beta' thing is so embarrassing.

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By *ea monkeyMan
9 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?

I have zero tolerance for men who claim to be alpha doms based on personal experience with many. Bullies and abusers who hide behind the term Alpha like it’s an excuse to ignore all basic RACK rules for kink.

Additionally the original scientist that authored the theory Dr. Robert Green disproved and debunked his own theory with further research. Further research on chimp populations where the term alpha is still used doesn’t follow the way we view alpha. A chimp alpha isn’t the biggest or strongest bully, in fact they rule with compassion, kindness and altruism.

This version of alpha may not be what some people identify as. I’m no expert in the field of human or animal behaviours, but I doubt that they seek your tolerance or need a scientist to research their identity for them.

As you say. They don’t seek my tolerances 👍"

They might not seek tolerances but they definitely seek people to fuck

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By *acDreamyMan
9 weeks ago

Wirral

Most psychology theories split people into at least 6 personality types.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago


"Most psychology theories split people into at least 6 personality types."

all of them bollocks

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By *erfHerder74Man
9 weeks ago

Greenock

Alpha is toxic

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By *acDreamyMan
9 weeks ago

Wirral

If by "Alpha" you mean more dominant, it can be toxic or it can be very valuable and attractive depending on how a person, male or female behaves.

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By *agatoXXXMan
9 weeks ago

Gone and completely forgotten.


"If by "Alpha" you mean more dominant, it can be toxic or it can be very valuable and attractive depending on how a person, male or female behaves."

Two words: Andrew Tate.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
9 weeks ago

couple, us we him her.

Labels.

Unless you live the wild where being the alpha is part of nature it's pretty irrelevant.

That said I work in a very toxic work environment ( the building trade) and guy's are always trying to be the big I am, Charlie big potatoes,numero Uno,top dog.

I just let them get on with it it's boring and pointless.

Lads lads lads.

Fucking morons

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By *ea monkeyMan
9 weeks ago

Manchester (he/him)


"If by "Alpha" you mean more dominant, it can be toxic or it can be very valuable and attractive depending on how a person, male or female behaves."

More dominant than what?

This is the whole point, a Dom isn’t *more* dominant than another

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago


"Labels.

Unless you live the wild where being the alpha is part of nature it's pretty irrelevant.

That said I work in a very toxic work environment ( the building trade) and guy's are always trying to be the big I am, Charlie big potatoes,numero Uno,top dog.

I just let them get on with it it's boring and pointless.

Lads lads lads.

Fucking morons "

Same here. I just ignore it and don't engage whatsoever. Not worth wasting time on.

A mate sometimes does the whole "alpha" thing, but thankfully it's just messing around. We take piss out of each other and have laugh with it.

In that context, I'm absolutely fine with someone going off on one about being an alpha, because it's generally hilarious.

Those who constantly feel the desire to flex around other men? Just screams insecure, really. I'm not the most confident person, but I'll definitely never, ever feel the need to do it outside of a personal joke between mates.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
9 weeks ago

walsall


"Why are so many here denying people’s preferred identity. I thought we were a tolerant bunch?

I have zero tolerance for men who claim to be alpha doms based on personal experience with many. Bullies and abusers who hide behind the term Alpha like it’s an excuse to ignore all basic RACK rules for kink.

Additionally the original scientist that authored the theory Dr. Robert Green disproved and debunked his own theory with further research. Further research on chimp populations where the term alpha is still used doesn’t follow the way we view alpha. A chimp alpha isn’t the biggest or strongest bully, in fact they rule with compassion, kindness and altruism.

This version of alpha may not be what some people identify as. I’m no expert in the field of human or animal behaviours, but I doubt that they seek your tolerance or need a scientist to research their identity for them.

As you say. They don’t seek my tolerances 👍

They might not seek tolerances but they definitely seek people to fuck "

There are plenty of so called “beta” types who crave them though?

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

I can understand it from a roleplay point of view, but in the real world? Absolutely unnecessary. Just be a nice person. It's less effort lol.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
9 weeks ago

walsall


"Alpha is toxic

"

How about those that want to be beta?

