FabSwingers.com forum: What are we doing wrong

By *elaxed couple 69 OP Couple
6 weeks ago

Arbroath

Hi we are wanting some advice we end up getting into chats thinking everything is going well then they ask for pictures which we send them next thing we know we have been blocked why any ideas

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Herts

You’re talking to pic collectors. They’ve had their wank .

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By *ensuallover1000Man
6 weeks ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"Hi we are wanting some advice we end up getting into chats thinking everything is going well then they ask for pictures which we send them next thing we know we have been blocked why any ideas"

Likely they’re solely photo collectors.

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By *elaxed couple 69 OP Couple
6 weeks ago

Arbroath

I didn’t even know you got people like that thank you guys so much

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By *iker JackMan
6 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Also they may like the look of you. It happens a lot on here. Instead of saying you’re not their type they just block

Or maybe they know you

All sorts of reasons really.

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By *ustamanMan
6 weeks ago

weymouth

Probably nothing, they maybe fantasists or they might know you or they could simply have decided you're not for them. Fab is an odd world 🤔. Keep going eventually something will click

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By *ife NinjaMan
6 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Time wasters. Can't walk the walk.

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By *ittleLiasonsWoman
6 weeks ago

Birmingham

You probably aren't for them but they are not adult enough to communicate that. Photos are best sent early on to avoid wasting too much time.

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By *erryspringerMan
6 weeks ago

Glasgow

OP are these people who have been verified by meets, been members a long time..?

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By *ornycougaWoman
6 weeks ago

MOROCCO Wherever I lay my hat

If you are comfortable with it, put more photos on your public profile. Genuine people get a better idea of whether you are for them and it stops the photo collectors. Win win.

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By *elaxed couple 69 OP Couple
6 weeks ago

Arbroath

Most of them have not been verified

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By *hris0808Man
6 weeks ago

Rotherham

Could it be as simple as there is no attraction. I'm sure you two find other people on here you aren't attracted to? I know it sounds harsh but that's kind of the reality of it?

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By *iker JackMan
6 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"Most of them have not been verified "

So if you think it’s because they are unverified why send the photos

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By *lofeldMan
6 weeks ago

Redhill

"Most of them have not been verified "

Another sure sign of trouble. I certainly wouldn't take it to heart, it's like a dodgy phone call from a scammer, look for the signs that don't add up and cut the conversation.

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By *elaxed couple 69 OP Couple
6 weeks ago

Arbroath

We agree with that we aren’t for everyone but surely grow up and say rather than block people

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By *elaxed couple 69 OP Couple
6 weeks ago

Arbroath

We have just this minute blocked people who aren’t verified

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By *hris0808Man
6 weeks ago

Rotherham

"We agree with that we aren’t for everyone but surely grow up and say rather than block people"

I know what you mean but some people might not like saying we don't find you attractive?

Try not to take it to heart. I'm sure you two will have some fun x

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By *erryspringerMan
6 weeks ago

Glasgow

"We have just this minute blocked people who aren’t verified "

It's still no guarantee OP. I've had 2 incidents where a meet was agreed by 2 well verified woman. Got there no reply and person offline.

One I only had postcode for and was meant to get flat number on confirmation off arrival. The other a meet in a car park.

At least you didn't get to that stage.

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By *Dan85Man
6 weeks ago

Great Harwood

"Hi we are wanting some advice we end up getting into chats thinking everything is going well then they ask for pictures which we send them next thing we know we have been blocked why any ideas"

Exactly the same

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By *Dan85Man
6 weeks ago

Great Harwood

If your not interested then just say id rather that be the case

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By *8on33Man
6 weeks ago

winfrith

"Hi we are wanting some advice we end up getting into chats thinking everything is going well then they ask for pictures which we send them next thing we know we have been blocked why any ideas"
You can't be everybody's cup of coffee.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
6 weeks ago

chichester

"You’re talking to pic collectors. They’ve had their wank . "

