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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

After an encounter with what I felt was arrogant (and I was not the only person at the time who thought so) I wondered what is the best response to it.

1. Ignore it and put it down to insecurity on that person's part

2. Address it by explaining to the arrogant person that that is how they come across?

No handbag fights today, please It is meant to be light hearted.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Was it on here perchance?

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Was it on here perchance?

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Unrelated to the site - it was a general question.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I am afraid I go for ignoring them. I am tempted to tell them what I think but someone like that would not see their arrogance so it would be a pointless exercise.

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Absolutely the best way to deal with it is to ignore completely

If it was by chance a post from a very arrogant person then by everyone ignoring that post would surely be a great way to send a message....

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Let them carry on being like it and move away from them. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon tell em straight......

then run before you get the tirade response! lol

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I am afraid I go for ignoring them. I am tempted to tell them what I think but someone like that would not see their arrogance so it would be a pointless exercise."
That is what I was wondering - when I said "tell" them I was not thinking of a confrontation as that would make matters worse. I was thinking more that perhaps somebody is not aware of coming across as arrogant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how did they display this arrogance

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"I am afraid I go for ignoring them. I am tempted to tell them what I think but someone like that would not see their arrogance so it would be a pointless exercise.That is what I was wondering - when I said "tell" them I was not thinking of a confrontation as that would make matters worse. I was thinking more that perhaps somebody is not aware of coming across as arrogant."

It might depend on whether that person was a friend or just someone passing. If it is someone who matters then yes, as a friend it may be best to point out in a non confrontational way...

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Absolutely the best way to deal with it is to ignore completely

If it was by chance a post from a very arrogant person then by everyone ignoring that post would surely be a great way to send a message...."
I was not thinking of a post nor the forums - but I can see what you mean. If a post comes across as "not right somehow" then people sometimes dont know what to make of it and probably ignore it.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would want to ensure I didn't misread arrogance for confidence, maybe by getting to know them better I would establish which it was.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"

If it was by chance a post from a very arrogant person then by everyone ignoring that post would surely be a great way to send a message...."

If a person was truly arrogant it wouldn’t send a message though would it.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"I am afraid I go for ignoring them. I am tempted to tell them what I think but someone like that would not see their arrogance so it would be a pointless exercise.That is what I was wondering - when I said "tell" them I was not thinking of a confrontation as that would make matters worse. I was thinking more that perhaps somebody is not aware of coming across as arrogant."

would ignore tbh..

on the latter point would suggest some are fully aware and revel in it, bit like a comfort blanket..

they will possibly have been 'told' several times before and often they cant see what their issue is..

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Thanks everybody so far - I was thinking of that incident when I posted the thread but it has nothing to do with the forums just to be clear.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

My ex is quite arrogant. But when he tells you things that have happened he seems to thing everyone else is arrogant and he isn't! It baffles me how he can be unaware of his behaviour and believe everyone else is at fault but him. I've tried bringing it up in conversation before to try to make him aware but can tell it would get me nowhere but an argument! Lol x

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I would want to ensure I didn't misread arrogance for confidence, maybe by getting to know them better I would establish which it was.

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Good point!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am afraid I go for ignoring them. I am tempted to tell them what I think but someone like that would not see their arrogance so it would be a pointless exercise."

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"

If it was by chance a post from a very arrogant person then by everyone ignoring that post would surely be a great way to send a message....

If a person was truly arrogant it wouldn’t send a message though would it.

"

True - although I see "arrogance" maybe it was not intended to be "arrogant" but if it were....I d see that as insecurity?

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I am afraid I go for ignoring them. I am tempted to tell them what I think but someone like that would not see their arrogance so it would be a pointless exercise.That is what I was wondering - when I said "tell" them I was not thinking of a confrontation as that would make matters worse. I was thinking more that perhaps somebody is not aware of coming across as arrogant.

would ignore tbh..

on the latter point would suggest some are fully aware and revel in it, bit like a comfort blanket..

they will possibly have been 'told' several times before and often they cant see what their issue is.."

I can see where you are coming from. I dont know in this case whether they have been told before and, on reflection... probably not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would want to ensure I didn't misread arrogance for confidence, maybe by getting to know them better I would establish which it was.

"

Arrogance and over confidence come across in very similar ways.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Depends what kind of mood im in at the time, sometimes i might tell them and other times i might think its best i keep my mouth shut

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I would want to ensure I didn't misread arrogance for confidence, maybe by getting to know them better I would establish which it was.

Arrogance and over confidence come across in very similar ways. "
That is such a good point and they can be interpreted in the same way albeit being of very different roots.

I know sometimes I have been overconfident, one example being my first driving test which I promptly failed for driving too fast!

I would not like to think I was arrogant though - so there is a difference.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It depends on my relationship with them and what it was about. I maintain that lawyers and architects spend seven years training in arrogance. Other people have never had a "no" and just need a wake up call. However, I would always check whether it's my behaviour and perceptions that make me see their behaviour as arrogant.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"I would want to ensure I didn't misread arrogance for confidence, maybe by getting to know them better I would establish which it was.

Arrogance and over confidence come across in very similar ways. "

They do indeed.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to bite at this type of thing I know don't bother.

let it go over your head x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I either ignore arrogance, or act totally more arrogant towayds said offender. Either way they'll get the intended message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the subject matter.