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
9 weeks ago

Okehampton

When the 23rd Century equivalent of Tony Robinson digs up one of our poor forgotten corpses covered in all kinds of badges proclaiming what one was. He may just state:

“labels proved to be the curse of the 21st century, as they denied the fundamental joy of what it is to be human; to wake every day and to choose who and what to be, without the manacles of a self proclaimed identity from the day before, this voluntary imprisonment of their own freedoms was seen as a catalyst for the inevitable dictatorships of large corporations that sponsored lip-service politicians, for without a defined label, these corporations would waste fortunes on unsuitable targeted advertisements. So they convince the world, through the addiction level use of social media to pick a label, be defined (and buy more stuff). This all ended with the coming of great Gznud who freed humanity from the yoke of labels (and thus corporations), all Hail Gznud

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By *icolerobbieCouple
9 weeks ago

walsall


"When the 23rd Century equivalent of Tony Robinson digs up one of our poor forgotten corpses covered in all kinds of badges proclaiming what one was. He may just state:

“labels proved to be the curse of the 21st century, as they denied the fundamental joy of what it is to be human; to wake every day and to choose who and what to be, without the manacles of a self proclaimed identity from the day before, this voluntary imprisonment of their own freedoms was seen as a catalyst for the inevitable dictatorships of large corporations that sponsored lip-service politicians, for without a defined label, these corporations would waste fortunes on unsuitable targeted advertisements. So they convince the world, through the addiction level use of social media to pick a label, be defined (and buy more stuff). This all ended with the coming of great Gznud who freed humanity from the yoke of labels (and thus corporations), all Hail Gznud "

Or maybe they’ll dig up some pure green.

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By *irthandgirthMan
9 weeks ago

Camberley occasionally doncaster

Any man who had to tell you he is Alpha... isn't.

I don't care one iota about which random Greek letter you try to claim as your entire personality.

*yes that's a Greek alphabet joke*

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago


"Any man who had to tell you he is Alpha... isn't.

I don't care one iota about which random Greek letter you try to claim as your entire personality.

*yes that's a Greek alphabet joke*"

An alphabeta joke?

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By *erfHerder74Man
9 weeks ago

Greenock


"Alpha is toxic

How about those that want to be beta?"

I think through life and experience those alpha lads become Beta which is good and less stressful

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By *icolerobbieCouple
9 weeks ago

walsall


"Alpha is toxic

How about those that want to be beta?

I think through life and experience those alpha lads become Beta which is good and less stressful "

So is it only the alphas who seem to cause trouble with their identity and the betas are fine?

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By *LiamMan
9 weeks ago

Midlands

What the hell is a beta boy

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By *odgerMooreMan
9 weeks ago

Carlisle

Im an Alpha male who likes to Beta himself and constantly improve his gamma!! Its Pi in the sky …. The whole lot of it!!

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By *icolerobbieCouple
9 weeks ago

walsall


"Im an Alpha male who likes to Beta himself and constantly improve his gamma!! Its Pi in the sky …. The whole lot of it!! "

Omega’awd.

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By *ad NannaWoman
9 weeks ago

East London

All the Pi's please.

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By *ad NannaWoman
9 weeks ago

East London


"Im an Alpha male who likes to Beta himself and constantly improve his gamma!! Its Pi in the sky …. The whole lot of it!! "

I don't give one iota

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

We prefer when people understand how science works, whether they're talking about wolves or people.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

Loving the puns. 😆

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By *rostgiantMan
9 weeks ago

Chippenham

Alpha Kenny Body

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By *ife NinjaMan
9 weeks ago

Dunfermline


"Bruce Banner was a Gamma guy "

Don't make him angry. You wouldn't like him when he's angry

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By *elvet RopeMan
9 weeks ago

by the big field

Whats wrong with just being a blokey bloke, who likes boobs and lady bottoms and gets equally emotional when the mafia push the cars off the cliff in The Italian Job as when they execute John Coffey in Green Mile?

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By *haveanicevoiceMan
9 weeks ago

Soggy Middle-Earth (Cumbria)

I'm ETA, no idea where I'm going but get there eventually

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
9 weeks ago

North West


"Im an Alpha male who likes to Beta himself and constantly improve his gamma!! Its Pi in the sky …. The whole lot of it!!

I don't give one iota "

Ooopsilon!

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago


"What the hell is a beta boy "

Saved me typing

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By *odgerMooreMan
9 weeks ago

Carlisle


"What the hell is a beta boy

Saved me typing "

I could only explain in person… with handcuffs , whipped cream and a blindfold!!

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
9 weeks ago

Horsham


"Guys who need to say they’re ‘alpha’, aren’t.