Agreed

. Just people wanking on pics mist probably

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By *elaxed couple 69 OP Couple
6 weeks ago

Arbroath

That is horrible why put people through that absolute torture I think we are mostly going to stick to social nights

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By *ife NinjaMan
6 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Well, at least you've not been offered a meet, and then they ask for cash

. Blocked

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By *erry bull1Man
6 weeks ago

doncaster

"That is horrible why put people through that absolute torture I think we are mostly going to stick to social nights "
don’t send pics as most are keyboard wankers looking for a cheap thrill

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By *dmit-itMan
6 weeks ago

Bristol

I think some people just get satisfaction from the communication they are often not in a position to meet so when push comes to shove and invite comes to them they are caught and instead of communicating they stay silent and dissappear to bother someone else and start the cycle all over again. In my humble opinion of course.

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Ryde

Its' the same with friend requests. Someone you've never chatted to, let alone seen on here, will send a friend request out of the blue. They're not being courteous, or using it as a way of establishing communication for possible meeting.

Nope - they just want into your collection of "friends only" photos, so they can have a handy-shandy (or J-Arthur, for the Cockneys amongst us) and ditch you right after they've zipped up and gone.

As we have found, you have to plough through a lot of chaff to get to the wheat, but worth doing so.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
6 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Most people aren't into most people.

Without any idea of the male half and a less than comprehensive of the female, people may be building an image in their head and when the photos don't match what they've imagined from the conversation so far they just disconnect.

Blocking just means they're not interested in continuing. It might feel harsh but if you've rejected people on here previously however politely, you'll know why the block makes the most sense. You don't really get any extra closure from the words "I'm not attracted to you" and even if you did, closure is something you find for yourself, not something other people owe you.

I'd suggest either a few more public photos or getting the picture sharing out of the way early on.

You'll still get hit up by the pic collectors. But at least you won't be wasting your time on the easily avoidable incompatibilities 💜

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By *hris0808Man
6 weeks ago

Rotherham

"Most people aren't into most people.

I'd suggest either a few more public photos or getting the picture sharing out of the way early on.

You'll still get hit up by the pic collectors. But at least you won't be wasting your time on the easily avoidable incompatibilities 💜"

I think that covers everything

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By *lofeldMan
6 weeks ago

Redhill

"Its' the same with friend requests. Someone you've never chatted to, let alone seen on here, will send a friend request out of the blue. They're not being courteous, or using it as a way of establishing communication for possible meeting.

Nope - they just want into your collection of "friends only" photos, so they can have a handy-shandy (or J-Arthur, for the Cockneys amongst us) and ditch you right after they've zipped up and gone.

As we have found, you have to plough through a lot of chaff to get to the wheat, but worth doing so."

I haven't heard J.Arthur in donkeys lol, one for our older viewers

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Ryde

"I haven't heard J.Arthur in donkeys lol, one for our older viewers "

Well, or film enthusiasts!

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By *urreyphotographerMan
6 weeks ago

kt16

Think it happens to a lot of people …. I’ve had long drawn out conversations then I get blocked, nothing I’ve said or done. A local couple to me has the same problem . He’s also raised “what’s wrong with us , why do we get ghosted “. I’ve photographed the couple, and they’re lovely and they do have quite a selection of photos on their public profile

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

Just pic collectors unfortunately too many time wasters and makes it harder for genuine folk,

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By *eardedguy800Man
6 weeks ago

Kidderminster

Photo collectors are a pain. Followed by those who quickly ask if you have videos to share on KIK for example.

Separately, the annoyance of sending a polite, friendly message to be met with a “Thanks hun” reply 🤦🏻‍♂️

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By *eneralKenobiMan
6 weeks ago

North Angus

The area is full of fantasist fannies unfortunately

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Ryde

"Photo collectors are a pain. Followed by those who quickly ask if you have videos to share on KIK for example.

We often get the one-liner of "Do you KIK?"