If I know more about the subject matter than the other person, then I shan't ignore.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

The question I am pondering about is also if somebody is "arrogant" and is aware that that is how they come across - then would they change their behaviour?

I guess if they knew it and did not modify then that in itself would be arrogant, wouldn't it?

And then I would ask why the need to be arrogant? If I know less about the subject matter I would keep quiet and observe and learn - if I know more I dont need to boast and be arrogant?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Great light hearted subject btw

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush


"I either ignore arrogance, or act totally more arrogant towayds said offender. Either way they'll get the intended message. "

Is that like having an arrogance-off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the other person is in the wrong about a subject matter that I know about, I shan't keep quiet and shall correct him/her, unless that person is someone I despise and do not wish to waste my time with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes the arrogance can fall to those judging it of others

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"sometimes the arrogance can fall to those judging it of others "

Do you mean that the person was not intending to be arrogant but was judged / deemed so whcih makes the other person arrogant?

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By *oxerjoshleeMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

If this person has displayed arrogance online they may have not neant to have come across in such a manner. When someone writes something in text it is impossible to tell what the emotion is behind it. Often a tongue in cheek comment can come across as damn right rude when it was never meant that way by it's author.

If this person's arrogance has offended you I would address it by letting them know how the comment has made you feel. Any decent human being would be quick to apologise regardless of whether they realised they were offending or not. If you were then to be met by further aggression or arrogance then you know they're simply a prick not worth knowing and they will soon find themselves a very lonely person who might one day have to rethink their ways.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"If this person has displayed arrogance online they may have not neant to have come across in such a manner. When someone writes something in text it is impossible to tell what the emotion is behind it. Often a tongue in cheek comment can come across as damn right rude when it was never meant that way by it's author.

If this person's arrogance has offended you I would address it by letting them know how the comment has made you feel. Any decent human being would be quick to apologise regardless of whether they realised they were offending or not. If you were then to be met by further aggression or arrogance then you know they're simply a prick not worth knowing and they will soon find themselves a very lonely person who might one day have to rethink their ways. "
I was not offended tbh - it takes a lot to offend me. It was more an observation of "arrogant" behaviour and a curiosity of mine pondering where it had come from if that makes sense.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Great light hearted subject btw "

Yes. I've been giggling like a school girl on sherbert.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

A DEA officer stopped at a ranch in Texas, and talked with an old rancher.

He told the rancher, “I need to inspect your ranch for illegally grown drugs.”

The rancher said, “Okay , but don’t go in that field over there…..”, as he pointed out the location.

The DEA officer verbally exploded saying, “Mister, I have the authority of the Federal Government with me !”

Reaching into his rear pants pocket, he removed his badge and proudly displayed it to the rancher.

“See this badge?! This badge means I am allowed to go wherever I wish…. On any land!!

No questions asked or answers given!! Have I made myself clear……do you understand ?!!”

The rancher nodded politely, apologized, and went about his chores.

A short time later, the old rancher heard loud screams, looked up, and saw the DEA officer running for his life, being chased by the rancher’s big Santa Gertrudis bull……

With every step the bull was gaining ground on the officer, and it seemed likely that he’d sure enough get gored before he reached safety. The officer was clearly terrified.

The rancher threw down his tools, ran to the fence and yelled at the top of his lungs….

“Your badge, show him your BADGE……..!!”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends on my relationship with them and what it was about. I maintain that lawyers and architects spend seven years training in arrogance. Other people have never had a "no" and just need a wake up call. However, I would always check whether it's my behaviour and perceptions that make me see their behaviour as arrogant."

I've had to deal with barristers and qc's everyday for the last 15 months. they do seem arrogant. i can't be wrong about them all the time.

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay


"It depends on my relationship with them and what it was about. I maintain that lawyers and architects spend seven years training in arrogance. Other people have never had a "no" and just need a wake up call. However, I would always check whether it's my behaviour and perceptions that make me see their behaviour as arrogant.

I've had to deal with barristers and qc's everyday for the last 15 months. they do seem arrogant. i can't be wrong about them all the time. "

Never mind....your trial will be over soon, then it's the other screws you will have to be worried about....

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"It depends on my relationship with them and what it was about. I maintain that lawyers and architects spend seven years training in arrogance. Other people have never had a "no" and just need a wake up call. However, I would always check whether it's my behaviour and perceptions that make me see their behaviour as arrogant.

I've had to deal with barristers and qc's everyday for the last 15 months. they do seem arrogant. i can't be wrong about them all the time. "

The most arrogant partners I had were a barrister and an architect. Gorgeous, sexy men but they could never be wrong about anything.

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By *phrodite OP   Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"It depends on my relationship with them and what it was about. I maintain that lawyers and architects spend seven years training in arrogance. Other people have never had a "no" and just need a wake up call. However, I would always check whether it's my behaviour and perceptions that make me see their behaviour as arrogant.

I've had to deal with barristers and qc's everyday for the last 15 months. they do seem arrogant. i can't be wrong about them all the time.

The most arrogant partners I had were a barrister and an architect. Gorgeous, sexy men but they could never be wrong about anything."

I sometimes thought that about jet pilots in the RAF - eg the Red Arrows squadron. Great guys and a real laugh in the bar but people accused of being downright cocky and arrogant - but then that was perhaps the confidence and attitude they need to do the job they do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great light hearted subject btw

Yes. I've been giggling like a school girl on sherbert. "

Pmpl

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