Alpha, Beta, Gamma, Delta, Loser..,"

I prefer Lambda, Lambda, Lambda, revenge of the Nerds fraternity

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By *ornucopiaMan
9 weeks ago

Bexley


"Guys who need to say they’re ‘alpha’, aren’t.

Alpha, Beta, Gamma, Delta, Loser..,

I prefer Lambda, Lambda, Lambda, revenge of the Nerds fraternity "

Sounds like you are on the right wavelength..

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By *r.XratedMan
9 weeks ago

Liverpool/ New York

If you want to judge a man on this scale think of where he would be in a group of 50 homo-sapiens 10,000 years ago

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By *rHotNottsMan
9 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"If you want to judge a man on this scale think of where he would be in a group of 50 homo-sapiens 10,000 years ago"

It’s mostly a myth , growing evidence shows fluid leadership by men and women with collaboration much higher up than aggression & dominance and critical to survival.

Super scavenger organised groups were far more effective than hunters.

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By *cnugatugMan
9 weeks ago

Chatham

No one gets to decide who is alpha and who is beta. We are all the same no one is anyones better or lesser people who think themselves as alpha are obviously insecure about something

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By *linky1Couple
9 weeks ago

Sittingbourne

Anyone who describes themselves as alpha just makes us think sad w@nker.

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By *r.XratedMan
9 weeks ago

Liverpool/ New York


"No one gets to decide who is alpha and who is beta. We are all the same no one is anyones better or lesser people who think themselves as alpha are obviously insecure about something "

Nature decides

The weaker get eliminated and the stronger survive -Darwin

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By *riel13Woman
9 weeks ago

Northampton


"No one gets to decide who is alpha and who is beta. We are all the same no one is anyones better or lesser people who think themselves as alpha are obviously insecure about something

Nature decides

The weaker get eliminated and the stronger survive -Darwin

"

Not anymore!

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
9 weeks ago

Sheffield


"I think it's all rubbish this alpha beta crap ... "

Pretty much

It's also horribly toxic because it encourages insecure young men to be arseholes to cover up their insecurities and disconnect from their feelings.

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By *r.XratedMan
9 weeks ago

Liverpool/ New York


"No one gets to decide who is alpha and who is beta. We are all the same no one is anyones better or lesser people who think themselves as alpha are obviously insecure about something

Nature decides

The weaker get eliminated and the stronger survive -Darwin

Not anymore! "

Since when?

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By *r.XratedMan
9 weeks ago

Liverpool/ New York

Muscles and tattoos don’t make a man Alpha however some men have stronger genes, are fitter, more intelligent and more aware than others

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By *ou only live onceMan
9 weeks ago

London


"Muscles and tattoos don’t make a man Alpha however some men have stronger genes, are fitter, more intelligent and more aware than others"

We can't help how we're born!

Doesn't make anyone an "alpha" though...

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By *riel13Woman
9 weeks ago

Northampton


"No one gets to decide who is alpha and who is beta. We are all the same no one is anyones better or lesser people who think themselves as alpha are obviously insecure about something

Nature decides

The weaker get eliminated and the stronger survive -Darwin

Not anymore!

Since when?"

Since medicine

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By *he Silver FuxMan
9 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

For fun I did a Fab name search… ‘alpha’

Some interesting results 😆

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By *he Silver FuxMan
9 weeks ago

Uttoxeter


"Muscles and tattoos don’t make a man Alpha however some men have stronger genes, are fitter, more intelligent and more aware than others"

“Stronger genes”

I’m not so sure you’re a real doctor

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
9 weeks ago

Sheffield


"

The weaker get eliminated and the stronger survive -Darwin

Not anymore!

Since when?"

Since lots of women don't actually see 'alpha' men as good parent material. One of the reasons alleged Alpha-Males tend to be really against family planning and women's right to choose.

Muscles; pushy and aggressive posing as 'self-confidence'; easily influenced by a Fear of Missing Out so needing to be seen with flash clothes, car l, phone etc.; horribly thin-skinned so likely to act out violently when their ego takes a knick...May make an interesting fuck but they don't make good dads.

Men tend to be very visually driven when looking for a partner. There are genetic reasons why men often like big tits and wide hips.

Women tend to be far less interested in how pretty a guy is. Traits like honesty, compassion, an ability to listen and pay attention, nurturing, can cook, stable home & job, treats women with respect. All tend to be far more important when passing on genes.

It's one of the reasons that money and power are often seen as big turn ons for many women. As it means a secure future for them and their off-spring.

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