Have often been tempted to reply:

"In the balls of picture scalpers".

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
6 weeks ago

Sheffield

Keep the chats none sexual, and only send a face pic. Make sure the accounts you are chatting to are verified.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
6 weeks ago

Leeds

So many reasons, if the chat is sexual it'll generally be pic collectors or they've had their wank and moved on.

If not sexual chat you just may not be there type and rather than say they've vanished.

Mrs

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By *aven.Woman
6 weeks ago

Not the North West...

"Most of them have not been verified

Another sure sign of trouble."

I'm a sign of trouble

If you send pictures and they don't reply they obviously aren't attracted to you. It happens. It doesn't make them fake or time wasters. Rude? Maybe, maybe not.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
6 weeks ago

Paradise, Herts

"That is horrible why put people through that absolute torture I think we are mostly going to stick to social nights "

Maybe they weren’t feeling it and thought it easier to block than to give reasons. Must admit I’ve done that before in the past

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By *herrybakewellCouple
6 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Picture collectors.

Fake accounts.

You aren't what they're looking for and don't want to say it.

You learn to be more fussy and find your red flags. New profiles, no pictures, not verified etc etc.

Good luck with your journey.

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By *rightonsteveMan
6 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Hi we are wanting some advice we end up getting into chats thinking everything is going well then they ask for pictures which we send them next thing we know we have been blocked why any ideas"

That happened to me. I asked them and they said I was too ugly to fuck. I wouldn’t have minded but I sent them a photo of my feet.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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6 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Most people aren't into most people.

I'd suggest either a few more public photos or getting the picture sharing out of the way early on.

You'll still get hit up by the pic collectors. But at least you won't be wasting your time on the easily avoidable incompatibilities 💜"

100% this.

The more you can give people an idea of what you (both in the case of couples) look like in your visuals, bar faces which can be left til you're comfortable exchanging, the less likely you are to be either ghosted after chatting, or fall foul of the dreaded pic collectors.

If people can see pretty much what you look like from the neck down then that gives them no cause to change they're mind due to seeing you at a later date. You can't prevent a lack of facial attraction but you can with bodies.

And a detailed profile text will also out potential mismatches. You can do a lot to help yourselves when it comes to boosting chances of compatibility.

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By *ewbootsandpanties99Man
6 weeks ago

Darkest South East Surrey

Are these people local you you? If they are a distance away I'd have thought it unlikely they would travel however hot and sexy you are. Maybe best not to engage with people unless they are fairly local?

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By *uenevereWoman
6 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

As others have said, a more detailed profile will help to some extent.

If you provide enough information to allow people to establish interest and attraction, you can easily side step pic collection. This means photos of both of you, since you're meeting as a couple and good well written text.

I also agree that sharing face photos early, if you keep them private, is a good idea.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
6 weeks ago

midlands

Pic wank and timewaters

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By *eronikapaulCouple
6 weeks ago

Reading

Could also be they didn't check where Arbroath is before starting to chat? 😅

Actually previous posters have nailed it. Heaps and heaps of fantasist on here who get a kick out of pics from someone they are "chatting" with. The only way is to block everything you have no interest in. If you do want a single guy though,then unfortunately the filters become useless.

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By *amantha_JadeWoman
6 weeks ago

Newcastle

There could be various reasons but if the block comes after you’ve sent additional pics, it may be that you’re just not their type. It may be worth having a more varied selection of pictures on your profile so they can see if there may be an attraction there before the chat goes further. Good luck

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By *layfullsamMan
6 weeks ago

Solihull

"Hi we are wanting some advice we end up getting into chats thinking everything is going well then they ask for pictures which we send them next thing we know we have been blocked why any ideas"

Welcome to fab

Don’t blame yourself for other members actions

Attend more clubs and get meets that way

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By *agatoXXXMan
6 weeks ago

Mordor

Well, first of all, you joined Fab. Big mistake...🤪

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